Skip to comments.Does a Man Ever Truly Stop Loving His Ex-Wife?
Posted on 07/06/2012 8:04:05 PM PDT by nickcarraway
SANDRA HOWARD asks the question that unsettles every woman whose husband is divorced
Years after their divorce, Frank Sinatra and Ava Gardner remained deeply in love. I saw for myself how abiding their mutual affection was when, one evening, more than a decade after they had separated, I joined them for supper.
Frank and Ava, the great crooner and the Hollywood star, were dining quietly in an unassuming New York restaurant and my first husband, jazz pianist Robin Douglas-Home, and I had been invited, too.
Frank and Robin had forged a friendship over a biography he had been writing of Sinatra. I was modelling for the Eileen Ford agency in New York at the time. It was 1962, a full five years after Frank and Ava had divorced when the four of us enjoyed that modest meal together. Yet what endures in my memory is the palpable chemistry that still existed between the singer and the actress.
Although he was married four times, Franks one great love remained Ava, and vice versa. I recall how they sat close together on a bench seat in that restaurant all evening, his arm draped around her shoulder, a proprietorial smile of pride on his face.
She was sinuous and elegant in a classic black dress: Frank once said she had the easy grace of a tigress. Although their marriage had been volatile, their love for each other never faltered. Ava, in fact, never married again. But Frank did: twice more in fact, and I have often wondered whether Avas successor, the waif-like actress Mia Farrow, felt undermined by the potent attraction Ol Blue Eyes felt for her beautiful predecessor.
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Easy as pie.
Who says he ever loved the _itch?!
Sandra, please come back. At least get closer. I so missed you. I’m a much better shot now...
Does a bear crap in the woods?
Though I have been happily married to a wonderful woman for 15 years my first wife will always be my true love. We met in college, grew up together and after 18 years she decided she needed her space. She filed for a divorce I didn’t want. She remarried 4 years later. She died from breast cancer 3 years after remarrying. I got remarried one month before her death. In a letter she wrote to be delivered to me after her death she told me she had never stopped loving me. I know I have never stopped loving her.
The question would be more reasonable if it axed about the future ex!
If I’d have shot mine when I first wanted to, I’d have been out by now.
I don’t know that it would be called love, but I don’t believe there’s bond of some sort is ever completely broken.
1. Marriage was instituted by God. “And the two shall
become one flesh.” It may be hell on earth, and may devolve into loss of respect or hate...
2. God hates divorce, so while the papers are signed and the
couple goes their seperate ways, I don’t believe there
really is such a thing as divorce.
I’m old, it’s just my opinion from observation, but it also hits close to home in some ways.
All yes, for at least awhile.
Many yes, forever.
A most touching and romantic tale. Thank you.
It doesn't matter if the man never stops loving the ex. If the ex holds nothing but vitriol in her heart, then love is useless.
Thanks my screen needed cleaning anyway.. LOL
Yes to all four of mine....
When the vitriolic acid is spilled and etches it way into the soul of each partner leaving it a mass of of denatured protein, anguish and screaming nerve ends, NO. When you hurt the child, it is game over!
But most do not end this way and thus the lady from the past still exists in the present. I was lucky and she does not exist in my present life and I raised our child.
My ex-husband still loves me and is sorry he left our family.