Skip to comments.The agony of having an anorexic mother
Posted on 05/11/2011 7:13:49 PM PDT by Niuhuru
No one knows exactly how early I was born. I weighed 5lb, and until just a few weeks before my arrival, I was assumed to be a tumour in my mothers stomach. Her belly, which had been painfully concave for as long as anyone could remember, had swollen like a balloon, while her arms and legs remained stick-like.
Pregnancy might sound like the obvious diagnosis but my mother was anorexic, and, as far as anyone knew, infertile. And as I would soon learn, when it comes to anorexia, things are rarely as they seem.
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That is one disease I will never understand. Anorexia. How can they look at their skeletal reflection in a mirror and believe they are looking a fat person?
A self-centric form of delusion? I never hear of them seeing others the way they see themselves.
Because it is a psychological disease. If you ask an anorexic to draw themselves, they draw a fat person. My daughter is a recovered anorexic. I highly recommend the Maudsley approach to anyone with anorexic children. It is amazing the number of young children with this condition; as young as 9 and not only girls, but boys, also, are affected. I thank God every day that my daughter beat this.
“To learn she was expecting was a surprise, to put it mildly. No two ways about it, my mother was horrified. For someone for whom physical control was so important, pregnancy was her worst nightmare.
But it was too late now: she was just weeks from delivery.”
So this woman is very fortunate her mother never realized she was pregnant with her. Her mother would have destroyed her in the womb.
This is one of the horrors of legal abortion. Men and women paying with their lives for their parents neurosis.
I don’t know if they see other humans as they see themselves, but I had a friend once who recovered from anorexia. She said that when she had been so thin, she also underfed her horse, and believed him to be healthy even though others thought he was skinny.
My 10 year old son has been limiting the amount of food he eats. We make him eat a minimum amount, warn him that he could stunt his height, etc.
I don’t know where this is coming from. My husband is a big guy, I’m on the small side. I talked to his Dr. & since he hadn’t dropped too much on the growth charts, the doc didn’t think I should be concerned.
Interesting. And dangerous for children and animals under an anorexic’s care. I understand anorexia to be about control.
My mother used to feed me French Toast every day. It was the only way she could get an egg in me. I survived on that for a long time.
Please consult a doctor, not an internet forum.
I guess everyone that has ever made it didn't know what they were doing then.
Not always the best advice. It was my web browsing, and the literature I printed and brought to him, that convinced a doctor that my step-daughter had EDS. He was only vaguely aware of the condition before that. I was convinced she had it after about five minutes of surfing. After looking the facts over, he was compelled to agree. Without me doing prior research, it's hard to say how much longer a diagnosis would have taken.
It's a big medical world. No one doctor can know everything.
Then the day old bread is dropped in a low, flat dish, turned from one side to the other quickly enough not to soak up too much liquid, then placed in a hot skillet (with either butter or oil heated in it) and fried to golden brown on first one side then the other.
I usually add a bit of cinnamon and occasionally a teaspoon of sugar in the egg/milk mixture, especially if I'm serving the "French Toast" as other than breakfast, and dust with powdered sugar.
I did consult a doctor, he told me not to worry about it. However, it seems a bit beyond the normal childhood food issues, but not too serious yet.
Cute photo - of course the French wouldn’t touch it, it’s much “too American” for their refined palate.
My French Toast recipe starts with an egg; the reason it’s called French Toast is because there is an egg involved. Ever wondered about French Vanilla ice cream? Same reason. French Fries might be the exception, however in the 60’s some places made ‘fries’ out of mashed potatoes mixed with eggs then pressed into hot oil with special tubes somewhat like a spritz cookie gun. I don’t know when the whole ‘egg in something makes it French’ got started, but there are a bunch of food things called French only because they have eggs in it. Same with wine. Coq au Vin springs instantly to mind. A tasty dish from the 50’s given a ‘French’ name to make it sound classier.
Well, it certainly is scary. I’ve seen a lot of programs on it and its so devastating once it gets a grip on the person it seems. I just can’t understand how they can’t see how skelatal they look.
My advice is to get a handle on it now. I didn’t when we were going through it. Thought I could handle it. I was the mother, right. I could do it all. Not. I can’t say enough about the Maudsley approach. This disorder can affect them mentally so quickly. We were lucky that we found a great doctor to treat her, but not before spending some time in the hospital with a feeding tube, etc.
Go take a peek and read up on it. I think a lot of the schools, although they mean well, put too much emphasis on kids being overweight, not understanding that there are more than a few kids out there that take it overboard. Look at our society and what “culture” deems beautiful. That is what bombards our kids day-in and day-out through magazines, tv, etc. We are all built differently, different shapes and sizes. It is what is inside that counts. Hope things work out well for you. You can send me private email if you want.