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Posted on 08/08/2011 9:53:38 AM PDT by Irishguy

Hi Freepers,

i need you to help with 2 things. my mum was hit by a car this morning and suffered severe head injuries, she is on life support and they will not operate due to the extent of her injuries. if you could include her in your prayers i would really appreciate it..

my second request for help. Our 6 year old son was very attached to his granny. he looks to visit her twice a week and was there yesterday with her. Does anyone know how i can let him know and when? also as she is still in the hospital should i let him see her to help him understand (keep in hind she has a ton of equipment with her keeping her alive)? any help greatfully received


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1 posted on 08/08/2011 9:53:39 AM PDT by Irishguy
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To: Irishguy

FReeper PRayer BUmp!


2 posted on 08/08/2011 9:55:23 AM PDT by IllumiNaughtyByNature ($1.84 - The price of a gallon of gas on Jan. 20th, 2009.)
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To: Irishguy

All our prayers and hope for your Mother and family.
I think you will find a way to tell your son.
Your explantion in here is a start. simple is best 6 y o’s are very perceptive so don’t wait too long


3 posted on 08/08/2011 9:59:46 AM PDT by RWGinger
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To: Irishguy
I saw my mom dying. It was awful.

Don't let him have that memory. Let him keep that last good memory of "a kiss and a hug" from Grandma.

Signed, A Grandma

4 posted on 08/08/2011 10:00:15 AM PDT by Sacajaweau
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for your mom..


5 posted on 08/08/2011 10:00:28 AM PDT by Tamatoa (Fight for our America, Fight for our Country I fought to defend!!!)
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for God’s blessings on all.


6 posted on 08/08/2011 10:03:29 AM PDT by ex-snook ("Above all things, truth beareth away the victory")
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To: Irishguy
Very sorry for your most unfortunate situation. God can pull off miracles and we can pray that He does. He can also limit suffering when a miracle is not possible or appropriate.

Was you Mum a pedestrian or in another car?

Has your son ever lost a pet or something else very close to him? This is a tough, tough situation and it is hard to know what to do given the individual differences in kids and situations. Some kids, especially that young, can get very upset by the site of a loved one attached to all that medical equipment. Others handle it just fine. The clues which you give off, both verbal and non-verbal, can make a big difference in which way he goes.

Do you have a mutually trusted friend or clergyman who might be able to explain things better than you can? Maybe your Dad, if he's up to it? These are all things which you need to take into consideration. Good luck and prayers up!

7 posted on 08/08/2011 10:04:14 AM PDT by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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To: Irishguy

will start praying now.


8 posted on 08/08/2011 10:04:33 AM PDT by MNDude (so that's what they meant by Carter's second term)
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To: Irishguy

Oh too bad. We’ll pray. Can you take your son to see her and you could pray there together? It might be really healing for him to be able to do something.


9 posted on 08/08/2011 10:08:14 AM PDT by bboop (Stealth Tutor)
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To: Vigilanteman

pedestrian on her way to church this morning....

really appreciate the prayers and i am sure it will help

and thanks to all who have responded...it helps more then you know...apologies for the rush, but if he was to see her, it has to be in the next hour or so....


10 posted on 08/08/2011 10:08:34 AM PDT by Irishguy
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Go immediately to the hospital social worker. Ask them your questions, and ask them to be there with you when you tell your son. They will advise whether to take him to the hospital, or at home. Maybe they will refer you to Hospice and those people are very informed about helping loved ones deal with a dying relative. Don’t wait.


11 posted on 08/08/2011 10:10:51 AM PDT by CitizenM (He who is silent is understood to consent)
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To: Irishguy

I’m so sorry. Prayers for your mom, you and all your family.


12 posted on 08/08/2011 10:11:40 AM PDT by lysie
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To: Irishguy

Prayers of comfort, guidance and strength going up.


13 posted on 08/08/2011 10:13:59 AM PDT by MEG33 (God Bless Our Military Men And Women)
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To: Irishguy
Hospitals don't usually allow children in to see patients, so there is your excuse to not allow him to see her. Otherwise, be truthful but not graphic. Have your son hand draw a get well card that you can deliver. At least he will know that he did something. If your mom doesn't make it, assemble for your son as many photos and memories as possible in a "memory book."

I'm sorry this happened, Irishguy.

14 posted on 08/08/2011 10:14:07 AM PDT by Excellence ( CTRL-GALT-DELETE)
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To: Irishguy

Not sure I’d take him to the hospital room. She wouldn’t want him to see her like that, probably. Maybe you could take a picture of the room, or you holding her hand in yours, but omitting anything too gruesome.

Also, you can pray with your child that she will either get better, or that God will gently call her home. Our family also prays for the medical professionals and caregivers, that God will help them do their best work.

My brother died when my children were little. They were much more at ease with the thought of him being in Heaven and continuing to be their friend than adults were.


15 posted on 08/08/2011 10:14:29 AM PDT by married21 (As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.)
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To: Irishguy

Praying God’s love and peace made real for all of you and His highest will be done. Praying for wisdom in all matters for all concerned, including the doctors. Special hugs for your little boy. Our Lord will take care of him in this hard time.


16 posted on 08/08/2011 10:15:25 AM PDT by Bookwoman ("...and I am unanimous in this...")
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I couldn’t agree more. However things work out, it would be much better to let his memories be happy and loving. Prayers to you and your family.


17 posted on 08/08/2011 10:17:07 AM PDT by rockrr (Everything is different now...)
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...I watched my wife die. Will never fully recover. Tell your grandson. Try to keep the faith, FRiend...


18 posted on 08/08/2011 10:17:12 AM PDT by gargoyle (...This looks like a good fight, deal me in...)
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To: Irishguy

i really want to say thanks for the help so far...i really appreciate it and its why ye are the best people in the world....thanks for all your answers


19 posted on 08/08/2011 10:17:37 AM PDT by Irishguy
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To: Irishguy

Think very carefully before taking him to the room...what will his last memory of her be ?

I hope this is not the outcome and I wish your family the very best results.


20 posted on 08/08/2011 10:20:00 AM PDT by 3D-JOY
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Prayers for you and your family.

Went through something similar. My son, 4 at the time, had never seen his grandmother. Just a week before our visit she became seriously ill and was in the hospital. On our last day there I let him in to see her. It was the best thing I had ever done. I am glad that she got the chance to see him because she passed away a month later.

A six year old probably doesn’t understand all the stuff that will be going on around her. In my mind it would be better to tell him what happened and let him remember her for what she was. I don’t think I would want my son to remember her in the hospital - just focus on the life they had together.

As for the wake, if she passes, we didn’t let our sons go to the wake of my father-in-law. Just didn’t think it would be a positive for them.


21 posted on 08/08/2011 10:20:56 AM PDT by raybbr (People who still support Obama are either a Marxist or a moron.)
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To: Irishguy

Praying for a miracle.


22 posted on 08/08/2011 10:25:00 AM PDT by kitkat ( Obama: Rope and Chains)
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for your whole family, Irishguy.

As for your son, I’d tell him straight out what happened and then take him to see her.


23 posted on 08/08/2011 10:25:51 AM PDT by upsdriver (to undo the damage the "intellectual elites" have done. . . . . Sarah Palin for President!)
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Prayers for you and your family. My brother died when my daughter was that age. You know your child, but they know something is wrong as soon as it happens. Blessings


24 posted on 08/08/2011 10:26:05 AM PDT by call meVeronica
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for a full, complete recovery of your Mom.


25 posted on 08/08/2011 10:27:26 AM PDT by LdSentinal
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for healing!


26 posted on 08/08/2011 10:28:45 AM PDT by Jewels1091
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To: Irishguy

I will lift up prayer for your Mom and your family. I would not take the child to the hospital. He won’t understand all the machines hooked up. You might talk to him about her faith and how God loves her and wants what is best for her. Encourage him to talk to God and ask Him to do what is best. Kids have a way of being resilient and sometimes understand more than we think. I had the unfortunate task of having to inform my 7 year old that her little brother had cancer and might not live and stressed to her that we needed to ask God to give him comfort. Assuring her that he would go to live with Jesus if he died helped her. When he died 9 months later, she was able to accept it and understand that he was better off because he was no longer in pain.


27 posted on 08/08/2011 10:29:01 AM PDT by bamagirl1944 (That's short for Alabama, not Obama)
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for you all, Irishguy.


28 posted on 08/08/2011 10:29:55 AM PDT by BlatherNaut
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To: Irishguy

I'm SO sorry to hear this!!

Hoping God will help guide your decision about your son!


29 posted on 08/08/2011 10:31:12 AM PDT by tiapam (One Nation Under God !)
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for the Lord’s peace and understanding.


30 posted on 08/08/2011 10:31:55 AM PDT by hocndoc (http://WingRight.org)(I've got a mustard seed and I'm not afraid to use it.)(RIAing))
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for your mother and your family in coping.


31 posted on 08/08/2011 10:32:33 AM PDT by fieldmarshaldj (~"This is what happens when you find a stranger in the Amber Lamps !"~~)
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To: Irishguy

Prayers up.


32 posted on 08/08/2011 10:34:49 AM PDT by Billthedrill
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I hope this helps, and please know that others pray for your family.

In the first epistle of the Apostle Paul to the Church at Corinth, chapter 6 verse 19:

“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?”

we learn that if we are truly saved, our bodies are then a temple to God, or tabernacle, wherein the Holy Spirit dwells.

Regarding the death of the physical body then, the Apostle Paul later writes:

2 Corinthians Chapter 5

1 For we know that if our earthly house of this tabernacle were dissolved, we have a building of God, an house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.

2 For in this we groan, earnestly desiring to be clothed upon with our house which is from heaven:

3 If so be that being clothed we shall not be found naked.

4 For we that are in this tabernacle do groan, being burdened: not for that we would be unclothed, but clothed upon, that mortality might be swallowed up of life.

5 Now he that hath wrought us for the selfsame thing is God, who also hath given unto us the earnest of the Spirit.

6 Therefore we are always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord:

7 (For we walk by faith, not by sight:)

8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.

9 Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him.

10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.

11 Knowing therefore the terror of the Lord, we persuade men; but we are made manifest unto God; and I trust also are made manifest in your consciences.

12 For we commend not ourselves again unto you, but give you occasion to glory on our behalf, that ye may have somewhat to answer them which glory in appearance, and not in heart.

13 For whether we be beside ourselves, it is to God: or whether we be sober, it is for your cause.

14 For the love of Christ constraineth us; because we thus judge, that if one died for all, then were all dead:

15 And that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again.

16 Wherefore henceforth know we no man after the flesh: yea, though we have known Christ after the flesh, yet now henceforth know we him no more.

17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

18 And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation;

19 To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.

20 Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God.

21 For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.


33 posted on 08/08/2011 10:35:05 AM PDT by PieterCasparzen (We need to fix things ourselves)
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Your family is in my prayers. So sorry you are having so much trouble.

About your son. Tell him the truth about his grandma so he can pray for her. Don’t take him into the hospital to see her. If she passes away, it will be the traumatic picture of her that kicks up in his mind when he remembers her because he’s so young.

So unless she is conscience and will benefit from a visit from him, just tell him that she is not able to have visitors because she unconscience - sleeping but that she needs his prayers so Jesus will know to be with her. He might like to make a recording to send with you that you can play for her while she sleeps. Like a prayer to Jesus from him on her behalf would be good.


34 posted on 08/08/2011 10:37:17 AM PDT by SaraJohnson
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Prayers up.


35 posted on 08/08/2011 10:39:42 AM PDT by RedMDer (Abolish FReepathons. Be a monthly donor.)
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To: Irishguy

So sorry. Praying for your mother.

I agree with the post to ask the hospital chaplain/social service worker for advice.

When my grandmother died, my two young children were there and the nurses/social service people helped us and gave them crayons and paper to color with. We put the pictures they drew into her casket.


36 posted on 08/08/2011 10:40:01 AM PDT by Reddy (B.O. stinks)
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Lifted up. May God help heal her, you and your family from physical and emotional harm.


37 posted on 08/08/2011 10:40:32 AM PDT by jdsteel (I like the way the words "Palin for President" make progressives apoplectic.)
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Prayers for you and your family. I have no advice to give regarding the boy, your instincts will take over.

Just yesterday I was with my 8 year old great grandson at his grandmother's funeral. He was all questions but he seemed to be doing OK with all of it.

It really was cute, he had asked his mom so many questions she finally told him to go find his daddy and ask him.

38 posted on 08/08/2011 10:43:15 AM PDT by Conservativegreatgrandma
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You do have a good point.


39 posted on 08/08/2011 10:44:21 AM PDT by Conservativegreatgrandma
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To: Irishguy

My mother was killed in a car accident last April, she was close to my daughter in law and my grandson. The next day my grandson came up to me with a sad look on his face and said, “Nana Jo died.” CW2 is three, they know.


40 posted on 08/08/2011 10:46:09 AM PDT by Little Bill (Sorry)
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You are in my thoughts and prayers today. Will say a special prayer during adoration of the blessed sacrament tonight for your mom.


41 posted on 08/08/2011 10:47:34 AM PDT by Guardian Sebastian (All I needed to know about Islam I learned on 9-11.)
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Oh My. Prayers for your Mother, yourself, your son, all your family, and the medical staff attending to your mother.

Only God knows why this happened, and how you will deal with it. And only God will direct you through this nightmare.


42 posted on 08/08/2011 10:50:48 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd (The views and opinions expressed in this post are true and correct. Deal with it)
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for your family.


43 posted on 08/08/2011 10:52:15 AM PDT by pbear8 (the Lord is my light and my salvation)
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To: Irishguy; Salvation

Prayers sent


44 posted on 08/08/2011 10:53:44 AM PDT by EdReform (Oath Keepers - Guardians of the Republic - Honor your oath - Join us: www.oathkeepers.org)
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Prayers for your Mom; and for you and your family.

Life is fragile. Here for a moment, and then gone ("...For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away...").

Thank God that we rest on the solid Rock of Christ and the Anchor of our Soul - and our eternal life is safe with Him.

Prayers for a complete recovery by your Mom, and may the Good Lord bless her and you with His Healing and Peace.

45 posted on 08/08/2011 11:03:01 AM PDT by El Cid (Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house...)
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Lord, I lift up to you in prayer, all those involved in this terrible accident. For the repose of the souls of the youngsters who perished. For the health and healing, mental and physical, of those who survived and witnessed the aftermath. And for those who are mourning, Lord, bring them peace. In Jesus name I pray. Mother Mary, please pray for these intentions.


46 posted on 08/08/2011 11:09:29 AM PDT by illiac (If we don't change directions soon, we'll get where we're going)
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To: Irishguy

Prayers for your mom, son, you, and the rest of your family.


47 posted on 08/08/2011 11:14:51 AM PDT by free-in-nyc (Freeping from the heart of the occupation)
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To: Irishguy

Praying for your family, and that the Lord will show you what is best for *this* child. Some can handle it, some cannot. Bless your FRiend.


48 posted on 08/08/2011 11:15:12 AM PDT by Grammy
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Irishguy, children pick up on the "emotional tone" of things very quickly --- so do not delay in talking to the child about it. No need to be complicated, just say straight out that granny is badly hurt in the hospital and that she mght live or she might die --- but either way, she is in the hands of God, who loves her so.

As for visiting in the hospital: my own feeling is that the paraphernalia of the hospital might make a bigger (and scarier) impression than a child could cope with. But ~ IF ~ real, personal contact is possible (and I mean touching, without being hampered by a tangle of wires and tubes) then it might be OK: being able to touch, even just to squeeze a hand, is important I think.

Has your mum received the Anointing of the Sick? It is a good way to pray and all can participate (reading Scripture, etc.--- or just saying Amen.) May God bless her --- and you..

Living, we live in the Lord
Dying, we die in the Lord
Living or dying, we belong to Him.
May the Lover of our Souls
bless and heal
your mum
And bring His precious peace
to all your family.
In Jesus' Name.

49 posted on 08/08/2011 11:18:10 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o (Amen.)
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Irishguy, children pick up on the "emotional tone" of things very quickly --- so do not delay in talking to the child about it. No need to be complicated, just say straight out that granny is badly hurt in the hospital and that she mght live or she might die --- but either way, she is in the hands of God, who loves her so.

As for visiting in the hospital: my own feeling is that the paraphernalia of the hospital might make a bigger (and scarier) impression than a child could cope with. But ~ IF ~ real, personal contact is possible (and I mean touching, without being hampered by a tangle of wires and tubes) then it might be OK: being able to touch, even just to squeeze a hand, is important I think.

Has your mum received the Anointing of the Sick? It is a good way to pray and all can participate (reading Scripture, etc.--- or just saying Amen.) May God bless her --- and you..

Living, we live in the Lord
Dying, we die in the Lord
Living or dying, we belong to Him.
May the Lover of our Souls
bless and heal
your mum
And bring His precious peace
to all your family.
In Jesus' Name.

50 posted on 08/08/2011 11:18:24 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o (Amen.)
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