I’m not a coach or anything, but...
In my limited experience working with little boys in LEGO team and doing a skit for the school talent show, I have learned that activity really helps. Teach them something. Send them on a run to the far fence and back. Teach them another thing. Send them out again. (I later learned from the boys that the thing they loved most about talent show practice was the running.)
It may look like nothing is sinking in, whatsoever. Then, when the pressure is on, they focus and make you PROUD. So the other thing boys need is a Reason to do something. A competition, a performance, a big reward. If there’s no Reason, they feel like they may as well just cut up and horse around.
Also, they have an innate sense of fairness and justice. If you think you want to be merciful and cut somebody some slack, it will backfire because the boys will think you are playing favorites or being unfair. They want bright lines and consistency.
I have a friend who uses the quotation “the child is the father of the man.” He’s so right. If we parent kids the way they really should be parented, we become more mature adults in the process.
You hit a lot of the points that John Taylor Gatto wrote about in The Underground History of American Education. Think its online free to read now.
Anyways, the Prussian school system is designed to destroy “thinking outside the box” by using peer pressure and humiliation to form “group think”—the one way to think about any issue-—the Marxist, collective, no God way.
It teaches dependence on everything—even going to the bathroom needs permission-—unlike the one room school house and independence and freedom to read and work at your own pace and level—smarter kids worked with older kids—they learned to appreciate all ages.
You never were forced to attend school—just went if you wanted to learn—so if the kids didn’t like the teacher—if the teacher never taught them anything—they never even attended school.
Our most free thinkers and most intellectual ones-—people who don’t conform to public pressure were most likely home-schooled or taught by a tudor like Lincoln and our Founding Fathers. People who never ever were afraid to express their opinions—because they were not conditioned for 12 years to feel humiliated for thinking differently from peers and corrected by a “teacher” to “guide” them to the “correct” relativistic worldview.
All children in public schools prior to Dewey were taught Objective Truth and learned passages from the Bible and strict discipline was always important to the classroom. Not since the Marxists took charge though—now every thing is set up for brainwashing into moral relativism—to destroy the principles of our Constitution-—Natural Rights from God. Kill God—they kill all morality and society collapses. Nietzsche, and even Freud knew that.
My son had a teacher like that in k-5. Now that he's a high school junior he is a long distance runner and he's looking at paying his way through college with running scholarships! LOL