Skip to comments.Can't Stop Crying
Posted on 08/18/2012 10:26:18 PM PDT by bicyclerepair
Hi FRiends, Boy do I need someone to talk to.
Just came back from dropping off my daughter at college and the empty house is making me cry so much.
Been a member since 2004. This is my first post. So sorry but I can't stop feeling sad and hurting inside because I miss her so much.
I respect you all so much and value your comments. Some are harsh, but most are honest and decent. So maybe I can drown my heart-ache reading your thoughts.
Sincerely, bicyclerepair--Ft. Lauderdale
At least she’ll come home for spring break...
Don’t worry, with this economy she will be back home in no time.
Don’t worry, with this economy she will be back home in no time.
The “Empty Nest” hits some harder than others. You will eventually find it less worrisome, and probably liberating.
Your young ‘un needs to Be Free. This is their time. This is what you raised them for, with good values and examples.
Trust in yourself and your child, and sleep well.
My mother practically got on the plane with me when I went off to college. Little did she know that in four years I would be back.....
How far away is she?
Don’t be upset. She’ll be alright. You’ve taught her well. Think about how God must feel about us as he lets us go forth in life. Have confidence in her, love her and keep in touch with her.
What is she getting a degree in? Is she a solid conservative or will those lib profs get to her?
3hrs. away at UCF. You all must think I’m stupid.
I’m sorry for posting this. But it hurts inside.
Tonight was the first time I ever saw her cry in sadness. So that’s a good thing. And she was raised a die-hard Christian with solid conservative values.
Her picture replaced Sarah Palin’s as my phone wallpaper tonight.
It’s a Saturday night, have a beer and forget the heartache. When my I ditched my twin girlfriends and they later appeared in Penthouse, I cried too on what I lost.
If you’re daughter is willing, try and stay in contact as much as you can, without being a virtual hoverer.
Always keep yourself busy on personal projects, so at the least you will always have something new to share with her.
My son is leaving Monday for Texas to go to collage. From Ca. my wife and him are driving. Hope they don’t get bit by any mosquitoes in Texas! Don’t worry, she will be fine.
Not in the slightest.
My heart is with you, we dropped our baby off at the
Our kids will be good, be loving as we taught them.
Oh my...I said “baby”...”kids”...they’ve grown up!
Time heals all wounds.
I remember when I went away to college and left all of my familiar surroundings and routines and my family. I cried my eyes out with homesickness the first couple weeks. Then I got settled into the new routine and it wasn’t so bad. I remember after Christmas break I couldn’t wait to get back to the dorm and my friends.
Major changes take time to adjust to. Hopefully your daughter has a cell phone and doesn’t live too far away so she can come home occasionally. You’ll get used to your new situation—it just takes time.
On the way home, there was a car with two stickers:
Tell Barak I’m broke.
NOBAMA 2012, we gave each other double-thumbs up.
My Dad said he’s been there, done that. Sister went to Penn State, long way from Ft. Lauderdale. So 3hrs. is nothing.
I should be glad that she wants to come home for a 4-day labor day w/e. If she didn’t, THEN I should be sad.
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest you all. I love you people. And I’m addicted to FR.
Even if she becomes convinced of some liberal arguements, she’ll be shaken back to reality once she starts paying taxes supporting those arguements. :)
Sorry, but nothing will be the same again.
When she comes back it will be a visit, it is part of life, celebrate you have a child you did your best to raise and she will be fine.
I painted my daughters room and made it a guest room.
I packed up what she left and each box wrote a note to her. So it didn’t matter when she opened the boxes, there would be a note to her about how much we loved and appreciated her.
When she came back to visit, it was very special and for the first time we became friends with our adult child.
You as a parent you will always worry, but be happy you have an adult child that is accomplished and be proud.
Oh, yea and for the first time since she was a baby you will get a good nights sleep. ;-)
You will be fine.....be thankful that your daughter is in college....now you can focus on a long and healthy life in anticipation of being a grandfather.
UCF is a good school and she close. Chill out, she’ll be fine.
Not at all. I miss my daughter also. But remember the rhyme: “A son is a son till he takes him a wife. A daughter’s a daughter for the rest of her life.” Take comfort in that. She will be very busy for a while but it will pass. She will always be in your life. The immediate pain will subside faster than you expect as you get used to the new “temporary” normal. You can count on it.
It will be rough for her and you the next few months. Don't kid yourself.
My Sis and BIL brought their oldest to Gainsville today. They live in Ft. Lauderdale too. Next year the youngest will be heading out. : (
Thankfully, they will still have their dog.
You will get over it. Time heals.
For now, remember how it feels. In time you will smile.
At one point in my life I cried a lot because I missed my family members who had passed on so much. I prayed and asked God to help me stop crying so much. It was a kind of funny way He worked. I was on a drive and a Church sign said, "Tear not, for I am with you". I really felt like Jesus was speaking to me. After that day I was able to stop crying too much. So I pass this on to you also, tear not because He is with you!
She will be back for Christmas.
Everyday that goes by you miss them a little less, until that moment of everyday that you think of them and you miss them but you can’t wait to see them. When you do see them again make the most of those times.
AND FOR GOD’S SAKE DON’T LISTEN TO “CATS IN THE CRADLE.”
For a degree is Bio-Medical Sciences, she wants to be some sort of surgeon. So I kept my mouth shut about Øbamacare most of the time. Just want her to do what she wants and likes.
Yeah, time heals all wounds. Been saving large projects for after she was at college. The last week it’s been hard to not cry. Two months ago at orientation up at UCF, my wife and my Mom balled their eyes out with her. But it didn’t hit me until this past week.
I held it in while saying bye tonight though. I was strong. It’s so interesting reading all your comments. Thanks again.
Welcome to the “empty nest” club. Of course, they always come home, sometimes for longer periods than other times. I do have one word of advice: “pets”. A dog, a couple of cats, chickens, even... whatever. The value of having other living beings around you (and that depend on you) cannot be overstated.
Meanwhile, there’s always cell phones, Skype, email, etc.
Skype is really cool.
You are not stupid. We do not feel that you are stupid for posting this.
There is some pain and sadness that a major phase of life has ended, as your daughter is going off into the world. But, just know that this is a part of life. You yourself, at some point, grew up and moved out of your parent’s house, and got married and moved on into adulthood. Your daughter is taking those first steps now.
I felt similarly when both of my children moved out of the house. But, it’s the natural order of things, that children grow up and leave home to create their adult lives.
Heh.. You posted 17 seconds before me but we obviously think alike (Skype).
Go visit her in two weeks. Meet her friends. Keep in touch by email, etc.
From a Mom, who in a span of five years, took four sons off to college...I promise that it hurts a little bit less every day.
I still remember dropping my Sis of at AU in DC. My father is a tough one. : )
She had one suitcase and that was it. Everyone else had moving vans. To make things worse, AU had her in the male dorm. I still remember waving to her as we drove off. She stood there so forlorn. It still breaks my heart. But she survived beautifully, although that Freshman year for her really sucked. She'd call me crying.
She’s three hours away. She’ll probably pop home on weekends, and bring you her laundry.
Hate to break this to you, but you got the bronze. See post 24.
Longfellow: That song made me try and do as much as I could with her while she was growing up. I really tried to be the best Dad I could. I’m not perfect, I was a jerk a few times. But that’s life.
She didn’t have a smart phone until recently. Thank GOD. We used to have chats before she fell asleep. The past yr. or so, she got addicted to Netflix and the iphone. But I kept trying. I only have a couple tiny regrets of jerkitude. But for the vast majority of Dad-hood I tried my best, knowing this day would come. I should take solace in the fact that she’s a responsible kid who studies hard and got honors in HS. She graduated with a 4.3 (don’t ask how that’s possible)
We got skype to work before heading up there. She is WELL prepared. My Dad helped.
Thanks a lot you guys. I’ll be reading your comments over and over. You folks are the best in America.
You got it. She’ll do great, but don’t keep your mouth shut about Obamacare. She needs to know along with her peers. Doctors are a liberal bunch and they need to know that he and liberal policies in general are destroying healthcare for Americans and their careers as doctors and surgeons.
Here’s some great resources for her:
Podcast on American healthcare: http://www.econtalk.org/archives/2012/07/scott_atlas_on.html
Keep her well-armed and she’ll be prepared for whatever it takes. You’re a good dad and have a good night.
It’s tough, no doubt about it, but take a look at it from another perspective. Your daughter is experiencing the same feelings. You are going to have to be strong for her, because I have no doubt you’ll be getting “those” phone calls. Prepare your self to continue to be her rock.
Also, parent’s weekend isn’t too far away :)
Be anxious for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Skype is GREAT!
God bless and keep you, Lancey Howard!
For what it is worth, a friend and colleague is sending both daughters off to college. He is driving one to Utah during the next week and he certainly is feeling it as are you.
I would suggest your child will cope quite well with the socialism impaired Academented due to your beliefs and values which you have imparted to her.
PS Life’s problems are reputed to be soluble in the Universal Solvent - gunpowder aroma. Hie thee to the range and may all your shots be in or near the Ten Ring. ;-)
When we took my daughter off to college, back in the nineties, I didn't feel particularly emotional about it ... until we got to the campus. Walking around there, I was overcome by a wave of nostalgia. This was college! And college meant me! Where did I fit into this picture? I didn't! It was emotionally very confusing.
This may seem to be a very selfish perspective, and I can't deny it, but it's all about the same thing ... change. "Turn and face the strange changes ..." in the words of the poet.
Nothin at all wrong with crying at a time like this, in fact, it’s nice to hear about.
Be thankful your family is close enough for the separation to bother you, and her.
It sounds like you’ve done a good job raising her. Be proud of her, be proud of you.
God bless you all. :)