Posted on 06/21/2012 8:53:09 AM PDT by trailhkr1
From the articleStop searching for Mr. Right and look around at all the Mr Right(s).
Like the “Gaggle," these three men can fulfill different needs - maybe you like to see movies with one, travel with another and cuddle with a third - which removes the burden of one man to fill all those slots. (Bwahhhaaa this would go over real well)
That’s the premise of "The Gaggle," a new book from Jessica Massa, who, along with Rebecca Wiegand, runs the website “WTF Is Up With My Love Life?!”
According to Massa and Wiegand, every woman - single or not - should have her own gaggle, a group of guys that occupy different roles in her life.
“You probably have a gaggle of friends, who all play different roles and fulfill different needs for you,” explains Massa. “You might call one friend to go shopping versus another friend when you’re upset versus another friend when you need a serious professional opinion. Your romantic gaggle is just another piece of the much larger, long-term puzzle of how you structure the relationships in your life to feel full, happy and loved.”
The men in this gaggle can include anyone from the barista you flirt with, to the ex-boyfriend you Skype, to the work buddy you commiserate with over lunch. Whether you end up dating one or more of them is just an added bonus.
“As a woman, having a gaggle provides you with a love life full of possibility: you have many men in your life, in many ambiguous but enriching ways, who are all teaching you about yourself and your needs and desires and leading you closer to the guy and relationship you want,” say Massa and Wiegand.
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I imagine the response of these haughty succubi would be less than enthusiastic if the tables were turned.
I knew a group of these sorts of women when I lived in California. They were all cosmo-sipping, “you go girl” Sex and the City wannabe’s, all forever wondering why most of the men in their lives treated them as members of a harem rather than friends or potential long-term partners.
My standard line in these situations (”you want to act like a whore, don’t come sniveling to me when you get treated like one”) cost me a few friends and got me accused of being part of “rape culture” or some such nonsense a couple of times.
When will they learn?
Let the other guy have her. Life’s too short to waste on the indecisive.
A Fluke?
The women who write crap like that are part of a small liberal-feminist minority that is probably tiny even inside the left. Only rich, pampered women from elite, liberal circles think and write garbage like this. Think Erica Jong-Eve Ensler-Gail Collins-type dimwits who live in an alternate universe where reality doesn’t intrude.
Bingo. :) You beat me to it. Is this term used by the younger generation?
A Dowd?
Kidding aside, my point is how deeply and intrinsically entwined the Feminist movement has become with the promotion of "gay" culture, specifically in its deconstruction of traditional heterosexual behaviors, its denial of natural sexuality, and the promotion of a hedonistic, value-free, inconsequential lifestyle.
Good guess, but it's no "fluke" when a feminist desires to be surrounded only by men who will hold her Gucci handbag while she shops for underwear they'd secretly rather be wearing.
This Youtube clip sums it up. "Can men Just be friends With Women?"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
Of course, this model falls all to pieces right about the time the woman decides she wants a child. Finding a baby daddy isn’t hard, but just try to assemble a FAMILY out of that mess...
Gotta disagree with you on this one. It’s entirely possible to have friendships of the opposite sex. My faithful MTB partner is a woman. The fact that she’s hot makes riding behind her more interesting, but it doesn’t complicate the relationship. I can appreciate her attributes without wanting to betray my wife.
Take a look/listen at liberal women. They put the “gag” in gaggle.
Ok, so you’ve got your gaggle in place. Then you get pregnant. Of course DNA tests will prove which Gaggler did it. How wonderful will the other Gags be with said child when he has stomach flu and a fever of 102 at 3 am?
Stick with the father of your children. It’s not all about you.
And if it is all about you, if you are a narcissist like Prez O, get yourself spayed.
Well you are married so it makes a difference.....I do have female friends I work out with at the gym/work with but not real close female friends...My GF was a very good friend first and then we became romantically attached and 2.5 years later still are.
All three long term relationships I have been in started out with friendship first.
What would happen if you were not married and was in a dry spell riding behind her and found her physically attractive....be honest.
Yep. Not real adult women, at least. Or at least not any one I've ever met.
A woman who used to be my friend was talking about a culture where women would not marry, but just accept male visitors at night. When a woman tired of her current boyfriend, she would turn her tent around to signal that she was no longer interested in him visiting.
I pointed out that such cultures are rare, and where they exist they only exist in isolated places, because when marauding bandits come around the men are more likely to decide to check out how things are over the next hill rather than stick around and fight.
She asked: wouldn't they fight for the women they loved? My answer was why would a man emotionally bond to a woman who insists on reserving her right to turn her tent when she feels like it?
She didn't like that.
It has always been like that though- most women do not sleep with every man they date, in fact many women only sleep with a few or some women don’t sleep with anyone except the one they marry.
I admit I don’t like the idea of planning on keeping men hanging around that you don’t intend to sleep with or marry, as a practice but I have had a few men as friends all my life. I grew up as a tomboy with three brothers and their friends hanging out at our house so I relate to men better than I have to other women friends. It can be tricky for a female to have male friends, you have to be cautious to make it clear that is all there is...as you say most/many men want to sleep with every woman.
I don’t socialize with men without hubby since I married over 30 years ago but when I was single there were men I dated that I had no intention of sleeping with and we were just friends. I had male friends that would go with me to a wedding, movie, help fix my car or whatnot, and they called on me for things like that too. I didn’t lead them on but it just worked out that way. I even had a male friend for a roommate during the Carter years when it was tough to survive without sharing expenses. I met him when we went on a date, it was obvious by the end of the evening that we liked each other, had a lot in common- but no other feelings for each other. We never dated again but later rented a house together to share expenses and we are friends to this day. Our friendship has never caused issues, we don’t socialize without our spouses and never a question that we are just friends.
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