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Posted on 09/10/2012 8:55:21 AM PDT by Altariel
I made the mistake of leasing a car a while back, and the lease is up in about nine months. Should I save up the money between now and then to buy it, or save as much as I can to pay down my student loans?
At the end of a lease the price for which you can purchase the car is called the residual value. This amount is preset when you lease the vehicle. So the big question right now is, whats the car actually worth?
If the company thought it would be worth $12,000 and its actually worth $14,000, that would be a good deal, and youd want to buy it instead of turning in the car. Even if you were going to turn around and resell it, youd still want to go ahead and buy. Another big thing is that Id never tell you to finance a car after the lease term. Theres no difference between that and walking onto a car lot and financing any other $12,000 car.
Look at it this way. You basically have a $12,000 car loan right now, and youd only be changing the format from leasing to payments if you financed the thing. Should you keep this vehicle? Only if its a small percentage of your income. If you make $60,000 or more, Id probably say save up, pay cash, and keep the car. But if youre making closer to $30,000 the answer is no.
Im dating a man who is really exciting and fun, but he has well over $100,000 in debt. He has nice cars, a boat and he travels a lot, and he does it all on credit. He wants us to get married, but his view of money worries me. What should I do?
The fact that youre worried about this situation means you realize that fun and exciting dont necessarily translate into being wise. Im sure hes a nice guy, but your concern tells me that you two are from completely different planets when it comes to handling money. And that can be a death knell to a marriage.
Disagreements over money and finances are the number-one cause of marital strife and divorce in North America today. Fighting over debt and the stress brought on by financial problems will take a heavy toll on any relationship. When youre not on the same page with how to handle your money, youre not on the same page of life. How you spend your money says volumes about who you are, where your values lie, and whats important to you.
This guy is fun because hes impulsive and has a lot of toys. But the fact that hes gone into debt for this lifestyle also means hes a little boy and not a responsible man. And unless you guys can get on the same page with how money is handled, I would strongly advise not going forward with a wedding.
For this to get serious and turn into marriage material, one of you will have to change. Either hell have to straighten up and start behaving wisely with money, or youll have to agree to enjoy living deeply in debt.
Dave Ramsey ping!
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WALK AWAY, QUICKLY. It will be misery down the road, and you will never reconcile your financial philosophies.
I just with St. Ramsey was around when I was in High School/College. Lots of great advice in that man, lots of pearls of wisdom I could have benefitted richly from.
Indeed, unless he is willing to change now, he will not be willing to change later.
Hopefully she will listen.
Dear Vickie - opt for a very loooong engagement. Have fun but don't commit to a guy who can't commit to a balanced budget.
Dave Ramsey Rocks! I’m on baby Step 7, because of his godly counsel. His 7 baby steps are Financial Family Tree changing.
Vicki is smart to have asked first. She must know deep-down it would be misery eventually.
Sorry you went through the same thing.
You’re right. If she has to ask Dave Ramsey, she already knows he’s not right for her.
Is this one of those jokes involving a moped?