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Dear Bride: 10 wedding complaints from your bridesmaid

Posted on 06/04/2011 2:23:31 PM PDT by Feline_AIDS

There are few places someone can go to lament the loss of traditional values like FR. Today I'm lamenting the death (or terminal illness) of the sensible American wedding.

As a 24-year-old American girl, I attend lots of nuptials, and because of familial obligations certain brides couldn't eschew, I've even been an occasional bridesmaid. Every subsequent wedding I attend seems to be the next in a terrifying sequence of tacky one-upmanship. It's as though each bride has a "ridiculous counter" that ticks up and up during the planning until true perfection of ridiculousness is realized on the big day.

Here are the things that bother me, and I know you may be guilty of a few, so some of them are going to make you mad. And I'm not sorry, because all of them make me mad, so my situation is far more painful.

#1: If you are already living together, why are you having a lavish wedding and wearing a white dress? It's not fooling anybody, not even your blind and deaf grandma. We all know what you've been up to, and it is beyond me that you do not understand that this whole day is a little absurd because you've already been living the way you were supposed to live after this day. Own up to your behavior, save me $75, and go to the courthouse.

#2: I am never going to wear this horrid dress again. In fact, I'm reasonably sure that it was just a terrible practical joke at the dress factory, but by some tragic accounting error, it was shipped out, and now my body is wrapped in yards of shiny brown satin. If the only thing I can think when I look in the mirror while wearing the bridesmaid's dress you've chosen is: "You can polish a turd..." then you might want to reconsider this princess theme you seem to be going for. Also, it's May. Why on God's blossoming, springy, colorful, alive and green earth are we wearing brown?

#3: And what's with bridesmaids having to wear the exact same dress anyway? I have to wear a uniform at my job (short orange shorts and a white tank top); why should I have to wear one to a wedding? Is it to identify the two different teams? Team bride and team groom? Because I'm undecided--unless team I'd-give-it-three-years is forming in the back of the room. All these outfits really do is show who is on team idiot, because we're the only people here wearing a $300 uniform yet aren't getting paid.

#4: Oh, but you are getting paid: the bride is going to give you a $20 tchotchke for standing around looking like a melted tootsie roll for 45 minutes while a preacher the bride met for the first time last weekend rants on and on about a book of the Bible she's never even heard of. ("Wait, why is he talking about the Romans? I thought the Bible was about Jews. Ugh! Christianity is so contradictory.") If you're going to give me a present for being your bridesmaid, it should be a) a filled flask that can be concealed in this tacky dress, b) several doses of a narcotic painkiller to be taken 30 minutes before the ceremony, or c) a refund for this fashion-crime sausage casing that I'm wearing.

#4.5: Why did you write your own vows? They're not cute. They just made everyone in this room embarrassed for you. The vows the church uses were designed to basically say, "I'm not going to ditch you for your bridesmaid that I think I saw at Hooters last week." They are meant to say that you are entering into a permanent union, ordained by God, that you can't just back out of when it's not fun anymore. You don't realize how important these vows are. They are the referent for your behavior toward each other for the rest of your lives. But hey, you're smarter than some ol' dusty book! Write away, Shakespeare!

#5: I'm sure planet Tackyhostess is nice this time of year, but on earth, if you invite people to your party, you don't expect them to pay for their food and drink. If you don't have money for an open bar, close the damn bar. If you're a good bride, I've got my bridesmaid's flask by now, so I'm peachy. (Unless the flask is filled with something peachy. In that case, I'm angry.) I know everyone here was hoping to get some good booze as a trade off for you stealing $75 and an hour of their Saturday, but if that's the transaction taking place, I ask again, Why are we here?

#6: You've got to be on drugs if you think I'm going to send money to your travel agency so you can go on your honeymoon. Here's a novel idea: Don't spend money you don't have! (Say, maybe our congressmen are bridezillas in drag. Dennis Kucinich, I'm looking at you.) If you can't afford to go to the Bahamas for 2 weeks without panhandling, then go somewhere else. Why are you even going on a honeymoon? The point of a honeymoon is to get to know someone biblically, and you've got that covered, Miss It's-Just-Cheaper-If-We-Share-An-Apartment. In the age old game of "You can have a cookie that's been dropped on the floor now, or 5 star tiramisu later," you chose the cookie. Deal with it, and don't ask me to pay for your finally-making-it-honest vacation.

#7: Don't you dare ask me for cash! I'm beginning to suspect that instead of providing your bridesmaids with narcotic pain killers, you crushed them all up and snorted them yourself. Why else would you have the audacity to ask me for money when you have a job, car, house, dog, and a long-standing birth control prescription? I'm not getting anything out of this; what am I paying for here? The privilege of seeing you in a white dress that makes you look fat? Enduring multiple passes from your drunk "uncles"? Steal of a deal! I've only spent $450 on this event and I've already been groped twice!

#8: You don't deserve a damn thing. And you are not a princess. If you or your family don't have the money to pay for a royal wedding, don't organize a royal wedding. Just because your best friend's father spent $250,000 on a wedding doesn't mean you have to too. It only means he's an idiot or absolutely filthy rich, and if it's the latter, I'd like to know if there are any single men in the family, thankyuuvurymuch. People like you thinking that just because someone else has something, you deserve it too is why we're all up crap creek right now. And it's why you're going into your marriage with $50,000+ in debt, not counting the dream house you also deserve.

#9: I don't need steak tar-tar. I don't need lobster. I don't need caviar. I'll settle for something that's edible, tasty, and plentiful. I'm not impressed that the menu is written in French. I'm not impressed with the smorgasbord of imported seafood. I am, however, impressed with the ring-bearer who just put a spoonful of caviar into his mouth, spit it back into the spoon, and put the spoon back in the serving dish. My thoughts exactly, kid.

#10: You look trashy carrying around a bottle of beer in a coozy, Mrs. Justmarriedpants. I know you well enough to know we should all be sitting in an AA meeting instead of marching in this parade of fanciful denial, but couldn't you not imbibe once? Just this once? Don't you want to have at least one wedding picture that doesn't double as an advertisement for Budweiser? Don't you realize your drunk face is not cute? And how are all these drunk people getting home? If you didn't have the money for the Bahamas, I seriously doubt you've hired cars for your hammered guests.

#11: Why are you leaving in a limo? We all know you don't regularly ride in a limo. Why today? Are we supposed to think you're Jay Gatsby or John D. Rockefeller all of a sudden? And the limo has the company logo plastered on the side. "Enchanted Events Limos." It's just more evidence of the latent fantasy world you should have exercised by age 10.

So, dear bride, the bottom line is this: you're not fooling anybody. We know you are living together, so the white dress is a joke. We know you can't spell caviar, so that's a sham. We know you don't own the limo, so you're not tricking us into believing that you're fancy. And finally, we all know something you apparently do not: you are not a princess.

Your wedding should be a happy day. It should be fun, memorable, and most of all, easy. But it shouldn't be memorable because of how many people went to jail, and it won't be memorable because of how much money you spent. The guests will remember it fondly if it is tasteful, conservative, and genuine. And the greatest of these is genuine. If you're spending money on things to make you feel like a celebrity, you're going to be let down when a wedding becomes a marriage. So don't try to impress people, don't try to out do someone else. Just see it for what it is: the celebration of entering a covenant with God and someone else.

Now pass me those bacon-wrapped scallops.


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1 posted on 06/04/2011 2:23:34 PM PDT by Feline_AIDS
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To: All

From a very early age, young girls are brainwashed into valuing the wedding over the marriage itself.


2 posted on 06/04/2011 2:28:20 PM PDT by Maverick68
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To: Feline_AIDS

Nice rant. I agree with lots of the stuff you said.


3 posted on 06/04/2011 2:32:59 PM PDT by DeoVindiceSicSemperTyrannis (Want to make $$$? It's easy! Use FR as a platform to pimp your blog for hits!!!)
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To: Feline_AIDS
Weddings are getting out of control. I can't believe some of these people spend $10K, or even several tens of thousands of dollars, for a ceremony that lasts perhaps 30 minutes.

The tackiness and silliness annoys me, too. A "Unity Candle?" Where the hell did this silly "tradition" come from? A child that's barely old enough to walk has to carry the rings down the aisle?

Silliness.

4 posted on 06/04/2011 2:33:52 PM PDT by IDontLikeToPayTaxes
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To: Feline_AIDS

I don’t know, my wedding was pretty ‘genuine’, and I might eventually have to spend 50K just to overcome the psychological trauma; it involved a Justice of the Peace, a ‘Sex Instructor’ T-shirt, and a groom who accidentally said ‘awfully’ instead of ‘lawfully’...But hey, we just hit ten years so obviously something went right!


5 posted on 06/04/2011 2:36:46 PM PDT by LongElegantLegs (Use it up, wear it out, make it over or do without.)
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To: Feline_AIDS
It's as though each bride has a "ridiculous counter" that ticks up and up during the planning until true perfection of ridiculousness is realized on the big day.

Some brides have to get past their banker for approval.

ML/NJ

6 posted on 06/04/2011 2:37:44 PM PDT by ml/nj
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To: Feline_AIDS

4.5 tops the list in my book.


7 posted on 06/04/2011 2:38:02 PM PDT by ErnBatavia (It's not the Obama Administration....it's the "Obama Regime".)
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To: Feline_AIDS

Did you write this?


8 posted on 06/04/2011 2:39:42 PM PDT by txhurl (Did you want to talk or fish?)
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To: Feline_AIDS

So you, the author, work at Hooters, but didn’t post a photo.

OK, cruel.


9 posted on 06/04/2011 2:40:24 PM PDT by bajabaja (Too ugly to be scanned at the airports.)
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To: Feline_AIDS

Well, I’m inclined to let the bride choose, within reasonable limits. But then, I’m a man, and I’ve learned to shut up and not to tell women what to do.

But I’ve never heard of a bride hitting up the bridesmaids to help pay for her wedding. I agree, that is very tacky indeed.


10 posted on 06/04/2011 2:40:58 PM PDT by Cicero (Marcus Tullius)
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To: Feline_AIDS

The last wedding I had the privilege of being in...and I do call it a privilege...I’m already married and unfortunately divorced...

A ‘country wedding.’ A bride let us choose the bridesmaids dresses...one young bridesmaid insisted we choose something to be worn again later. I corrected her. You will never wear this dress again, so don’t pretend, let’s chose something we like. WE ‘rented’ the most fabulous dresses for the event. It is very nice to know that awful dress I had to buy...isn’t in my closet...and it wasn’t awful.

Food...the reception was at a camp ground with cook out and all....WE decorated the pavilion ourselves! And the pick-up that the bride and groom drove away in....LOL>

We made our own silk flower bouquets...and the bridal shower cake was actually rolled up towels and decorated with silk flowers that would later double for boutonnieres for the men.

Comments made after the bride and groom left...wonderful wedding, you could see their love in who they are today and that will last a lifetime...

The wedding should never be the culmination of your love...


11 posted on 06/04/2011 2:46:13 PM PDT by EBH ( Whether you eat your bread or see it vanish into a looter's stomach, is an absolute.)
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To: Feline_AIDS

I had the most perfect wedding ever.

One morning the man-of-my-dreams and I decided that, maybe, we should wed. We got dressed and went into town to find out what it took to get married. Not much, in Alexandria, Virginia. We were hitched by noon.

I was knocked down by the meaning of the exchange of vows. It took me by surprise. I wept a little. It changed me.

Twenty years later and we’re still very happy together.


12 posted on 06/04/2011 2:48:19 PM PDT by fullchroma
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To: Feline_AIDS

My 11 ridiculously hideous bridesmaid dresses and I agree with you wholeheartedly. Might I suggest a bridesmaid bonfire? A bunch of us got together and burned the most offensive ones...then donated the rest. The marrieds, as I so affectionately call them, have all moved on to the royal baby showers now. Get ready! You thought their wedding days were totally self-absorbed? Just wait until they have babies! Its like they invented giving birth and having kids.


13 posted on 06/04/2011 2:48:27 PM PDT by TruJess
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To: Feline_AIDS
You've got to be on drugs if you think I'm going to send money to your travel agency so you can go on your honeymoon.

Seriously? Brides ask for this?

Fortunately, I've never stood in a wedding where the couple was asking for money for their honeymoon.

How incredibly tacky.

14 posted on 06/04/2011 2:48:35 PM PDT by Allegra (Hey! Stop looking at my tagline like that.)
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To: Feline_AIDS

Goodness, sounds like the person who wrote this is real charming.


15 posted on 06/04/2011 2:48:35 PM PDT by LuvFreeRepublic (Support our military or leave. I will help you pack BO!)
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To: Feline_AIDS

Free advice to unmarried men, marry a woman who knows how to cook very well, loves to cook and is experienced. And is not interested in material trappings, but in her husband.

There IS such a thing as a wedding costing less than $3,000 including gown, rings and reception for 80.

It’s called a wonderful wife that insists on doing it herself, and just gets some relatives to do some last minute stove tending the day of.

And you get the same fancy food, or any food, you want. And years later people still will comment on how wonderful the day was.


16 posted on 06/04/2011 2:49:29 PM PDT by PieterCasparzen (Huguenot)
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To: Feline_AIDS

You forgot my favorite of all: Do NOT make all the attendants practice a dance and then make fools of themselves dancing down the aisle and doing crazy steps to the latest pop tune.


17 posted on 06/04/2011 2:50:52 PM PDT by kitkat ( I sure HOPE that it's time for a CHANGE from Obama.)
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To: Feline_AIDS
I've always shaken my head at the months and months of planning that goes into The Wedding, but next-to-nothing goes into planning for the life that comes the day after...
18 posted on 06/04/2011 2:54:24 PM PDT by pigsmith (A member of the I-Give-It-Three-Years team forming in the back.)
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To: Feline_AIDS

I had 7 days to plan my wedding. We got married on our farm under a dogwood tree that was in bloom. Hubby mowed a path through the soybeans to that tree and I walked there barefoot in a $29.99 cream linen dress I bought the day before. I carried grocerystore purchased cream roses with stems I wrapped in a matching satin ribbon. Our best men were our 2 basset hounds and the minister was 80 years old and met us at the farm with her husband and brother as witnesses.

After the ceremony, I put on my workboots and climbed on the tractor in my dress to bush hog a back field.

Total cost of our wedding counting marriage license, paying the minister, dress, roses- $200.

We didn’t register anywhere. We didn’t take a honeymoon.

I did ask if hubby wanted me to promise to ‘obey’ him. He said no. Our marriage is not ‘til death do us part. It is ‘til we are reunited in heaven.


19 posted on 06/04/2011 2:55:47 PM PDT by Cowgirl of Justice
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To: Feline_AIDS
The newest one I am hearing about is that the Bride and Groom decide on a "destination"; (somewhere other than here) wedding and make their bridal parties pay to get there. Rude.

If you want to have the wedding somewhere else, you pay to get your party there, don't ask friends and family, many of whom can't afford to travel to exotic locals in this economy.

One of my girlfriends is a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding. She has to pay to get herself to Aruba, as well as pay for the resort they are staying at, her dress, and anything else that comes up.

20 posted on 06/04/2011 3:00:13 PM PDT by RikaStrom (Pray for Obama - Psalm 109:8 "Let his days be few; and let another take his place of leadership.")
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To: Feline_AIDS

1) Did this come from E-Hell? (Etiquette Hell forum)

2) If not you should post it there

3) The stories posted there will curl your toenails


21 posted on 06/04/2011 3:02:31 PM PDT by silverleaf (All that is necessary for evil to succeed, is that good men do nothing)
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To: bajabaja

Yer right! This place has standards! Or did... :-D


22 posted on 06/04/2011 3:03:47 PM PDT by BradyLS (DO NOT FEED THE BEARS!)
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To: txhurl

Yes. It’s wedding season, and I since I can’t say any of this to anyone who knows me personally (as it might get back to a recent bride), I chose to share my frustrations with freepers.


23 posted on 06/04/2011 3:11:04 PM PDT by Feline_AIDS (A gun in hand is better than a cop on the phone.)
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#1: If you are already living together, why are you having a lavish wedding and wearing a white dress?

A common lament, but IMHO largely unfounded. Rejoice that they're getting married instead of harping that they lived together. As for the dress, white stopped symbolizing virginity a lifetime ago, so you too should let it go.

And what's with bridesmaids having to wear the exact same dress anyway?

That actually came about to give the bride control of her maids dresses. Without it, a bride would run the risk of being shown up by a brides maid. I had this conversation 20 years ago last month when my wife was planning our wedding.

Why did you write your own vows? They're not cute.

Cute is in the eye of the beholder now isn't it?

'm sure planet Tackyhostess is nice this time of year, but on earth, if you invite people to your party, you don't expect them to pay for their food and drink. If you don't have money for an open bar, close the damn bar.

Amen.

Don't you dare ask me for cash!

Agreed. That's extremely tacky.

You don't deserve a damn thing. And you are not a princess.

Nonsense. I have two daughters, one married, one not, and the one thing I've learned from the countless trips they've made as bridesmaids, and one as a bride is that: Every bride deserves to be a princess on her wedding day. Otherwise what's the point when the J.O.P. is legally binding and cheap.

#9: I don't need steak tar-tar. I don't need lobster. I don't need caviar. I'll settle for something that's edible, tasty, and plentiful. I'm not impressed that the menu is written in French. I'm not impressed with the smorgasbord of imported seafood. I am, however, impressed with the ring-bearer who just put a spoonful of caviar into his mouth, spit it back into the spoon, and put the spoon back in the serving dish. My thoughts exactly, kid.

Hell, you've just listed the only reason I ever accompany my wife to weddings. I could live with the embarrassment of being a bad husband and sending her solo, but I can't pass up free gourmet food. Substitute the lobster with bean burritos or ham sandwiches and the magic is gone.

You look trashy carrying around a bottle of beer in a coozy

Everyone looks trashy carrying a coozi, male or female. Beer is best drunk from a glass that's appropriate to the brew, whether it be a stein, a Belgian tulip, pilsner glass, straight pin, etc etc.

Why are you leaving in a limo? We all know you don't regularly ride in a limo. Why today?

See entry at Princess.

The guests will remember it fondly if it is tasteful, conservative, and genuine.

Can't agree with you there. Conservatism is best applied to serious endeavors. Governing nations, running banks, managing corporations, dealing with marriage, and raising kids. Celebrations on the other hand should never be tainted with conservatism. It has no place sitting beside jubilation. A tasteful, conservative celebration is anything but a celebration.

Fun thread.

24 posted on 06/04/2011 3:11:47 PM PDT by Melas (Sent via Galaxy Tab)
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To: LongElegantLegs

Don’t fret. Despite being a white boy, I lapsed into ebonics and proclaimed, “I be wed”.


25 posted on 06/04/2011 3:13:10 PM PDT by Melas (Sent via Galaxy Tab)
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To: EBH

I guess that’s a to each his own kind of thing. As a groom, that wedding would have been perfect 20 years ago. As a father, today, I’d be extremely disappointed if my youngest daughter’s wedding involved a towel cake, cookout, and a pickup truck.


26 posted on 06/04/2011 3:17:29 PM PDT by Melas (Sent via Galaxy Tab)
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To: Feline_AIDS

I have an oldest daughter who always planned her wedding.

She has been sexually involced with the fiance, and now a new man.

She is still expecting the white wedding whenever that fateful day occurs

I will tell her to get a nice suit, a corsage and a license. They can find a minister or JP to marry them and we can have a nice resturaunt lunchon, if her father decides to pay. Otherwise I will meet the lucky coupld for drinks.


27 posted on 06/04/2011 3:21:34 PM PDT by Chickensoup (The right to bear arms is proven to prevent government genocide. Protect yourself!)
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To: Maverick68

It was written way back in 1973, but find Marcia Seligson’s “The Eternal Bliss Machine”. My favorite quote:

“The purpose of the wedding is for the long term emotional benefit of two people: the bride, and the bride’s mother.”

In those days, the ultimate in tacky expensive was the so-called “Goodbye, Columbus” wedding. I thought the homemade vows in “Love Story” were equally hokey.

Ali McGraw starred in both movies. Hmmm....

;^)


28 posted on 06/04/2011 3:21:55 PM PDT by elcid1970 ("Deport Muslims. Nuke Mecca. Death to Islam. Freedom for mankind.")
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To: Maverick68

I remember Dr Laura going ballistic over a woman having an abortion so she could fit into her wedding dress.

The girl sounds a little angry, but I’m with her on this: the wedding gifts are traditionally to help someone set up a new life and housekeeping. So if you’ve been living together for years, and probably have more money than I do, why is a gift expected?


29 posted on 06/04/2011 3:22:47 PM PDT by I still care (I miss my friends, bagels, and the NYC skyline - but not the taxes. I love the South.)
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To: Feline_AIDS

This was hilarious. And NOTHING says “festive” like brown satin!


30 posted on 06/04/2011 3:23:43 PM PDT by GnuHere
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To: Feline_AIDS

Professionally funny and tragically on target. You should hang up your orange shorts and write for a living.


31 posted on 06/04/2011 3:25:35 PM PDT by ziravan (Are you better off now than you were 7 Trillion Dollars ago?)
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To: PieterCasparzen
Free advice to unmarried men, marry a woman who knows how to cook very well, loves to cook and is experienced. And is not interested in material trappings, but in her husband.

Agree with the second part, not the first. Somehow after 15 years of marriage, my wife, the water burner, became a gourmet cook. It didn't matter much, because patting myself on the back, I already was. However, your comment about being interested in her husband instead of things, is on the money.

There IS such a thing as a wedding costing less than $3,000 including gown, rings and reception for 80.

You're getting into serious skinflint territory there. I'm sure it can be done, but would anyone who wasn't absolutely in poverty want to? $3k, is even cheaping out on the rings IMHO. The tradition that the woman's engagement ring alone should be two months salary is a good starting point.

32 posted on 06/04/2011 3:25:53 PM PDT by Melas (Sent via Galaxy Tab)
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To: DeoVindiceSicSemperTyrannis

The last wedding I went to the bride made up her vows in which she, in nice words, apologized to the groom for being the biggest whore in the Tri-State area (Bless Her Heart).


33 posted on 06/04/2011 3:27:34 PM PDT by Babba Gi
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To: DeoVindiceSicSemperTyrannis

Me too. Well done rant.

Something that needs to be said.

Can’t say that about all rants.


34 posted on 06/04/2011 3:28:45 PM PDT by nomorelurker
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To: Feline_AIDS

The oneupsmanship of weddings has gotten totally out of control. Maybe up next is the “wedding bubble.” No way would I pay those tens, much less hundreds, of thousands of dollars to impress family/friends/neighbors.

Fortunately, the daughter is a chip off the old block. At her wedding last year, she was the only one wearing a new dress. The ‘wedding party’ consisted of her and her husband’s siblings (plus maid of honor) and they all wore something nice out of their closets. Nothing matched, but it worked. They didn’t spring for altar flowers (the chapel was so beautiful, it would have been gilding the lily), and only the bride carried a bouquet.

The reception was a very nice but not over-the-top buffet banquet. Wine flowed, but no hard liquor. Friends acted as MC/DJ at the reception; others played live music at the church. The whole affair was intimate (@130 carefully chosen guests), elegant, and just plain fun (which was their goal). And it left no one in debt or asking for donations towards its cost.


35 posted on 06/04/2011 3:28:54 PM PDT by EDINVA
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To: Feline_AIDS

There are places to wear the dress, a group of around 12 ladies in the building that I worked in wore them to work on Halloween one year.


36 posted on 06/04/2011 3:30:00 PM PDT by ThomasThomas (I am still looking for that box I am supposed to think out of.)
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To: Feline_AIDS

My wife and I were married in jeans and a t-shirt.

“By the power vested in me as a Justice of the PISS of the State of Texas, I now pronounce you husband and wife. I mean, PEACE. Justice of the PEACE!”

We both agree that was the best wedding money could buy. I’m not just assuming my wife thinks that, either. I’ve been told many times how she dreaded a formal event and how liberating it was to get married on HER terms.

We had a tasteful ceremony on our third anniversary - cost less than $3K, catered.


37 posted on 06/04/2011 3:36:01 PM PDT by ziravan (Are you better off now than you were 7 Trillion Dollars ago?)
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To: RikaStrom
If you want to have the wedding somewhere else, you pay to get your party there, don't ask friends and family, many of whom can't afford to travel to exotic locals in this economy.

That really depends on who you are. In my family (the one I was born into) your advice would be spot on. You wouldn't expect working people to pick up and travel to a wedding. Now I attended my niece's wedding in Aspen. Half of her social circle flew in from L.A., Chicago, New York and London. What would have been rude of me at my own wedding, didn't garner so much as a second glance at hers.

38 posted on 06/04/2011 3:37:31 PM PDT by Melas (Sent via Galaxy Tab)
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To: Babba Gi

Lol, now that I’d love to see.


39 posted on 06/04/2011 3:40:34 PM PDT by Melas (Sent via Galaxy Tab)
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To: Feline_AIDS

You’ve made some very good points. I have one question, though. How did you find yourself friends with these brides?


40 posted on 06/04/2011 3:41:54 PM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Feline_AIDS

Never mind my question. I see how this happened. You have my sympathy.


41 posted on 06/04/2011 3:43:04 PM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: Maverick68

A former job brought me into people’s homes for years. I always felt sorry for the poor saps married to the women who have wedding shrines to themselves as the focal point of home decor. Well, felt sorry for them unless the Mrs. was hot; in that case they got a pass.


42 posted on 06/04/2011 3:46:55 PM PDT by Rebelbase
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To: Feline_AIDS

All I have to say is I am so thankful that I have sons and not daughters...


43 posted on 06/04/2011 3:52:29 PM PDT by SamAdams76 (I am 43 days from outliving Wendy O Williams (of The Plasmatics))
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To: LuvFreeRepublic

LOL! I was thinking the same thing as I read it.

I decided to read it again and take it as a humorous rant on some of the craziness associated with weddings.

I was married 21 years ago in a formal Catholic Church wedding with a reception that probably cost too much by some people’s standards. My bridal gown probably cost too much but I wouldn’t change it for anything.

I was a bridesmaid prior to and after my own wedding. Oh, the stories, lol. As a mom of four daughters, I’m looking forward to their eventual weddings :)


44 posted on 06/04/2011 4:20:25 PM PDT by Twink
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To: Chickensoup

Yep,that’s what I did for my daughters. Told them,that if they were grown up enough to play house with their boyfriends prior to marriage, then they were grown up enough to pay for their own weddings( which let’s face it..after years of living together is just a big party)


45 posted on 06/04/2011 4:24:32 PM PDT by coloradomomba (Lord God...please use me.)
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To: LuvFreeRepublic

I agree. If a brides-maid has a bride-zilla for a friend, and she is guilt-tripped into spending a thousand bucks for the “priveledge” of being part of some tacky overpriced wedding, then yeah...

A real charmer.

But, I noticed the author did work at Hooters, so.... It figures.


46 posted on 06/04/2011 4:29:54 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (I'm a Birther - And a Deather)
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To: Feline_AIDS

I have had the misfortune of officiating more than one trainwreck of a wedding. In my experience it’s almost always the precursor to a trainwreck of a marriage. As my father told me before I entered the ministry, “I’d rather perform 100 funerals instead of 1 wedding.”
Every day I thank God for my wonderful wife and her contentment with our small but enjoyable wedding more than a decade ago.


47 posted on 06/04/2011 4:38:48 PM PDT by 95Theses (Sola Gratia - Sola Fide - Sola Scriptura)
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To: elcid1970

“In those days, the ultimate in tacky expensive was the so-called “Goodbye, Columbus” wedding. I thought the homemade vows in “Love Story” were equally hokey.”

“Ali McGraw starred in both movies. Hmmm....”

And SHE married Steve McQueen! I can’t picture him in either movie - can you?


48 posted on 06/04/2011 4:38:56 PM PDT by SatinDoll (NO FOREIGN NATIONALS AS OUR PRESIDENT!)
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To: trisham

I saw how it happened too (How did you find yourself friends with these brides?)

But I’m curious. I saw her employment was with Hooters. And I figured “that explains a lot...”

Is that the same conclusion you made?


49 posted on 06/04/2011 4:42:59 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (I'm a Birther - And a Deather)
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To: Melas

I hope one of my daughters wants a “princess” wedding. I’m glad I had one.


50 posted on 06/04/2011 4:47:44 PM PDT by Twink
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