Skip to comments.Today my son began the process of entering the US Army
Posted on 10/17/2012 6:41:14 PM PDT by Badabing Badablonde
He struggled in school, crying during math, throwing tantrums during reading, and required a nightly headlock to get his schoolwork completed every night. In 2009 his father deserted us and completely cut him off financially, his sophomore year in community college. Since then he has held down numerous jobs to scrape together tuition, did a stint in Job Corp, and currently works partime in an automotive shop, while helping me care for my adult disabled daughter.
He is a good man. Drug and alcohol free, proud that for him true love continues to wait. Attends church every week, shares his faith, respects him mama, protects his sister, and he melts my heart.
But he wants to find his greatness. He wants opportunities. He wants to feel like there is a future and hope out there somewhere. He feels called to be part of something greater. I love my son so I support that.
I'm a mom. I'm not cut out to show him how to be a man. I teach him how to treat a date like a lady. I teach him that anger is for amateurs and revenge is for whiners. A good deed done in secret has twice the value. But I am incapable of the hard stuff. I don't even know what the hard stuff is. But I do know that he needs a life that doesn't involve caring for a tired single mom and a sister who requires more sacrifices than he is prepared to give right now. I'm sure the Army will be good for him, if he puts his own good into it first.
Mr. President, I wrote you off before you ever became the Dem candidate. I read about your church -- I cannot vote for a candidate who aligns himself in faith with a church that swears unquestionable allegiance to another country. When you campaigned in Germany, instead of working here in this country to win my vote, I was appalled. And when you referred to your own grandmother, a woman who loved and raised you, as a typical white woman, you made me sick. Its obvious to me you have no character or integrity. You have no record of ever fighting for anything, of ever taking a stand on anything, of ever demonstrating your commitment to be a public servant. You are Chauncey Gardener. You are just accidentally Being There.
But now my son is going to defend this country. The odds are he will be sent somewhere to fight people who hate us, hate that is more than likely enabled by your snivelling spinelessness and your need to be loved. The past four years our fine men and women in uniform have endured your contempt all the while protecting you and dodging bullets fired by your agenda. I will continue to pray every night and every morning that you are swept quickly and soundly out of my White House, and that your successor is able to restore our honor and greatness and pride. I have always loved my country and I have dedicated my life to working in its daily processes. I come from a large family of service men and women. But now, its my baby going out there, and frankly Mr. President, you don't deserve him.
Good luck to you and your son.
He’s going to do GREAT! It’s like a reallllly well-funded summer camp, except with a WHOLE lot of yelling, at first. It’s also easy to fall asleep if you’re really tired.
But he’ll love it and he’ll be FINE.
He’ll do great, and so have you.
Your son has a very good foundation from YOU. Thank you for raising someone who serves. Please thank your son for this grateful American. Know that I shall pray for his safety.
God I pray you grab these deserting dads by the scruffs of their necks and direct their cheating hearts like watercourses. Let them be miserable with their situation, so they will turn to you and return home to the families that they deserted as Christ like fathers and husbands willing to lay their lives down for their families.
he’ll do well, you’ve raised a good man, yes a man. He has values and stability, traits that will serve him well in the very near future. Thank You, and Thank him from us all.
My very best to you and your son. BTT.
Awesome post. God bless you and your son.
inspiration to us all.
God bless him, and God bless you and yours.
Good luck to you both and BIG HUGS!!!
Thank you so much for raising a good boy in circumstances that other women consider an excuse to throw up their hands in surrender. I will pray for him too. His road won’t be an easy one. But you did prepare him for it better than most other parents.
If it's not too late, convince your son to joing the Air Force. I think his opportunities are much greater in the USAF and the AF treats its enlistees better. Much better. He'll be safer, too, although many AF personnel do end up in the war zone. This is based on my son's experience as an enlisted man who eventually was accepted to and graduated from the USAF Academy.
PS: Excellent letter.
This kid is not troubled. He has a learning issue. Just like my son.
God Bless the USA!
Thank you for that advice. He actually would prefer the AF, since my father and his 6 brothers were all officers in the AF. He did not do well on the practice test, so it may be easier for him to enter the Army. The math portion apparently kicked his butt and that discouraged him.
Just my humble experience speaking here...
It is going to be a bit of a shock at first... then normal
I wish I could do it all over again, I need a Time Machine
PS if you hear any complaints about Basic, reassure him that it gets much worse... (Social Engineering) ... the rest of it is to be treasured, life long friends and a Mission.
Thank you and I hope you are right.
We have a similar story in my family. My 18-year-old son enlisted in the US Marine Corps in July and is going to Parris Island on January 14. He’s wanted to do this since he was very little. I am enormously proud of him that he has overcome some real disadvantages and heartbreaking setbacks to reach this point. God bless you and your boy, and may the Lord in His providence keep our kids safe from the Evil One.
You’re a great mom. I was a single mom, too, with 2 boys. Both my boys have done very well in spite of an absent father. Thank you for your son’s service. I will pray for you and both your kids, for their safety, their joy, and His blesssings on their lives. You, too. Regards.
After basic he'll very likely start to figure out how things work but he must still always strive to keep his nose clean.I can't give any feedback regarding his possible deployment to Iraq/Afghanistan because I was never deployed to a combat theater.
My son finished all his requirements as a firefighter with our community. He began two years ago as a jr and earned six college credits that apply to homeschooling too. I had to read every word of the text to him, auditory processer, and learned more than I ever wanted to know about firefighting.
But now he is a community fireman, at age 17. He is also taking heavy equipment and CDL courses, has leaned to tile and brick. Our sons are such blessings and parenting a son is a different kind of courage.
Blessing to you both.
A learning issue? When there's no father in the home, it seems that OFTEN that male children have no father figure, and move to "learning issues" today.
Military Service used to be a great discipline, self-respect, self-reliance, meaningful-member-of-a-team building exercise. With the Agenda put into the military today, I just do not know if that's still true but my experience in the past in the Military showed MANY "learning difficulty" and/or "troubled" yewts being made into men.
You have to have been there (in the old military) to appreciate the environment and discipline, or have seen it in someone you know and how they changed for the better.
The thing that all the services gives one, if one is thinking, is that no matter what situation one is dealt in life, one never-ever-never-ever gives up.
Thank you everyone. I didn’t realize the anxiety this was causing me until I started reading the replies and now I can’t stop crying. I sincerely hope that his years with me have not made him too soft to do this. I don’t want him to quit just because this is too hard.
But as God is my witness, I resent my son signing up to fight in a world that has been made worse by the incompetent legacy-whoring statesman-wannabe we currently have.
If he can survive a headlock from his Mom, he’ll be just fine. My Mom popped my eyes out one time.
Don’t worry - school isn’t for everyone. A friend of mine didn’t finish high school, but wasn’t afraid of hard work, and was a great salesman and people-person. Developed street smarts. 25 years later, he owns a truck-parts supply company doing $50 million in sales a year. He’s generous with everyone and his employees love him.
Tell your son its all about getting experience. Learn how to work in big groups, and learn how people behave in bureaucracies like the Army. Learn from everyone - copy the behavior of good people and learn to avoid the mistakes of bad people
God bless you both.
May God bless him and you.
First I want to say God bless and keep you and your son, and thank him for his service. My son enlisted a year ago and is on his way from his first (short) tour in Afghanistan. I have been very impressed with the young men that he has been serving with. They are a testament to our nation. HOOAH!
The Army is a lot of fun. I loved every minute of my time and my son is having a blast now. Even what I thought were the bad times are good looking back. If I was joining for the job thing I would go USAF, if my main thing were to love my job and have fun, I would join the Army and go Armor.
Sorry for multiple posts. Posting from an IPAD is different.
And it wouldn't be because they just like being mean. It's because it may save his and/or someone else's life one day.
As a MOM of a boy who joined the Navy 5 yrs ago, let me tell you that you will worry the entire time he is in boot camp. Every time you expect a call and don’t get on from him you will be upset. You will sit by the phone all weekend and as soon as you step away, he will call. It will be another 3 wks before he gets to call again.
But there are other worries. Are they treating him well? Is he doing OK? Is he homesick? Has he made friends? I felt like he was entering his first day of school, the first time he left my sight.
Don’t worry too much though. He’s turning into a man in that short amount of time that has just opened up the door to a new direction in life.
Just remember that when you miss him the most to be proud of him more. If you don’t understand the entirety of that statement, you will when you see him at his graduation ceremony.
My Son’s Basic Training and OCS companies had face book pages to keep family and friends informed.
Might not be a learning issue. Might be a learning style issue. Schools are geared to teaching boys like girls, and some boys can’t learn that way.
If he wants AF he should go for it! I think there are some study guides you can get that will help you with the test.
Tell him he doesn’t have to date the homo D.I., even if the homo D.I. tells him so.
Good luck to all of you and thank you very much for sharing your story with us!
Thank your son for serving and thank YOU for raising a son that will serve for his country.
He will come home more of a man than when he left and he already is a man if he’s helping with his sister, going to school and working. Please tell him best of luck from NM!
I followed what he was doing the whole time. It is pretty cool they do that now.
Sounds like you are talking about my elder son. He drove me and his dying mother nuts. But he did get through college then a 6 year stint in the Navy as a nuke.
You won’t recognize the difference after he becomes a man in the Army. God Bless you and him.
You have prepared him well and you deserve the praise. He has his own way to make and because of you he’ll do very well.
Don’t be afraid of the Army. I am personally a 22 year Navy vet (cold war. I’m pretty old). But for the past few years I’ve had the honor of working with couple dozen young Army veterans of Iraq and Afganistan and I can tell you that they are some of our finest citizens. Hard working, smart, and solid americans. He’ll be proud to be Army, and you’ll be proud of him...
I would recommend that he consider the U.S. Marine Corp, instead of the U.S. Army... Not that the Army is bad, by any means, but the Corps is a option that is not considered by many.
38 years ago I considered all my options and went into the Corps. I have never regretted it, even though I did but 4 years, I transferred into the Navy as a Field Corpsman and was (by choice) sent back to the Marines to be their Doc, (another option that I never regretted), and 16 years later I retired.
So there is always different options open to young folks, always.
Cheers to him & you!