Skip to comments.NYT writer: I might have a daughter if I hadnít aborted, but I donít regret it
Posted on 04/19/2012 12:40:06 PM PDT by Morgana
A guest writer for the New York Times has described her daydreams about the infant daughter she aborted, but says that she is thankful she has been spared the agonizing sadness of guilt and regret suffered by countless other post-abortive mothers, and that she doesnt grieve the child lost to abortion.
Susan Heath of New York described her gratitude for the ease of obtaining her own abortion at Planned Parenthood years ago when, after bringing four children into the world, her contraception failed.
Im pregnant but Im not trapped. All I had to do was call the clinic and make an appointment, she wrote. Rather than fearing bombs or running the gantlet between pickets shouting at me that Im a murderer, she says the path was smooth, thanks in part to an abortion counselor who didnt show her pictures of her unborn childs development.
Heath described a hassle-free abortion procedure, including kind abortion workers who tuck [her] up under a blanket afterwards. She was so grateful, she says, that she donated several hundred dollars to Planned Parenthood despite her insurance paying for the abortion.
But the writer recalls one brief post-abortive memory linking her story to that of many mothers who, she concedes, didnt have such an easy ride:
Two years later, Im driving upstate by myself. I look down and think that if I hadnt had the abortion, there would be a baby seat next to me with a small child in it, resting comfortably, knowing it would always be safe because I was in charge. It might be a girl I would have liked to have a daughter in the family mix.
But Im not grieving over the absence; I dont have and never have had a single qualm about not bringing that child into the world. I know many women who have grieved greatly over the children they decided not to have, and I am thankful to have been spared that agonizing sadness of guilt and regret. I also know many women who, like me, have felt only gratitude and relief at having been able to take control over their lives safely and legally.
Heath concludes by celebrating that her living progeny, including five grandsons and three granddaughters, will have the same legal right to choose that I had.
He describes these women as uniformly psychologically damaged, some near suicide, all having problems forming and maintaining other human relationships.
I’d bet that she has those thoughts more often and does not realize that they are grief.She probably drinks a lot to make them go away.....
There are reasons why "Xanax" (and others) are a drug of choice among women.
IMHO, it's one thing to have an abortion. It's certainly not for me, or Mrs WBill. However, the author did it, it's done, and now she needs to reconcile herself to what she did.
It's quite another thing, IMO, to stand up and announce loudly in a public forum that you not only did such a thing, but also don't regret it a bit. "Sociopath" comes to my mind, immediately.
Guilt and envy are two of the most powerful emotions we know.
I know several women who had abortions in their 20’s (it was “inconvenient”, “a mistake” etc)
They are now past childbearing age, and I sense in them two emotions: guilt, that they have now realized they did something wrong; and envy, because they see their friends who had all the children they wanted and did not abort any, enjoying their lives with the little ones.
In the end, most of us cannot leave anything past our graves, except our posterity... that is, our children and grandchildren.
Prisons are full of people without remorse. How wonderful.
And the legal option of aborting breeds sociopaths, also known as feminists.
Ironic phrasing since she spent the control she had on murdering the child.
To be grateful for the abscence of a conscience? Odd, but it does help one to do immoral things without that pesky thing called guilt.
I also know many women who, like me, have felt only gratitude and relief at having been able to take control over their lives safely and legally.
One can be certain the unborn children feel no gratitude and relief when the abortionist is "taking control" of their lives on the operating table. It's only "safe" for the person not being killed. Two people enter a clinic, and one person comes out.
I’m always amazed by the rationalization that the child in the womb is not “in the world.” Where is the mother’s womb? Outerspace?
I remember a few years ago hearing that breast cancer had been associated with abortion. Has that been found to be untrue, because I haven’t heard it mentioned lately.
You haven't heard it lately because it is true.
Her other children must feel special, since they escaped the scalpel. But loved? Perhaps not.
Too bad her mother didn’t abort her. She’s obviously a mentally defective, child-killing, mean-spirited, murdering monster that thinks nothing of killing children.