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Can't Stop Crying
Me | August 19, 2012 | bicyclerepair

Posted on 08/18/2012 10:26:18 PM PDT by bicyclerepair

Hi FRiends, Boy do I need someone to talk to.

Just came back from dropping off my daughter at college and the empty house is making me cry so much.

Been a member since 2004. This is my first post. So sorry but I can't stop feeling sad and hurting inside because I miss her so much.

I respect you all so much and value your comments. Some are harsh, but most are honest and decent. So maybe I can drown my heart-ache reading your thoughts.

Sincerely, bicyclerepair--Ft. Lauderdale


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KEYWORDS: college; daughter; emptynest; prayer
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1 posted on 08/18/2012 10:26:27 PM PDT by bicyclerepair
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To: bicyclerepair

At least she’ll come home for spring break...


2 posted on 08/18/2012 10:28:15 PM PDT by null and void (Day 1307 of our ObamaVacation from reality - Obama, a queer and present danger)
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To: bicyclerepair

Don’t worry, with this economy she will be back home in no time.


3 posted on 08/18/2012 10:28:26 PM PDT by NRA1776
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To: bicyclerepair

Don’t worry, with this economy she will be back home in no time.


4 posted on 08/18/2012 10:28:42 PM PDT by NRA1776
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To: bicyclerepair

The “Empty Nest” hits some harder than others. You will eventually find it less worrisome, and probably liberating.

Your young ‘un needs to Be Free. This is their time. This is what you raised them for, with good values and examples.

Trust in yourself and your child, and sleep well.


5 posted on 08/18/2012 10:29:04 PM PDT by Uncle Miltie (You didn't build that. The private sector is doing fine. We tried our plan and it worked.)
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To: bicyclerepair

My mother practically got on the plane with me when I went off to college. Little did she know that in four years I would be back.....


6 posted on 08/18/2012 10:30:08 PM PDT by dragonblustar (Allah Ain't So Akbar!)
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To: bicyclerepair

How far away is she?


7 posted on 08/18/2012 10:30:12 PM PDT by null and void (Day 1307 of our ObamaVacation from reality - Obama, a queer and present danger)
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To: bicyclerepair

Don’t be upset. She’ll be alright. You’ve taught her well. Think about how God must feel about us as he lets us go forth in life. Have confidence in her, love her and keep in touch with her.

What is she getting a degree in? Is she a solid conservative or will those lib profs get to her?


8 posted on 08/18/2012 10:33:06 PM PDT by 1010RD (First, Do No Harm)
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To: null and void

3hrs. away at UCF. You all must think I’m stupid.

I’m sorry for posting this. But it hurts inside.

Tonight was the first time I ever saw her cry in sadness. So that’s a good thing. And she was raised a die-hard Christian with solid conservative values.

Her picture replaced Sarah Palin’s as my phone wallpaper tonight.


9 posted on 08/18/2012 10:33:11 PM PDT by bicyclerepair ( REPLACE D-W-S ! http://www.karenforcongress.com)
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To: bicyclerepair

It’s a Saturday night, have a beer and forget the heartache. When my I ditched my twin girlfriends and they later appeared in Penthouse, I cried too on what I lost.


10 posted on 08/18/2012 10:33:51 PM PDT by max americana (Make the world a better place by punching a liberal in the face)
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To: bicyclerepair

If you’re daughter is willing, try and stay in contact as much as you can, without being a virtual hoverer.

Always keep yourself busy on personal projects, so at the least you will always have something new to share with her.


11 posted on 08/18/2012 10:34:17 PM PDT by Jonty30 (What Islam and secularism have in common is that they are both death cults.)
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To: bicyclerepair

My son is leaving Monday for Texas to go to collage. From Ca. my wife and him are driving. Hope they don’t get bit by any mosquitoes in Texas! Don’t worry, she will be fine.


12 posted on 08/18/2012 10:35:11 PM PDT by US_MilitaryRules (Unnngh! To many PDS people!)
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To: bicyclerepair
You all must think I’m stupid.

Not in the slightest.

13 posted on 08/18/2012 10:35:29 PM PDT by null and void (Day 1307 of our ObamaVacation from reality - Obama, a queer and present danger)
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To: bicyclerepair

My heart is with you, we dropped our baby off at the
University yesterday.

Our kids will be good, be loving as we taught them.

Oh my...I said “baby”...”kids”...they’ve grown up!


14 posted on 08/18/2012 10:36:21 PM PDT by stpio
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To: bicyclerepair

Time heals all wounds.

I remember when I went away to college and left all of my familiar surroundings and routines and my family. I cried my eyes out with homesickness the first couple weeks. Then I got settled into the new routine and it wasn’t so bad. I remember after Christmas break I couldn’t wait to get back to the dorm and my friends.

Major changes take time to adjust to. Hopefully your daughter has a cell phone and doesn’t live too far away so she can come home occasionally. You’ll get used to your new situation—it just takes time.


15 posted on 08/18/2012 10:36:36 PM PDT by dupree
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To: bicyclerepair
I've dropped off three sons at collage and it was harder with each. The last one is still attending USF (Tampa) and was home for the summer. He did a summer internship close to where we live and I loved having him back for the summer. It was a joy to see each grow and become independent, some have been back from time to time because of the economy. Sounds like she may be your first to go? Pray that she is gone for good. LOL (at least living with you, as you always want the back for a visit).
16 posted on 08/18/2012 10:36:36 PM PDT by WHBates
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To: bicyclerepair

On the way home, there was a car with two stickers:

Tell Barak I’m broke.

NOBAMA 2012, we gave each other double-thumbs up.

My Dad said he’s been there, done that. Sister went to Penn State, long way from Ft. Lauderdale. So 3hrs. is nothing.

I should be glad that she wants to come home for a 4-day labor day w/e. If she didn’t, THEN I should be sad.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest you all. I love you people. And I’m addicted to FR.


17 posted on 08/18/2012 10:37:15 PM PDT by bicyclerepair ( REPLACE D-W-S ! http://www.karenforcongress.com)
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To: 1010RD

Even if she becomes convinced of some liberal arguements, she’ll be shaken back to reality once she starts paying taxes supporting those arguements. :)


18 posted on 08/18/2012 10:37:15 PM PDT by Jonty30 (What Islam and secularism have in common is that they are both death cults.)
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To: bicyclerepair

Sorry, but nothing will be the same again.
When she comes back it will be a visit, it is part of life, celebrate you have a child you did your best to raise and she will be fine.
I painted my daughters room and made it a guest room.
I packed up what she left and each box wrote a note to her. So it didn’t matter when she opened the boxes, there would be a note to her about how much we loved and appreciated her.
When she came back to visit, it was very special and for the first time we became friends with our adult child.
You as a parent you will always worry, but be happy you have an adult child that is accomplished and be proud.
Oh, yea and for the first time since she was a baby you will get a good nights sleep. ;-)


19 posted on 08/18/2012 10:38:50 PM PDT by roylene (Salvation the great Gift of Grace.)
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To: bicyclerepair

You will be fine.....be thankful that your daughter is in college....now you can focus on a long and healthy life in anticipation of being a grandfather.


20 posted on 08/18/2012 10:39:50 PM PDT by spokeshave (The only people better off today than 4 years ago are the Prisoners at Guantanamo.)
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To: bicyclerepair

UCF is a good school and she close. Chill out, she’ll be fine.


21 posted on 08/18/2012 10:40:37 PM PDT by WHBates
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To: bicyclerepair
Turn her room into a home theater.

-PJ

22 posted on 08/18/2012 10:40:57 PM PDT by Political Junkie Too ( It doesn't come naturally when you're not natural born.)
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To: bicyclerepair

Not at all. I miss my daughter also. But remember the rhyme: “A son is a son till he takes him a wife. A daughter’s a daughter for the rest of her life.” Take comfort in that. She will be very busy for a while but it will pass. She will always be in your life. The immediate pain will subside faster than you expect as you get used to the new “temporary” normal. You can count on it.


23 posted on 08/18/2012 10:41:19 PM PDT by emotionalcripple
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To: bicyclerepair
Skype! (Best invention ever!)

: )

It will be rough for her and you the next few months. Don't kid yourself.

My Sis and BIL brought their oldest to Gainsville today. They live in Ft. Lauderdale too. Next year the youngest will be heading out. : (

Thankfully, they will still have their dog.

24 posted on 08/18/2012 10:41:43 PM PDT by Chgogal (WSJ, Coulter, Kristol, Krauthammer, Rove et al., STFU. TY)
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To: bicyclerepair

You will get over it. Time heals.

For now, remember how it feels. In time you will smile.


25 posted on 08/18/2012 10:42:18 PM PDT by Jet Jaguar
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To: bicyclerepair
Hey, it's OK to cry. Go ahead and have a really good cry. It's good for the heart and soul. The crying should settle down after awhile. Ask The Holy Spirit to fill in the places in your house and heart that seem so empty without your precious daughter near. Also, using Skype can help because you can see her everyday and talk to her over your computer.

At one point in my life I cried a lot because I missed my family members who had passed on so much. I prayed and asked God to help me stop crying so much. It was a kind of funny way He worked. I was on a drive and a Church sign said, "Tear not, for I am with you". I really felt like Jesus was speaking to me. After that day I was able to stop crying too much. So I pass this on to you also, tear not because He is with you!

26 posted on 08/18/2012 10:42:50 PM PDT by Bellflower (The LORD is Holy, separated from all sin, perfect, righteous, high and lifted up.)
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To: Political Junkie Too
Hey!

She will be back for Christmas.

Sheesh!!!!!!

; )

27 posted on 08/18/2012 10:43:12 PM PDT by Chgogal (WSJ, Coulter, Kristol, Krauthammer, Rove et al., STFU. TY)
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To: bicyclerepair

Everyday that goes by you miss them a little less, until that moment of everyday that you think of them and you miss them but you can’t wait to see them. When you do see them again make the most of those times.
AND FOR GOD’S SAKE DON’T LISTEN TO “CATS IN THE CRADLE.”


28 posted on 08/18/2012 10:43:58 PM PDT by longfellow (Bill Maher, the 21st hijacker.)
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To: 1010RD

For a degree is Bio-Medical Sciences, she wants to be some sort of surgeon. So I kept my mouth shut about Øbamacare most of the time. Just want her to do what she wants and likes.

Yeah, time heals all wounds. Been saving large projects for after she was at college. The last week it’s been hard to not cry. Two months ago at orientation up at UCF, my wife and my Mom balled their eyes out with her. But it didn’t hit me until this past week.

I held it in while saying bye tonight though. I was strong. It’s so interesting reading all your comments. Thanks again.


29 posted on 08/18/2012 10:45:01 PM PDT by bicyclerepair ( REPLACE D-W-S ! http://www.karenforcongress.com)
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To: bicyclerepair
Take heart, crying is good. My sweet, cherished granddaughter whom we raised from age 2 months till she was six only gets to spend 2 months with us every summer and she is 1700 miles away. She's only 12 years old and I left her in CA this past Monday. I'm always heartbroken and miss her desperately every August when it's time to return her, and you will see your darling daughter very soon !

God bless and keep you both. BTW, time flies! It really does. You can also sign onto Skype!
30 posted on 08/18/2012 10:45:33 PM PDT by onyx (FREE REPUBLIC IS HERE TO STAY! DONATE MONTHLY! IF YOU WANT ON SARAH PALIN''S PING LIST, LET ME KNOW)
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To: bicyclerepair

Welcome to the “empty nest” club. Of course, they always come home, sometimes for longer periods than other times. I do have one word of advice: “pets”. A dog, a couple of cats, chickens, even... whatever. The value of having other living beings around you (and that depend on you) cannot be overstated.

Meanwhile, there’s always cell phones, Skype, email, etc.
Skype is really cool.


31 posted on 08/18/2012 10:45:50 PM PDT by Lancey Howard
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To: Chgogal
She will be back for Christmas.

In Blu-Ray!

-PJ

32 posted on 08/18/2012 10:46:46 PM PDT by Political Junkie Too ( It doesn't come naturally when you're not natural born.)
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To: bicyclerepair

You are not stupid. We do not feel that you are stupid for posting this.

There is some pain and sadness that a major phase of life has ended, as your daughter is going off into the world. But, just know that this is a part of life. You yourself, at some point, grew up and moved out of your parent’s house, and got married and moved on into adulthood. Your daughter is taking those first steps now.

I felt similarly when both of my children moved out of the house. But, it’s the natural order of things, that children grow up and leave home to create their adult lives.


33 posted on 08/18/2012 10:47:30 PM PDT by Dilbert San Diego
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Heh.. You posted 17 seconds before me but we obviously think alike (Skype).

FRegards,
LH


34 posted on 08/18/2012 10:47:51 PM PDT by Lancey Howard
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To: bicyclerepair

Go visit her in two weeks. Meet her friends. Keep in touch by email, etc.


35 posted on 08/18/2012 10:49:46 PM PDT by Argus
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To: bicyclerepair

From a Mom, who in a span of five years, took four sons off to college...I promise that it hurts a little bit less every day.


36 posted on 08/18/2012 10:49:53 PM PDT by hillaryisevil
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To: bicyclerepair
“Tonight was the first time I ever saw her cry in sadness.”

I still remember dropping my Sis of at AU in DC. My father is a tough one. : )

She had one suitcase and that was it. Everyone else had moving vans. To make things worse, AU had her in the male dorm. I still remember waving to her as we drove off. She stood there so forlorn. It still breaks my heart. But she survived beautifully, although that Freshman year for her really sucked. She'd call me crying.

37 posted on 08/18/2012 10:52:04 PM PDT by Chgogal (WSJ, Coulter, Kristol, Krauthammer, Rove et al., STFU. TY)
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To: Political Junkie Too
You iz bad. ; )
38 posted on 08/18/2012 10:54:00 PM PDT by Chgogal (WSJ, Coulter, Kristol, Krauthammer, Rove et al., STFU. TY)
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To: bicyclerepair

She’s three hours away. She’ll probably pop home on weekends, and bring you her laundry.


39 posted on 08/18/2012 10:55:16 PM PDT by mass55th (Courage is being scared to death - but saddling up anyway...John Wayne)
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To: Lancey Howard
: )

Hate to break this to you, but you got the bronze. See post 24.

40 posted on 08/18/2012 10:55:16 PM PDT by Chgogal (WSJ, Coulter, Kristol, Krauthammer, Rove et al., STFU. TY)
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To: longfellow

Longfellow: That song made me try and do as much as I could with her while she was growing up. I really tried to be the best Dad I could. I’m not perfect, I was a jerk a few times. But that’s life.

She didn’t have a smart phone until recently. Thank GOD. We used to have chats before she fell asleep. The past yr. or so, she got addicted to Netflix and the iphone. But I kept trying. I only have a couple tiny regrets of jerkitude. But for the vast majority of Dad-hood I tried my best, knowing this day would come. I should take solace in the fact that she’s a responsible kid who studies hard and got honors in HS. She graduated with a 4.3 (don’t ask how that’s possible)

We got skype to work before heading up there. She is WELL prepared. My Dad helped.

Thanks a lot you guys. I’ll be reading your comments over and over. You folks are the best in America.


41 posted on 08/18/2012 10:55:29 PM PDT by bicyclerepair ( REPLACE D-W-S ! http://www.karenforcongress.com)
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You got it. She’ll do great, but don’t keep your mouth shut about Obamacare. She needs to know along with her peers. Doctors are a liberal bunch and they need to know that he and liberal policies in general are destroying healthcare for Americans and their careers as doctors and surgeons.

Here’s some great resources for her:

Podcast on American healthcare: http://www.econtalk.org/archives/2012/07/scott_atlas_on.html

The book:
http://www.hooverpress.org/productdetails.cfm?PC=1567

Keep her well-armed and she’ll be prepared for whatever it takes. You’re a good dad and have a good night.


42 posted on 08/18/2012 10:56:12 PM PDT by 1010RD (First, Do No Harm)
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To: bicyclerepair

It’s tough, no doubt about it, but take a look at it from another perspective. Your daughter is experiencing the same feelings. You are going to have to be strong for her, because I have no doubt you’ll be getting “those” phone calls. Prepare your self to continue to be her rock.

Also, parent’s weekend isn’t too far away :)


43 posted on 08/18/2012 10:58:33 PM PDT by onona (loving butter pecan)
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To: bicyclerepair
Sounds like you raised her well, and both you and she are in the Lord.... So you are never alone, and you will always be together. I can think of no greater blessing for a parent.
Life brings changes, but whatever temporal distresses may arise we know that The Lord has said He will never leave us nor forsake us. So be anxious for nothing...

Philippians 4:6-8
Be anxious for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

44 posted on 08/18/2012 10:59:28 PM PDT by El Cid (Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house...)
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To: Lancey Howard

Skype is GREAT!

God bless and keep you, Lancey Howard!


45 posted on 08/18/2012 10:59:56 PM PDT by onyx (FREE REPUBLIC IS HERE TO STAY! DONATE MONTHLY! IF YOU WANT ON SARAH PALIN''S PING LIST, LET ME KNOW)
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To: Chgogal
As long as you don't get stripped of your gold for doping.

: D

46 posted on 08/18/2012 11:04:38 PM PDT by Lancey Howard
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To: bicyclerepair

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lmAi_qJoPbU


47 posted on 08/18/2012 11:05:52 PM PDT by mountn man (Happiness is not a destination, its a way of life.)
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To: bicyclerepair

For what it is worth, a friend and colleague is sending both daughters off to college. He is driving one to Utah during the next week and he certainly is feeling it as are you.

I would suggest your child will cope quite well with the socialism impaired Academented due to your beliefs and values which you have imparted to her.

PS Life’s problems are reputed to be soluble in the Universal Solvent - gunpowder aroma. Hie thee to the range and may all your shots be in or near the Ten Ring. ;-)


48 posted on 08/18/2012 11:06:54 PM PDT by GladesGuru (In a society predicated upon freedom, it is necessary to examine principles."...the public interest)
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To: Uncle Miltie
The “Empty Nest” hits some harder than others.

When we took my daughter off to college, back in the nineties, I didn't feel particularly emotional about it ... until we got to the campus. Walking around there, I was overcome by a wave of nostalgia. This was college! And college meant me! Where did I fit into this picture? I didn't! It was emotionally very confusing.

This may seem to be a very selfish perspective, and I can't deny it, but it's all about the same thing ... change. "Turn and face the strange changes ..." in the words of the poet.

49 posted on 08/18/2012 11:06:54 PM PDT by dr_lew
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To: bicyclerepair

Nothin at all wrong with crying at a time like this, in fact, it’s nice to hear about.

Be thankful your family is close enough for the separation to bother you, and her.

It sounds like you’ve done a good job raising her. Be proud of her, be proud of you.

God bless you all. :)


50 posted on 08/18/2012 11:11:17 PM PDT by Sporke (USS Iowa BB-61)
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