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Feminist Author, Women Should Have A Gaggle Of Men In Their Lives, Not Just One. (CNN BARF)
CNN ^ | June 14 2012 | CNN

Posted on 06/21/2012 8:53:09 AM PDT by trailhkr1

From the articleStop searching for Mr. Right and look around at all the Mr Right(s).

Like the “Gaggle," these three men can fulfill different needs - maybe you like to see movies with one, travel with another and cuddle with a third - which removes the burden of one man to fill all those slots. (Bwahhhaaa this would go over real well)

That’s the premise of "The Gaggle," a new book from Jessica Massa, who, along with Rebecca Wiegand, runs the website “WTF Is Up With My Love Life?!”

According to Massa and Wiegand, every woman - single or not - should have her own gaggle, a group of guys that occupy different roles in her life.

“You probably have a gaggle of friends, who all play different roles and fulfill different needs for you,” explains Massa. “You might call one friend to go shopping versus another friend when you’re upset versus another friend when you need a serious professional opinion. Your romantic gaggle is just another piece of the much larger, long-term puzzle of how you structure the relationships in your life to feel full, happy and loved.”

The men in this gaggle can include anyone from the barista you flirt with, to the ex-boyfriend you Skype, to the work buddy you commiserate with over lunch. Whether you end up dating one or more of them is just an added bonus.

“As a woman, having a gaggle provides you with a love life full of possibility: you have many men in your life, in many ambiguous but enriching ways, who are all teaching you about yourself and your needs and desires and leading you closer to the guy and relationship you want,” say Massa and Wiegand.

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Inb4..."Oh Paul, I don't want to have sex with you. That's what Mark’s for. Let's just go to this new movie.....tihihi...."

If a women told me that..well... she could just gaggle on my ****.

What sort of beta man would go for this arrangement!!

1 posted on 06/21/2012 8:53:13 AM PDT by trailhkr1
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To: trailhkr1

- maybe you like to see movies with one, travel with another and cuddle with a third - which removes the burden of one man to fill all those slots.

Did you mean “fill all those sluts?”


2 posted on 06/21/2012 8:56:48 AM PDT by Huskrrrr ( the will)
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To: trailhkr1

The true definition of hedonism.

It’s all about ME. My needs my desires. My personal fulfillment. I can USE other people.

I can do whatever I want to do. There are no consequences and nobody can tell me otherwise.


3 posted on 06/21/2012 8:56:53 AM PDT by Obadiah (2008: Hope & Change -- 2012: Fear & Destruction)
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To: trailhkr1
Sounds like a good way to end up without anyone.

As with all the other good advise offered to women by feminists, maybe thats the intent.

4 posted on 06/21/2012 8:57:15 AM PDT by skeeter
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To: trailhkr1
Hey, look at the bright side.
If the Tramp Stamp and Pin Cushion Brigade keeps three guys busy and entertained, that just leaves more of the normal cool women for the rest of us with less competition!
5 posted on 06/21/2012 9:01:10 AM PDT by publius911 (Formerly Publius 6961, formerly jennsdad)
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To: trailhkr1

They write books entitled “WTF Is Up With My Love Life?!”

and they then propose that women should seek multiple partners, for whatever needs they have at the time.

Anyone see an answer as to why their love life is f****ed up?


6 posted on 06/21/2012 9:04:44 AM PDT by PGR88
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To: trailhkr1

Rebecca Wiegand, runs the website “WTF Is Up With My Love Life?!”

OH! Pick me!!! I know answer to that!!!


7 posted on 06/21/2012 9:05:36 AM PDT by Psycho_Bunny (Burning the Quran is a waste of perfectly good fire.)
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To: trailhkr1

I wonder if the book mentions how to decide if a man can be added to the ‘gaggle?’

“Rule #1 - Make sure he only pees sitting down. That way you’ll never have to look before you sit on the toilet.”


8 posted on 06/21/2012 9:09:08 AM PDT by servo1969
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To: trailhkr1

She’s going to be very alone when she is older and no longer fun to pick up at a bar and sleep with because she has been replaced by younger models.


9 posted on 06/21/2012 9:09:31 AM PDT by TheThirdRuffian (I will never vote for Romney. Ever.)
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To: trailhkr1
Pretty much sums this up..


10 posted on 06/21/2012 9:09:31 AM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: trailhkr1

I would say the men that go for this do so because they have a gaggle of women... It used to be called playing the field- what is new?


11 posted on 06/21/2012 9:09:31 AM PDT by Tammy8 (~Secure the border and deport all illegals- do it now! ~ Support our Troops!~)
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To: trailhkr1

so, it’s really not Mr. Right(s)..it’s Mr Right Now.


12 posted on 06/21/2012 9:09:51 AM PDT by stylin19a (Obama - The Man Who Shot Liberty Valance)
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To: skeeter

Does this gal really think that the guy who loves her but isn’t ‘the one she sleeps with’, is going to wait forever?

What happens when that guy finds a gal who really loves him? ;)

I’ve been on that end before, and it’s rather fun saying, look. This is what I’m looking for. If you’re not interested, then feel free to get the love and support you need from the ‘guy you sleep with’. ;)


13 posted on 06/21/2012 9:10:23 AM PDT by JCBreckenridge (Texas, Texas, Whisky)
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To: trailhkr1
Once upon a time, there was a term for a woman who consciously surrounded herself with the sort of men in whom she took no romantic interest, indeed: with men who quite obviously took no such interest in her in favor of pursuits such as shopping and theater-going.

Let's see who recalls what that term was.

14 posted on 06/21/2012 9:10:35 AM PDT by andy58-in-nh (America does not need to be organized: it needs to be liberated.)
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To: trailhkr1

What kind of ‘man’? Allow me to explain ;)

The very same kind as these women. Each raised on a steady stream of ‘you’re special’ and in possession of a thousand ‘I Participated!!!” trophies.

The women call it their ‘gaggle’ and the men call it having ‘friends with benefits. They spend their lives running back and forth between fellow codependants whining all the while how their life sucks. Then they write these books, sell them to others on the horny-go-round and come about 40ish, find that they are alone, jaded, diseased, unwanted and...

then go out and vote democrat so others are assured to partake in their misery.

Seriously.


15 posted on 06/21/2012 9:11:06 AM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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To: Tammy8
I would say the men that go for this do so because they have a gaggle of women... It used to be called playing the field- what is new?

Tammy, the difference is the man when playing the field wants to have sex with all the women...these women only want sex with one or 2 guys and want to be friends with the rest..major difference.

16 posted on 06/21/2012 9:12:29 AM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: andy58-in-nh

Faghag?


17 posted on 06/21/2012 9:13:00 AM PDT by servo1969
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To: trailhkr1

I knew a number of these types of sluts in my younger days. Today they are lonely, bitter, old ugly hags all used up and without anyone or trust in their lives. They usually become cat women.


18 posted on 06/21/2012 9:14:46 AM PDT by CodeToad (Homosexuals are homophobes. They insist on being called 'gay' instead.)
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To: publius911

Real women did not write this article or book.


19 posted on 06/21/2012 9:15:20 AM PDT by mrsloungitude ( USMC Mom)
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To: trailhkr1

Guess dating one person and then moving onto another if it’s not the right person, is too passe now.

Finding “the one” no longer is apparently the goal for libtards.

Sure makes catching stuff a lot more efficient. You know those kinds of people will just be content to be one of many stallions servicing one philly. What could go wrong?

Liberals rage against certain parts of human nature, and worship others. Viewing issues from the worldview of being utterly selfish and what’s the best for ME, will always allow you to determine if they are raging against, or worshipping, a certain part of human nature.


20 posted on 06/21/2012 9:17:16 AM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: trailhkr1

I imagine the response of these haughty succubi would be less than enthusiastic if the tables were turned.

I knew a group of these sorts of women when I lived in California. They were all cosmo-sipping, “you go girl” Sex and the City wannabe’s, all forever wondering why most of the men in their lives treated them as members of a harem rather than friends or potential long-term partners.

My standard line in these situations (”you want to act like a whore, don’t come sniveling to me when you get treated like one”) cost me a few friends and got me accused of being part of “rape culture” or some such nonsense a couple of times.

When will they learn?


21 posted on 06/21/2012 9:17:48 AM PDT by gzzimlich
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To: JCBreckenridge

Let the other guy have her. Life’s too short to waste on the indecisive.


22 posted on 06/21/2012 9:17:48 AM PDT by skeeter
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To: andy58-in-nh

A Fluke?


23 posted on 06/21/2012 9:18:36 AM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: trailhkr1

The women who write crap like that are part of a small liberal-feminist minority that is probably tiny even inside the left. Only rich, pampered women from elite, liberal circles think and write garbage like this. Think Erica Jong-Eve Ensler-Gail Collins-type dimwits who live in an alternate universe where reality doesn’t intrude.


24 posted on 06/21/2012 9:20:33 AM PDT by driftless2
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To: servo1969

Bingo. :) You beat me to it. Is this term used by the younger generation?


25 posted on 06/21/2012 9:21:38 AM PDT by mrsloungitude ( USMC Mom)
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To: Secret Agent Man
A Fluke?

A Dowd?

26 posted on 06/21/2012 9:23:17 AM PDT by Night Hides Not (My dream ticket for 2012 is John Galt & Dagny Taggart!)
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To: servo1969
Bingo! Your prize is two tickets to the off-off-off-Broadway production of La Cage Aux Folles accompanied by six lovely ladies (well, they're not exactly ladies, but...)

Kidding aside, my point is how deeply and intrinsically entwined the Feminist movement has become with the promotion of "gay" culture, specifically in its deconstruction of traditional heterosexual behaviors, its denial of natural sexuality, and the promotion of a hedonistic, value-free, inconsequential lifestyle.

27 posted on 06/21/2012 9:24:12 AM PDT by andy58-in-nh (America does not need to be organized: it needs to be liberated.)
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To: trailhkr1
If they're not careful, these women are going to turn into this lady:


It's probably all the sand.
28 posted on 06/21/2012 9:25:51 AM PDT by servo1969
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To: Secret Agent Man
A Fluke?

Good guess, but it's no "fluke" when a feminist desires to be surrounded only by men who will hold her Gucci handbag while she shops for underwear they'd secretly rather be wearing.

29 posted on 06/21/2012 9:27:16 AM PDT by andy58-in-nh (America does not need to be organized: it needs to be liberated.)
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To: trailhkr1
What these idiot women don't understand is men are only wanting to be friends with them if possible sex is involved....me included.

This Youtube clip sums it up. "Can men Just be friends With Women?"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

30 posted on 06/21/2012 9:34:17 AM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: trailhkr1

Of course, this model falls all to pieces right about the time the woman decides she wants a child. Finding a baby daddy isn’t hard, but just try to assemble a FAMILY out of that mess...


31 posted on 06/21/2012 9:38:14 AM PDT by Oberon (Big Brutha Be Watchin'.)
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To: trailhkr1

Gotta disagree with you on this one. It’s entirely possible to have friendships of the opposite sex. My faithful MTB partner is a woman. The fact that she’s hot makes riding behind her more interesting, but it doesn’t complicate the relationship. I can appreciate her attributes without wanting to betray my wife.


32 posted on 06/21/2012 9:46:26 AM PDT by Melas (u)
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To: trailhkr1

33 posted on 06/21/2012 9:46:35 AM PDT by JRios1968 (I'm guttery and trashy, with a hint of lemon. - Laz)
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To: trailhkr1

Take a look/listen at liberal women. They put the “gag” in gaggle.


34 posted on 06/21/2012 9:47:58 AM PDT by ItsForTheChildren
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Ok, so you’ve got your gaggle in place. Then you get pregnant. Of course DNA tests will prove which Gaggler did it. How wonderful will the other Gags be with said child when he has stomach flu and a fever of 102 at 3 am?

Stick with the father of your children. It’s not all about you.

And if it is all about you, if you are a narcissist like Prez O, get yourself spayed.


35 posted on 06/21/2012 9:48:54 AM PDT by Yaelle
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To: Melas
Gotta disagree with you on this one. It’s entirely possible to have friendships of the opposite sex. My faithful MTB partner is a woman. The fact that she’s hot makes riding behind her more interesting, but it doesn’t complicate the relationship. I can appreciate her attributes without wanting to betray my wife.

Well you are married so it makes a difference.....I do have female friends I work out with at the gym/work with but not real close female friends...My GF was a very good friend first and then we became romantically attached and 2.5 years later still are.

All three long term relationships I have been in started out with friendship first.

36 posted on 06/21/2012 9:54:52 AM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: Melas
It’s entirely possible to have friendships of the opposite sex. My faithful MTB partner is a woman. The fact that she’s hot makes riding behind her more interesting, but it doesn’t complicate the relationship..

What would happen if you were not married and was in a dry spell riding behind her and found her physically attractive....be honest.

37 posted on 06/21/2012 9:57:21 AM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: mrsloungitude
Real women did not write this article or book.

Yep. Not real adult women, at least. Or at least not any one I've ever met.

38 posted on 06/21/2012 9:58:45 AM PDT by Billthedrill
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To: gzzimlich; trailhkr1
I knew a group of these sorts of women when I lived in California. They were all cosmo-sipping, “you go girl” Sex and the City wannabe’s, all forever wondering why most of the men in their lives treated them as members of a harem rather than friends or potential long-term partners.

A woman who used to be my friend was talking about a culture where women would not marry, but just accept male visitors at night. When a woman tired of her current boyfriend, she would turn her tent around to signal that she was no longer interested in him visiting.

I pointed out that such cultures are rare, and where they exist they only exist in isolated places, because when marauding bandits come around the men are more likely to decide to check out how things are over the next hill rather than stick around and fight.

She asked: wouldn't they fight for the women they loved? My answer was why would a man emotionally bond to a woman who insists on reserving her right to turn her tent when she feels like it?

She didn't like that.

39 posted on 06/21/2012 9:58:48 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (If I can't be persuasive, I at least hope to be fun.)
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To: trailhkr1

It has always been like that though- most women do not sleep with every man they date, in fact many women only sleep with a few or some women don’t sleep with anyone except the one they marry.

I admit I don’t like the idea of planning on keeping men hanging around that you don’t intend to sleep with or marry, as a practice but I have had a few men as friends all my life. I grew up as a tomboy with three brothers and their friends hanging out at our house so I relate to men better than I have to other women friends. It can be tricky for a female to have male friends, you have to be cautious to make it clear that is all there is...as you say most/many men want to sleep with every woman.

I don’t socialize with men without hubby since I married over 30 years ago but when I was single there were men I dated that I had no intention of sleeping with and we were just friends. I had male friends that would go with me to a wedding, movie, help fix my car or whatnot, and they called on me for things like that too. I didn’t lead them on but it just worked out that way. I even had a male friend for a roommate during the Carter years when it was tough to survive without sharing expenses. I met him when we went on a date, it was obvious by the end of the evening that we liked each other, had a lot in common- but no other feelings for each other. We never dated again but later rented a house together to share expenses and we are friends to this day. Our friendship has never caused issues, we don’t socialize without our spouses and never a question that we are just friends.


40 posted on 06/21/2012 9:59:04 AM PDT by Tammy8 (~Secure the border and deport all illegals- do it now! ~ Support our Troops!~)
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To: trailhkr1

Yeah, I used to be the guy women called to help them move. Or if they needed money. I’m not that easy any more.


41 posted on 06/21/2012 10:07:58 AM PDT by PLMerite (Shut the Beyotch Down! Burn, baby, burn!)
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To: trailhkr1; Melas
My GF was a very good friend first and then we became romantically attached and 2.5 years later still are.

My wife was my friend first as well. You can have female acquaintances when you're married. You can have female friends when you're single and looking.

When married, I cannot have a close intimate friendship with a woman, without thinking it will risk my marriage. That's just me, your mileage may vary.

When single, I would not have a close friendship with a girl if I did not think it might eventually lead to a relationship. Having a visible female friend tends to chase away potential girlfriends, because they think you're "taken".

42 posted on 06/21/2012 10:08:47 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (If I can't be persuasive, I at least hope to be fun.)
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To: trailhkr1

Unfortunately, that is not the way the critter is designed. A woman trying to have a “gaggle” of men is likely end up hurt, dead, or, if lucky, abandoned for a better deal from a different woman.

If she wants someone to help support and raise her offspring, she better settle for one. Or maybe the b!tch thinks that is what the Federal Government is for? Or the divorce settlement?

Feminists like this one have ruined a lot of American women.


43 posted on 06/21/2012 10:10:44 AM PDT by Little Ray (FOR the best Conservative in the Primary; AGAINST Obama in the General.)
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To: PLMerite
Yeah, I used to be the guy women called to help them move. Or if they needed money. I’m not that easy any more.

It's called "being used". The same women who would be upset at the idea of a guy just wanting them for sex, may not see anything wrong with keeping a guy around because he does them favors when needed.

44 posted on 06/21/2012 10:12:08 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (If I can't be persuasive, I at least hope to be fun.)
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To: trailhkr1
What would happen if you were not married and was in a dry spell riding behind her and found her physically attractive....be honest.

Oh if I was unattached, I'd make a move in heartbeat, no question about that at all. However, not just because she's physically attractive, but because she's attractive in all the other ways as well.

Now, at 48, I am a lot older than you are. The idea of bedding a hottie that is physically attractive, but otherwise not attractive or even neutral probably has a lot more appeal to you than it does for me. My days of promiscuity and casual sex would be decades behind me even if I weren't married. Even if I were single, I wouldn't jump into bed with a woman without long term potential no matter how hot she was. Ever honest, I'll admit that in my early to mid 20's (married at 27) my requirements to jump in bed were that she couldn't by physically repulsive, and she had to say yes in English. High standards there.

45 posted on 06/21/2012 10:23:40 AM PDT by Melas (u)
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To: PapaBear3625; Tammy8
When married, I cannot have a close intimate friendship with a woman, without thinking it will risk my marriage. That's just me, your mileage may vary.

I did something really stoooopid when I was 20..was a fitness trainer at a local gym while going to Uni. Had a 7 month affair with a married woman ( I was single) who was a client..long story short I was fired and her marriage broke up over it (her friend she confided in told her husband...) Feel very guilty about it to this day...6 years later.

My gf and I met because she lived next door to me and we started going to the gym every day. Both of us just started crushing on each other but both of us were single...I could never cheat on her as I now realize the pain it caused when someone else cheated and love her way too much anyway. Guess something good came out of a bad situation.

So I know my mileage and don't become very good friends with attached females...double backup

46 posted on 06/21/2012 10:26:34 AM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: trailhkr1

Men who sleep around are AWFUL.

Women who sleep around are advanced.

Any questions?


47 posted on 06/21/2012 10:28:03 AM PDT by Tzimisce (THIS SUCKS)
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To: PapaBear3625
When single, I would not have a close friendship with a girl if I did not think it might eventually lead to a relationship. Having a visible female friend tends to chase away potential girlfriends, because they think you're "taken".

My first love didn't work out, largely because I was 17 and she was 19, but we remain life-long friends. In my early 20's she was the best wing-girl a man could ever ask for. Nothing short of being a billionaire can add more to a young mans success with other women, than a super hot girl who's on active duty as your co-pilot. If you think a visible female friend was scaring them off, she wasn't doing it right.

48 posted on 06/21/2012 10:30:43 AM PDT by Melas (u)
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To: Melas
"My faithful MTB partner is a woman."

MTB?

Motor Torpedo Boat?

49 posted on 06/21/2012 10:33:39 AM PDT by BlueLancer ("No friend ever served me, and no enemy ever wronged me, whom I have not repaid in full" (Sulla))
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To: servo1969

that picture leaves me speechless.


50 posted on 06/21/2012 10:41:25 AM PDT by Conservaliberty (25 and conservative. I guess I have no heart, Oh, well, makes shooting the bad guys easier.)
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