Skip to comments.How one woman kept her cool when her husband said he wanted to leave
Posted on 04/03/2011 8:34:12 PM PDT by Niuhuru
After 20 years and two children together, Laura Munsons husband told her that he wanted to leave their farmhouse home. Laura suppressed the urge to rage at his selfishness and her restraint had surprising consequences
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I think he was having fun with his girlfriend, and then she dumped him when he wouldn’t marry her.
Wives do it too. It is all horrible. At least this one had a happy ending.
Why do wives do the same thing to their Husbands?
Selfishness. Plain and simple. I don’t buy mid-life crisis. Lack of character....
It goes both ways, my friend, and neither of it is right...
I was thinking how blessed his children are that he came to his senses.
I have friends whose grown children are still suffering terribly from their parents’ divorce.
I one third of cases like this, when it is the husband straying, I don't know. In the other two thirds of the cases, where it is the wife that "feels unfulfilled", I don't know either.
Men do “it” when their wives cut them off. No wifely duties, no wife. Notice that the author never mentions her lust for her husband.
Couples fight about two things in life: money or sex.
Men leave relationships only for sex or to be away from nagging.
Pretty simple, really.
I agree with you 100%
Spoiled children can and often do, become spoiled adults..
Sounds like she handled a hard patch pretty well, and has been a wise mother to her children.
Too bad his sister has to face early death for him to catch on.
Midlife crisis is real enough. I think every male in the planet goes slightly crazy the day they look in the mirror and realize they really do look their age.
Going crazy because of it or giving people you love Hell because of it... yeah, that’s lack of character.
You can never talk somebody that wants to go into staying. The best strategy is to hold their coat for them and then get on with life without them. This has three benefits: You keep your dignity. You accelerate getting your life back on track. And, ironically, it is your best chance of getting them to change their mind, should you be willing to accept them back.
It is interesting how many couples I have known to get their divorce at exactly eighteen years of marriage. It’s almost like a generation passes (18 yrs for most of history) and things fall apart.
If you do decide to accept them back; do get tested for STD’s and insist they also get tested. Too many STD’s today risk death; too high a price to pay for resuming sex with a selfish individual. Not worth it; AND they will lie about how “they didn’t have sex with her” in order to avoid being tested. Denial is another form of narcissism.
They have to come back if you've still got their coat and they want it. ;)
As soon as the easy sex was gone, back home to mamma.
Probably found out that GF was cheating on him with a much younger guy, and it sent this weak wimp scurrying home to his wife.
I've seen it happen.
Really? You think only husbands do it to their wives and there are no wives leaving their husbands after 20 years of marriage? You might ask why does anyone, husband or wife leave a marriage after any amount of years.
I was fortunate enough that my mom and dad put absolutely nothing above us kids. I am a fallible man and husband @
49 yoa, yet I remember that there was nothing more important in my parents lives, than me and my three sisters.
I think that notion propagates itself and maybe is passed down. I don’t know how to put this in a witty or cool way,
but I am very much loathe to let my kids down. I am so very fortunate that my wife was brought up the same way........
Only a total fool would leave a lovely woman and that good-looking family to pursue some ridiculous fantasy.
I think he had a boyfriend.
People expect heaven on earth.
They are selfish and don’t understand that a relationship means commitment and hard work.
Would life be easier alone?
Probably, but then what?
You live for yourself, at your pace?
Where’s the meaning in that?
Your job is to get your family to heaven, not pretend you can create heaven for yourself in this lifetime.
>>Men do it when their wives cut them off. No wifely duties, no wife. Notice that the author never mentions her lust for her husband.<<
“Mid-life crisis” is another name for I am fed up with making love in the same position week after week after week .... and the fact that too many wives refuse to tell their husband that he is lousy in bed.
"If you love something..., let it go..., if it comes back to you it was always yours..., if it doesn't, it never was yours in the first place!"
Many a man has come to ask, who is the real father of “his” children.
Paternity DNA tests show he is often unhappy with the results, even in Christian families.
Southack quoth: Couples fight about two things in life: money or sex.
I would add “family” to that list..
Why do some husbands do this to their wives?
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Husband stop loving their wives, and wives stop respecting their husbands.
A bit more info here: Eph 5:22-33
Wives and Husbands
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.t28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,30 because we are members of his body.31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
When things don’t follow the way God says to do it, relationships break down.
Many stay until their youngest becomes and adult (suppose to be by 18 and out of school) Then they feel there duty is over....
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