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Senior Dog, Senior Owner: Saying Goodbye
Yahoo ^ | Feb. 29th, 2012 | Sherry Tomfeld

Posted on 02/29/2012 10:45:05 AM PST by stillafreemind

Sometimes the sweetest blessings in life can be the the bitterest pills to swallow. That's how it is with an aging dog. If both the dog and owner are aged, it becomes a concern when it's time to put the dog to sleep. I thought putting my own dog down was hard. I found out that putting my Mom's beloved Molly to sleep was a hundred times worse.

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TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Miscellaneous; Pets/Animals
KEYWORDS: doggieping; seniorcitizens; seniordogs; separation
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Okay..I'm a softy..and I have had to put my share of "old dogs" down. I'm glad God gave us animals..they make humans look really small at times.
1 posted on 02/29/2012 10:45:08 AM PST by stillafreemind
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To: stillafreemind

OMG - I just had to take one to the vet an hour ago for this!!!


2 posted on 02/29/2012 10:49:09 AM PST by C. Edmund Wright
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To: stillafreemind

This brings to mind something a friend sent me when I had to put down our dog Shelby. She was a great friend and a loving companion. She is still very much missed.

Here is what my friend sent me.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...


3 posted on 02/29/2012 10:50:49 AM PST by Jack Burton007 (This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I'm talkin' to whoever's listenin' out there.)
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To: stillafreemind

I love dogs. At times I have more faith in the character of the canine species than of the human one.


4 posted on 02/29/2012 10:51:12 AM PST by ScottinVA (GOP, meet Courage... Courage, meet GOP.)
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To: stillafreemind

brings tears to my eyes....we lost our beloved Copper two+ years ago and i think about her daily...first thing i did after reading this was search out the prayer request I posted on Freep just hours after I returned from the vet and they told me she was gone:

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/2175570/posts

its amazing how lovable these creatures are- then again I’m sure with all the unconditional love they give, God wishes humans were more like dogs at times...


5 posted on 02/29/2012 10:58:33 AM PST by God luvs America (63.5million pay no federal income tax then vote demoKrat)
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To: stillafreemind

IF IT SHOULD BE

If it should be that I grow weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.

You will be sad, I understand.
Don’t let your grief then stay your hand.
For this day, more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We’ve had so many happy years.
What is to come can hold no fears.
You’d not want me to suffer so;
The time has come — please let me go.

Take me where my need they’ll tend,
And please stay with me till the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me,
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time that you will see
The kindness that you did for me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I’ve been saved.

Please do not grieve — it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do.
We’ve been so close, we two, these years;
Don’t let your heart hold back its tears.

-— Anonymous -—


6 posted on 02/29/2012 10:58:58 AM PST by dainbramaged (I nearly threw my pit bull at the television.)
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To: stillafreemind

Its been 3 years since my buddy Sam died. Broke my heart to take him in, but it was time. Still think of him every day, more lately. Reading this made me realize it was in Feb that he left. Have 2 girls now and they are good dogs, but there will never be another one like Sammy....

I miss you buddy.


7 posted on 02/29/2012 11:01:40 AM PST by Harry Pothead (Go Sarah!)
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To: stillafreemind

I have two dogs, both rescues. One is a Lab/Dalmatian mix who will be 14 in august. I’ve decided all of my dogs will be rescues and, when this one goes, I will be looking for a geriatric dog to bring home from a shelter. After that one dies,I’ll be looking for another old dog. Most dogs are way better than most people and no dog needs to die old and alone. I realize I will be having a lot (I hope) of dogs die on me but humans owe it to dogs to care for them. Old dogs especially, IMHO.


8 posted on 02/29/2012 11:03:59 AM PST by muir_redwoods (No wonder this administration favors abortion; everything they have done is an abortion)
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To: C. Edmund Wright

Sorry to hear that. In June 2010 I was going to take our 4 1/2 year old German Shorthair to the vet after lunch only to find him having died in his bed. I’d only let him out an hour before after returning from a morning meeting. What a lost feeling.

He’d had allergies and had been on Prednisone and Benadryl for most of his life. We suspect the Prednisone had eaten away at him. Never again will I go that route with a pet.

Now we have a 16 mos old Boston Terror (no, I didn’t misspell...) and he’s my new buddy. A lot more active than the GSP, but one of a kind for sure.

I hope all goes well for you. Pets are wonderful companions and become as large a part of family as anyone can be. Good luck...


9 posted on 02/29/2012 11:04:09 AM PST by bcsco
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To: stillafreemind

I lost my beloved Buttons after 15 years in 2010. I still think about her nearly every day. She was truly a gift.


10 posted on 02/29/2012 11:09:09 AM PST by Pinkbell
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To: stillafreemind

I had to do that with 5 of my Siamese cats. Each were about the same age. When they reached the 13-14 year mark their kidneys had started to give away. Over a period of 8 years I had to give them dialysis (sub-q flush), one at a time, not concurrently, until I had the vet put them to sleep. Very heart wrenching.


11 posted on 02/29/2012 11:11:54 AM PST by duckman (Go Newt...)
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To: stillafreemind

If you’re a softy heaven only knows what I am. I’ve found that I usually have no use for people that don’t like pets...especially dogs. Now I need to get a kleenex.


12 posted on 02/29/2012 11:11:58 AM PST by azishot
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To: stillafreemind

Watching Animal Planet’s ‘Houston Animal Cops’ and came to turn off the computer. Just had to check this thread first.

After reading FReeper posts and seeing the kindness of FRiends and their love of animals it’s difficult to understand the unconscionable acts of the monsters shown on that TV program.

Thank God for the ASPCA and their dedicated personnel.


13 posted on 02/29/2012 11:16:30 AM PST by sodpoodle ( Newt - God has tested him for a reason...... to bring America back from the brink.)
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To: stillafreemind; Joe 6-pack

Doggie Ping!


14 posted on 02/29/2012 11:21:36 AM PST by CedarDave (Donna Brazile: "... we we believe that the weakest candidate ... [is] Mitt Romney.")
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To: stillafreemind

It is good to hold the dog, some people leave their dog alone to be put down, but i think it is important to garner the strength to be with the little angel as it slips away


15 posted on 02/29/2012 11:21:47 AM PST by mel (There are only 2 races decent and undecent people)
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To: AnAmericanMother; Titan Magroyne; Badeye; Shannon; SandRat; arbooz; potlatch; ...
WOOOF!

The Doggie Ping list is for FReepers who would like to be notified of threads relating to all things canid. If you would like to join the Doggie Ping Pack (or be unleashed from it), FReemail me.

16 posted on 02/29/2012 11:24:33 AM PST by Joe 6-pack (Que me amat, amet et canem meum)
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To: azishot

You will need more than kleenex if you go here:
http://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm


17 posted on 02/29/2012 11:28:11 AM PST by duckman (Go Newt...)
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To: ScottinVA
At times I have more faith in the character of the canine species than of the human one.

Same thing here. But, I'd say it's "all of the time".

18 posted on 02/29/2012 11:28:44 AM PST by gdani
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To: muir_redwoods

We also have 2 rescues. We rescued them from being abandoned in our neighborhood. A Beagle and a Chihuahua. Buddy our Beagle is really getting up there and we try not to think about him passing. I don’t know how we will get along without his cheerful presence. He is so good about everything.

I have always said that there is an invisible sign in our yard that says “limp up this driveway to a life of luxury”.


19 posted on 02/29/2012 11:30:40 AM PST by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: mel

Our most loved kitty Tom passed away two years ago. He was
nearly 15 and got cancer. He died in my lap on the way to
the emergency vet, since it was Sunday and our regular vet
was closed. We will miss that cat until the day we each die.


20 posted on 02/29/2012 11:34:37 AM PST by jusduat (on the mercy of the Lord alone.)
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To: Georgia Girl 2

I rescued a cat a few weeks ago....my landlord laughed and said “He hit the lottery coming there”.

After vets visit learned he had a respiratory infection that had he been left in the elements likely would have taken his life. He’s an entirely different cat after treatment.

His paws were actually callosed and nails grown out way too far. Vet said he’d been out there quite awhile.

Interesting is he is microchipped...so we followed up on that to find phone and otherwise so far is disconnected.

At any rate will keep him with me now though I realize the owner can claim him at any time. I doubt that will happen...the cat has been in the neighborhood for a few years after checking with neighbors.

This cat thinks it’s died and gone to heaven here...and has no desire to go outside at all....even with encouragement he darts right back from the doorway.


21 posted on 02/29/2012 11:37:21 AM PST by caww
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To: stillafreemind

Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you.....
I loved you so —
‘twas Heaven here with you.

—by Isla Paschal Richardson


22 posted on 02/29/2012 11:41:45 AM PST by surely_you_jest (Mitt Romney is the latter day incarnation of Joe Isuzu.)
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To: Jack Burton007

My monitor is getting very blurry.

I’m thinking of my wonderful black lab Claudius, who I had to put to sleep a few years ago. He could hardly walk anymore; it was so bad he was knucking under. Selfishly, I probably waited too long. He must have been in terrible pain.

But he gave me many years of companionship. He could always tell when I was sad or upset—he’d come over and put his head under my hand and look up at me with his huge brown eyes.

Not much of a guard dog, though—if we had an intruder he’d probably lick him to death, LOL. :)


23 posted on 02/29/2012 11:48:09 AM PST by proud American in Canada
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To: C. Edmund Wright

Wow..I am soooo sorry about the timing. I am reeling from this thread with all of the wonderful loving freepers that have had to say good-by to their loving pets.

I have three dogs right now. 2 from the pound and 1 stray that came in 12 years ago..lol.

I’ve had to put some mighty fine “friends down” and I can never replace any of them..I just keep giving the next one a new home. I pray that I can do them service..for they do a lot for me each and every day.


24 posted on 02/29/2012 11:51:10 AM PST by stillafreemind
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To: caww

The owner gave up “ownership” when he failed to update his information. He’s your cat, now, and you should put your info in the cat’s chip file.


25 posted on 02/29/2012 11:55:04 AM PST by Excellence (9/11 was an act of faith.)
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To: proud American in Canada

My girl Shelby was a Welch Corgi. She was a very loving dog. She was also very protective of us. She was a good dog on letting you know if someone was outside.

She also let us know each night that it was time for the kids to go to bed. She would round us all up and go first to my son’s room. Then she would race my daughter up the stairs to her room and then after the kids were in bed she would go to bed herself.

Very loyal and loving friend.


26 posted on 02/29/2012 11:57:19 AM PST by Jack Burton007 (This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I'm talkin' to whoever's listenin' out there.)
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To: Excellence

We do know theman did microchip the cat but did not register him. I’m unfamiliar with how the whole things work...but at this point the Microship company will notify by mail.....and this was two weeks ago now.

The vet and staff did all they could to NOT say what they wanted to say...which was obvious the cat was now in good hands. ..and he is. (smile)

He has a great bed, though has layed claim to one my recliners...and as far as I’m concerned it’s now his. I cover it though.

Has a tray with three bowls for hard and soft food....he’s at ten pounds now and doing very well....though am treating ear mites. Once that’s done will take him for shots this month. His nails now trimmed nicely and I had instructions on how to do this.

Even his fur is changing....I brush him and he loves it...plus I gave him body messages when he was sick...though I think he wants that to continue.Ha!

He is an orange tabby cat...a big boy! One ear is turned out from an obvious boxing match somewhere along the way. I intednd to keep him inside...though he certainly hasn’t an interest otherwise...that could change in the spring...Time will tell.

I will inquire when I take the cat to the vet if and how we can transfer ownership and what to do. Thank you for mentioning that. But I understood that he could lay claim at any time because the chip is ownership??????


27 posted on 02/29/2012 12:17:52 PM PST by caww
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To: C. Edmund Wright

Oh no... I’m so sorry! ;(


28 posted on 02/29/2012 1:06:00 PM PST by Bradís Gramma (PRAY for this country like your life depends on it....)
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To: mel

As hard as it was to watch their lives slip away, I can’t imagine leaving them alone...


29 posted on 02/29/2012 1:16:46 PM PST by Bradís Gramma (PRAY for this country like your life depends on it....)
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To: stillafreemind

It was super hard for us to put down our golden. He was the best dog on earth but suffering terribly with no available relief. My husband keeps the stiff upper lip in life - always and hadled it like a boy scout with me.

But now he will not get another dog. I know it is because the dog would die before him and he’d have to do it again. Love is delightful and deeply painful, too. If I die before him, he won’t get a new wife. :)


30 posted on 02/29/2012 1:22:24 PM PST by SaraJohnson
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To: stillafreemind

Our old lady is 15...may be a record for a GSD.

Dreading her time, yet I know it’s coming. She’s on daily painkillers and it takes hours to get her to “settle in” for the night.

The two younger GSDs seem to sense it and spend alot of time hovering around her and licking her.

This just stinks.....our youngest kids have never known life without their Hannah.

Hopefully, this will teach them about the wonderful beings that are our canine companions, and to appreciate them as they pass in and out of our lives


31 posted on 02/29/2012 1:49:19 PM PST by LadyBuck (In the immortal words of Jean Paul Sartre, 'Au revoir, gopher')
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To: caww
The people that used to rent the house down the street adopted a kitten (orange tabby) from the shelter. They moved into their new house around the block and he moved in with us. Well, they saw him in our driveway and took him “home.” Next day he was at our back door. I've probably put a grand into him, what with the fights he gets into and the Pancreatitis. And once he rode off in the back of dh’s truck. It took six days for him to find his way back, but he did. He's ours, like it or not, possession being six-tenths of the law and all that. BTW, he weighs 20 pounds, now.

Trust me, he's your cat now. : )

32 posted on 02/29/2012 1:59:06 PM PST by Excellence (9/11 was an act of faith.)
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To: LadyBuck
Wow, she sure got old indeed! Have you registered her for the 13 Club in the GSDCA? Good luck and God bless to you and her.

"our youngest kids have never known life without their Hannah."

My son has never known life without a German Shepherd, but he'll only be 4 in a few weeks. The dog is 9. Given all her problems and the steroids she's ended up on to get relief, neither we nor the vet expects much more. She seems fine, but once they're 10 (soon) all bets are off.

George Tara TV

I don't know if we'll have another child, but 1 thing that bothers me is that child may not have a dog/GS to live with. It'll take me a while before I can muster the gumption to raise another GS, anyway!

33 posted on 02/29/2012 2:07:57 PM PST by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue./Technological progress cannot be legislated.)
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To: LadyBuck

I’ve been told that my dog’s dad is still alive @ 15... I’m praying mine has those genes, too...


34 posted on 02/29/2012 2:26:17 PM PST by Bradís Gramma (PRAY for this country like your life depends on it....)
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To: the OlLine Rebel

My dad had a magnificent GS and I love them to death. With that being said, I can’t bring myself to getting one since they have such a short lifespan due to the infirmities they are genetically predisposed to.........


35 posted on 02/29/2012 2:36:07 PM PST by Hot Tabasco (The only solution to this primary is a shoot out! Last person standing picks the candidate)
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To: Georgia Girl 2

My beloved Lola died ,now almost 2 years ago at age 12.
When she was about 10 yrs old, I called my vet and asked her, when the time comes, would you come to the house.
she said,”Of course, yes.”

At age 12,Lola died on her bed two hours before the vet was to come..but it was reassuring to me to know in advance the vet would come to the house.


36 posted on 02/29/2012 2:36:30 PM PST by Recovering Ex-hippie (NEWT in 2012)
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To: jusduat

What did you love about your kitty, I love mine because he follows me covertly when i am walking the dogs. This cat has followed us on walks since he was little.
A ginger cat


37 posted on 02/29/2012 2:39:42 PM PST by mel (There are only 2 races decent and undecent people)
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To: stillafreemind
The Hunt
38 posted on 02/29/2012 3:02:09 PM PST by kanawa
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To: SaraJohnson

I hope he’ll change his mind. It won’t be the same but ... Our daughter took the decision from us. Forced me to go with her to find another lab from lab rescue.

Fortunately, Bubba was near death from neglect and abuse and required a LOT of care. That kind of rescued my husband. He was only two but, unfortunately that was 9 years ago.


39 posted on 02/29/2012 3:05:03 PM PST by altura
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To: muir_redwoods
... I will be looking for a geriatric dog to bring home from a shelter....

Please do. It's the old dogs that are overlooked when people are choosing a new dog, and these dogs have so much to give. I know.

40 posted on 02/29/2012 5:32:58 PM PST by OldPossum (ou)
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To: muir_redwoods

And yes, God will bless you for such a kind act.


41 posted on 02/29/2012 5:34:46 PM PST by OldPossum (ou)
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To: God luvs America
This song comforts me: http://www.petloss.com/precious.htm
42 posted on 02/29/2012 6:27:43 PM PST by Bronzy (Send a NEWTron to Obama!)
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To: C. Edmund Wright

I’m so sorry.

There is a poem I can’t seem to lay my hands on right now that is from a dog’s point of view.

It’s all the regular..feed me, love me stuff.

But the last line always offers me comfort in these circumstances.

“My fate was always safe in your hands.”


43 posted on 02/29/2012 8:30:35 PM PST by berdie
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To: caww

Yes they seem to learn very quickly that indoors is better than outdoors. LOL!


44 posted on 02/29/2012 8:54:06 PM PST by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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To: kanawa

Thanks. Good line in, “a man will walk into hell with both eyes open. Kind of like the ass and the angel from the good book.


45 posted on 03/01/2012 3:36:08 AM PST by wita
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To: stillafreemind

It never gets easy to do this. RIP Molly.


46 posted on 03/01/2012 9:38:33 AM PST by tob2 (November can't come soon enough for me.)
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To: mel

Tom was a party cat. We have a lot of people over on the
weekends to play water volleyball, cook, eat and other
games. Tom would always welcome our friends as they came
into the backyard, and then collect a sample of whatever
anyone cooked on the grill. In the winter, he had to have
chair at the card table. He just loved parties.
He would follow us around in the yard, he just wanted to
be wherever me and my husband were. We have other cats,
but there will never be another like our Tom.


47 posted on 03/01/2012 12:39:45 PM PST by jusduat (on the mercy of the Lord alone.)
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To: Jack Burton007

She also let us know each night that it was time for the kids to go to bed. She would round us all up and go first to my son’s room. Then she would race my daughter up the stairs to her room and then after the kids were in bed she would go to bed herself.

___________________________

She sounds like she was a wonderful dog. :) It is amazing, how intuitive they are. When I’m home sick, and the kids’s school bus is about ten minutes away, our new dog, Zoey (we adopted her from a shelter with that name), gets very exicted and stares out the window.

Then, at around 5:22, my kids bring her for a walk to meet my husband at his bus top. It never fails... she runs over about five minute before,starts throwing boots and shoes and getting into the play position and growling.

Dogs are amazing animals. :)


48 posted on 03/01/2012 9:45:09 PM PST by proud American in Canada
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To: dainbramaged

There are many posts of “If It Should Be” around the net, most of them listing the author as “anonymous”.

This was actually written by Julia Napier, c.1999:
http://www.argusinstitute.colostate.edu/If%20I%20Should%20Grow%20Frail.pdf

A simple, beautiful work.


49 posted on 03/11/2012 7:01:20 PM PDT by Road Glide
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To: berdie

[[ There is a poem I can’t seem to lay my hands on right now that is from a dog’s point of view.
It’s all the regular..feed me, love me stuff.
But the last line always offers me comfort in these circumstances.
“My fate was always safe in your hands.” ]]

Is this what you’re thinking of?
http://www.timertinydogs.com/apetsprayer.htm


50 posted on 03/11/2012 7:14:39 PM PDT by Road Glide
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