Skip to comments.Am I Being Vindictive and/or Petty? (Vanity Post)
Posted on 11/07/2012 1:27:47 PM PST by MplsSteve
I have an uncle in Wisconsin. He's slightly mentally handicapped and lives in subsidized housing because of his income level.
In tribute to my Grandma (who's been gone a number of years and of whom I still miss), I send my uncle a check every month. The check is only $30.00. I believe he uses it for living expenses that aren't covered by assistance. I rarely get an acknowledgement/thank you from him - unless of course, I'm late in mailing it out.
My uncle voted for Obama. Normally, I say "Live and let live" and let it go at that. But I am thinking about telling him that effective 1/01/13, that I'm cutting his monthly check from $30.00 to $15.00 because of the impending increase in taxes that I'll be paying as a result of Barack Obama's policies.
Given that my uncle is slightly mentally handicapped, I'm wavering about this. I don't wanna appear like a cad but at the same time, I don't wanna be taken for granted and want him to know that actions have consequences.
What would you do?
oh heck, she’s a rebel and more of a free-thinker than dad & I, so she says. She forgets the pics of Mom with a blue mohawk in college.
The young, they know everything.
My folks dragged me by the financial shorthairs in school, and I learned that lesson well. Time to pass it along to the next generation of ingrate. In time she’ll figure it out, too.
Then again, maybe it was all the times we dropped her on her head as a baby....LOL
How do you know he's not boozing it up? Lap dances at the nudie bar? <<Insert your own sordid nasty response here>>?
Look. It is fiscally irresponsible of you to make this donation without knowing how it is used. If you want to be charitable, then fine. Be sure you know what he's doing with the $$$
Otherwise, yes.... You are being taken advatage of
All good replies - ALL of them.
We don’t know the problems of your uncle,
if he works, the extent of his impairment.
But, he did vote, which indicates competence.
I would cut the amount to $5, send it every
other month, and then just stop. Tell him it’s
because of Barry’s policies.
Personally, I’m feeling exceptionally mean-spirited.
Hubs and I were going to send 5 grand to Beck’s
Mercury One for the sandy survivors.
After last night?
The people who voted for Bloomie and Barry can pound sand.
BUT.....When you send him his check, warn him never to vote without asking you first, because he made a very big mistake. He helped hurt a lot of hard working people because he voted the way he did. Tell him if he does it again, the person he votes for will have to start giving him his $30, because it will have already been taken away from you by that person.
Teachable moment here.
I think what you are doing for your uncle is a selfless act of love—regardless of the closeness of the relationship. From your description of him, he is not like the Obama Phone woman or the women who lined up waiting for money from Obama’s Stash.
Yeah, he voted dumb. But the circumstances out weigh his vote. I’d continue with what you’ve always done unless the economy, or until the economy, makes it impossible.
PS: Am attending Thanksgiving with my father and his wife & her grown children. All are libs including my father—the three sons of my stepmother’s are white trash Obama voters—Obama phone owners. One word to dig or gloat or throw my values in my face, and I’m out of there. And this is my father’s house. See you don’t have it worse than some of us.
You say you’re doing this as a tribute to your grandmother.
That’s all that matters. Is this the only way you can honor her memory? Did she have a favorite cause or charity?
We should be vindictive.
The GOP is dead.
Cut it off for a couple of months. You can always start sending it again, but maybe he’ll remember next time an election rolls around.
I absolutely understand how you feel. I have gotten fed up with people in the past because they never say thank you or even acknowledge gifts, help, etc.
The only problem I would have if I were in this situation is the fact that he’s somewhat mentally handicapped. The reason I say that is below...
My husband and I were in a restaurant Monday evening and in the booth behind my husband were 2 men, one early 20’s and the other in his 30’s, maybe 40’s and the older one some sort of mental disability ~ it was fairly obvious.
As their conversation progressed and became louder I quickly realized the younger man was trying to convince this other man to vote for Obama. All kinds of ideas were being thrown at this man and you could tell that he wasn’t taking them all in by the comments he was making and questions he was asking.
The younger man just kept talking and dumping more and more stuff on the older man. As they walked out I heard the older man say that he was voting for Obama and thanks for helping him realize what a great President we had.
I just shared this story because for all we know, your uncle may have been browbeaten or “convinced” the way that we overheard at dinner. That would be my hesitation.
On a related subject, I told my away at college son he owes me $68 in bus fare today because of how he voted. Am I being vindictive?
A little info, I gave him a request for an early ballot which he never filled out. So I paid for him to take the Greyhound bus home so he could vote on Sunday. (I also took him out to two nice dinners while he was home, I am not billing him for those). Yesterday he texts me this:
“I voted for Gary Johnson, because finance for third parties directly correlates to proportion of votes, and I’m a secular libertarian”.
I am not someone who supports voting for third parties, so if he wants to do that, he should do it on his own libertarian dime not mine. Ultimately, he will only be giving me back the $68 out of the money I give him to live on this semester, but it’s the point of the matter. He can vote how he likes, of course, but he can pay for the bus fare out of the money he has to live on not the money I have to live on.
My family is full of Demcrats. I despise the Kenyan thug and everything he is and stands for. I wouldn’t give up my cousins and other relatives for anything. I think you should make accommodation for your uncle. He needs you. Are Democrats going to replace that $30 a month if you stop?
It’s always good policy to vent your anger on family members and the mentally challenged.
What could possibly be wrong with that idea?
Why are you giving him money? If he honestly needs it and you can afford to do so, then keep doing it. It comes down to family to take care of family in the end for those of us lucky enough to have a family.
“Nobility beats hostility every time . . .” Nice sentiment, but look where that got us today. Sometimes nobility needs to give way to hostility (are you listening, Mitt?). Do you have any other contact with him other than sending him a monthly check? Is he “family” or just a relative? Are you sending it out of kindness or guilt?
And, navymom1, I feel your pain. Everyone on my wife’s side of the family is a big lib. My SIL thinks BO is cute, handsome and even sexy. They are in Oregon....and one of the reasons we are in Texas.
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