WOMAN OF MY DREAMS?

[mamelukesabre]

I am a middle aged single guy with no ex wives and no kids. I've never been married and never knocked up no one. For the last 12 years I've been trying hard to find that perfect someone. You may remember me having threads on this very same topic. I recently had a couple of relationships with young asian girls and posted about it...only to have those threads yanked by the FR mods.

The asian girlfriend I broke up with and posted about is still around but we don't get along that well anymore. I found another asian girl younger than her but she is no longer in the picture. She decided I was too old. She probably had a point since she was only 26. Please see my previous threads about my physical fitness. I have been working my ass off to look 15 years younger than my age and I think I have pulled it off except for baldness.

Tonight I met a new girl and I am already in love. There is just one problem. She is a 20 year old law student from Estonia. She is short and chubby and wears very thick glasses. She is very old for her age if you know what I mean. I spent the evening dancing with and drinking with her friends.

We've already made arrangements for the future. I know I am a complete idiot. I can't help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.

I actually wish I really was making this up.

Flame away

[21twelve]

I know a guy that is on his fifth wife from the Phillipines. I imagine he is around 62 now. He brings them over to the U.S., they make for a good wife cooking, keeping house, “and they are all REALLY good in bed.”

After whatever years they have been married and they have full citizenship or a green card or something, they ask for a divorce.

“That’s fine - by that time I’m wanting something different anyway. Its sort of like leasing a fancy car - and about the same price too.”

The last time I saw him he was going to a “family” party with his current wife and all but one ex-wives. And his son that he had with the first one (an adult now).

I thought it pretty odd - but to each his own. And everyone is happy and got what they wanted.

[Salamander]

Check yer mail....:)

[goseminoles]

I know I am a complete idiot. I can’t help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.

Dude. Have one more drink and go to bed. Wake up and go fishing. I am. And with no asian females...

[SWAMPSNIPER]

It's obvious, you are a complete idiot.

You aren't going to get younger and may not be able to maintain good physical condition into old age. You may get stuck with a younger woman who cleans out your life savings and leaves you drooling in your wheelchair.

Life IS an endless vicious cycle.

[MacMattico]

My great Aunt and Uncle were 18 years apart and when she told her father they were getting married, he said “What are you going to do when he gets older and you have to take care of him?” She said love him and take care of him! As life would have it, he lived to be 98 and she lived to be 82. He never really needed that much taking care of and they only died two years apart!

[Salamander]

Wow...that’s beautiful...:)

I doubt I’d survive mine by much, either.

[goseminoles]

Seriously, im 41 single. I have 4 degrees. Not a nerd. Quite the opposite. I am wanting the same as you. I don’t have kids and have been divorced once. No hard feelings. I still like to party. I fish. I have a boat. Im simple and I enjoy life. I hope that true love happens. But im not banking on it.. and im an average guy you would see at your workplace. I don’t care for drama and noise...

[Salamander]

True story:

The ex took off and left me and my dogs cold, hungry and alone.

The car he left me was a Porsche Turbo 924 [Porsche is German for "you can't afford the parts"] so I had to sell it.

I put an ad in the paper and one day, the phone rings.

This DEEP voice asks if I still have the car.

[and I actually thought to myself, after hearing the voice, "Oh, good. Things aren't bad enough. Now the Devil is calling me]

So he comes to see the car but decides he's not interested in it...but is interested in me.

Two other guys were on their way to look at it and for some crazy reason, I asked him to stay until they left, 'just in case'.

I trust nobody but oddly, I trusted him completely and instantly.

He did stay and he passed his first test when my Ibizan Hounds loved him.

[they don't like *anybody*]

He passed the ultimate test when I let the Dobermanns and Am Staff downstairs to meet him. They licked him silly.

He came back the next day for a "date" and we've been together ever since.

So, basically, he kidnapped me.

[I love a Viking spirit!]...LOL

My parents were horrified when I brought this home to meet them

Nobody ever saw a thundering, Sicilian biker coming...LOL

[sr4402]

My life is an endless vicious cycle

Dear Mamelukesabre, Unlike you, I was divorced and having the burden of two very young daughters to raise on my own - the wife having abandoned all of us. There is no reason to go into the details, but for one thing:

I felt prompted to pray one sleepless night a couple of years after; that I would give my heart and service to a woman in need with one small son; not my will be done, but Thine.

That prayer was answered by Christ's grace. Today I have a ER Nurse that I give my heart and service and am privileged to pray daily for that wee lad now a Staff Sargent in the United States Air-Force.

My advice to you, friend in need, is to pray. Start with adoring God who answers prayer; give praise to God who has sustained you thus far. Confess as much sin as you can; cast as much selfishness as far away as you can. Thank the Lord for helping you to pray this way; thank Him that He knows the desire of your heart and what you will ask even before you ask it.

Then Ask in only one or two sentences and be specific as you can as you have felt prompted.

God delights in the prayers of His children and His answers are full of His excellence.

Many Answers to Prayer,

SR

[MacMattico]

You offer good advice, too!

[goseminoles]

Love your page, bike, ball python, and long hair!! I wish I knew how to construct my page. Anyways, nice to meet u and your hubby. Looks fun!

[Salamander]

FReepmail me and I can send you basic HTML and instructions.

[and thanks!]

Yeah, we’re fun, alright...like a sackful of coyotes and bobcats fun....LOL

[Casie]

Fun and easy 3 steps for ya!

Step 1: Grow up

Step 2: Stop soliciting strangers on the internet for advice on scoring “The Woman of your Dreams”.

Step 3: Have a real and meaningful relationship.

Thats all there is to it! Try not to over-think it.

[Bellflower]

My advise is figure out who you are in your heart of hearts. What do you really care about? What do you enjoy doing? What are your goals in life? These are the kind of questions that you need to ask about yourself. Get to know yourself better and then look for a lady that compliments who you really are on the inside.

Also, meditate on love. Find someone you can really love for who they are, not how old they are or if they are terribly beautiful. When you do find someone to really love, find out if they really love you. If you love each other then get married. To be married is to be committed to loving each other for your whole lifetime no matter what happens. Love is a choice and a commitment. Marriage is the ground by which that love can grow and flourish.

Of course, God is the source of true love, so get connected with Him and He will guide your love and love through you. Love focuses on it's object and not on it's self. Love is the song that life is meant to sing. Hope you find it's song.

[goseminoles]

At least he’s trying to find a conservative chic. Not easy. Trust me. I haven’t posted a want me ad, but man, this would be the place to find a good woman.

[djf]

I wish you the best of luck, god knows I have been single for too long...
But my bet would be thumbs down. The reason I say it is of the most successful relationships I have had, the very best were the ones where we were friends first. I have been single since my wife passed, going on about 12 yrs. We were married for about 12 years. I knew her and we were friends for about 2 1/2 years before we started going out.

But don’t get me wrong, I was hot for her even before we got together, she was a beautiful 5’2” blonde gal who weighed about 115 dripping wet...

But we were friends first and that was key.

Now I am so isolated I doubt whether that could ever happen again.

Good Luck!

[Bellflower]

We should have a rule on FR. Every time we post her picture we have to say a prayer for her. She could be saved in no time.

[MacMattico]

Can he still sue me if he admitted he enjoyed the harassment?:)

[goseminoles]

“Tonight I met a new girl and I am already in love. There is just one problem. She is a 20 year old law stud from Estonia. She is short and chubby and wears very thick glasses. She is very old for her age if you know what I mean. I spent the evening dancing with and drinking with her friends”

Oh grow up. This is my Friday and Saturday night in Tallahassee. Quit your bitchin.

[ToastedHead]

Hey mamelukesabre...there’s nothing hotter than a guy who knows who they are, knows what they want, goes after that aggressively, and adores you. We know whether we want you in about five seconds. Some red flags from your post - you shouldn’t feel like you have to “work out more” just for this chick...are you trying to re-create something from the past, with the obsession over age/nationality...you seem to want acceptance - that only comes from inside you, from knowing you do everything the best you can within reason, you TRY to live in a way that makes God happy (just try, He knows if you try, He loves you just the way you are)... Just let go, Babe, and trust things to be the way the way they’re supposed to be. I hope she’s your girl!