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Singles Find the Rules of Dating are Changing
All News Wire ^ | April 01, 2011 | Michelle Smart

Posted on 04/05/2011 7:05:29 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby

Match.com has released the results of a new study examining the dating habits and behaviors of the 105 million single adults in America. One third of the population of the United States is single, and this means the dating process involves people from all age groups, backgrounds and personal beliefs. The study involved 5,000 singles from around the country to discover the real procedures and rules of dating in this day and age.

The results show that while traditional dating rules are still followed, other changes have occurred. New developments like social networking tools and online dating have made it commonplace to “friend” a potential date as a way to signal interest. Post-date communication is often handled through texting instead of a phone call, and young singles tend to avoid contact if they aren’t ready for a second date. Older singles are entering the online dating game, but they are more cautious of meeting someone they’ve connected with through a website.

Women and men both still feel that men should take the initiative to ask for a date, but 41% of women are comfortable with picking up the check for a first date. A third of both genders agree that you can measure the chemistry and connection between two people within 15 minutes, but only 12% would actually leave at that point in the date. Half of all women surveyed still want men to make the call after a first date, but only 6% of men are doing so within the first 24 hours.

64% of daters feel that post-date communication can be handled through emails and texts, but 80% still think phone conversations are best. Men introduce dates to their friends much sooner than women do, regardless of the age of the singles.


TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Miscellaneous; Society
KEYWORDS: dating; men; romance; singles; women
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1 posted on 04/05/2011 7:05:38 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

2 posted on 04/05/2011 7:10:34 PM PDT by TSgt (Colonel Allen West & Michele Bachman - 2012 POTUS Dream Team Ticket!)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby
Singles Find the Rules of Dating are Changing

Hasn't it always?

I mean, it used to be like this (we may be going back to it)

Source: http://slayingevil.wordpress.com/2011/03/07/what-saith-the-most-high-power-ahayah-concerning-edom-the-future-of-the-so-called-white-man/

3 posted on 04/05/2011 7:13:43 PM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post.)
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To: Eaker; humblegunner

re - post #3

Did Humble ever call her after their first date?


4 posted on 04/05/2011 7:15:11 PM PDT by Grizzled Bear ("Does not play well with others.")
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To: UCANSEE2

(sigh) The good old days.


5 posted on 04/05/2011 7:16:12 PM PDT by Rebelbase
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To: UCANSEE2
Troglodyte
6 posted on 04/05/2011 7:21:35 PM PDT by cripplecreek (Remember the River Raisin! (look it up))
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

I hear that Craigslist is very popular dating site. ;-)


7 posted on 04/05/2011 7:22:10 PM PDT by Thrownatbirth (.....Iraq Invasion fan since '91.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

I refuse to internet date. So I guess it’s hopeless for me.


8 posted on 04/05/2011 7:26:03 PM PDT by mamelukesabre (Si Vis Pacem Para Bellum (If you want peace prepare for war))
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To: UCANSEE2

Interesting blog you’re reading there.


9 posted on 04/05/2011 7:27:17 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: UCANSEE2

Ahhhh...the glory days of dating. When going out ‘clubbing’ really meant “clubbing”.


10 posted on 04/05/2011 7:33:31 PM PDT by max americana ( NF)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Internet dating is a no-go for me. It’s the live interaction that gets me interested, the computer is too sterile.

After the last one decided after her tiny lateral promotion that she was a higher social status now and needed a guy with a big bank account, real dating doesn’t even have much interest, much less computer dating.


11 posted on 04/05/2011 7:34:41 PM PDT by Free Vulcan (Vote Republican! You can vote Democrat when you're dead.)
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To: Petruchio; Yorlik803; ryan71; boxerblues; Hammy; DollyCali; DaveLoneRanger; BigSkyFreeper; snugs; ..


Impeccable timing, Diana!
12 posted on 04/05/2011 7:36:39 PM PDT by RandallFlagg (Let this chant follow BHO everywhere he goes: "You lie. You lie. You lie.")
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To: UCANSEE2

Her name was Bertha. Bertha Butt. She was one
of the Butt sisters.


13 posted on 04/05/2011 7:36:56 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Thrownatbirth; Eaker; humblegunner; Grizzled Bear

Talk about inflation. The hourly charge is getting ridiculous!


14 posted on 04/05/2011 7:43:44 PM PDT by Larry Lucido
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby
Some of my observations from the minefield of singletude in a large, metropolitan area:

If you happen to meet a single gal who seems really kind-hearted, down to earth, mellow, and polite, it means that she probably has a trainload of baggage to include destroyed credit, no money, a dead end job, and some a-hole's kids that she wants a sucker (you) to raise. It's usually safe to assume that she has a past that would make Paris Hilton blush.

In other words, if she's being really cool to you, it's probably because she has to be and is trying to rope you in. In our modern crap society's singles scene, true kindness and decency are relatively rare. Choose wisely.

15 posted on 04/05/2011 8:02:15 PM PDT by SIDENET ("If that's your best, your best won't do." -Dee Snider)
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To: Thrownatbirth

I browse the dating section on Craigslist occasionally, it was amazing during the recent protests how many ads read along the lines of “Just in town for the protest, looking for someone to ‘hook up’ with.”


16 posted on 04/05/2011 8:10:14 PM PDT by Ellendra (Profanity is the mark of a conversational cripple.)
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To: SIDENET

bump


17 posted on 04/05/2011 8:10:37 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: RandallFlagg

Could I get on that ping list please?

Thank you.


18 posted on 04/05/2011 8:18:59 PM PDT by Ellendra (Profanity is the mark of a conversational cripple.)
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To: RandallFlagg

“Impeccable timing, Diana!”

Yeah. Great. Terrific. I enter back into the fray just as the fray is at ebb-tide, LOL!


19 posted on 04/05/2011 8:26:31 PM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin (I don't have 'Hobbies.' I'm developing a robust post-Apocalyptic skill set...)
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To: Ellendra

Hey! You and I aren’t going to be cat-fighting over the same guys here, are we? LOL!

Note to observers: we know one another in The Real World. Both of us are AWESOME women with terrific resumes. Wouldn’t you agree, E? Yep. I thought so! :)


20 posted on 04/05/2011 8:31:52 PM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin (I don't have 'Hobbies.' I'm developing a robust post-Apocalyptic skill set...)
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To: SIDENET

Except for meeeee. ;D


21 posted on 04/05/2011 8:34:38 PM PDT by Shimmer1 (No matter how cynical I get, I just can't keep up.)
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To: SIDENET

Well, I am a middle-aged, single woman living in a metropolitan area. Most people would describe me in the terms you used - mellow, polite and so forth. I don’t have any ex-boyfriends, ex-lovers, ex-husbands or children.

My baggage seems to be my lack of baggage. What I mean is, it’s pretty odd to be in your mid-thirties and have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or any kind of dating experience.


22 posted on 04/05/2011 8:43:11 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: Ellendra

You’re on. Thanks, and best of luck.


23 posted on 04/05/2011 8:44:56 PM PDT by RandallFlagg (Let this chant follow BHO everywhere he goes: "You lie. You lie. You lie.")
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Well if I may say...
You’ve got a great username.

(But, I’m sure you hear that every day)

;-)


24 posted on 04/05/2011 8:50:30 PM PDT by RandallFlagg (Let this chant follow BHO everywhere he goes: "You lie. You lie. You lie.")
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Maybe I’m jaded or weird but these alleged changes seem mostly superficial to me.


25 posted on 04/05/2011 8:54:01 PM PDT by freedom_forge (http://libertyphysics.wordpress.com/)
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To: RandallFlagg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghCTZF61ey0


26 posted on 04/05/2011 9:03:06 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

Heh!
That’s totally alien to me as I haven’t watched a TV in about four years now.
Quite liberating.


27 posted on 04/05/2011 9:05:45 PM PDT by RandallFlagg (Let this chant follow BHO everywhere he goes: "You lie. You lie. You lie.")
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby
My baggage seems to be my lack of baggage. What I mean is, it’s pretty odd to be in your mid-thirties and have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or any kind of dating experience.

Well, it may not be common, but it certainly shouldn't be damning for you.

It could be worse. I was told straight up by a serious GF that "back in the day", I would have been WAYYY too straight-laced for her. One night, she had too much to drink and laughingly blurted out that she "never had any use for guys like me" when she was younger. Of course, she realized what a "great guy" I was (with a good job and a couple of houses, of course) and let me know that; "See, the nice guy DOES win the girl in the end!" Of course, "winning" meant that I was selected to pick up all of the baggage that I mentioned in the earlier post.

I broke it off, found a straight-laced, decent, and wonderful woman without all of the baggage and drama, and married her. Yep, the Nice Guy does win the girl. I made sure of it.

28 posted on 04/05/2011 9:17:39 PM PDT by SIDENET ("If that's your best, your best won't do." -Dee Snider)
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To: Shimmer1
LOL!

(high five)

29 posted on 04/05/2011 9:19:02 PM PDT by SIDENET ("If that's your best, your best won't do." -Dee Snider)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

You know someone writes an article about how dating has changed forever, about every ten years or so. The more it changes, the more it stays the same.


30 posted on 04/05/2011 9:35:39 PM PDT by Melas
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To: SIDENET

And despite all that, you aren’t the least bit bitter.


31 posted on 04/05/2011 9:38:07 PM PDT by Melas
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To: Melas
And despite all that, you aren’t the least bit bitter.

LOL, it burnt my arse. Ain't gonna lie, FRiend.

32 posted on 04/05/2011 9:42:57 PM PDT by SIDENET ("If that's your best, your best won't do." -Dee Snider)
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To: SIDENET

True, many women will date the thug at 20, marry the nice family man at 30, and complain that their husbands are boring. I for one don’t share the attraction to bad boys; I suspect it’s rooted in father issues.


33 posted on 04/05/2011 10:01:15 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
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To: SIDENET

I think we’ve all been there.


34 posted on 04/05/2011 11:54:26 PM PDT by Melas
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To: RandallFlagg

I didn’t know Freepers had a singles list?

Interesting thread as what seems to be ‘change’ on how dating is appraoched and maintained when it’s really a matter of what form of communication is used....which isn’t a change really since eventually you do meet and you communicate in person.

As for internet dating sites....really not different from the newspaper ads once used it appears. I’ve never visited them for that reason. Had a friend who would answer those ads and agree to meet at a mall or public place. She would hide out til they showed up but never revealed herself to the likes of those she saw. Total waste of time she said, and eventually met a fellow thru a friend, married and very happy.


35 posted on 04/06/2011 12:16:24 AM PDT by caww
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

I hear far too many men and woman complain about married life...... Another reason to remain single.


36 posted on 04/06/2011 12:20:07 AM PDT by caww
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To: UCANSEE2
Hmmm. That quadruped female is a very unusual creature. Have never seen anything quite like her. Is she busy this weekend?
37 posted on 04/06/2011 12:25:51 AM PDT by tdscpa
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To: SIDENET
I broke it off, found a straight-laced, decent, and wonderful woman without all of the baggage and drama, and married her. Yep, the Nice Guy does win the girl. I made sure of it.

Good for you!

38 posted on 04/06/2011 12:43:46 AM PDT by thecodont
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To: Free Vulcan
My only chance is internet dating. I live in a small town, and have already rejected, or been rejected by, all the potential available suitable female targets in town, and I don't do much traveling to potential hunting areas.

I did meet my last mate that way, though. We were together for about eight years, but that ended about three years ago.

I now figure my final glide bath is so steep, there is not much point in circling around in search of a co-pilot.

39 posted on 04/06/2011 12:58:51 AM PDT by tdscpa
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To: dfwgator

Talk about a blast from the past!


40 posted on 04/06/2011 2:04:31 AM PDT by Vor Lady
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To: SIDENET

It STINKS being the nice guy. I feel your pain there.


41 posted on 04/06/2011 5:20:05 AM PDT by day10 (Integrity has no need of rules.)
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To: SIDENET

Congrats on your wise choice in wives. Too many men i could potentially date SAY that what you got is what they want, but they invariably choose the troubled drama queen. ugh!


42 posted on 04/06/2011 6:09:19 AM PDT by Shimmer1 (National Procrastination Day has been postponed until tomorrow.)
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To: tdscpa; SIDENET

I live in a rural area, but dream of one day of running into a FReeper and hitting it off. Everyone needs to wear a FReeper T shirt so we’ll recognize each other, right?
My Mr. Right has to at least fit in here to be the kind of man I want to find. LOL

I recently joined the SCA (Society for Creative Anachronism) in other words renaissance reenacting, and am treated so nicely, so courtly, I want that too.


43 posted on 04/06/2011 6:18:38 AM PDT by Shimmer1 (National Procrastination Day has been postponed until tomorrow.)
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To: TheDingoAteMyBaby

There were RULES? Who knew???

But nearly 38 years out of the dating market IS a long time...

8^)


44 posted on 04/06/2011 6:46:02 AM PDT by JimRed (Excising a cancer before it kills us waters the Tree of Liberty! TERM LIMITS, NOW AND FOREVER!)
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To: tdscpa
...all the potential available suitable female targets in town, and I don't do much traveling to potential hunting areas.

Maybe getting out of attack mode would be helpful?

8^)

45 posted on 04/06/2011 6:54:14 AM PDT by JimRed (Excising a cancer before it kills us waters the Tree of Liberty! TERM LIMITS, NOW AND FOREVER!)
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To: Diana in Wisconsin

We are both awesome!

(And I promise, no cat-fighting! Although if you find a really good one I might ask if he has a brother :p )


46 posted on 04/06/2011 7:08:20 AM PDT by Ellendra (Profanity is the mark of a conversational cripple.)
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To: Ellendra

Let’s make that work both ways, shall we? Maybe a father/son thing, too - I mean, you’re quite a bit younger than me. That could work! :)


47 posted on 04/06/2011 7:10:39 AM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin (I don't have 'Hobbies.' I'm developing a robust post-Apocalyptic skill set...)
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To: SIDENET
You described many women, no doubt. I am unique in that I am kind-hearted, down to earth, mellow unless you tick me off, polite, great credit, financial independent, no job and I have kids. I am not looking for anyone to raise my kids, that's my job. I also don't let just any man into the lives of my kids. There are lots of men that I would not allow to go anywhere near my kids. I do choose wisely.
48 posted on 04/06/2011 7:31:03 AM PDT by LuvFreeRepublic (Support our military or leave. I will help you pack BO!)
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To: Diana in Wisconsin

Deal!


49 posted on 04/06/2011 7:31:29 AM PDT by Ellendra (Profanity is the mark of a conversational cripple.)
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To: LuvFreeRepublic

You are one smart cookie! Nothing annoys me more than women who put their love life before their kids; normally endangering their kids! *SHUDDER*

I’m in your camp; financially secure, a good person all the way around...but I’ve made a HUGE ‘romantic mistake’ and recently shed a really horrible husband from my life. It wasn’t easy, but it had to be done. He’s hellbent on ruining himself, and I’m no longer along for the ride. Thanks goodness I had the strength and support system to do this!

The future is wide open...and very exciting! Best of luck to you in all of your endeavors. Keep up the good work and NEVER settle for less than you deserve, FRiend! :)


50 posted on 04/06/2011 7:58:42 AM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin (I don't have 'Hobbies.' I'm developing a robust post-Apocalyptic skill set...)
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