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Coffee in the Office
Feb. 9, 2011 | self

Posted on 02/09/2011 6:53:00 PM PST by CH3CN

What is the modern opinion regarding coffee in the office. Is it no longer proper to pour a cup of java, add a little cream, and drop it off on the boss's desk when he comes in? I always thought it was courteous and a demonstation of respect to greet the boss with a cup of coffee first thing in the morning. Guess I'm from the old school, but, I'd like to know what is done nowadays.


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1 posted on 02/09/2011 6:53:03 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: CH3CN

I too am a dinosaur - I say GO 4 it!


2 posted on 02/09/2011 6:54:30 PM PST by Sioux-san
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To: CH3CN

Are you the secretary?

Let the boss get his/her own!


3 posted on 02/09/2011 6:55:09 PM PST by LibFreeOrDie (Obama promised a gold mine, but will give us the shaft.)
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To: LibFreeOrDie

Agree...totally obsequious!

Ugh...if the same sex..kinda too personal.


4 posted on 02/09/2011 6:57:03 PM PST by Recovering Ex-hippie
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To: CH3CN

Where we are, it is more like an Olympic race to drink it before everyone else, and in my case, get to it and clean it before someone makes coffee on top of coffee that has been sitting over night.


5 posted on 02/09/2011 6:57:25 PM PST by mnehring
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To: LibFreeOrDie

Well, I guess I’m a secretary. I take care of a gang of graduate students and am the only “staff” person there. I make the coffee for everyone, have for 25 years. The new boss didn’t seem to mind the coffee the first year, but suddenly he tries to beat me to the coffee maker to get his own, or hides his cup and I have to ask for it. It’s obvious someone has told him it’s not a good thing to let me get him coffee in the morning.


6 posted on 02/09/2011 6:58:31 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: CH3CN

When I was the boss (I am retired), I always appreciated it.


7 posted on 02/09/2011 6:59:08 PM PST by ixtl ( You live and learn; or you don't live long.)
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To: CH3CN

It’s ok because it is a nice thing to do but first ask the boss if he’d have an issue with you doing that. The world needs more kind-hearted servants.


8 posted on 02/09/2011 7:00:18 PM PST by InvisibleChurch (Supreme Court overturns car)
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To: CH3CN
If some toady screwed up my coffee by putting cream in it, I'd find cause to fire him. Oh, wait, this is an "At will" state. I don't need a cause. "Your services are no longer required, security will escort you out" is all that's needed.

/johnny

9 posted on 02/09/2011 7:01:14 PM PST by JRandomFreeper (Gone Galt)
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To: CH3CN

What is so strange these days is that everyone needs a coffee or a soda when they work.

Today at the post office all the clerks had large (very large) cups of soda. The other day at a restaurant the hostess has a large coke which she spilled all over her list of reservations, and at the bank every single teller had a cup of coffee or soda. Reading through the restaurant health inspection reports the #1 infraction was a personal container of liquid on a counter near food preparation.

Why is everybody so thirsty all of a sudden?


10 posted on 02/09/2011 7:02:29 PM PST by ladyjane
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To: CH3CN
but suddenly he tries to beat me to the coffee maker to get his own, or hides his cup and I have to ask for it.

Then stop doing it! What's the problem?

11 posted on 02/09/2011 7:03:44 PM PST by LibFreeOrDie (Obama promised a gold mine, but will give us the shaft.)
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To: JRandomFreeper

Yea, I like mine neat, too. But the boss likes cream, and some of the other guys do too so I keep it in the office. Sugar and the pink stuff, too. (Yuck!)


12 posted on 02/09/2011 7:03:57 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: CH3CN

I would suspect that someone had peed in it and would dump it.

Thats our world today.


13 posted on 02/09/2011 7:04:05 PM PST by right way right
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To: ladyjane

Everyone wants to get their coffee and soda before Michelle outlaws caffeine?


14 posted on 02/09/2011 7:04:42 PM PST by InvisibleChurch (Supreme Court overturns car)
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To: CH3CN
It's only thoughtful if he appreciates it. If he's hiding the cup, he doesn't want you to make him coffee.

If he's this touchy, I wouldn't show up topless, either.

15 posted on 02/09/2011 7:05:08 PM PST by Richard Kimball
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To: CH3CN

Courtesy is never out of date.


16 posted on 02/09/2011 7:06:13 PM PST by Caipirabob ( Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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To: CH3CN

I’ve known my boss 18 years. He’s a guy, too. Getting him a coffee is like getting him a beer.


17 posted on 02/09/2011 7:08:14 PM PST by Caipirabob ( Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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To: LibFreeOrDie

The boss is a kindly, older Chinese gentleman. He was quite honored at first. I finally asked him if someone had told him the coffee thing was taboo and his shook his head yes. He thinks he offended me by letting me bring coffee. I tried to explain it’s only demeaning if he demands I bring coffee. I just don’t understand why it’s suddenly become a problem, so I thought I’d run it by you folks. Is it really taboo now?


18 posted on 02/09/2011 7:08:25 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: ladyjane
Why is everybody so thirsty all of a sudden?

HEY HONEY! FETCH ME A BEER!

19 posted on 02/09/2011 7:08:42 PM PST by MountainDad (Support your local Militia)
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To: right way right

Where you in the USN?


20 posted on 02/09/2011 7:09:07 PM PST by mylife (Opinions: $1.00 ~ Halfbaked: 50c)
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To: CH3CN

“let me get him coffee in the morning.”

Wives no longer appreciate this behavior


21 posted on 02/09/2011 7:12:17 PM PST by AppyPappy (If you aren't part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.)
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To: mylife

No, but a Navy guy told me once the navy cooks added salt water to their coffee.

What a dummy.


22 posted on 02/09/2011 7:12:57 PM PST by right way right
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To: right way right

LoL!


23 posted on 02/09/2011 7:14:57 PM PST by mylife (Opinions: $1.00 ~ Halfbaked: 50c)
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To: CH3CN

Sounds like you make bad coffee. Maybe too strong or too weak?


24 posted on 02/09/2011 7:15:13 PM PST by Kirkwood (Zombie Hunter)
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To: Caipirabob

Sometimes my husband or I bake fresh scones to take in, too. The students really like that. LOL.


25 posted on 02/09/2011 7:16:48 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: CH3CN

Let it be. Give it up. Stop pushing it on him. He’s Chinese. Cultural differences. It is very rude to force something on someone when it is not wanted.


26 posted on 02/09/2011 7:18:45 PM PST by LibFreeOrDie (Obama promised a gold mine, but will give us the shaft.)
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To: ladyjane

I’ve wondered this myself. Now our cars have cup holders. They didn’t used to because people didn’t drink in their cars, even on long trips. And those 64 oz drinks? Holy cow. I can nurse a can of Coke for an entire day. And have you noticed how EVERYONE has to have a bottle of water around, sucking on it like a wino on his last inch of Thunderbird?

It’s really weird. Why is everyone these days so thirsty all the time?


27 posted on 02/09/2011 7:18:57 PM PST by Auntie Mame (Fear not tomorrow. God is already there.)
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My boss got her own coffee. We’re still friends. She is an egalitarian who appreciates those who support her.


28 posted on 02/09/2011 7:23:02 PM PST by Silentgypsy
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To: LibFreeOrDie

You got a point there. I guess I can get into the modern age. It’s amazing how strongly some folks feel about how their coffee gets to their desk.

I was right about one thing though, you all certainly are bringing me up to speed on office manners.


29 posted on 02/09/2011 7:30:14 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: CH3CN

A lot of people are getting cappo machines or buying different types of coffees from Starbucks. Those are the “in” things right now.


30 posted on 02/09/2011 7:30:48 PM PST by napscoordinator
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To: Silentgypsy

>> She is an egalitarian

What does her religion have to do with it??!?


31 posted on 02/09/2011 7:31:56 PM PST by Nervous Tick (Trust in God, but row away from the rocks!)
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I still get my coffee delivered to me everyday by one of my illegal alien employees.
I guess they are old school too.
32 posted on 02/09/2011 7:40:42 PM PST by ScoochDude
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Ha Ha, that’s funny. Speaking of aliens, ever since the economy went to heck we’ve had move domestic students and very few internationals. We used to have 30-40 internationals, but now have 2. The domestic students are having a hard time finding jobs so they are going to grad school. I’ve enjoyed working with this department very much. I never would have thought I would enjoy being around engineering folks. They are a lot of fun.


33 posted on 02/09/2011 7:51:08 PM PST by CH3CN
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“I?ve known my boss 18 years. He?s a guy, too. Getting him a coffee is like getting him a beer.”

I’m mixed on this. You have a habit and probably a good job. But I would never get another person coffee unless they were tied to a phone and I inititiated the offer. Other than that, they can kiss my ass and get their own coffee.


34 posted on 02/09/2011 7:57:44 PM PST by goseminoles
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Getting coffee is total suck-up!

One of the best parts of my day, was to go through my area, with my empty cup in hand, say hello to everyone, and note who were not yet there; then once I poured my own cup, drop in on the folks who had special deadline assignments and ask how all was going, and whether they needed anything.

Got the day going to prepare for the short management meeting at about 10AM to discuss prime issues, while supporting those with special deadlines with a way to vent.


35 posted on 02/09/2011 7:58:54 PM PST by Noob1999 (Loose Lips Sink Ships)
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Well, I guess I’m a secretary. I take care of a gang of graduate students and am the only “staff” person there. I make the coffee for everyone, have for 25 years. The new boss didn’t seem to mind the coffee the first year, but suddenly he tries to beat me to the coffee maker to get his own, or hides his cup and I have to ask for it. It’s obvious someone has told him it’s not a good thing to let me get him coffee in the morning.

He's afraid of being accused of sexual discrimination.

Asking a secretary to get coffee is a hot button for feminists. Someone else in the building probably reported it to your boss' boss--"Did you know he's making his secretary bring him coffee?" Your boss got called in and read the sexual discrimination riot act.

A lot of women don't realize the mine-field men have had to negotiate. Do you open the door for a woman or not? Do you compliment her or not? Do you make an off color joke or not? Do you help someone--what, you think I can't do it because I'm a woman--or not?

Stop getting him coffee.

36 posted on 02/09/2011 8:06:57 PM PST by Brookhaven (Moderates = non-thinkers)
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Whatever his reason is, you should respect it. In today’s current lawsuit crazy environment, who knows what anyone is going to sue for next?

He may be the nicest guy in the world, but what if some freaky liberal type claims that his accepting your coffee service is intimidating and thus creates a hostile working environment?

Don’t laugh! It could have been something just like that.


37 posted on 02/09/2011 8:15:53 PM PST by Ronin ("Dismantle the TSA and send the screeners back to Wal-Mart.")
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To: Brookhaven

>>Your boss got called in and read the sexual discrimination riot act.

That sounds like a distinct possibility. Common sense is gone. We’ve built a system in which even courtesy has been destroyed.

Thanks all. You’ve helped me sort this out from angles I never imagined.


38 posted on 02/09/2011 8:20:17 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: Noob1999

Did I used to work for you? Just kidding.


39 posted on 02/09/2011 8:21:41 PM PST by republicangel
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“he tries to beat me to the coffee maker to get his own, or hides his cup and I have to ask for it”

What does he have to do, hit you over the head with a 2 x 4?

STOP, repeat STOP giving him coffee. He made it very clear he doesn’t want you to do it.

The reasons can be many, one of which could be people gossiping about possible relationship between him and you (regardless whether you are female or male).

Your intentions may be pure, but you know where the road with good intentions leads.

The fact that you say you have to “ask for it”, after he hides his cup, shows you are overly aggressive, almost obsessive about it.

For everyone’s sake, including for the sake of your boss and your own, STOP giving him coffee.

This may sound a harsh assessment and advice, but this is how it looks to an unbiased outside observer.


40 posted on 02/09/2011 8:38:55 PM PST by Innovative (Weakness is provocative.)
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The new boss didn’t seem to mind the coffee the first year, but suddenly he tries to beat me to the coffee maker to get his own

There's your answer.

41 posted on 02/09/2011 8:45:39 PM PST by Huck (one per-center)
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I agree with this post #40.


42 posted on 02/09/2011 8:49:27 PM PST by Huck (one per-center)
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To: right way right

It’s not that the cooks add salt water to the coffee, but if the coffee is VERY strong and bitter, i.e. been sittin on the burner too long, a pinch of salt added to it will take much of the bitter away.


43 posted on 02/09/2011 8:51:24 PM PST by Just another Joe (Warning: FReeping can be addictive and helpful to your mental health)
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To: Innovative

See response 38. It’s only been the past few days that I’ve noticed his new attitude after almost a year of no problem. That’s why I posted this, to figure out the best course to follow and understand what must have happened.

Thank you for you input.


44 posted on 02/09/2011 8:57:55 PM PST by CH3CN
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To: Just another Joe
Thanks for the tip.
Just as long as it ain't salty urine.

(Or, un-salty for that matter.)

45 posted on 02/09/2011 9:10:20 PM PST by right way right
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To: CH3CN
What is the modern opinion regarding coffee in the office. Is it no longer proper to pour a cup of java, add a little cream, and drop it off on the boss's desk when he comes in? I always thought it was courteous and a demonstation of respect to greet the boss with a cup of coffee first thing in the morning. Guess I'm from the old school, but, I'd like to know what is done nowadays.

I get coffee for my husband in the morning, tea or whatever at meals, hot tea in the evening, etc. When he's at the office, he says that he gets it for himself and likes it that way.

I can think of a number of reasons a boss would want to get their own, including the fact that getting coffee gives him a chance to get up, stretch his legs, and see how everything and everyone is doing in the office.

The reason ultimately doesn't really matter, though. As a worker, it's your job to make his job easier/more comfortable/whatever. Whatever makes him happy should make you happy.

46 posted on 02/09/2011 9:57:52 PM PST by mountainbunny
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It doesn’t really matter what the reason is, your boss made it abundantly clear to you that he wants you to stop giving him coffee. At work it is usually a very good idea to abide by the wishes of one’s boss.

He also does not owe you an explanation. He felt comfortable with it before, but he does not want you to continue. You should not insist on forcing your attention on your boss.

Wake up and smell the coffee in more ways than one.


47 posted on 02/09/2011 11:44:11 PM PST by Innovative (Weakness is provocative.)
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To: right way right

WOW! That’s exactly what I was thinking!


48 posted on 02/10/2011 2:54:58 AM PST by SatinDoll
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To: CH3CN
Sometimes my husband or I bake fresh scones to take in, too. The students really like that. LOL.

Now THAT sounds awesome and I think it contributes to a sense of team at work.

I will sometimes make my kids favorite; Cheese bread and bring that to work to serve to folks. It goes fast!

49 posted on 02/10/2011 3:04:55 AM PST by Caipirabob ( Communists... Socialists... Democrats...Traitors... Who can tell the difference?)
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When I was the boss, I didn’t want my people serving me anything.

I had enough of serving from upper management, and it was all bullsh!t.


50 posted on 02/10/2011 5:07:28 AM PST by 2nd Bn, 11th Mar (The "p" in Democrat stands for patriotism.)
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