Skip to comments.Taking a break from FR
Posted on 07/07/2012 12:50:08 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
As many of you know I have had a difficult last year+. I lost my mom to lung cancer and I have been dealing with deal issues of my own. I made the mistake of thinking that I could share personal struggles with people I thought were friends online and now I know it turns out I couldnt. That really eats at me. What did I do wrong ?
Also. Having "friends" online who have not reached out to me and in some cases have not responded when I have tried to reach out to them.
I know most of the people here on FR are wonderful people and I thank you for the prayers and kind words. I have tried to avoid isolation and I thought there for awhile I was doing better. But now I am to the point where I just can't tolerate dealing with people in general, too frustrated..too nervous..too insecure. So on the negative side my circle is getting much smaller, on the positive side I will not have risk getting ridiculed or embarrassed for talking about things that I struggle with..
I am also to the point where I can't focus on the election right now like I did past elections. so I am just taking a break...
dealing with health issues of my own... I meant
God be with you, sweet FRiend. I’ll keep you and your young precious family in my prayers.
That is no fun dealing with ridicule or embarassment.....get healthy and so sorry about you mom! I read alot of the articles but do not post....but saw yours...hang in there! Ruth
Hang in there, FRiend. I’ve lost my mom, dad and little brother to cancer and I think about them every day - it gets better over time.
I’m sorry for your problems. I am saying a prayer for you. People here on Free Republic are some of the most compassionate people you will ever meet in life. Please do what you need to help your physical and/or emotional health. We do care.
I am sending you a PM (hope you receive it). I have been praying for you every week at Mass. I’ve been there, done that. It’s not an easy road, and something even I struggle with from time to time, even though I have good physical health—more mental due to what seems to be genetics (grandmother was bipolar).
God bless you and your family, FRiend.
A rest is good for the soul. We will welcome you upon your return!
My prayers to You! but thinking there are friends on the Internet is a big mistake for many of us! It’s an inpersonal gathering of recluses many times....Sorry! ;-(
Time spent at your local CHRISTIAN CHURCH and other groups are far more real and the friends far more genuine and loving.
Take care of yourself. You were Created to accomplish what you are meant to accomplish. That is your Natural Right endowed by your Creator.
Just like many of the things we discuss here, nobody can take that from you.
When you find your focus and your balance again, we will be here.
Best to you. As an aside unconcern, ridicule and insult make us tough.
I was talking over these types of probelms years ago with a Pastor friend of mine. He told me then, “the trouble with Christianity is the Christians”. It was meant as a semi-joke but ever so true.
I must say you need to talk with people face to face. Posting to people does not make friends unless you at least meet them. You can follow the election through the Conservatives on radio & TV and online. Focus on what is most important.
I’m always here for you SEOYC if and when you need me! Perhaps just confiding in a few truly understanding people is enough-the rest of those you “meet” may not be up to the task of offering support? In that case, just view them as someone to chat with about non serious issues. Let your mind rest for awhile, few serious problems are solved quickly. All the best to you and contact me if you like!
Seems like life is throwing you for a loop lately. God’s love for you is never ending, He has a plan; I have been through the ringer of life myself, but God lifts me up despite the troubles that seem insurmountable, sometimes though, the things I pray for don’t necessarily turn out in the way God’s is, he can do anything He pleases. Good health to you and all you care about.
I’ll keep you in my prayers... :)
FR is like a safe harbor. It’ll be here when you need it. I, for one, will keep you in my prayers.
God save our Republic and may our countrymen rise to help Him!
May the peace of the Lord be with you.
Don’t tell God how big your storm is. Tell your storm how big God is.
Hope you feel better soon, soyc.
Might want to try listening to Roy Masters...it’s helped me alot and i don’t usually hang my hat on spiritual talk show hosts. But he speaks to the problem of facing our fears and healing..has given me some helpful tips.
Good luck and Godspeed. I’ve left FR at times and I’ve always returned if for no other reason to get daily news.
Yes many of us have been doing the same thing.I have not been around because on the first of May I had a major health event in my life.I had a minor heart attack and 2 heart caths and 4 stents later they tell me I am Lucky that I am alive.Quite a shock for only being 51.Now my energy is mostly focuses on my recovery and getting back to where I was before.
In the age of Facebook, too many people mistake a “friend” for an “acquaintance”. And quite honestly, some on FreeRepublic have gotten pretty rude and belligerent as of late. I've found myself visiting less and less lately.
A small number of friends is much better than a large number of acquaintances - so choose your few friends wisely.
I pray that things will get better for you. Good luck and God bless!!
Sorry for you loss and recent burdens. Isolating is a sign of depression, which is normal all things considered in your case. I beg you to try and stay connected because in the long run it will help.
Hoping you will regain the sunlight of the Spirit soon.
God bless you and your family.
Yes, face time is what creates friendships and fellowship.
May you rest in the Lord.
Well, we won't get into that...
... but I am sorry for the loss of your mother and wish you the best as far as your health and well being is concerned.
You definitely should not isolate yourself. Hopefully, you have some close friends, family, or local church you can rely on when times get a little rough.
Thanks humblegunner! You never fail to share your wit (at the most inappropriate time).
I pray you return to good health! I understand that you might not have the energy for politics but don’t abandon FR. Some of us really care. Don’t forget that.
Oh I haven;t abandoned it at all but am trying very hard not to sit at the computer too much which is not conductive to recovering from a heart attack.I need to be up and moving not sitting and reading. ;)
Between your mind & soul you already have everything you need anyway.
While many on FR come across as decent, compassionate, even good FRiends, the fact is some are nasty and ugly. It’s not a place to go and reveal your vulnerabilities. Sadly, some seem to get a kick out of “winning” an argument through insult and snide remarks. You are not the first nor probably the last to be unkindly treated.
That said, there are good people here.
In the same boat as you. Lost both parents and my sister last September. All to lung cancer. Lost my only brother when he was 51 to a massive heart attack. I’ve got my oldest sister left, and she’s in a nursing home. Thankfully I have two sons of my own, and relied on them to help when I ended up having three abdominal surgeries over the past two years. Life goes on, and my kids will survive when I’m no longer here.
My prayers, I recently lost two family members myself.
I pray for God to ease your pain.
Lost a dear family member myself earlier this year...I know how that just throws the pieces of your life up into the air. God will make sure everything lands where it should...and maybe even in better order.
I wish you well. I hope some time off will be a good thing and that we will see you soon.
I lost my mother (Ruth) to colorectal cancer 6 years ago on the 4th of July. I like to think that it was HER Independence Day, free from the disease, her suffering over. I understand how it hurts, though, I really do.
Prayers up for you and your family. They should be your first, second, third and all priority. Don’t even think twice about a silly little website in relation to taking care of your family.
Hang in there...life will throw you curves time to time. Just learn to throw them back...Hope to see you back someday.
Take care, dude. Don’t be a stranger.
I hope you will know I care even if you “vanish” for a while. Consider that after all you’ve been through and are going through, you may have depression, which will alter your perceptions. There is help for that.
Whether you stay current on the election, I hope your voter registration is current and you vote in November. If you need special accommodations, they can probably be arranged.
I hope you will focus on what you have, and not what you don’t. Treasure your friends here. We’ll be here when you choose to return.
Lay your burdens on Jesus. He will carry them when you can’t. He may surprise you and lose some of them along the way. ((hugs)).
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