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How one woman kept her cool when her husband said he wanted to leave
Daily Mail ^ | 11:51 PM on 2nd April 2011 | By Laura Munson

Posted on 04/03/2011 8:34:12 PM PDT by Niuhuru

After 20 years and two children together, Laura Munson’s husband told her that he wanted to leave their farmhouse home. Laura suppressed the urge to rage at his selfishness – and her restraint had surprising consequences…

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TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Religion
KEYWORDS: children; consequences; divorce; home; husband; marriage; relationships; restraint; selfcontrol; selfishness
I think it helped, but really, why do men do this to their wives?
1 posted on 04/03/2011 8:34:21 PM PDT by Niuhuru
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To: Niuhuru

I think he was having fun with his girlfriend, and then she dumped him when he wouldn’t marry her.


2 posted on 04/03/2011 8:39:30 PM PDT by Fido969
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To: Niuhuru

Wives do it too. It is all horrible. At least this one had a happy ending.


3 posted on 04/03/2011 8:46:06 PM PDT by achilles2000 ("I'll agree to save the whales as long as we can deport the liberals")
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To: Niuhuru

Why do wives do the same thing to their Husbands?

TT


4 posted on 04/03/2011 8:46:42 PM PDT by TexasTransplant (Radical islam is real islam. Moderate islam is the trojan horse.)
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To: Fido969

Selfishness. Plain and simple. I don’t buy mid-life crisis. Lack of character....


5 posted on 04/03/2011 8:46:58 PM PDT by Pure Country (“I’ve noticed that every person that is for abortion has already been born.” -Ronald Reagan)
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To: Niuhuru
...why do men do this to their wives?

It goes both ways, my friend, and neither of it is right...

6 posted on 04/03/2011 8:51:34 PM PDT by csense
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To: achilles2000

I was thinking how blessed his children are that he came to his senses.
I have friends whose grown children are still suffering terribly from their parents’ divorce.


7 posted on 04/03/2011 8:52:50 PM PDT by kalee (The offences we give, we write in the dust; Those we take, we engrave in marble. J Huett 1658)
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To: Niuhuru
but really, why do men do this to their wives?

I one third of cases like this, when it is the husband straying, I don't know. In the other two thirds of the cases, where it is the wife that "feels unfulfilled", I don't know either.

8 posted on 04/03/2011 8:53:51 PM PDT by Minn
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To: Niuhuru

Men do “it” when their wives cut them off. No wifely duties, no wife. Notice that the author never mentions her lust for her husband.

Couples fight about two things in life: money or sex.

Men leave relationships only for sex or to be away from nagging.

Pretty simple, really.


9 posted on 04/03/2011 8:54:52 PM PDT by Southack (Media Bias means that Castro won't be punished for Cuban war crimes against Black Angolans in Africa)
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To: Fido969

I agree with you 100%


10 posted on 04/03/2011 8:55:08 PM PDT by Tamatoa (Fight for our America, Fight for our Country I fought to defend!!!)
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To: Niuhuru

Spoiled children can and often do, become spoiled adults..


11 posted on 04/03/2011 8:57:32 PM PDT by hosepipe (This propaganda has been edited to include some fully orbed hyperbole....)
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To: Niuhuru
Original sin, that's why. We are all just plain bad.

Sounds like she handled a hard patch pretty well, and has been a wise mother to her children.

Too bad his sister has to face early death for him to catch on.

12 posted on 04/03/2011 8:59:40 PM PDT by Mamzelle
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To: Pure Country

Midlife crisis is real enough. I think every male in the planet goes slightly crazy the day they look in the mirror and realize they really do look their age.

Going crazy because of it or giving people you love Hell because of it... yeah, that’s lack of character.


13 posted on 04/03/2011 8:59:58 PM PDT by Ronin (Tokyo Hot -- Looking forward to saving money on night lights!!!)
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To: Niuhuru

You can never talk somebody that wants to go into staying. The best strategy is to hold their coat for them and then get on with life without them. This has three benefits: You keep your dignity. You accelerate getting your life back on track. And, ironically, it is your best chance of getting them to change their mind, should you be willing to accept them back.


14 posted on 04/03/2011 9:01:17 PM PDT by Minn
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To: Minn

It is interesting how many couples I have known to get their divorce at exactly eighteen years of marriage. It’s almost like a generation passes (18 yrs for most of history) and things fall apart.


15 posted on 04/03/2011 9:11:28 PM PDT by Mamzelle
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To: Minn

If you do decide to accept them back; do get tested for STD’s and insist they also get tested. Too many STD’s today risk death; too high a price to pay for resuming sex with a selfish individual. Not worth it; AND they will lie about how “they didn’t have sex with her” in order to avoid being tested. Denial is another form of narcissism.


16 posted on 04/03/2011 9:13:35 PM PDT by Twinkie (WHERE'S ALL OF OBAMA'S RECORDS?)
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To: Minn
You can never talk somebody that wants to go into staying. The best strategy is to hold their coat for them and then get on with life without them. This has three benefits: You keep your dignity. You accelerate getting your life back on track. And, ironically, it is your best chance of getting them to change their mind, should you be willing to accept them back.

They have to come back if you've still got their coat and they want it. ;)

17 posted on 04/03/2011 9:16:03 PM PDT by OneWingedShark (Q: Why am I here? A: To do Justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with my God.)
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To: Tamatoa
Why should he marry girlfriend? Twenty-something empty-headed bimbo who couldn't cook, couldn't keep house, and was expensive, bitchy and high-maintenance.

As soon as the easy sex was gone, back home to mamma.

18 posted on 04/03/2011 9:16:21 PM PDT by Fido969
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To: Fido969
I think he was having fun with his girlfriend, and then she dumped him when he wouldn’t marry her.

Probably found out that GF was cheating on him with a much younger guy, and it sent this weak wimp scurrying home to his wife.

I've seen it happen.

19 posted on 04/03/2011 9:28:11 PM PDT by SIDENET ("If that's your best, your best won't do." -Dee Snider)
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To: Niuhuru

Really? You think only husbands do it to their wives and there are no wives leaving their husbands after 20 years of marriage? You might ask why does anyone, husband or wife leave a marriage after any amount of years.


20 posted on 04/03/2011 9:30:07 PM PDT by calex59
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To: Niuhuru

I was fortunate enough that my mom and dad put absolutely nothing above us kids. I am a fallible man and husband @
49 yoa, yet I remember that there was nothing more important in my parents lives, than me and my three sisters.
I think that notion propagates itself and maybe is passed down. I don’t know how to put this in a witty or cool way,
but I am very much loathe to let my kids down. I am so very fortunate that my wife was brought up the same way........


21 posted on 04/03/2011 9:32:45 PM PDT by mosley
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To: Pure Country
Selfishness. Plain and simple. I don’t buy mid-life crisis. Lack of character....

Only a total fool would leave a lovely woman and that good-looking family to pursue some ridiculous fantasy.

22 posted on 04/03/2011 9:32:52 PM PDT by PGR88 (I'm so open-minded my brains fell out)
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To: Fido969

I think he had a boyfriend.


23 posted on 04/03/2011 9:38:30 PM PDT by Lancey Howard
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To: Niuhuru

People expect heaven on earth.
They are selfish and don’t understand that a relationship means commitment and hard work.
Would life be easier alone?
Probably, but then what?
You live for yourself, at your pace?
Where’s the meaning in that?
Your job is to get your family to heaven, not pretend you can create heaven for yourself in this lifetime.


24 posted on 04/03/2011 9:53:36 PM PDT by G Larry
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To: Southack

>>Men do “it” when their wives cut them off. No wifely duties, no wife. Notice that the author never mentions her lust for her husband.<<

“Mid-life crisis” is another name for I am fed up with making love in the same position week after week after week .... and the fact that too many wives refuse to tell their husband that he is lousy in bed.


25 posted on 04/03/2011 9:59:59 PM PDT by B4Ranch (Allowing Islam into America is akin to injecting yourself with AIDS to prove how tolerant you are .)
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To: Minn
You can never talk somebody that wants to go into staying.

"If you love something..., let it go..., if it comes back to you it was always yours..., if it doesn't, it never was yours in the first place!"

26 posted on 04/03/2011 10:19:03 PM PDT by ExSES (the "bottom-line")
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To: PGR88

Many a man has come to ask, who is the real father of “his” children.

Paternity DNA tests show he is often unhappy with the results, even in Christian families.


27 posted on 04/04/2011 2:25:36 AM PDT by saltus (God's Will be done)
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To: Southack

Southack quoth: Couples fight about two things in life: money or sex.

I would add “family” to that list..


28 posted on 04/04/2011 5:28:33 AM PDT by Peet (Leftists think personal liberty is so important it must be carefully rationed.)
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To: Niuhuru

Why do some husbands do this to their wives?

Eph 5:33
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Husband stop loving their wives, and wives stop respecting their husbands.

A bit more info here: Eph 5:22-33

Wives and Husbands

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.t28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,30 because we are members of his body.31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

When things don’t follow the way God says to do it, relationships break down.


29 posted on 04/04/2011 9:22:53 AM PDT by Ro_Thunder (I sure hope there is a New Morning in America soon. All this hope and change is leaving me depressed)
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To: Mamzelle

Many stay until their youngest becomes and adult (suppose to be by 18 and out of school) Then they feel there duty is over....


30 posted on 04/04/2011 9:46:16 AM PDT by goat granny
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To: sauropod

mark


31 posted on 04/04/2011 9:53:42 AM PDT by sauropod (The truth shall make you free but first it will make you miserable.)
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