Skip to comments.‘Child' in support case is a granddad - 81-year-old mother says payments are 60 years overdue
Posted on 04/05/2010 11:28:11 AM PDT by a fool in paradise
Fights over children who gets custody, how much for child support are at the heart of any family law court on any given day. The faces change, but the stories and disputes rarely do.
So it is on today's docket in the Los Angeles courtroom of Judge Elia Weinbach. At least on paper. The dispute between Rosemary Douglas and Urban Joseph Grass over back child support seems familiar: She claims he never paid; he says he never knew.
In this case, however, the mom has a head of gray hair and has been collecting Social Security for more than a decade. The father was born in the heart of the Jazz Age, when a fellow named Coolidge resided in the White House. And the child in question is that only on some yellowing piece of paper. In real life he is a retired grandfather.
He was ordered to do something. He didn't do it, said the 81-year-old Douglas. He didn't challenge it, not legally anyway. I'd always thought about this. It was never far from my mind. Finally I decided, why not? Why not try one more time?
The story began in 1950. Douglas got pregnant and was not married. She insists Grass was the father and that he wanted nothing to do with her. After her son Gerald was born, she said she went to court to get an order for child support because she had no alternative.
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"My baby needs child support for his old age!"
"Hi, my name is Sue and you're gonna die!"
"Tell me something I don't know, Sonny!"
"He bit like he had teeth and kicked me with his walker; I tell ya I fought older men, just can't remember when."
LOL - I like your warped sense of humor.
Why would a mother “give up” on recovering child support for her child when the alleged father is a LTC in the Air Force?
Sort of. If you wait an unreasonably long time to assert a claim you know you have (ie. "sleep on your rights") it can be barred later on if the delay causes prejudice to the other party. It is known as the legal doctrine of latches.
I noticed this section was repeated twice in the article:
Now a widow, Douglas said she could use the $57,000 that she claims Grass owes her, which includes ever-rising interest. But more important than the money, she said, is the principle. When she managed to locate him in Texas, she hired a process server to deliver court papers.
I think that is the reason she’s pushing the case, for enough money to fund her retirement for a year or two.
But there should be a statute of limitations on debt involved. Even the most liberal courts say you can’t go forward after 12 years - and this is half a century.
What does NAPL mean?
Not a PING list PING!
“Okay but I get him on weekends.”
Wouldn’t it be a hoot if old coot requested a DNA test and it turned out he wasn’t the Baby Daddy? Now that’s a Maury episode I would DVR to watch!
Calling Maury Povich!
In Texas once the child reaches the age of 26 it’s over with. At least that’s how it used to be.
If this lady remarried and her and her husband claimed the kid as a dependent then I think the IRS should hit her for back taxes if she gets money from the old dude.
Child support is taxed before given to the custodial parent. I do not know how long claiming a stepchild (not claimed by another taxpayer has been allowed.
Sometimes I think, “What if we had had kids?” Then something like this comes up and I heave a sigh of relief. Again.
The guy didn’t pay. The guy who raised the kid claimed him as a dependent. If the original guy has to pay up he should be able to go back and amend all of his tax returns claiming another dependent.
Now the decree states which parent can claim the child as a tax dependent. When I got divorced it was “whoever spends the most money”. My lawyer advised me to claim the dependents and if she claimed them too and if it ever came up with the IRS I’d win. Well, guess what. It IRS called me in and told me I’d been caught in a rule change and I owed extra taxes for three years. Never is fair.
Why is there a “family” court? What happened to the regular courts? If someone wants to divorce their spouse, why isn’t there a jury trial?
All my kids have paws.
Kootchie kootchie koo!
“Now the decree states which parent can claim the child as a tax dependent. When I got divorced it was whoever spends the most money.
You were fortunate. In Texas, hubby sent the child support, had the children most of the time at our house, and did not get to claim children as dependents - this was the 1990’s.
“Why would a mother give up on recovering child support for her child when the alleged father is a LTC in the Air Force?”
The “kid” in question is the one that just retired from the Air Force as a LTC. The “father’s” name is Urban.
The years went by. Douglas said she tried again through private attorneys to find him and get the support payment when Gerald was about 5 or 6 years old, then gave up. She married and had two more children. She worked for many years managing medical groups before retiring. Gerald spent 32 years in the Air Force and recently retired as a lieutenant colonel, she said.
Our kids can haz a slepe ovur! Your place!!
That’s a sleepover I wouldn’t mind hosting.
Expect a shipment of four cat carriers in the next day or two. Be nice to my Rocket, and watch out for Miss Hissy Slashy. Lucas and Shadow are all right, though.
Same think happened to me after the first two years. Plus I had to pay back taxes for dependents not allowed for the first two.
You picked a bad time to send me this very sick “joke” because I just found out that my favorite cat of all time is dying of kidney disease.
So thanks a lot for that you *******.
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