Skip to comments.Sexist men and women - made for each other
Posted on 08/23/2011 7:20:38 AM PDT by decimon
New study suggests that sexist women with a preference for casual sex are more likely to respond to men's aggressive strategies
Men with a preference for 'one-night stands' and negative sexist attitudes towards women are more likely to use aggressive courtship strategies. They compete with other men who are also interested in the woman, tease the woman, and isolate her away from her friends. In response, women with a preference for 'no strings attached' sex and negative attitudes towards other wom-en are more likely to respond to men's aggressive strategies. These findings by Jeffrey Hall and Melanie Canterberry, from the University of Kansas in the US, are published online in Springer's journal Sex Roles.
Hall and Canterberry set out to understand the characteristics of men who use aggressive court-ship strategies, based on speed seduction techniques described in the US bestseller "The Game" by Neil Strauss and the popular cable TV program "The Pickup Artist". They also studied the cha-racteristics of women who find such strategies appealing.
The researchers conducted two surveys. The first pilot study surveyed a sample of 363 college students from a large Midwestern university in the US. The second, larger national study recruited 850 adult volunteers via the internet. The authors asked both male and female participants about their sexist attitudes toward women and whether they were willing to take part in uncommitted or short-term sex. They also asked about the extent to which men used assertive strategies to in-itiate relationships and the extent to which women found these approaches desirable.
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So... they needed a study to find that men who want a one night stand actually do “better” with women who like one night stands?! Go figure?!
Agreed, and I wonder what exorbitant amount was paid for this information.
I wonder how much we paid for this study.
So, are these ‘sexist attitutdes towards other women’ the same as the view of conservative woman as ‘self loathing Stockholm syndrome’ that women like Janeane Garafolo spews about?
We could do a “study”, Fast Moving Angel! Let’s see: men who want one night stands do “better” with women who are intoxicated. Or, men who want one night stands “score” more often with women wearing next to nothing in terms of clothing. Or, men who want one night stands find that Christian bible clubs aren’t great for meeting women who want one night stands. How much should we charge?! LOL!!
People like Garofalo are of no consequence other than for the reactions they produce.
If a lot of men didn't find the techniques workable, the books and shows wouldn't be so popular, now wouldn't they? And the techniques wouldn't be found workable if there wasn't a sizable population of women on whom the techniques worked.
AA meetings are a great place to pick up one-nighters. Or so I’ve been told...
Wow, even when I was 8 years old, I was already trying to get laid and didn't even realize it! I went around teasing girls and pulling their hair all the time. It never seem to work though, and I would have probably run away in terror if it would have.
I NEVER responded to guys who hit on me. I don’t know why, but it always made me seriously uncomfortable.
I much preferred to get to know the males around me, then I chose the guy I was interested in. I gave signals that I was interested and if he responded, then we’d date and see if we were a match.
Strangely, my husband was not one of the guys I was interested in. He’d never approached me, but I thought he was just too aggressive. He swore too much for my tastes. Too big. Growled too much. Intimidating.
One night, I was at a social function on our college campus. Two guys were trying to ‘herd’ me into a private place. I tried to moved away from them, but they became very persistent, started actually pulling me away from the crowd and I felt seriously threatened.
I slipped away and moved to a more populated area and they followed me.
I looked around the crowd and found the biggest, meanest guy that I knew. He was perched on a bar stool with his legs spread. I walked right up to him and right into his arms. I was nearly crying when I pulled his head down and whispered, “There are two guys following me. Please put your arms around me and pretend that I’m with you!”
He was shocked at first, then broke into a huge grin and snuggled me right up. He asked me where the guys were and I described their clothes. The two men actually came quite close, but he glared them away. He held me like that for about a half an hour (I was clinging to him like a terrified monkey the whole time) without saying a word - and without copping any feels - then walked me safely back to my dorm room.
That was the first time either of us started to see the other in a romantic light. About a week later I invited him over for coffee.
(He told me later that he loved the whole thing. To find his arms suddenly filled with cute girl, to get to be the hero... it blew him away.)
As imposing of a figure that he cut, I would’ve been *seriously* turned off had he made a pass at me.
Hint ladies: GOOD guys have a touch of the White Knight. Guys who make aggressive advances - who don’t know you - are only interested in your body. If a guy knows you, he might actually be interested in YOU as a human being.
Very adorable story! (scary at times for YOU but it all worked out very well).
What a great story! I’m like that too, it takes me weeks to decide I like a man. Sometimes months. I can’t date at all anymore because nowadays, men seem to seriously expect to get laid by the third date.
Then there are some who stand alone!
Makes sense. If you can't drink or do drugs, what's left ... rock and roll?
LOL!! Alcohol can only do so MUCH to improve the appearance of another person. I don’t even think our beloved Laz... if one held a gun to the poor man’s head would do this!!
News flash—slutty girls like bad boys!
Who would have guessed.
“Who would have guessed”
Seems like common sense to me! I guess we are way above the curve on this!
These studies are totally reliable. Humans NEVER lie about sex.
What a great story! I’m glad that he was willing to be your night in shining armor and stare those boys away.
Amazing. Bad boys are successful at attracting bad girls!
Who would have thought?
Men who have contempt for women and the women who seek it. Sounds like a match made in heaven.
Great idea, Mom ... bet we could make a fortune doing these BS “studies”!!
A smart woman is cautious. She’s not out to be seduced. She’s looking for a good man who likes *her*, not just her body.
And it takes time to figure that out. It also takes time to get to know someone well enough to figure out if *you* like them.
I also had a ‘no sex without a committed, monogamous relationship’ rule. No sex without some kind of ring. The stupid thing is that if you tell a lot of guys that, they’ll offer you a ring on the first date to speed up the process. (Actually had a guy ask me to marry him on the first date after I told him my rule. I quit telling guys about the rule after that! lol!)
And you’re right - why should a guy work for the hard-to-get girls when there are so many willing to let it go for nothing?
Sluts make everything harder.
my son was joking last week that if women, en masse, decided not to put up with any more of men’s crap, things would change overnight.
he said that alerts would go out all over the world. “Attention all guys! They’re not buying it any more! Quick! Sell your x-box! Get a job! (Flower sales shoot through the roof... Diamond shortage hits middle America... Ministers collapse from exhausting schedules...!)
Yup! I don’t think that I’ve found a better way to hook a strong male. ;-)
The problem is that many women think that by offering a man sex, he’ll love her.
Sex makes women bond. They don’t realize that men aren’t as swayed by that.
For many women, offering a man her body is the greatest act of love she can do. When a man takes her up on that offer, she thinks that he loves her back.
Most sluts know better.
I *never* understood how a woman could sleep with a man she doesn’t love. The way I’m wired, if I didn’t love him before - I sure would after.
I think that this is why so many women end up with bad guys.
“”Sluts make everything harder””
Lots of truth in that statement !
I LOVE that picture! (reminds me of some Catholic school girls... sneaking behind the school to smoke a cigarette. Or so I’VE been told!)
oops! I didn’t mean to say that!
There does seem to be a big “DUH!” factor to this article, doesn’t there?
In my experience, women who end up with bad guys do so because they actively seek them out.
I had a rough patch in my early adulthood, the worse I behaved, the more women I had in my life. It was weird and self destructive on my part and theirs. They were all nice girls with their heart set on loving a complete ass.
My wife on the other hand has no room in her life for an ass, which gives me daily motivation to not behave as one.
Yeah. I’d hate to be a young woman in today’s market. Happily, I’m old enough now that it doesn’t matter so much. I’m gainfully employed, and can take care of myself. The older you get, the easier it is to just concentrate on your own life. I mean, it would have been nice to find someone, but... there are so many people in the world whose lives are so bad (hunger, disease, oppression) that I can keep perspective pretty well about it.
Gee, my Grandmother used to say that!
Tomcatting males tend to end up with alleycats? Who knew?