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Posted on 09/01/2011 8:28:17 PM PDT by mamelukesabre

Why is it the women most desiring a huge fancy white wedding are the ones least deserving of it?


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KEYWORDS: feminism; fooledagain; marriagedead; materialgirl; wedding
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1 posted on 09/01/2011 8:28:18 PM PDT by mamelukesabre
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To: mamelukesabre

u mad?


2 posted on 09/01/2011 8:29:38 PM PDT by 1rudeboy
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To: mamelukesabre

Probably because they want a wedding, not a marriage. Which is why soon after they’ll want a divorce.

Are you watching Bridezilla reruns again?


3 posted on 09/01/2011 8:30:32 PM PDT by Pan_Yan
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To: mamelukesabre

They’re often the ones who stop participating in ....certain activities once the honeymoon is over.


4 posted on 09/01/2011 8:31:11 PM PDT by buccaneer81 (ECOMCON)
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To: mamelukesabre

i got invited to a big fancy wedding, where they had his and her cars with bows on the lawn, and pushed cake into each others faces. They got divorced within 6 months i think


5 posted on 09/01/2011 8:31:22 PM PDT by Mount Athos (A Giant luxury mega-mansion for Gore, a Government Green EcoShack made of poo for you)
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To: mamelukesabre

Reality check?


6 posted on 09/01/2011 8:31:57 PM PDT by mnehring
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To: mamelukesabre

probably trying to compensate.

If they’ve slept around, don’t plan to stay married, don’t want to be a good wife, are keeping their divorce option open, flirt with other men, etc. . .

they want the fairy tale wedding with everything just LIKE they were really committed - just to sort of feel the magic of doing it right for a day.


7 posted on 09/01/2011 8:32:46 PM PDT by Persevero (Homeschooling for Excellence since 1992)
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To: 1rudeboy

as in angry, or as in insane?


8 posted on 09/01/2011 8:33:32 PM PDT by mamelukesabre (Si Vis Pacem Para Bellum (If you want peace prepare for war))
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To: mamelukesabre

Vanity, all is vanity.


9 posted on 09/01/2011 8:34:01 PM PDT by PGR88 (I'm so open-minded my brains fell out)
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To: mamelukesabre

Is this the observation of a wedding crasher?


10 posted on 09/01/2011 8:35:01 PM PDT by Deaf Smith
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To: mamelukesabre

Whatchoo talkin' 'bout?

11 posted on 09/01/2011 8:35:22 PM PDT by smokingfrog ( sleep with one eye open ( <o> ---)
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To: mamelukesabre
That is the absolute truth!

Personally, I am tired of attending these pageants.

12 posted on 09/01/2011 8:35:39 PM PDT by wintertime (I am a Constitutional Restorationist!!! Yes!)
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To: mamelukesabre

Weddings and funerals are nothing more than costly coreographed productions.


13 posted on 09/01/2011 8:37:30 PM PDT by umgud
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To: Mount Athos
i got invited to a big fancy wedding, where they had his and her cars with bows on the lawn, and pushed cake into each others faces. They got divorced within 6 months

Yeah, what is it with this new vulgarity to push cake into your beloved's face?

I CRINGE -- no kidding -- I CRINGE every time I see that at a wedding reception. It really bothers me.

I could never imagine in a million years doing something so disrespectful to my wonderful wife.

14 posted on 09/01/2011 8:38:08 PM PDT by Flycatcher (God speaks to us, through the supernal lightness of birds, in a special type of poetry.)
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To: mamelukesabre

No logic.
My first ex wanted, “a huge fancy white wedding,” and cheated in less than a year.
My second ex wanted something simple. By a lake. JOP asks, “Do you? And do YOU? Okay, you’re done,” and that lasted a little over six years before SHE cheated.

Some folks are just lucky, I guess.


15 posted on 09/01/2011 8:39:56 PM PDT by RandallFlagg ("I can see 2012 from my house!" Jim Thompson, 7-16-2011)
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To: RandallFlagg

I am so sorry. Wow! What bad luck.

My first husband was porn addicted cheater, but my second husband is a honey. We have been married since 1982.


16 posted on 09/01/2011 8:42:16 PM PDT by wintertime (I am a Constitutional Restorationist!!! Yes!)
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To: mamelukesabre
Its the ones that want a huge fancy black wedding that you've got to watch out for.
17 posted on 09/01/2011 8:46:31 PM PDT by Nonstatist
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To: RandallFlagg

My wedding took ten minutes and we paid the preacher a $100 bonus.

He wore his good black clothes and I wore frilly dress I already had.

We only did *that* so my gramma could see it.

I just wanted to pop into the courthouse.

18 years and counting.

I hate weddings and I’m not having a funeral.


18 posted on 09/01/2011 8:46:33 PM PDT by Salamander (Can't sleep...clowns will eat me.)
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To: mamelukesabre

Cause they are narcissists. Our society is over-run with female narcissists who think they “deserve” things!


19 posted on 09/01/2011 8:48:34 PM PDT by blondee123 (Obama-The Wanna-be Dictator!)
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To: mamelukesabre; Tigerized

Are you watching Bridezillas again? :)


20 posted on 09/01/2011 8:48:55 PM PDT by bootless (Never Forget. Never Again. (PursuingLiberty.com))
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To: Monkey Face; Tax-chick; Darksheare

If this isn’t UT material, I don’t know what is.


21 posted on 09/01/2011 8:49:30 PM PDT by OddLane (If Lionel Hutz and Guy Smiley had a lovechild together, his name would be "Mitt Romney." -KAJ)
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To: mamelukesabre

Don’t worry, I doubt Kim Kardashian stays married long. She apparently forgot to mention she had a previous marriage to her groom oh and he probably didn’t know about that video she made that is online now too.... I think its called “Jam it up” (apparently referring to anal sex)

He is probably finding out just how skanky she is.


22 posted on 09/01/2011 8:52:57 PM PDT by GeronL (The Right to Life came before the Right to Happiness)
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To: Salamander
My wedding took ten minutes and we paid the preacher a $100 bonus.

We paid the preacher nothing!

He's my dad (Lol) and he's a pastor. Got married in his back yard.

Nineteen years and counting!

23 posted on 09/01/2011 8:54:21 PM PDT by Flycatcher (God speaks to us, through the supernal lightness of birds, in a special type of poetry.)
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To: mamelukesabre

Last month while I was donating blood I overheard the tech/nurses discussing one of their upcoming weddings.

An Obama fan, probably @ 5 or 6 months pregnant, was bragging she was able to buy her wedding cake with her EBT card - for $410.

Simply amazing....


24 posted on 09/01/2011 8:55:56 PM PDT by ImProudToBeAnAmerican (We were born citizens. Now we are subjects. Currently on the path to become serfs.)
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To: Salamander

Sounds like my wedding. Only I wore sweatpants, it was cold at 7 AM up near Lake Tahoe at one of those marriage for $100 places. We had gotten engaged the night before, around midnight.


25 posted on 09/01/2011 9:00:14 PM PDT by little jeremiah (Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point. CSLewis)
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To: Flycatcher

My wife’s father married us too. She in a dress, me in a suit. 4th of July so we had the reception in the basement of the church, fireworks centerpieces. No one smoked.


26 posted on 09/01/2011 9:07:47 PM PDT by tumblindice (It's the Donner-Reed show!)
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To: mamelukesabre
Apparently no one disagrees with your premise.

I'd like to see a chart showing wedding cost vs. marriage longevity.

27 posted on 09/01/2011 9:12:40 PM PDT by TChad
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To: Flycatcher

When my son and his wife were preparing for marriage, I reminded my son that our family does not do the cake smashing routine. He told his future wife that they would not be doing that after cutting the cake. I don’t think she was happy about our “tradition”, but she accepted that it wasn’t going to happen.

I cannot even count the number of family and friends that came up to me later to tell me that they were so happy to see a non-cake-smashing event during the cutting of the wedding cake.


28 posted on 09/01/2011 9:20:39 PM PDT by notpoliticallycorewrecked (According to the MSM, I'm a fringe sitting, pajama wearing, Freeper)
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To: mamelukesabre

What do you mean? Did you have a bad breakup?

For my wedding, my parents spent a lot of money because my dad was a Chicago lawyer and wanted to invite all his friends, etc.

I opted for a $300 over-the-rack dress, and was very happy. I can’t understand spending thousands on a dress you’ll wear once in your life.

And I made sure my bridesmaids had reasonably-priced dresses that they could wear for other occasions.


29 posted on 09/01/2011 9:28:55 PM PDT by proud American in Canada (To paraphrase Sarah Palin: "I love when the liberals get all wee-wee'd up.")
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To: GeronL

“I think its called “Jam it up” (apparently referring to anal sex)”

____________________________________

GAG! Ick.


30 posted on 09/01/2011 9:30:53 PM PDT by proud American in Canada (To paraphrase Sarah Palin: "I love when the liberals get all wee-wee'd up.")
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To: proud American in Canada

She got married like a week ago, I’m thinking the guy might want to get anulment.


31 posted on 09/01/2011 9:35:15 PM PDT by GeronL (The Right to Life came before the Right to Happiness)
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To: mamelukesabre
Had a big white wedding, I deserved. Boys choir, strings, bagpipes. The cake was cheesecake. I had a great time, so did he. Coming up on our 21st :)

There is nothing wrong with a big wedding as long as you work at the marriage.

32 posted on 09/01/2011 9:40:24 PM PDT by pbear8 (the Lord is my light and my salvation)
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To: notpoliticallycorewrecked
I cannot even count the number of family and friends that came up to me later to tell me that they were so happy to see a non-cake-smashing event during the cutting of the wedding cake.

And I would have been first in line to shake your hand.

Thanks for your post, and your "old-fashioned" commitment to honor your spouse.

33 posted on 09/01/2011 9:40:37 PM PDT by Flycatcher (God speaks to us, through the supernal lightness of birds, in a special type of poetry.)
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To: TChad

I’ll go against the grain! My wife is the only daughter, and she lived and grew up in New Jersey. I thought the wedding was over the top and too much money was being spent. But her mom told me it was their money and to to stay out of it! (Nicely though!) Limo, big reception, lots of bridesmaids, a decent dress, etc. In a small town church where we both were members.

It wasn’t a “money is no option thing”, but I grew up in the Midwest, so was used to a reception in the church basement with meatballs, three bean salad and jello. Spending $35 per person for a reception was just foolish I thought. It was quite the deal when all my relatives flew out for a long weekend of rehearsal dinners, partys, and the wedding. They weren’t used to it either.

We all had a great time! 22 years ago this fall. (And no cake mashing either. Although a bit of frosting did get on my finger, which I touched to her nose - and then promptly cleaned up with the napkin in my other hand).


34 posted on 09/01/2011 9:41:09 PM PDT by 21twelve (Obama Recreating the New Deal: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2185147/posts)
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To: mamelukesabre

The following articles are really funny but well written and true—enjoyable reading.

The Presumption Against Marriage
by Bernard Chapin
http://www.strike-the-root.com/content/presumption-against-marriage

The Presumption Against Marriage, Part II
http://www.strike-the-root.com/content/presumption-against-marriage-part-ii


35 posted on 09/01/2011 9:50:38 PM PDT by familyop ("Plan? There ain't no plan!" --Pigkiller, "Beyond Thunderdome")
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To: mamelukesabre

The following articles are really funny but well written and true—enjoyable reading.

The Presumption Against Marriage
by Bernard Chapin
http://www.strike-the-root.com/content/presumption-against-marriage

The Presumption Against Marriage, Part II
http://www.strike-the-root.com/content/presumption-against-marriage-part-ii


36 posted on 09/01/2011 9:53:03 PM PDT by familyop ("Plan? There ain't no plan!" --Pigkiller, "Beyond Thunderdome")
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To: mamelukesabre

Because they have that I am a Princess thing going and must be treated as one.I am female btw and I think it is silly to spend that much on one day.


37 posted on 09/01/2011 10:32:11 PM PDT by chris_bdba
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To: Flycatcher

There are statics somewhere that show doing that to each other nearly guarantees a divorce somewhere upward of 85%.


38 posted on 09/01/2011 10:34:14 PM PDT by chris_bdba
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To: Nonstatist

My sister had one of those they are celebrating 20 years this year....


39 posted on 09/01/2011 10:35:35 PM PDT by chris_bdba
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To: Flycatcher
I don't like that either FC.

On a related note, I've been to two Mexican kids' birthday parties within the last year. One was for a teenager and one was for a baby. At both they jammed the kids' faces into the whole cake. Now to be fair, the one for the teenager did have a separate cake for the guests thank goodness, but they didn't for the baby one. I don't particularly want to eat a cake that's had a kid's face jammed into it--call me funny.

40 posted on 09/01/2011 10:40:49 PM PDT by beaversmom
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There are statics somewhere that show doing that to each other nearly guarantees a divorce somewhere upward of 85%.

I'm not surprised at all.

A marriage that begins with a public attempt to aggressively humiliate your spouse sure doesn't evoke confidence.

41 posted on 09/01/2011 10:45:30 PM PDT by Flycatcher (God speaks to us, through the supernal lightness of birds, in a special type of poetry.)
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To: beaversmom
Hi beaversmom!

I'm with ya.

I think that what most bugs me about this new vulgar "tradition" is the sadistic quality to it.

Why in the world would I ever want to humilitate my wife -- the love of my life -- in such an aggressive and cruel way?

I truly have a visceral hatred for this tradition. And I'm very chagrined at all the young people that "sheep-like" follow it.

It's ugly and I hate ugly.

Wait -- is this a Rosie O'Donnell thread...? Ha ha!

42 posted on 09/01/2011 10:51:58 PM PDT by Flycatcher (God speaks to us, through the supernal lightness of birds, in a special type of poetry.)
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To: little jeremiah

You didn’t let any dust gather on ya, fer sure....:D


43 posted on 09/01/2011 11:02:54 PM PDT by Salamander (Can't sleep...clowns will eat me.)
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To: mamelukesabre

Why is it that a a society, we place more emphasis on the wedding than we do on the marriage?


44 posted on 09/01/2011 11:04:38 PM PDT by passionfruit (When illegals become legal, even they won't do the work Americans won't do)
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To: passionfruit
Why is it that a a society, we place more emphasis on the wedding than we do on the marriage?

Ding, ding we have a winner. My sister has had three grand weddings only to get a divorce a few years later.

My total wedding cost was less than her dress for the second wedding. We have been married 31 years.

45 posted on 09/01/2011 11:23:37 PM PDT by notpoliticallycorewrecked (According to the MSM, I'm a fringe sitting, pajama wearing, Freeper)
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To: 21twelve

THAT’s adorable...and sounds like something my hubby would have done, if we wouldn’t have gone for utterly no frills JotP.


46 posted on 09/02/2011 2:33:13 AM PDT by Fire_on_High (Stupid should hurt.)
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To: OddLane

It does have a certain amusement value, and the pictures are funny, but we did just move to the “purple-haired chick punches bear” thread.

I recently attended a religious marriage for a couple who had been legally married for more than ten years. It was very touching and appropriate. He wore a suit, she had a pretty dress suitable to a stoutish lady in her 30s, and they each had their mother standing beside them.


47 posted on 09/02/2011 3:53:19 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("True education is not an adjustment to the world, but a defense against the world.")
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To: pbear8

She still raves about our “fairytale” wedding, culminating in an outdoor event on a vast manicured lawn with the Adarondack High Peaks in the background with 100 friends & family having travelled to attend. That was 8 years ago, another 80 to go.


48 posted on 09/02/2011 4:08:53 AM PDT by ctdonath2 ($1 meals: http://abuckaplate.blogspot.com/)
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To: mamelukesabre

my first marriage was a small church wedding with less than 20 guests, a brunch, then off to the honeymoon. lasted 13 years, the last ten were progressively nasty.
proposed to number 2 at DQ (had teh manager make up the sign), got hitched atop Mt Washington (NH) on Ride to teh Sky day, they gave us a nice cake, etc.. my eternal gratitude to the local HOG chapter.
never had bad words, nor the least sign of a problem. she died last June and I shall walays thank God for lettign me have her for as long as I did.

it ain’t the wedding, it’s the marriage.


49 posted on 09/02/2011 6:49:03 AM PDT by camle (keep an open mind and someone will fill it full of something for you)
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To: camle

love the tag line!


50 posted on 09/02/2011 9:00:20 AM PDT by mamelukesabre (Si Vis Pacem Para Bellum (If you want peace prepare for war))
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