Skip to comments.WOMAN OF MY DREAMS?
Posted on 04/21/2012 12:42:50 AM PDT by mamelukesabre
I am a middle aged single guy with no ex wives and no kids. I've never been married and never knocked up no one. For the last 12 years I've been trying hard to find that perfect someone. You may remember me having threads on this very same topic. I recently had a couple of relationships with young asian girls and posted about it...only to have those threads yanked by the FR mods.
The asian girlfriend I broke up with and posted about is still around but we don't get along that well anymore. I found another asian girl younger than her but she is no longer in the picture. She decided I was too old. She probably had a point since she was only 26. Please see my previous threads about my physical fitness. I have been working my ass off to look 15 years younger than my age and I think I have pulled it off except for baldness.
Tonight I met a new girl and I am already in love. There is just one problem. She is a 20 year old law student from Estonia. She is short and chubby and wears very thick glasses. She is very old for her age if you know what I mean. I spent the evening dancing with and drinking with her friends.
We've already made arrangements for the future. I know I am a complete idiot. I can't help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.
I actually wish I really was making this up.
The heart wants what it wants.
Peace and blessings.
Unfortunately for you men though the younger gals are often looking at you for your security. So you have your part to uphold.
There is nothing wrong with going for what you want in my opinion. You do however have to uphold what she is often looking to you for as well though and this may be why older men choose older women. (one of the many reasons as we are also more experienced in the sack and in the head and heart :-)
As someone who dated a man 12 years my senior for six years that started when I was twenty one, I can attest to the fact that his wealth and looks were factors. As soon as his belly showed up and his pocket book depleted and his chin show signs of drooping, I suddenly found men my own age interesting again. Just saying.
You also better be a good lover. Age and experience only keep a young girls interest for so long. Diamonds though are forever. haha.
You make me hate myself
My advice? Ride your horse and see where it takes you. If you continue to desire and can attract younger ladies then this is where you are at and it is working for you. Enjoy it and swallow it whole. It will take you where you need to go. Who knows where that is. In the interim just enjoy it. Get out of your head. Life is too short.
Why? There is nothing wrong with reality. Women are often attracted to money. Do we hate ourselves? No! haha. :)
Go for it, dude. You only go around once.
Perhaps more “the crotch wants what the crotch wants” as logical thinking is absent.
Sounds like a shallow relationship on both sides. Bail when the other ain’t up to snuff anymore.
You need to guard this within yourself as well and realize one day she too will be older and aging. She will not be forever young and your fantasies need to be told this every once in awhile when your obsession for the youthful female take you over. They will all be older and aged one day.
I retired in 2010 and make more money now than when I worked, for various reasons. I have been divorced twice (they were so glad to get rid of me I never paid a cent in alimony). Since retirement I have dated quite a bit and recently met a 35 year old woman who I realized liked the money I spent on her, for fun. The other night she said the 27 year difference in our ages made no difference to her, could she move in with me so we could be together more? I quietly sipped my drink, set it down and looked her straight in the eye and softly said “ It would cut into my deep sea fishing trips too much.”
I’d love to have you educate us all about your dating and love history since your first crush. I bet there were a lot of attempt to date a chick because you found her hot. Or am I wrong?
All right. You should take that tendonitis seriously and modify your exercise routine to give your body time to heal.
As for your love life, best of luck.
all long term relationships are complicated. notice I was not married to the man. nor married him. i am married to day. that is a real relationship commitment. all the rest often are superficially based. that is why they don’t last a lifetime.
I think you're twenty days too late.
If you're serious, I have nothing to say except good luck, you'll need it.
I love a person that understand life and themselves more importantly and can articulate it. that to me is maturity. love it!!
Hubby’s 18 years older than I am, just about flat broke, got a spare tire and I wouldn’t trade him for the world.
:-). And then there’s this . . . love. Awesome! thanks for the post my dear. Lucky, blessed man.
Did u work for the secret service?
Seriously dude. Im in the same boat. Don’t have any kids (can’t stand them). Do what you want and enjoy! I do! And wrap your pecker so that doesn’t change..
Damn straight that poor, fat old coot is lucky....LOL
is it me or is she mildly digestible in this pic?
Clean your glasses....LOL
It must be the pearls.
In the end it is a woman like you who is every man’s heart dream. A woman who wil always love his fat, poor ass! haha. My honey loves me through it all and I am truly blessed as well.
And he honored her offer.
And all night long
He was on her and off her.
Well, to be honest, sometimes I’m more like his worst nightmare.
[but I digress]
i think we lost the OP, but we’re having a hell of a time :)! He’s probably out getting laid sucking in the belly while we have all the laughs. haha
haha. Yep. It’s confirmed. Sounds like love to me :).
He’s a hit-and-run poster.
You should’ve been there for his “finding the perfect dog” thread.
What an auto-immolation that was.
great advice!!! nice touch on the secret service comment. haha.
My advice (I am a woman): Slow down and stop trying so hard! Be yourself. True love comes when you least expect it and weren’t forcing yourself to try and find companionship.
You can’t change anyone, so don’t try to. Move on if something about that person really bothers you, because if it’s hard to take now it won’t get any easier.
Talk to a lot of people and don’t have it in your head “Could this be the one?” Just talk to them as people, and you’ll know it in your gut as well as your heart if you’ve found true love. When someone seems like they’re
constantly trying to meet “Miss Right”, they can come across as a stalker!
Relax. If this new, younger girl you met is meant to be your true love, like I said, take it slow. Dinner, a movie, talk about common interests, goals, what do either of you want in the way of a family? If you find you have common interests and a love connection, date at least a year before getting married, if you plan too. Things will reveal themselves in that time,
good or bad. And if it’s bad, walk away.
I was 22 and maybe it’s a female thing but finished college and started thinking about the future. Before it was just yeah, your my boyfriend, but I
got serious and tried so hard to find the right guy. I took a job in retail to make some money while I made resumes and looked for a career. I was so busy I forgot about my love life! And then in walked Mr. Right! We had so much in common! He was finishing college and wanted a P/T job. I got him hired the next day! We talked about everything! He still says he can sue me for sexual harassment at the work place! Two kids and going on 16 years of Marriage, we’re still together.
One funny thing is I always said I loved the way he dressed. Later, I found out he would go into a high end department story and find a mannequin that looked good and request those clothes in his size! So he could never dress the kids when they were little, you should have seen what he’d have them wearing!
auto immolation! haha. dang. sorry i missed it. finding the perfect dog and the perfect young strange. no wonder he has tendinitis. dude’s a mess. If you have the link can you post it? I need a good life. Auto immolation. just hilarious!
great story and advice. thanks for sharing. love the mannequin details and ensuing fallout from that—haha. Definitely should still sue you ;).
I know a guy that is on his fifth wife from the Phillipines. I imagine he is around 62 now. He brings them over to the U.S., they make for a good wife cooking, keeping house, “and they are all REALLY good in bed.”
After whatever years they have been married and they have full citizenship or a green card or something, they ask for a divorce.
“That’s fine - by that time I’m wanting something different anyway. Its sort of like leasing a fancy car - and about the same price too.”
The last time I saw him he was going to a “family” party with his current wife and all but one ex-wives. And his son that he had with the first one (an adult now).
I thought it pretty odd - but to each his own. And everyone is happy and got what they wanted.
Check yer mail....:)
I know I am a complete idiot. I can’t help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.
Dude. Have one more drink and go to bed. Wake up and go fishing. I am. And with no asian females...
You aren't going to get younger and may not be able to maintain good physical condition into old age. You may get stuck with a younger woman who cleans out your life savings and leaves you drooling in your wheelchair.
Life IS an endless vicious cycle.
My great Aunt and Uncle were 18 years apart and when she told her father they were getting married, he said “What are you going to do when he gets older and you have to take care of him?” She said love him and take care of him! As life would have it, he lived to be 98 and she lived to be 82. He never really needed that much taking care of and they only died two years apart!
I doubt I’d survive mine by much, either.
Seriously, im 41 single. I have 4 degrees. Not a nerd. Quite the opposite. I am wanting the same as you. I don’t have kids and have been divorced once. No hard feelings. I still like to party. I fish. I have a boat. Im simple and I enjoy life. I hope that true love happens. But im not banking on it.. and im an average guy you would see at your workplace. I don’t care for drama and noise...
The ex took off and left me and my dogs cold, hungry and alone.
The car he left me was a Porsche Turbo 924 [Porsche is German for "you can't afford the parts"] so I had to sell it.
I put an ad in the paper and one day, the phone rings.
This DEEP voice asks if I still have the car.
[and I actually thought to myself, after hearing the voice, "Oh, good. Things aren't bad enough. Now the Devil is calling me]
So he comes to see the car but decides he's not interested in it...but is interested in me.
Two other guys were on their way to look at it and for some crazy reason, I asked him to stay until they left, 'just in case'.
I trust nobody but oddly, I trusted him completely and instantly.
He did stay and he passed his first test when my Ibizan Hounds loved him.
[they don't like *anybody*]
He passed the ultimate test when I let the Dobermanns and Am Staff downstairs to meet him. They licked him silly.
He came back the next day for a "date" and we've been together ever since.
So, basically, he kidnapped me.
[I love a Viking spirit!]...LOL
My parents were horrified when I brought this home to meet them
Nobody ever saw a thundering, Sicilian biker coming...LOL
Dear Mamelukesabre, Unlike you, I was divorced and having the burden of two very young daughters to raise on my own - the wife having abandoned all of us. There is no reason to go into the details, but for one thing:
I felt prompted to pray one sleepless night a couple of years after; that I would give my heart and service to a woman in need with one small son; not my will be done, but Thine.
That prayer was answered by Christ's grace. Today I have a ER Nurse that I give my heart and service and am privileged to pray daily for that wee lad now a Staff Sargent in the United States Air-Force.
My advice to you, friend in need, is to pray. Start with adoring God who answers prayer; give praise to God who has sustained you thus far. Confess as much sin as you can; cast as much selfishness as far away as you can. Thank the Lord for helping you to pray this way; thank Him that He knows the desire of your heart and what you will ask even before you ask it.
Then Ask in only one or two sentences and be specific as you can as you have felt prompted.
God delights in the prayers of His children and His answers are full of His excellence.
Many Answers to Prayer,
You offer good advice, too!