Skip to comments.‘I don’t enjoy alien parasites’: Slate’s anti-child readers bare their narcissism for all to see
Posted on 07/18/2012 12:16:54 PM PDT by Morgana
Slate magazine, an online publication that caters to an upscale pro-choice readership, got what it asked for when it invited readers recently to rhapsodize about their self-induced sterility and willful barrenness. In a series of articles culled from responses emailed to Slate, the magazine gives us a glimpse of the mindset of the sexual narcissists who frequent its pages.
Perhaps the most crassly frank of the responses came from one Heather Gentry, an unlikely resident of the family-friendly state of Georgia. In an article entitled No Kids for Me, Thanks: I Dont Enjoy Alien-Parasites, Gentry calls pregnancy unnatural and abhorrent, and asks why she should like to, have my body distorted beyond recognition for an alien-looking creature to live there for nine or 10 months and use up my food and energy storage?
Gentry adds that a child is a proud role model for any parasite, noting that after birth it it eats my food, lives in my house, and takes up my energy.
Margaret Ganong, a 55-year-old divorcée, thanks her lucky stars that abortion was available in the 1970s so that she could avoid the consequences of her youthful sexual adventures.
In 1974, I went off to college, fiddled around with boys, and thanked my lucky stars that Planned Parenthood and Roe v. Wade were a hard-fought reality, she writes. Without them, I and countless others would not have had the opportunity to discover our bodies and ourselves without paying the high price of young parenthood, diminished expectations, and diapers.
Twenty-nine year old Shannon Chamberlain, who calls herself upper middle class, says she might have wanted to have children if she had lived in early-20th-century Britain, where you barely saw your kid until he/she was in striking distance of a university fellowship.
After reviewing the inconveniences of parenthood, Chamberlain admits that perhaps having a child would turn out to be transcendent, like all of the mothers that I know say it would be. However, she suspects that her friends are really just lying to her, claiming that the people who make that argument have their own interests, their own reasons for justifying an irreversible decision to me and to themselves, and in the end, I just dont believe them.
One Brad Carty says that children would cramp his economic style in No Kids for Me, Thanks: I Value My Professional Mobility. Rejoicing in his decision to reject children, Carty notes that I was able to travel, go to concerts and the theater, and buy myself nice things while others were paying for orthodontia.
He then married a woman who felt as I did about children, and for the past 10 years weve lived in various cities in Europe (again, I can change jobs whenever I wish). I cant imagine any other lifeI certainly cant imagine it being any better than the one I have.
Many of Slates readers expressed their enthusiastic support in the articles comments section, while others seemed uncomfortable with such a cavalier rejection of children.
Other of my less tied-to-the-house friends w/o kids has written 3 books. I dont know who these people are who are urging these people to have kids, but I say, just ignore those who want to control your uteruses uteri? Trying to talk people into having kids is as bad as being one of those pro-life protestors (sic) who stand outside of clinics, wrote one.
Another left a warning for the practitioners of Slates egoistical sexual ideology:
The mother of my children visited her 97 year old self-described maiden great-aunt in the hospital. The bedridden great-aunt looked up at her and asked tearfully Why did I live? As a parent and grandparent I have an answer that satisfies me. I hope Margaret and the others who wrote is this series dont find themselves asking the maiden great-aunts sad question.
When they are lonely on their deathbeds, they’re going to want a “do over.”
I wonder how many "alien parasites" she spread to her fellow travelers during her "youthful sexual adventures".
Pregnancy is unnatural? Amazing.
Just proves that Liberalism, extrapolated to its logical conclusion, leads to the death of the human spirit.
Being these people is its own punishment.
Fortunately for the rest of us, the FUTURE belongs to the BREEDERS!!!
If she had just said that she wasn't interested in having children or thought that she would be a poor parent she wouldn't have shown the world what a soulless harpy she is.
Few things offer the unlimited opportunity to ‘invest’ your time and energy as children - and the reward is often commensurate.
Some people only want to ‘invest’ in themselves - a doomed proposition as that is going to ‘go out of business’ sooner than most expect.
And then they wonder - “what did I live for?” on their deathbeds in a way that those surrounded by loving children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren will NEVER have to ask themselves.
I can’t even remember what my life was like before we had our kids, and I sure wouldn’t want to go back to it.
I'm sure that when this person is 80, and needs to turn to the state - rather than his family - for a hand (because he's blown all of his money on nice things) ...one of Obama's grandchilren will be glad to help him out in the manner to which he's accustomed.
I'm not sure if I've *ever* read an article about more shallow, self-serving, unhappy people. Sounded to me like they were all trying to rationalize their choices.
Me? When I was 21, I thought much the same way. Then, I grew up. I love my kids, wouldn't change a single thing.
Really well put. In re-reading the article, I think that some of them realize that.
My wife is expecting our first child in.... two months and two weeks! YIKES!!!! ;)
It’s ok, a few years of getting little sleep, but it gets better. ;)
“...on their deathbeds... surrounded by loving children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren...”
All true, but how many people get this anymore?? I am concerned about these current generations.
This is how civilization dies.
I was trying to look at it a little more positively. A LOT less liberals to procreate. ;-)
By indoctrinating the weak with selfish-speak. By touting the advantages of a no-strings lifestyles without being honest about the loss of experiencing unconditional love and the joys of parenting. The liberals have carefully nurtured this generation of Sociopaths and our current state of a civilization in decline reflects this.
On the first Feminian Sandstones we were
promised the Fuller Life
(Which started by loving our neighbour and
ended by loving his wife)
Till our women had no more children and
the men lost reason and faith,
And the Gods of the Copybook Headings
said: “The Wages of Sin is Death.”
He was right.
Well said, well said!!!!
I’ll bet these women are real pieces of work.
... And the Gods of the Copybook Headings with Terror and Slaughter return!
“They don’t. They merely give legal, medical, and moral justification for women to do it to themselves.
If a woman wants to cultivate a depraved mind, to become “without natural affection”, there’s no shortage of support groups to assist her. “
I went to Slate’s site and read further. I found my answer. This one blows me away. Here is copy of one of letters sent:
Name: Heather Gentry
Location: Summerville, Ga.
In a college bioethics class, my classmates and I were asked how we would feel if we found ourselves temporarily attached through tubes and wires to another person for almost a year, while he or she depended on us for food and protection. It’s a parasitic relationship, we discussed. The host organism gets nothing out of the relationship and is in fact hindered by needing extra nutrients and energy to support the parasite. The lesson was to illustrate how a mother, maybe a rape victim, felt about her unborn and unwanted child.
That hypothetical scenario was the first time I was able to put into words how completely unnatural and abhorrent pregnancy seems to me. To have my body distorted beyond recognition for an alien-looking creature to live there for nine or 10 months and use up my food and energy storage? To have doctors poke and prod at my most private places because that’s where it’ll be born? Then, to be free of the creature on the inside, but to have to care for it for years and years, while it eats my food, lives in my house, and takes up my energy? A child is a proud role model for any parasite.
Even as a middle school parasite-child, I knew I didn’t want children. I have two little sisters. They weren’t bad kids, but I never knew what to do with them. They were young and alien, speaking strange languages and far too hyper and loud. Even with my parents there to buffer me from the worst of the crying fits, potty training, and sleepless nights, I just wasn’t interested in going through that again.
But I do live in the South, where there is a certain amount of expectation and tradition, and I fell prey to it in high school. With hormones flying and love blinding me, my high school sweetheart and I dated for three years, and yes, during that time we planned our wedding and named our kids. Four of them. Gross.
In college, I succumbed to another yet newer traditionthe starter marriage. I was married for two years to a man who was six years older than me and ready to settle down. Part of what made me leave was that he wanted to have children, and I just wasn’t sure how comfortable I was with the idea. Then came the divorce and the corresponding re-evaluation of values and worldview that comes from such a disruptive and never-thought-that-would-happen-to-me event. And I realized: Wait, I don’t have to have kids with anyone. I can choose to be with someone who doesn’t want to force me into that role.
It was a revelation to this Georgia peach.
So now I cheerfully tell anyone who mentions itfriend, family, co-worker, overly friendly strangerthat no, thank you, I will not have kids/parasites for reasons that will probably insult you. These include eww, gross, I-have-better-things-to-do-with-my-time, and there-are-7-billion-people-in-the-world-why-add-more. But if I can suffer through your alien ultrasound photo on Facebook or grin at your crying kids without vomiting, then you can be grateful that women like me will always be around to organize an occasional girl’s night out and to keep the population in check.
That’s probably the reason the original article doesn’t seem to have any images of the “contributors”.
What if Gentry's mother felt that way?
I am Blessed with 6 children, 8 grandchildren, 6 nieces and nephews, and 2 grandnieces, and I’m only 57. I can’t imagine my life without them.
How do these people justify their “high life” with all the emptiness that surrounds them?
You assume that "maternal instincts" currently exist as a genetic imperative. Up until the last century, there wasn't a need for women to have a genetic imperative to procreate.
Up until the last century, most women had no choice. There was no birth control. If a woman had sex enough times, you got pregnant. If a woman didn't have sex, there was little incentive for a man to keep her around, she starved, and the issue was mostly self-correcting.
Up until the last century, most people had a family farm or business, which got handed down to the eldest son (or husband of daughter). No children meant nobody to take care of you in your old age. If the child didn't feel like taking care of the parent, he didn't inherit (which provided another incentive).
“How do these people justify their high life with all the emptiness that surrounds them?”
That’s easy. They don’t see the emptiness.
Then after that, they turn teenager. 8-)
NOT ready for that!
The problem with that line of reasoning is that Liberalism (and Conservatism) are not passed on in the blood stream. They are purely products of the mind and upbringing. We've all heard of conservative parents (Greatest Generation anyone) who brought up crazy-stupid-liberal kids.
“They don’t. They merely give legal, medical, and moral justification for women to do it to themselves. “
Never forget the impact of Culture. They took over the culture and this is the result.
If you don’t want to have children, that’s OK, but it is too bad really because our country is becoming more and more selfish, less about the family, and more about my quick satisfaction.
Continuing our reproduction rates, whites will become a minority in the USA in our lifetimes. We only reproduce at a 1.6 per couple rate, not enough to maintain our population.
That being said, any moron who refers to a baby as an alien parasite is either joking sickly, or mentally unsound. In either case, I would rather this person not procreate.
First they convince them the unborn child is not human.
Then they teach them that infants are an inconvenience that will forever ruin their lives.
From there it isn’t too difficult to teach them that all children are just expensive pains-in-the-a$$es right up to the age where they - too - can rely on Planned Parenthood.
Mammals, including humans,should/do have a maternal instinct (normally). It is completely aside from any economic/social/medical imperatives.
We have raised a couple of generations of largely self-centered, my happiness is the highest goal, kids are at best an inconvenience folks. And that’s how you get the Heather’s of the world. And problematic social security funding.
Heaven help us all.
Then they get their drivers licenses.
Typical left wing STUPID adult. I wish her mother thought that way and ABORTED HER!
Makes me sometimes wish we can perform very post-birth abortions on these twits! Yeah, what a great defense for murder! /s
Congratulations! You will experience joy these idiots will never have. Hug those little rugrats every chance you get. And tell them you love them.
I wouldn't call the so called "greatest generation" ......you know the one that voted FDR as their king four times in a row, "conservative." (social security, WPA, CCC, TVA, etc etc etc). That would be the same FDR with his 2nd Bill of Rights that strangely resembles the USSR's constitution.
Untold blood and treasure was spent fighting socialists abroad just for them to vote it in at home.
Of course, with all the romney bots around here lately, I could see how some would say that was conservative.
And yet lots of young ladies go on to bear children and love them.
The blame, then, would have to rest with the woman, not the medical lies about child-bearing. Wouldn’t you say?
Wow, these people are such haters and very delusional. Sex and conception are part of nature which makes it a natural human condition. They must really hate their parents, especially the mother who gave birth to them. I wonder if it is nature or nurture that creates people like these. Thankfully they have chosen not to create more like themselves.
I really can’t understand this rejection of female nature, beauty and power. This is pretty much a statement about women claiming they think the nature of males, abet a hollow and dark imitation, is superior to their own nature. It’s a dyke act and it’s been called penis envy.
Liberals are is not happy just rejecting and distorting their own female nature, sadly. They work overtime to hobble, debase and degrade women on a full time basis in every way they can imagine. They know they can best hurt women by hobbling their families, children and men.
Dude! Killing her is not the answer. Her finding God is.
How about blaming the men who abandon the women and their children? (you can thank the gov for breaking up the home) Yea I can understand why men will hate their wives after a divorce but why to they hate their kids too? Before I get harped on by hundreds of male FReepers, I have known many a woman who’s man left them and the kids never to see him again!
Though I’m a male FReeper, I won’t harp on you. And though it’s a bit off the subject, you make a very good point. (On that subject, I save my harping for the men who renege on their manly duties.)
One might argue that in our society women have, by their drive for equality with men, largely pulled away from men. This doesn’t excuse us men from abandoning our children - no more than “guilt-free” abortion excuses women from murdering them.
I find this thought process strange. I have three daughters. My oldest is married and out of the house, but my younger two are teens. I woke up early this Saturday, and as I waited for the coffee, I peeked in their rooms while they slept (it’s the only time they seem to be still long enough, these days), and I was overwhelmed. I told my husband that no matter what else we ever do, these children are the best things we ever did. All of them. I don’t regret a second of it, even when supporting them means tons of overtime LOL.
Seems to be one quick way to find him! lol