Skip to comments.The marriage killer: One in five American divorces now involve Facebook
Posted on 12/02/2010 7:25:10 AM PST by SeekAndFind
It used to be the tell-tale lipstick on the collar. Then there were the give-away texts that spelled the death knell for many marriages.
But now one in five divorces involve social networking site Facebook, according to a new survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.
A staggering 80 per cent of divorce lawyers have also reported a spike in the number of cases that use social media for evidence of cheating.
Flirty messages and photographs found on Facebook are increasingly being cited as proof of unreasonable behaviour or irreconcilable differences.
Many cases revolve around social media users who get back in touch with old flames they hadnt heard from in many years.
Facebook was by far the biggest offender, with 66 per cent of lawyers citing it as the primary source of evidence in a divorce case. MySpace followed with 15 per cent, Twitter at 5 per cent and other choices lumped together at 14 per cent.
The survey reflects the findings of UK law firm last year showing that 20 per cent of its divorce petitions blamed Facebook flings.
The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to, said Mark Keenan, managing director of Divorce-Online.
Friends Reunited faced similar claims when it was launched to help people reconnect with old classmates, but the 23 million plus people now using Facebook in Britain means it is having a much bigger effect on rising divorce rates.
Desperate Housewives star Eva Longoria recently split from her basketball player husband Tony Parker after alleging that he strayed with a woman he kept in touch with on Facebook.
An American minister also made the headlines recently when he called Facebook a portal to infidelity and insisted that his congregation delete their accounts
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Social Media is a bad actor. I knew it when Prodigy came out.
How is it the fault of FaceBook or any other website that people cheat?
So more than 20% of marriages end now because of cheating?
FR is a bad influence too. I spend way too much time surfing here.
You won't find what you don't go looking for.
so... what are you wearing?
And myface. And spacebook.
Blaming Facebook is the same as blaming the gun for a murder.
Damn you Al Gore!
Freepmail wagglebee to subscribe or unsubscribe from the moral absolutes ping list.
Mr. trisham is on Facebook. Fortunately, we have a perfect marriage.
It is known as the liberal 'view'.
See, it has to be 'somethings' fault, otherwise it would have to be 'somebodys' fault.
As in lack of moral principles, lack of committment, lack of faith.
Everyone of my ex girlfriends have friended me on Facebook. Neither me or my wife have a problem with it. We take our vows very seriously and have the utmost trust in each other. The rest falls nicely into place.
Kilt full commando
Before the internet, these same class of dingbats would hook up at local pool halls or parking lots with jerks they met through personal ads or hanging out.
I let my kids set up Facebook accounts while they were still in high school with one condition: Dad had to be one of their friends. Even though they are grown up and in college and married, I'm still a Facebook friend. They could unfriend me at anytime because they are paying their own way now . . . but they don't and its very comforting for me, a parent, to see who they are hanging around with now.
So it cuts both ways.
Cheap affairs...at least at the bar you get drinks
Previous responsible parties include the text message, the cellular phone, the land-line telephone, the telegram, the mail carrier, the pen-and-paper, and the stone tablet.
Facebook doesn’t kill marriages ... people do.
“FR is a bad influence too. I spend way too much time surfing here.”
Me too...but in spite of all of the time I spend here, no FReeper has ever hit on me. I guess that’s because we’re “Free Republic” not “Floozy Republic.”
So.....what are you wearing?
My wife is on Facebook, I don't get the appeal. The people I actually liked from high school and college I kept in touch with anyway.
Yeah, the stuff you listed would be “evidence”, not “offender”. It’s a poor workman who blames his tools...
completely agree. Facebook is a tool for social interaction & networking. You go there with ideas on what you want. Some go there to troll for men & women & they are usually successful.
I participate (DONT do games, gifts, APS) with friends from the multitude of places I have lived & the corresponding clubs, churches, neighborhoods. I found my best pal from navy OCS, my 2nd grade neighborhood girlfriend.
I have also been hit on (yes this old gal hit on) by some . Never respond if they are “not “ on my friend’s list & drop them very quickly if they are on my friend’s list and I know they are married or otherwise involved. It is up to you to make choices of what you will do & whom with.
Facebook can facilitate this. So can your phone. Your email. Your other networking accounts.
I don't think I'd describe it as "fault" but the fact is that the internet, Facebook in particular, does make it much easier to find that old HS or college sweetheart.
Thats why I wont let my wife be a friend on FB.
Facebook: the electronic lipstick on the collar
It’s OK. The other 4/5 invove the cell telephone. You’ve got a better chance for cheating if you stay off your cell and do all your cheating via Facebook. Carefull of the US Mail too because the statistic is no longer kept.
"and do not subject us to the final test." Temptation is difficult and we need prayer to overcome it. Facebook is a good thing when used properly.
AOL chatrooms did their fair share of damage as well.
So many people used it as a fantasy world where the grass was greener and they would fall in “love” to complete strangers thousands of miles away.
That isn't at all what the article said. What it says it that one in five (20%, if you will) divorce cases cite Facebook as evidence of either infidelity or irreconcilable differences. This isn't evidence that people cheat more or divorce more, just that it's a whole lot easier to access someone's Facebook account than hire a private detective.
He’s not a Palin fan. He’d probably get nuked.
How does someone sign up while sharing an isp?
“The survey reflects the findings of UK law firm last year showing that 20 per cent of its divorce petitions blamed Facebook flings.”
That says 20 percent of UK divorces handled by one firm were from Facebook flings alone.
I don't think there's any problem as long as he has a different email address. Mr. & Mrs. Don-o are both members, as are other couples and I assume they are on the same ISP.
I think it's a good idea if married couples have access to each others email and other computer accounts, just to build trust and maybe help your conscience.
So I’ve heard that spouses who suspect their other half is cheating on them can get Facebook records and info back to a year that may have been removed or deleted from the offending spouse’s fb page. I would suspect if that is true that it would take legal action to obtain said information. Does anyone know if this is possible?
It's not really "at fault," but it does offer propinquity (a wonderful word that means "nearness in place or time") that would not otherwise exist.
It's normal to wonder how things might have been if one had made the right moves toward a particular person way back when.... How often do people construct idyllic scenarios involving an old flame, that look especially inviting in comparison to the usual frictions and difficulties of our everyday lives?
In the old days, it was hard to look that person up.
Now, though, "I wonder" can be satisfied by a few clicks on the mouse. Facebook and other such sites feed the temptation, and it can obviously get out of control.
It’s not the fault, it’s the means.
And if your wife decides that she wants a divorce so she can take the kids and get paid for it, it's pretty easy to allege that you were communicating with other women on FR.
The charge won't really matter, because she can drop the unproven claims, settle the divorce for irreconcilable differences and take the gold mine while giving you the shaft.
They're going to call it "YouTwitFace!"
ba dum TISH
So help me if my wife ever joins Farmville I will divorce her. Easiest way in the world to get de-friended by me.
“Mona Smith wants you to have some vegetables from Farmville” - WHAM! NO FRIEND FOR YOU!
Why don’t you just hide Farmville instead? You can keep the friend and not have anything to do with Farmville show up.
I didn’t say 20% of all marriages end in divorce, I was questioning whether 20% of all marriages THAT end in divorce do so because of affairs exposed on facebook. That hints at 20% or more of all divorce being because of adultery.
LOL! When I first discovered chat groups I just didn't get it. I had a guy tell me he was a dancer and I took him seriously. I guessed maybe he was in a ballet troupe or line-dancing instructor or something. Then he told me what HE was wearing! YIKES!
Fine, but before then what did Helen use?