"On and on she talks, each utterance more useless than the last..."
Posted on 08/22/2011 3:27:43 PM PDT by decimon
COLUMBIA, Mo. – A new University of Missouri study finds that boys feel that discussing problems is a waste of time.
“For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak,” said Amanda J. Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the MU College of Arts and Science. “However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn’t express angst or distress about discussing problems any more than girls. Instead, boys’ responses suggest that they just don’t see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity.”
Rose and her colleagues conducted four different studies that included surveys and observations of nearly 2,000 children and adolescents. The researchers found that girls had positive expectations for how talking about problems would make them feel, such as expecting to feel cared for, understood and less alone. On the other hand, boys did not endorse some negative expectations more than girls, such as expecting to feel embarrassed, worried about being teased, or bad about not taking care of the problems themselves. Instead, boys reported that talking about problems would make them feel “weird” and like they were “wasting time.”
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Heck by the time it has been discussed into the dirt, I'm too damn tired to fix it.
Improvise, adapt, overcome.
I have nothing to say.
Obama, who seems to have a feminine nature, likes to have meetings and discuss problems, it seems to me.
Unless it is with a car or a home theater.
Decades ago, I discovered that if I mentioned finding someone *else* to help solve a problem or get some onerous maintenance job finished, my husband would independently simply solve it or get it done, quietly and without any further discussion.
Males are allergic to asking anyone for a solution. They will do it themselves, thank you very much. It is just like asking for directions. Lost? They will go get a map.
My, my the woman-haters are out in force tonight! Here, all over the Sarah Palin, Michele Bachmann, Christine O’Donnell threads. What a delight to be at FR at moments like this.
YUCKO!
"On and on she talks, each utterance more useless than the last..."
I love when science is used to prove common sense.
I did note, though, that the author spent a paragraph telling
parents how to correct the problem for girls and boys. Who said it was a problem? That is the issue with these studies. The study was on what triggers men’s thoughts, and in the results, there are ways to fix it.
The comments on this thread = extremely funny.
Grae, yours being both the exception and a very important insight. Uber-liberal males, especially political ones, LIVE to talk about problems. They don’t want to solve them. They just want to jaw. Like calling a beer summit. Obama never apologized to the cop he maligned, but he probably spewed liberal platitudes till the officer’s ears fell off. Obama is a talker, all right, especially when it comes to problems. It’s really all he CAN do.
I think the weirdness has always been there. If a theory can't be verified then it should be classified as theory.
My wife says that I never listen to her, at least I think that’s what she says.
They’re both right—for themselves.
However, you can also under-talk problems so that no plan is ever made...nothing gets done.
A successful couple discovers the right formula.
"Feelings! Didn't your alien masters teach you about those before they sent you to this planet?"
Any woman on a first date knows that she will sit there and listen to a guy yammer on about himself FOR HOURS. Now that I’m an old married woman - married to a lovely man who actually enjoys talking and discussing problems before solving them - I can try to forget how many boring men I listened to. Some of them seem to have joined FR!!
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