Skip to comments.Who lets an infant cry?
Posted on 04/16/2011 7:33:22 PM PDT by TheDingoAteMyBaby
A coworker came back from a trip to the coffee shop steaming mad. Here's Sarah's story:
I'm meeting my husband at Starbucks today for a quick coffee and while in line I smile and coo at a 5-month-old boy in line ahead of me who was with his father and brother, a toddler.
When I get to the concession stand I hear the baby start to make those familiar hunger sounds, that eh eh eh sound I know all too well because I have a 4-month-old and 2-year-old.
By the time I am mixing my fifth sugar packet into the coffee the baby is crying. I turn to see that the father is done mixing his own drink well and he is in business discussion with an associate. Hes holding his happy toddler but not even acknowledging the crying baby in the stroller.
I sit down with my husband and the cry escalates to a blood-curdling scream. As a mom I cant stand to hear the cry. All I can think about is walking over and swooping the baby into my arms. My husband is even wincing, not because the scream is painful but because we know it could have been prevented if the dad was just paying attention.
A man sitting beside us hears what we're talking about it so he joins in. He tells us he is thinking of calling the police because hes not sure what else will break the fathers attention from his conversation. He says this loudly, hoping the father will hear. He doesnt.
My husband suggests I do something, so I walk over to offer help. I ask if the baby needs food. The dad takes me up on the offer by handing me his toddler and he starts to make a bottle for the baby. As he does this he continues his conversation with his associate and is distracted so much that even when hes done making the bottle he doesnt give it to the baby.
His associate steps in, picks up the bottle and says are we going to do this?
The father gives the baby a couple sucks at it, but then takes the bottle away because he decides he doesnt want to feed him at Starbucks and says to the baby: Youre not going to like this but lets go upstairs.
I hand the toddler back and watch them leave as the baby begins to scream again. I hope he didnt have to wait much longer, poor thing.
Scenes like this drive me crazy and Ive witnessed it way too often. An infant cries to communicate and that's even a last resort communication. If you pay attention, infants give you clues as to what they need before the crying begins. Letting a baby cry that long just teaches them that crying is the only form of communication that works and as a result you just get more crying.
In my opinion an infant does not cry to manipulate and it certainly isnt spoiling to respond to her needs. Its not the same as when my 2-year-old cries because I wont let her have ice cream for breakfast.
At least he didn’t let a dingo he his baby.
It took us but days to learn his rules.
The father in this story may well have known more about his baby than hapless strangers armed only with good intentions.
5 packets of sugar? 1 cup of coffee? How utterly strange.
Some folks get it; some folks don't. You can always tell who the good fathers will be by how attentive they are during the baby CPR classes. The ones that refuse to put away their blackberries are the kind that will let the baby drowned in the tub because they are too busy with their toys to be dads.
Oh for the love of pete!
This is all this idiot has to worry about?
Don’t you wish you had video recorded this? Some day this dad will wonder why Jr. wrecks everything just to get heard.
A pretty typical illustration of people’s priorities. While we cannot possibly know what all that father has on his plate, it is obvious what his 1st priority is - and it isn’t being the father.
That scenario will probably happen soon enough. Look how many parents forget children in the car for a few hours in 80-degree weather.
The father MAY have known about his baby, but he was torturing everyone around him in a Starbucks. That is inappropriate. If you know your baby is going to cry for 10 minutes BEFORE you feed him....stay in your car until he/she is fed....sheesh.
You ought to seen the moms that roll their babies through the ‘bargain stores’ during what is the natural ‘nap times’ for babies. The babies are screaming at the top of their lungs and ‘mom’ is getting mad.......which makes it worse.
My friends used to ‘take the piss’ out of me for stopping EVERYTHING I did to stop for ‘nap time’. I didn’t CARE where I was or what I was doing. The babies has a SCHEDULE....full stop. They thrived. (I pat myself on the back, thank you.)
Their service lines move with the old K-Mart speed.
I think I know that kid. He’s just a big crybaby.
Some people approve.
Some people will disapprove.
It’s the parent’s call.
When my Dad taught me to swim, I thought I was going to drown!
It was hell getting out of that burlap sack.
And those kittens kept scratching me!
At least the dad has his children with him. Unlike the blogger and her coworker who, I'll wager, have their little kiddoes tucked away in daycare. It's lots easier to be the perfect parent when you are only doing it part-time.
You can always tell who the good fathers will be by how attentive they are during the baby CPR classes.
My husband pounded the doll so hard it’s head fell off and went flying across the room.
That might have been a sign.
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