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Why Men Can't and Shouldn't Stop Staring at Women
The Globe and Mail ^ | Friday, Mar. 23, 2012 | Ian Brown

Posted on 03/25/2012 11:23:57 PM PDT by nickcarraway

Before we discuss why it is men can't and shouldn't stop looking at women in the street, I'd like to explain about the girl in the miniskirt on the bicycle.

It was the first of the warm spring days that inflated Toronto this week. I was on my way to work on my bicycle. Two blocks from my house, I turned right and found myself 10 feet behind a young woman.

I use the word “behind” hesitantly.

She might have been 20. I am 58. She had long blond hair, and was wearing a short putty-coloured jacket, nude hose – I didn't think anyone wore nude hose any more – and a white miniskirt, trim but straining, tucked primly beneath her.

My first sight of her felt like a light blow to the chest. Her body held my interest, but so did her decision to wear a miniskirt on a bike, along with her youth, her loveliness, even the fleetingness of the six blocks I kept her company – she turned right, and she was gone. We owed each other nothing.

The inevitable backwash of guilt arrived, as all men know it does. I have a daughter her age. I am married but spent several minutes gazing at a pretty girl's backside. I could hear the charges: objectifier, perv, pig, man.

But it was such a beautiful day. And so I decided to spend the rest of it cruising the city, investigating the famous male gaze, to find out just how ashamed we lads ought to feel. These days, with women charging so fast past us, we're happy to feel anything.

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Details that catch my attention: lively calves, French blue puff skirts with white polka dots, red shoes, dark skin, olive skin, pale skin, lips (various shapes), curly hair

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1 posted on 03/25/2012 11:24:02 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

Ian Brown has a keen eye.


2 posted on 03/25/2012 11:28:57 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: nickcarraway

I tell my wife a similar thing. -It’s not the looking at women that you should worry about... it’s if it were to stop.


3 posted on 03/25/2012 11:32:15 PM PDT by Nachum (The complete Obama list at www.nachumlist.com)
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To: nickcarraway
Kevin Ayers~ May I?
4 posted on 03/25/2012 11:33:45 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: nickcarraway

ah, springtime...

There’s more to it than just pretty girls wearing less clothes. There’s more to it than just warmer air temps. I don’t know what it is. more minutes of sunlight? Something changes not only your brain, but also your body. It’s like a drug.


5 posted on 03/25/2012 11:38:57 PM PDT by mamelukesabre
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To: nickcarraway

bookmark


6 posted on 03/25/2012 11:41:31 PM PDT by GOP Poet
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To: nickcarraway

Lol, men have always stared at pretty women......but, did you get a look at her face? snicker.

Springtime brings a feeling of renewal. I live for springtime each year.


7 posted on 03/25/2012 11:53:15 PM PDT by potlatch
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To: nickcarraway
I could hear the charges: objectifier, perv, pig, man. Alive.
8 posted on 03/25/2012 11:57:06 PM PDT by TigersEye (Life is about choices. Your choices. Make good ones.)
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To: Nachum

I told my wife, “When I stop looking, then it’s time to get my glands checked.”


9 posted on 03/26/2012 12:05:53 AM PDT by reg45 (Barack 0bama: Implementing class warfare by having no class!)
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To: potlatch

Ahhh the roving eye..

The bouncing breast..

Hardly a crime. A testament maybe, but not a crime.


10 posted on 03/26/2012 12:07:34 AM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: nickcarraway
I turned right and found myself 10 feet behind a young woman. I use the word “behind” hesitantly.

As Rush Limbaugh said, I love the women's movement — especially when I'm walking behind it!

11 posted on 03/26/2012 12:17:15 AM PDT by cynwoody
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To: nickcarraway
You can't go to jail for what you're thinking.

12 posted on 03/26/2012 12:20:13 AM PDT by I see my hands (It's time to.. KICK OUT THE JAMS, MOTHER FREEPERS!)
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To: nickcarraway
Back in the days before everyone always carried a camera I always carried a camera. I not only looked but often took pics of women and girls. If you gave them the right kind of smile they never seemed to mind. Here is a favorite taken at Villa d'Este outside of Rome.


13 posted on 03/26/2012 12:32:57 AM PDT by I see my hands (It's time to.. KICK OUT THE JAMS, MOTHER FREEPERS!)
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To: mylife

NO, not a crime or the human race would cease to be. Even women look.......but not at a ‘bouncing breast’ - unless one is ‘strange’, lol.


14 posted on 03/26/2012 12:33:22 AM PDT by potlatch
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To: Nachum

I tell my lovely spouse that the day I stop looking at pretty girls, she can bury me. I’m already dead. She still teases me about it though.

On that line, I can tell you that in my experience, a smile from a pretty young lady can take 10 years off your shoulders, stiffen your spine, put a snap in your step and pretty much make your day.

What a wonderful world it is that has girls in it!


15 posted on 03/26/2012 12:46:42 AM PDT by Ronin (Sarah.... We really need you now!)
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To: Ronin

“...a smile from a pretty young lady can take 10 years off your shoulders...”

That happened to me once. Then she looked at my cute little kids and said “How adorable - are you their grandfather?”

Sigh....


16 posted on 03/26/2012 12:57:30 AM PDT by 21twelve
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To: I see my hands
You can't go to jail for what you're thinking.

Give the Leftists another two or three years in power and that will also change.

17 posted on 03/26/2012 1:37:25 AM PDT by OldMissileer (Atlas, Titan, Minuteman, PK. Winners of the Cold War)
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To: nickcarraway

The last time someone called me a dirty old man. I thanked them. I may be getting old, but I’m not dead!


18 posted on 03/26/2012 1:44:47 AM PDT by BigCinBigD
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To: 21twelve

LOL... that one happens to all of us. Oh well...


19 posted on 03/26/2012 2:25:40 AM PDT by Ronin (Sarah.... We really need you now!)
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To: 21twelve

The smile removed 10 years and the remark added 40.


20 posted on 03/26/2012 2:48:22 AM PDT by skr (May God confound the enemy)
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To: nickcarraway

I tell my wife I look because looking at beautiful women led me to her and the payoff for that effort was so magically, wonderful that I can never stop confirming that I got the best one out there.

And I truly mean it.


21 posted on 03/26/2012 3:23:52 AM PDT by muir_redwoods (No wonder this administration favors abortion; everything they have done is an abortion xa)
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To: nickcarraway

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/82069490/?lt=em


22 posted on 03/26/2012 3:37:28 AM PDT by Jeff Gordon (Don't pick a fight with an old man. If he is too old to fight, he'll just kill you.)
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23 posted on 03/26/2012 4:21:41 AM PDT by petercooper (The one difference between Obama & Romney: Obama is only half white.)
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To: petercooper

What a morning eye-opener! Thanks for starting my day off right.

:^)


24 posted on 03/26/2012 4:28:34 AM PDT by elcid1970 ("Deport all Muslims. Nuke Mecca now. Death to Islam means freedom for all mankind.")
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To: petercooper

Woof!


25 posted on 03/26/2012 4:31:56 AM PDT by csense
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To: nickcarraway

I saw one yesterday, that would make a Bulldog break his chain.

Tight top with her black bra showing through, one of the finest butts ever seen in tight jeans. Beautiful girl.

We all have to remember that she knows what she looks like and she is flaunting it. Why shouldn’t we look.

The word is that if we have lust in our hearts we have committed the sin of adultery. Well I committed it yesterday in the heart , but the feeling just wasn’t the same .

I am 69 and when I stop looking I will be ready to go.


26 posted on 03/26/2012 4:33:05 AM PDT by Venturer
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To: petercooper

27 posted on 03/26/2012 4:40:11 AM PDT by King Moonracer (Bad lighting and cheap fabric, that's how you sell clothing.....)
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To: sauropod

home


28 posted on 03/26/2012 4:40:24 AM PDT by sauropod (You can elect your very own tyranny - Mark Levin)
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To: nickcarraway

Anyone under 40 (maybe even 50) doesn’t wear hose anymore by choice, but some jobs require you to wear hose (nursing, waitressing, some office environments).

So the woman in question could have been any age.


29 posted on 03/26/2012 5:08:07 AM PDT by randita
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To: Venturer
"...if we have lust in our hearts we have committed the sin of adultery."

Oh I know I'll never make it past the Pearly Gates! I'm not even trying!

My only hope is that St. Peter has a good sense of humor.

30 posted on 03/26/2012 5:16:10 AM PDT by Savage Beast ("When even casual sex requires a state welfare program, you're pretty much done for." ~Mark Steyn)
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To: Venturer
"...if we have lust in our hearts we have committed the sin of adultery."

Oh I know I'll never make it past the Pearly Gates! I'm not even trying!

My only hope is that St. Peter has a good sense of humor.

31 posted on 03/26/2012 5:16:10 AM PDT by Savage Beast ("When even casual sex requires a state welfare program, you're pretty much done for." ~Mark Steyn)
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To: petercooper

There is a word for her.

Perfect!


32 posted on 03/26/2012 5:19:43 AM PDT by EQAndyBuzz (Solyent Pink is Sheeple!!!!)
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To: nickcarraway

True, but women also stare at, or sneak furtive glances, at men. I remember years ago working in an office for a Fortune 500 corp sitting at my desk when a certain young, copier machine repairman would show up to fix the thing after it had broken down. As the guy was working, many women in the area (no cubicles then) would make comments about what he was wearing, if he had shaved his beard, and whatnot. And this was young women and middle-aged women. So while we males gaze at the babes, women are doing the same thing. If there’s an attractive male in the area, they notice him. They, the women, might restrict their gazes to a smaller group of men, but they’re gazing just the same.


33 posted on 03/26/2012 5:21:52 AM PDT by driftless2
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To: reg45
"my wife"

My wife and I have an agreement: you can look, but you can't touch. My wife is a huge Jeff Gordon fan. I told her once that if Gordon knocked on our door, I suspected she'd leave me for him. Her very reaffirming response was that Jeff Gordon would never knock on our door.

34 posted on 03/26/2012 5:25:13 AM PDT by driftless2
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To: nickcarraway

Before my wife and I were married she commented once that she would have no problem pointing out lovely women to me. It freed me up to comment when I noticed (really stupid). Any way, she finally said she took it back. I didn’t need any help.

But the whole thing goes much deeper than that, and she knows she reaps the benefits.

We’re both also 58 and I have four daughters between the ages of 24 and 36. I would not have stared at this girl on the bike, but I definitely would have noticed, and stopped looking through pure force of will.


35 posted on 03/26/2012 5:27:29 AM PDT by cuban leaf (Were doomed! Details at eleven.)
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To: 21twelve

—That happened to me once. Then she looked at my cute little kids and said “How adorable - are you their grandfather?”—

I got the opposite. I was asked if I was their father and I said, “no, I’m their grandfather”. I think it’s partly because people have kids later now, though.


36 posted on 03/26/2012 5:30:46 AM PDT by cuban leaf (Were doomed! Details at eleven.)
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To: 21twelve

are you their grandfather?”

Sigh....

LOL !!!!! this made my day, thanks!!!!! :-)))))


37 posted on 03/26/2012 5:35:42 AM PDT by buck61
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To: nickcarraway

A few years ago I was waiting to cross the street near a very old man and one of the most beautiful looking women I’ve ever seen was on the other side wearing only a tiny dress. As we crossed, the old man and I obviously could not take our eyes off her. Then he suddenly lost his breath and sat on the curb in pain. I called the ambulance and it was most likely a heart attack.

He said was “young man, be careful! They can kill you without even knowing it. Especially at my age.”

We really do have so many stunners here in NYC.


38 posted on 03/26/2012 5:45:15 AM PDT by varyouga
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To: elcid1970

39 posted on 03/26/2012 5:59:00 AM PDT by petercooper (The one difference between Obama & Romney: Obama is only half white.)
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To: nickcarraway

I’m pushing 55. Just because I’m on diet don’t mean I can’t look at the menu.


40 posted on 03/26/2012 6:03:40 AM PDT by 4yearlurker (Sorry,no tag line today.)
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To: mamelukesabre

It’s called Vitaman D.


41 posted on 03/26/2012 6:06:38 AM PDT by Durus (You can avoid reality, but you cannot avoid the consequences of avoiding reality. Ayn Rand)
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To: nickcarraway
I have absolutely no idea what this guy is talking about ...


42 posted on 03/26/2012 6:07:52 AM PDT by Liberty Valance (Keep a simple manner for a happy life :o)
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To: petercooper
Ok I am gonna be 48 this summer but my motto is I will be a dirty old man until I am a dead old man. These photos got my heart pumping better than a strong cup of coffee.

I want one of these beauties around the house, Can I place a mail-order?

43 posted on 03/26/2012 6:15:21 AM PDT by SledgeCS (I will vote for Obama when he says "The F'ing MUSLIMS attacked the USA and are the enemy")
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To: petercooper

Thank you, and good morning!


44 posted on 03/26/2012 7:16:56 AM PDT by andy58-in-nh (America does not need to be organized: it needs to be liberated.)
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To: petercooper

Wow! You have heaped my plate to overflowing. That is one gorgeous girl!

However, that’s just a digital image on a computer screen. My wife is real, good-looking, and close by. She’s going to have to fill in the slack. Now if you’ll excuse me.....


45 posted on 03/26/2012 7:26:09 AM PDT by elcid1970 ("Deport all Muslims. Nuke Mecca now. Death to Islam means freedom for all mankind.")
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To: petercooper

Wow! You have heaped my plate to overflowing. That is one gorgeous girl!

However, that’s just a digital image on a computer screen. My wife is real, good-looking, and close by. She’s going to have to fill in the slack. Now if you’ll excuse me.....


46 posted on 03/26/2012 7:26:51 AM PDT by elcid1970 ("Deport all Muslims. Nuke Mecca now. Death to Islam means freedom for all mankind.")
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To: nickcarraway

“When they saw her, each man’s knees smote together. Each desired to lay with her”....Homer from the ODDESSEY, when the suitors of Penelope saw her.


47 posted on 03/26/2012 7:31:51 AM PDT by Ruy Dias de Bivar
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To: mamelukesabre

***There’s more to it than just pretty girls wearing less clothes. ***

A beautiful girl does not have to wear less clothes to look beautiful (but it helps). I am in love with some of the stunning beauties drawn by Charles Dana Gibson back in the early 1900s.


48 posted on 03/26/2012 7:57:35 AM PDT by Ruy Dias de Bivar
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To: petercooper
And now for something totaly different:


49 posted on 03/26/2012 8:04:29 AM PDT by NCC-1701 (In Memphis on January 20, 2009, pump price were $1.49. We all know what happened after that.)
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To: petercooper
And now for something totaly different:


50 posted on 03/26/2012 8:06:52 AM PDT by NCC-1701 (In Memphis on January 20, 2009, pump price were $1.49. We all know what happened after that.)
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