“I dated two guys who were starting out in the world, only to get left behind.”
Hmm, why’d they leave you behind?
Working is one thing. Wanting to work to make your own money, is a real red flag to me. Says to me you have issues with the idea that a family is meant to support each other through thick and thin and that you want to have a safety net outside of them. “Your money”, per se.
That’s not exactly an unusual attitude. Gals who see their money as theirs and your money as theirs, with the expectation that they have to work just to protect themselves so that they can say they don’t need you.
I’d rather be with someone who preferred not working.
Anyways, I’m a teacher. I don’t pretend to be rich and well off and the result is a rather quiet existence. Fine by me. As I said, the gals in university who were all about ‘finding themselves’, call me up now when they realise that I’m not tied down and expect me to lay out the red carpet. They don’t seem to realise that I was serious about how I felt back then, and that they didn’t want/need me then, they don’t really want/need me now.
I was the nurturing type that I don’t think I wanted to work really, but I’ve grown up in a controlling family. I think the guys left me because I wasn’t ‘at their level’ or something. Either that or as they expanded their horizons, they found ‘better.’ Something of that sort I think.