Skip to comments.Expectant mother badgered by pro-abortion co-workers to abort wanted baby
Posted on 06/12/2012 4:14:19 PM PDT by Morgana
Pressuring women to have an abortion is not limited to sexual abusers, manipulative husbands, and outraged relatives. One young professional is complaining that her co-workers are continually badgering her to abort her wanted unborn child, because it will interfere with her career.
Slate magazines weekly Dear Prudence feature showcases advice columnist Emily Yoffe in a video segment entitled Abortion Advocates on the Job.
The writer is a working woman in her late 20s who said she unexpectedly became pregnant a few years before she and her husband intended. The couple is happily keeping the baby. That did not make other working women in her life very happy.
When two co-workers heard about my situation, they became very upset that this pregnancy will cut short my career, she wrote. They sent me articles about regretful stay at home moms and links to sites that lay out options for abortion. They even went as far as to sign her up for an abortion support group.
The advice columnist began by wondering of her office-mates had confused themselves with the horrific Chinese officials who actually do have the power to force women to have abortions.
Her advice? Tell these pushy abortion advocates to leave you in peace or turn them in for disciplinary action:
If they say one more word about abortion or how having children ruins careers, you need to have a very stern talk with them. Say, Maybe I havent made it clear, but I am thrilled about becoming a mother, and I dont want to hear one more negative word about my pregnancy. Then if you do hear one more negative word, take their e-mails and go to your boss. Say you hate to leave on a sour note, but no other pregnant woman should have to put up with the harassment you have.
This is not to promote Yoffes advice, which I would studiously avoid in most cases. But her comments highlight an important and often unrecognized cultural dynamic. Dear Prudence, Emily Yoffe, is not a Christian and not pro-life. In fact, she refers to herself as an ardent proponent of abortion rights (although she says abortion is inevitably a sad and painful choice). A former writer for the liberal magazine The New Republic, Yoffe has objected to pro-life speech in previous columns.
But at least she has the intellectual integrity to acknowledge sometimes a womans choice means she chooses to have a child and not an abortion. Would that more on her side held such an open-minded view.
The fact that such a columnist felt a need to answer a letter like this demonstrates that in the modern feminist movement, pro-choice really means pro-abortion. A choice not to abort an unborn child is not respected.
The right to choose was simply an expedient euphemism to lull society into ignoring science, putting aside their conscience, and accepting the legalization of abortion. Social pressure in time becomes political pressure. As other nations show, eventually the choice disappears, but abortion remains as the best option for an abusive father, for her employers bottom line, or for the State.
In short, for everyone but the mother and the baby.
Even if they aren’t jealous now, someday they will be, when it is too late to sacrifice anything major for the child.
I think they are jealous right now! I honestly believe that most women would rather be at home taking care of 2.5 babies maybe more if they could afford it. They have just bought into this career crap and chasing the all mighty dollar is more important that having a baby. So when they see a co worker actually having one they get green with envy.
No chance that'll backfire.
or just want company in their misery for having aborted their own. Perretti nails the warped psychology in "Prophet."
That was my first thought as well.
these woymen just want another female to commiserate with over murdering their own children...
If I were this woman, I’d have the baby, wait a few years until the child was a bit older, and then bring him/her into to visit Mommy at the office. Then, while all the co-workers gather around to smile and fawn over the cute kid, I’d point out the pro-aborts and say: “Stay away from them, kiddo, they’re the ones who tried to get me to murder you!”
But there is a fundamental flaw in the thinking of the selfish: that they can have it all. That needs to be corrected. It’s the reason for the amoral rush to become pregnant by any means possible when they have delayed matters too long.
No, I got similar treatment from pro “choicers” when I was pregnant. They’re not jealous—they just think you’re overpopulating their nice little world.
I have always felt that people are pro abortion, not because they want the right to have an abortion, but because they don’t want YOU to have a baby. This includes men.
Abortion is an extremely selfish act
Why not ask those pressuring the woman to have an abortion how they would feel if this was their mother seeking to abort them.
Those who protest for abortion were all born, not aborted
Are you guys still banning people for recommending that pro-abortion types be invited to take the easy way out.
Having worked in HR, this would EASILY be considered a hostile work environment and if the company didn’t do something to alleviate her situation, they could AND SHOULD be held accountable! Especially if they are using company emails to persuade her to abort!
Child sacrifice is a Leftist religious act.
Its natural that they are trying to convert her to their religion. They have probably all killed their own children and don’t want a living child rubbed in their faces every day.
I ran into this at one of my first major engineering jobs. I was 26, married 3 years, husband working too, pregnant with first child. The men in my group except for my former jerk of a boss were supportive, even when I had to stop a presentation because someone brought in lunch that triggered morning sickness.
Yet the professional women asked how I could have a baby so young, was I really ready, I was so sick was I sure I wanted to keep going. My replies ranged from:
* I’m 26, not 16.
* Am I supposed to wait 16 more years and risk being too old?
* You’ve said that women can do it all, like have families and careers. Why are you criticizing me for doing what you say women should be able to do?
* Yes, I’m married and pregnant. I’m also a degreed engineer and one of the few women on the program in that profession. Except for my mentor, I might be the only one. How exactly is this hurting women?
“The men in my group except for my former jerk of a boss were supportive, even when I had to stop a presentation because someone brought in lunch that triggered morning sickness.”
I would have puked on that boss. He would have gotten the message loud and clear.
Wasn’t there a soap opera star who made a lot of money because they tried to pressure her into aborting her baby?
Dittos on Prophet, what a great book. It & his earlier 2 Darkness ones I never tire of.
These women must feel the absolute need to dominate men, to gather the most power. And it’s all at the expense of what. Would make them happier than any accomplishment.
These women must feel the absolute need to dominate men, to gather the most power. And it’s all at the expense of what would probably make them happier than any accomplishment.
Corrupt people can not tolerate the sight of love and honor in their midst. They must bring everyone down into the gutter with them so they don’t have to face the fact that they are in the gutter by looking at the lady standing on the sidewalk.
This is the ‘educated’ amoral society we have today.
You're both right.
Several older "career" women I know have blurted out, in my presence, their terrible bitterness at their childless state. (Whether they aborted their children, or simply waited too long to try to start a family, I've never asked.)
This confession tends to happen when the topic of my daughter comes up in conversation.
I think many women deeply wish they had a daughter. Sadly, they only fully realize this once they have reached middle age.