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Posted on 09/16/2011 3:12:00 AM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
I am just having a very rough time. My mother passed away as many of you know. After months of being her care taker and with her until the end.. i have been wanting to get out of the house and go back into society and maybe just attend a football game or a movie. Only a few people who are close to me know this and its not easy to type.. But it is really hard when im dealing with incontience (bowel) and sometimes ibs symptoms, sometimes regular accidents. I have been dealing with this for years. Surgery to fix the problem didn't help much at all. The problem seems so much worse right now and I think it is probably emotional. The pain of losing my mom. Nerves about going out. Get nervous about leaving home because of accidents when being nervous causes more accidents. I am sort of in that vicious cycle right now. Please keep me in your prayers. I would prefer that nobody ever know about my problem. I have many friend online and in person who don't know. But so many people suffer silently and alone with this problem that I just feel guided by God to open up to others about this. a few immautre people who might make jokes about this are not of my concern.
Will be in my thoughts and prayers. Losing a parent is extremely emotional and probably is not helping your situation. Hope things get better for you!
You will be in my prayers tonight. As a celiac, you have my sympathy, and one of my three best friends has had Crohn’s for forty years, so I’ve been exposed to some similar symptoms. Do not despair. And try to remember that God loves you, as no doubt does your family. You can break the cycle, but can also be patient with yourself. Look at it this way: a brief slip out of the house, for just a few minutes, might be safe. Next time, try a couple more minutes than the last. It doesn’t mean that it’s all or none. If you are out, and there’s accident, get home, remind yourself, “hey, I made it ‘x’ minutes that time.” You can do it in small steps. Don’t let the eventual big step out of sight. Just remember that the little steps can add up. I think you can do it. Just be patient with yourself.
God bless you seoyc: be sure that you are in our prayers.
One step at a time - I suspect (I have no knowledge of the condition) that the earlier poster's advice about overcoming the problem in small increments is a wise approach.
I don't know if you're Catholic or not, but I know having / holding on to Rosary beads can help calm my nerves when life is ganging up on me. Just a thought.
Prayers are definitely up for you. And, yes, worrying about the problem, definitely makes it worse.
This is very good advice, Sayuncledave..Despair is our enemy when we are facing grief and health challenges at the same time. Prayer is powerful and I know many people who post and read here will pray for se_ohio_young_conservative. When I have been in that situation, I have found Paul Ciholas’ book CONSIDER MY SERVANT JOB to be very comforting. It is not a sad book, but a realistic one, which gave me lots of strength just when I needed it. The other thing to remember is that God does not give us strength in reserve, but, instead, as we need it. We will pray..God bless..
you have my prayers for emotional recovery for yourself. satan would love to keep you bound up and immobilized....God is bigger than that. You will get there.
Perhaps rooting for a different team besides Cleveland Browns for a few weeks will be more uplifting. snort. (LAME attempt at humor, there. My best friend is from Cleveland and spent many years in the Dog Pound! Diehard Browns fan)
Prayers UP to our Heavenly Father for your peace, strength and comfort in this devestating time of losing your dear Mother.
May He also heal your condition(s) as He is also known as the Great Healer and Great Physician.
I pray that God gives you the strength to remember your Mom’s life and love for you without sadness. I nearly lost me Mom last year and prayers form Freepers helped immensely. I also pray that your physical probelems are solved quickly and fully that you may go out and about with confidence. God Bless You!
You are indeed in my prayers. Dolly, can you help?
May God the Father grant you the peace only He can give in such a time of loss and grief. May He totally and completely restore your body to perfect health; may He totally and completely restore your self-confidence, thereby strengthening your relationship and trust in Him.
In Jesus’ name.
My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going.
I do not see the road ahead of me.
I cannot know for certain
where it will end.
Nor do I really know myself,
and the fact that I think I am following Your will
does not mean that I am actually doing so.
But I believe that the desire to please You
does in fact please You.
And I hope I have that desire
in all that I am doing.
I hope that I will never do anything
apart from that desire.
And I know that, if I do this,
You will lead me by the right road,
though I may know nothing about it.
Therefore I will trust You always
though I may seem to be lost
and in the shadow of death.
I will not fear,
for You are ever with me,
and You will never leave me to face my perils alone.
Sorry about your mom..prayers up for you and your health.
Lord Jesus, you are the great physician, if it is your will, heal like you did when the woman touched the hem of your garment. Please bring your peace to this soul in need and give them the confidence and strength to get out and to move forward in their life whether they are physically healed or not. I humbly ask this in Jesus name, amen.
So sorry about your Mom :(
For the mechanical problems and the wish to get out of the house more - get into that car and drive around - go to drive-up windows, etc......get back into society and talk to people. Online friends are great but get out to the world and engage...splurge and get ‘full service’ gas - make your car your safe zone....Baby Steps.
I am not a big fan of anti-anxiety/anti-depressants for run-of-the-mill, day-to-day problems. However, I have a loved one with a similar problem and this person is on Paxil. It has helped with the “accident anxiety” tremendously. I wish you the best. Go see your gastroenterologist and see if they can assist.
I read your prayer request and I’m very sorry you’re struggling. It can appear that ‘external’ things cause us to be depressed, such as the death of our mom. And this is true to a degree. But the blue feelings and especially the IBS, are caused by magnesium deficiency. Magnesium is the most powerful mineral we can take and it make about 350 other enzymes, aminos, etc., work in our body. It is also the cause of depression and anxiety. We’re all very deficient in mag because we just don’t get it in our diets anymore and then, stress causes it to be depleted even more. It’s a vicious cycle.
If you’re interested in knowing what to take and think you will really commit to it, I’ll tell you what to take and I assure you, you’ll feel better.
Let me know.
Your sharing touched me, in admiration for your courage for sharing and understanding your grief. Is anyone of us strong enough to go what you are going through? I guess so, since you are.
You've got decisions to make, now. The horror of losing your mother gets sweeter, with time. Someone told me that at my own mother's funeral, and it's almost the only thing I remember about it, probably because it struck me as an odd thing to say, at the time, and also because it turned out to be true.
Psalm 84 comes to mind:
"Blessed is the man whose strength is in thee; in whose heart are the ways of them.
Who passing through the valley of Baca make it a well; the rain also filleth the pools."
We're going through these valleys of "weeping," and while going through, we transform our tears into sources of water.
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