Skip to comments.Why white men prefer Asian ladies to their own kind
Posted on 07/31/2010 9:13:39 PM PDT by chasio649
Las Vegas bookies give better odds on a nickel slot machine hitting the jackpot than a single white female meeting and marrying a single white male in the Middle Kingdom. -China Daily/ANN
Sat, Jul 31, 2010 China Daily/Asia News Network
Yellow Fever. [ yel'lo f'var]
1. A viral infection transmitted by mosquitoes in South America and sub-Saharan Africa
2. An intense attraction for Asians by Caucasians
It's the Mount Qomolangma of obstacles, the nightmare on bar street, the reason why single white females cry in their half-price drinks on Ladies Night as they're passed over for the long black hair and short skirts of their Chinese sisters. As the bar chanteuse croons, "I've got the fever" the male expatriates sing lustily in reply ".yellow fever!"
"I'm a reasonably attractive, intelligent woman who, like these guys thought out-of-the-box and came to China. And we share the same native language. Why those girls over me?" laments a single white female. Why indeed. China has long been known as a single (sometimes married) white man's playground while at the same time being a single white woman's wasteland.
Las Vegas bookies give better odds on a nickel slot machine hitting the jackpot than a single white female meeting and marrying a single white male in the Middle Kingdom.
What is it then that attracts expatriate men to Chinese women? Is it their petite size, willingness to submit to their needs, eagerness to help their men succeed? Duh, yes.
Rightly or wrongly, Chinese women fully expect their husbands to be the provider and will take a backseat in order for them to be successful. Of course, for the male expatriates, dreams of lives like a bed-of-roses are abruptly pierced with thorny predicaments when meeting future in-laws. But differences aside, many such couples press ahead with the multiple bridal ceremonies and receptions. Chicken breast is on the wedding menu for guests in his hometown, while the head and feet are served up to friends and family in hers.
>> Should more expatriate women seek our local Chinese men?
Now with the male-female ratio in China decidedly greater on the male side, why don't more expatriate women increase their dating pool and seek out local Chinese men?
Well even if the single white female is relatively conversant in Chinese, there's a physical obstacle. It's embarrassing when your boyfriend's jeans are smaller than your own. It may harken back to that "hunter-gatherer" thing, but generally, women want men who are tall enough to see over their foreheads (Tom Cruise excepted).
Chinese men, unlike Chinese women, are more risk-averse and less comfortable swimming in the uncharted seas of cross-cultural relationships. Chinese men are more tradition bound and especially in the age of the one-child family, bear a heavy filial duty to their parents. Sons are expected to take care of their parents, but in reality it's the wife's duty to serve the in-laws. And Po po and Gong gong are none too happy when laowai girlfriend plans to kidnap their son to Phuket for Spring Festival instead of staying at home and rolling jiaozi with them. Yes, parents can be a buzz kill.
And true or not (but mostly true), expatriate women carry the reputation for being very vocal about what they think and want. Few are the Chinese men who will put up with losing face over inadvertent statements made by their expatriate girlfriends. So unless the single white female is fluent in Chinese and understands the culture, a Chinese man will be reluctant to start something he knows will end badly.
With all these advantages to Chinese women, what's a single white female to do? There's fading hope in quasi-social networking cocktails or maybe another awkward evening matched up with the only other single at your friend's dinner party or worst yet, waking up in someone's hand-me-down IKEA bed in a fourth floor walk-up after a mind-numbing night of vodka shots at the local pub.
Yes girlfriend, if China will be your life, then go native; if not then, better luck back on your home turf. Match.com is waiting.
Well, there's her answer....
“All sex is rape” —there’s another easy answer.
In previous threads on this type subject the concensus was that Asian women actually like being women while many white women can tend to gravitate towards liberalism even if they have a conservative facade (i.e., Laura Bush).
“to their own kind”???
What kind of crap is that?
It’s simple - more attractive.
My brother has an asian woman but I prefer the blondes myself.
That would be utter and complete crap.
Not by a long shot in my book.
But, that's just me. To each his own...
That’s what I figured.
The article does hint at what gringo men may be stepping into in an Asian marriage.
You don’t just marry her. You marry her whole family.
Get ready to be prostate-milked, honorable rich white boy. Thy connubial bliss may be stymied as you are expected to expedite the immigration and support all thy in-laws.
Then beware if you find yourself abruptly divorced once the five-year waiting period is over and Madame Butterfly qualifies for her green card.
Presumably most white dudes in China aren’t staying there forever. They can get white women whenever they want when they go back to wherever they came from. When in Rome, have sex with the people Romans have sex with.
I’m waiting for the de rigueur comment on these threads that men prefer asian women because asian women allow themselves to be treated like doormats. Anybody who believes this has never been married to an asian woman. We are talking steel lotus flower.
Here is the thing white guys don’t realize - if you go to Japan and date white women they will come at you like crazy because they are SO lonely
Never thought about it that angle.
I lived in Asia for six+ years and ran across many single white females. And let me tell you, they are more than likely Canadian, which makes them even more condescending, snider, and bitchier than any group of women in the world. Unless an Asian guy wants a blond trophy which puts out, he is well served to steer clear of the average SWF expat.
“’to their own kind’???
What kind of crap is that?”
Well, it’s a statistical fact that most people end up with mates from similar backgrounds, with the same cultures, nationalities, and, yes, skin colors.
Im waiting for the de rigueur comment on these threads that men prefer asian women because asian women allow themselves to be treated like doormats. Anybody who believes this has never been married to an asian woman. We are talking steel lotus flower.
Truth...i should know.
Because they aren't gay?
Most honorable Chinese writer call spade a spade; not suffer from Western malady known as “political correctness”.
After my first trip to to the Philippines in 2008,
I moved here from Europe in Jan. 2009, and yes, because of the sweet ladies that treat their men like they are gods.
Add to that, the cost of living is a fraction of cost in the west.
Yeah, and what’s even funnier, the Brits and Aussies think your accent is sexy. Even though I was fluent in Japanese, I wasn’t interested in Japanese women really until I met my wife.
The point being, it’s the individual that’s important.
This is from a pretty funny site
I’m reminded to my Days in the Navy....
Sorry. Married to a tall white woman made better by her wearing 3-4 inch heels to work. No need for a short subservient nit-wit. Screw this sh@t. I thought we were Americans here.
“........I lived in Asia for six+ years and ran across many single white females. And let me tell you, they are more than likely Canadian, which makes them even more condescending, snider, and bitchier than any group of women in the world.....”
I’ve found that to be much more true of Australian women to be honest. Such a freeking chip on their shoulders. Absolutely weird.
This article is a direct rip-of from one years ago. Only the words have been rearranged from Thailand to China. Nothing new.
An older gentleman(?) I know is on his fourth or fifth Philipino wife. He said it is even a better deal than a leased car. As long as you get one that is a good cook. He said they are all real good in bed. And after five years when they have their green card and want a divorce - you're pretty much tired of them anyway. And then he heads back to the Phillipines for a vacation. And a new wife! Pretty goofy if you ask me, but to each their own.
1. My J. wife NEVER stinks
2. My J. wife is not fat + no signs of impending ass explosion
3. My J. wife is not political in any way
4. My J. wife likes animals, but also will eat them with me
5. My J. wife not only does not compete with me, but does not even AVOID competing with me
6. My J. wife seldom uses sex as a weapon —verrry few, “headaches”
7. My J. wife is strong, but does not have a clear idea of what feminism is; “Men & women = enemies” is a nebulous concept
>>An older gentleman(?) I know is on his fourth or fifth Philipino wife. He said it is even a better deal than a leased car. As long as you get one that is a good cook. He said they are all real good in bed. And after five years when they have their green card and want a divorce - you’re pretty much tired of them anyway. And then he heads back to the Phillipines for a vacation. And a new wife! Pretty goofy if you ask me, but to each their own.
Is his name Art Bell?
Ai Shinozaki 篠崎愛
Born: 26 February 1992
87 - 60 - 88 cm (34" - 26" - 35")
Height: 5' 3" Weight: 90 lbs.
“.I lived in Asia for six+ years and ran across many single white females.”
In my 18 months here in the Philippines, I have yet to see one single white girl, and maybe only a few white couples.
Every town, however, has a sizable collection of western men, married to, or going with Philippine girls.
"White" women have unfortunately been convinced by TV / Cosmo / Sex in the City that they should engage in certain behaviors, all of which are counter-productive to having a good relationship with a straight man.
As one who chased LBFM’s all over the world for a few decades I will say Chinese ladies are last on the good looks train.
Thai gals.....Numbah 1 !
There is some round eye in that ladies DNA .....
Is his name Art Bell?
Art likes dem brown ones ;)
“As long as you get one that is a good cook.”...If you like the taste - they are AWESOME cooks...no hamburger helper if you can provide.
I think you’ve summed it up nicely...can’t argue with that.
Wow, she is too childlike and androgynous for me, that picture gives me the willies, (the creeps).
My wife’s family are pretty famous Buddhist statue carvers in Kyoto. After hearing of them and their reputation (they had three houses, one across the street from the old imperial palace), I was kind of scared to spend New Years getting to know them. We played Mah Jang and I played her brother in shogi and so on, and it was a great time.
I eventually asked the father “Did you hesitate in allowing your daughter to marry me?” He responded, “No! We don’t care who she marries as long as he’s not an idiot.” This seemed like a rather strange compliment, but it was still a compliment.
Exactly. I am happily married (to a tall, blue-eyed Teutonic goddess, LOL) and have been for eighteen years, thanks be to God, but if were ever to become single again, God forbid, there is no way on Earth I’d date American white girls. Not a chance. Most American women are trained from birth to be screeching harpies. (To be fair, most American men are giant 10-year-old boys.) For me, it would be Japanese girls or nothing. They are still women over there, not Men With Breasts.
“Men With Breasts”
They wear manziers or Bros?
Your concept of androgyny is obviously different from mine.
“That’s what I think it’s all about, and I’ll go so far as to say it’s the women who have changed, not men.”
I won’t say you are exactly right V - but you are pretty darned close.
You want to know why men like asian women? Just watch the beginning of Tamori Club (Nsfw):