Skip to comments.So when is it permissable to check out?
Posted on 03/01/2011 9:05:12 PM PST by PhilosopherStone1000
So I'm 50. I have a very smart, very beautiful daughter who is a junior in high school.
Every day, I wake up and say to myself "Crap. I'm still alive."
I feel like I've done my job. I have give birth to and raised an extraordinary human being. There's nothing I can do now to advance her career or life.
How much does God expect me to endure? When can I say "I've had enough?" At what point is it rational to jump off that bridge simply because one is tired of putting up with all the crap?
Never, all life is precious including your own.
If your life doesn’t seem worth it, then consider donating it to others or to the church.
Stop being so selfish.
You have responsibilities. To say that your daughter has rec’d everything she could ever need from you is absurd. She is not a grown woman yet.
She’s only what, 16? You really think she’s ready to be without a dad? Geez.
What you should do is
1. read your post to your daughter.
2. assure her you’re serious
3. Observe her reaction when she realizes how cowardly and selfish is her father.
If you are absolutely sure you want to give up your life, I will take it.
I know some good causes that need people’s lives to help others.
Your daughter still needs you. I am sure others in your life need you as well.
A father’s importance to a daughter does not decrease as she ages, it changes in accordance with her age and stage in life.
If you do not have a Bible, I advise you to get one and begin reading. If you have one, I suggest that you read the wisdom books.
Well, I’m 57. There’s a lot of good stuff I would have missed out on if I had “checked-out” at 50.
You think your kid doesn’t need you? They like you to think that, but it’s just an act.
And what, exactly, do I have to “give” her?
I love my FReeper friends, generally, but they all tend to live in some sort of DisneyConservative World
50 is not old enough to have “done your job”. Your daughter doesn’t need you around? You say she is a junior in High School, so she is 16 years old, maybe 17?
She doesn’t need you? She deserves to lose a parent when she is a teenager? She doesn’t deserve for her children to have a grandparent?
Your job is done? Grandchildren who will never know you? Neighbors and friends that you will meet that will have a hollow hole in their lives?
Your job is done? God has a job for you. It’s there, a glimmer in the distance. Your enduring is a part of that job. Endure until he decides your job is done.
Frustrating, and frantic, and seemingly hopeless are lies meant to confuse and bring you to despair. Face them the same way you should face any lies. With truth and determination to remove those lies from existance.
Remove the teeth of those lies with statements of truth. Your job is not over! Your battle has just been joined! Your victory has just started!
Tomorrow, you get to a counselor. Your minister is a good place to start. If you don’t have a minister, getting one is a good place to start.
Get help, as soon as you can. You do not have to face the lies alone.
Just from my own experience, your daughter will probably need your physical presence and emotional support the rest of your life and her life.
I’m seventy-four. I have a beautiful daughter who is forty-four. She graduated from high school, undergrad school and law school. She owns her own law firm. Think I’ll hang around for a bit and see what else might happen. I’m greedy, you understand.
It doesn’t sound as though you are satisfied with your accomplishments. Would be stupid to check out before you are somewhat satisfied.
If you think that girl won’t cry for the next 50 years every time she realizes she doesn’t have Dad you are sadly mistaken. It’s not all about you. None of us are all that important on our own..but we are never alone. Snap out of it.
I don’t know your circumstances are or what difficulities you face. What I will say is that when someone begins to talk about suicide then it is time to seek some help. I’m glad you posted this. Please talk to your doctor. I’ve suffered major depression. I know what living in a black hole is like. I hate to see anyone suffer this.
Bump for later
What is “all of the crap” that you have endured?
My doctor once told me that if what you are doing isn’t making you happy do something that does. Si mate if your job or career or the place you live is making you feel trapped and unhappy do something else and if you can’t well try getting up every morning and thank God you are alive and have such a wonderful daughter who should be your delight and the apple of your eye.
I don’t know what you have to be unhappy about, you might be suffering under a great load so i cannot judge you but I do know that making small positive steps, like praising God in all things, can make you happy. Second find yourself a good Christian brother who you can meet with regularly and have a chat and a pray and a beer.
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