Skip to comments.Fathers disappear from households across America
Posted on 12/26/2012 2:06:21 PM PST by Morgana
Nicole Hawkins three daughters have matching glittery boots, but none has the same father. Each has uniquely colored ties in her hair, but none has a dad present in her life.
As another single mother on Sumner Road decked her row-house stoop with Christmas lights and a plastic Santa, Ms. Hawkins recalled that her middle childs father has never spent a holiday or birthday with her. In her neighborhood in Southeast Washington, 1 in 10 children live with both parents, and 84 percent live with only their mother.
In every state, the portion of families where children have two parents, rather than one, has dropped significantly over the past decade. Even as the country added 160,000 families with children, the number of two-parent households decreased by 1.2 million. Fifteen million U.S. children, or 1 in 3, live without a father, and nearly 5 million live without a mother. In 1960, just 11 percent of American children lived in homes without fathers.
America is awash in poverty, crime, drugs and other problems, but more than perhaps anything else, it all comes down to this, said Vincent DiCaro, vice president of the National Fatherhood Initiative: Deal with absent fathers, and the rest follows.
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Read the communist manifesto.
Destroying the family, and all the other ills in our society, are on their list.
Families without fathers is mostly a symptom of other things.
You can’t order the tide to come in or go out. Either be willing to address root causes, or admit defeat.
Can we be told the demographics?? Or would that be racist??
Forget the daughters - they just turn out to be obnoxious loudmouths. The real problem is the fatherless sons.
No dad + teenage testosterone rush = feral animal.
“Read the communist manifesto.
Destroying the family, and all the other ills in our society, are on their list.”
Finally, somebody who remembers this. Exactly.
Sounds like a future Democrat playground, preparation for pharmaceutical intervention and perpetual liberalism.
This problem would be solved if the Nicoles in this world kept their panties on and didn't pick losers.
“This problem would be solved if the Nicoles in this world kept their panties on and didn’t pick losers.”
What about the sperm donors? It takes two to tango, so should they not keep their pants zipped up? After all it would appear that some of them have been donating sperm all over creation.
no, the fatherless girls become baby mamas looking for a male to love them, even for 5 minutes
no, the fatherless girls become baby mamas looking for a male to love them, even for 5 minutes
yes, and those other socialists, the ones in 1930-40’s Germany, were trying to do the very same thing — weaken and eventually destroy family life
people without families around them are more vulnerable, and easier for the dictators to manipulate and control
it is just that simple
take away God
take away the family
and pretty soon all that’s left is the state
...guess who gives the orders then?
I would give you the demographics, but that would be racist, so I’ll just help you out with a little hint:
“...her neighborhood in Southeast Washington...”
These women do it obviously so they can have a household and not work, ever. Usually the maternal grandmother takes care of the kids, so, the mom can get back on line to breed more dependent infants.
The men (if you want to call them that, I prefer the term 'subhumans',) are happy to oblige.
If you are a certain demographic, neither the feds, state, or local authority will track you down for child support.
It has been like this since before the Great Society.
The Rats have designed it for numerical superiority of the dependent, who are also BTW totally ignorant and uneducated.
Have a friend who knows a public school teacher in Indianapolis who is aware of an Amish kid who has not even graduated and he has sixty (60) illegitimate kids. The girls line up to bear a kid with this person. No one will arrest him for nonsupport or for statutory rape or anything. Why? Because the rules only apply to the non-Amish, who must pay all the bills of this prolific man-child.
This year the Great Society bore fruit in that the socialist POTUS candidate promising the greatest give-aways was reelected.
It was close this time, but, don't worry.
It's the last time the election will be close.
It's the Crapture. :)
I’m beginning to think it is by design for the Brave New World
you are correct in that the problem is extremely bad, probably the worst, in one minority racial group
but... there are millions of broken families in the other groups, too. the percentages are almost certainly a lot less, yes, but the actual numbers are still quite considerable
alas, this is a very serious problem ... across the boards. all these families, or non-families, need our help, not just those in one racial group
So true. Too often the emphasis is on the damage a fatherless household does to males, but equal damage is done to females.
and feminazis everywhere are happy.
It is feminazi policies that have led to this. They chopped men’s manhood off by denying him jobs through “affirmative action.” They made him superfluous through government handouts. They created punitive divorce laws that punish anyone with a manhood. They chopped at small business and punished anyone with the manhood to take the risk and start a business. They punished men with “minority preferences” in contracting - a male-owned business is scorned in favor of “minority” owned business.
At one time this was mostly an urban black issue...no longer...
A friend of my daughter (white) was telling her he realized his mother was a slut because she had six kids...
Now bear in mind my daughters mother (my wife) had six kids (4 are mine 2 from a former marriage) and that statement took my daughter a bit aback since both moms had six kids...
...until he mentioned all six kids had different daddies...
And for the most part, men did one of two things.
1. Sold out when they could profit from it.
2. Nothing, because of other priorities explained by MRA Paul Elam.
You are quick to blame the femanzies but who pulls their strings? If you think they aren’t controlled, and by men no less then you, and they are sadly mistaken.
“It takes two to tango ...”
I work with some of “the demographic” in question, BUT this is across the board amongst all women and men of a certain age, income and education level.
One of my 20-something co-workers remarked wistfully that she has never been a bridesmaid, although she talks about friends and family with children same age as hers. She is not married to her baby’s father and neither are her friends married to their baby daddies. These are white Midwesterners.
Same for several of my cousins’ kids. (They are just as melanin-challenged as I am, but low income and low education level, partly because their folks never grew up enough to give up drugs and alcohol.)
One of my black co-workers is VERY bitter about her boyfriend/fiance abandoning their son when the boy was about 8 years old. She’s very worried about the boy’s future.
Another black co-worker lost a nephew, a devoted single father, to a drive-by shooting.
It’s not one group or another that is suffering. It’s a whole generation across the country.
You are right on target. That's why I am looking at joining a third party. I know there's no hope of electoral success. I just want to vote for a party in which I believe, in my last years.
“One of my 20-something co-workers remarked wistfully that she has never been a bridesmaid, although she talks about friends and family with children same age as hers. She is not married to her babys father and neither are her friends married to their baby daddies. These are white Midwesterners.”
Society has turned young people against the idea of marriage. With the divorce rate what it is, and as messy as it is more and more are not willing to go into marriage. Except for the gays, and they too are learning extremely quickly how nasty a gay divorce can be. Later for that however.
“One of my black co-workers is VERY bitter about her boyfriend/fiance abandoning their son when the boy was about 8 years old. Shes very worried about the boys future.”
I know some white people in that boat. She was stupid. If she had married the man first and then he abandoned her she could have gone to court and sued him for abandonment. They have been made stupid from the system and are not able to think. It is just have sex, enjoy the moment now and really pay later.
I didn’t blame feminazis
No fathers, no families, no values.
The majority of lawmakers and judges at every level of government are men.
“Forget the daughters - they just turn out to be obnoxious loudmouths.” —”No dad + teenage testosterone rush = feral animal.”
Thanks a lot. My father was inconsiderate enough to die at age 31 so my brother and I were raised fatherless.
And it's the men who are shooting their sperm all over the landscape who are enabling this.
On the ground, so to speak, it takes two to make a baby outside marriage. (Inside, too, but that’s a different point.)
But on the legal front, it’s overwhelmingly men voting on the laws, writing the regulations, and making the judicial rulings. How is this women’s fault?
It was asked on a previous thread on this topic, “Why do we let women vote?” My answer is, “So you can blame them for everything.”
Did a judge recently not tell a man not to procreate as part of his probation? The man had fathered what 12 or 15? Kids by what was it 11 women? I can’t remember but you get the picture.
More and more the judges are going to have to go after the men getting the women pregnant.
And it’s the chicks opening wide to catch it.
There is plenty of blame to go around.
Jaw dropping. You'd think his leader would have put a stop to that a few dozen babies ago.
Blame doesn't help anyone. Changing the financial incentives would affect the outcomes, and there we are back to the men who make the laws regarding the financial incentives. Get at it, guys.
Most of these so called “fathers” should be called what they are - sperm donors for welfare sows.
I saw that, although I don't recall the precise details ... but enforce it how?
Government should not have the power to forcibly sterilize people. That way lies China. What we need is to make individuals financially responsible for their choices, but eliminating the "benefits" and the gazillion government employees living off the industry, as well as the "clients."
I beg to differ. The daughters turn into baby-making factories.
“But” s/b “by.” Although I could have said, “But eliminating the financial incentives will put a lot of GS employees out of work, and they are one heck of an important Democrat donor and voter base.”
This is true about blame.
The only way to stop it is cut of the welfare but we can’t because that is discrimination against the Amish.
Plus if we did then the mothers would be force to go after the fathers to pay child support. I am all for this concept however finding the fathers and getting them to pay is two different matters.
There was a case in Tennesse? Where a man had what 29 kids? (Yes he was Amish) by at least 14 women. He had a job but by the time anyone the women got child support it amounted to around $1.50 for each of them. It is crazy.
If the women had to provide for their children, either through their own labor or by getting their relations to cough up, there would be a lot fewer women making themselves available for impregnation.
There is no solution other than cutting off the money. If we as a nation won’t do it, then total collapse, eventually, is the only alternative.
“Thanks a lot. My father was inconsiderate enough to die at age 31 so my brother and I were raised fatherless.”
IN QB’s defense, I think there is a big difference between orphaned kids and abandoned kids.
The orphaned kids know, deep down and truly, that their father did not want to leave them. The abandoned know their dad just did not care.
I am sure that made a difference in your life.
I understand that, but even MRAs are coming to see that all of this screwing around is being used against men. Here's a link from Glen Sachs.
That sounds like a good idea in theory. However we both know who will end up paying. The woman.
They have pushed and pushed the free sex on society to the point that I’m not sure it can be undone. These people don’t know any better because they are not taught any better.
These men just have sex with the women and are gone. Yes there are laws to garnish wages for child support but finding him are so hard. He can up and quit and work “under the table” in a new york minute.
You notice everyone here is quick to “blame the woman” yet the men get off scott free.
Not saying we shouldn’t end welfare but should have something in place before hand to ensure the fathers pay child support. It is not fair the woman is paying for the kid and the father is out creating new ones by other mothers. Even if he is put in jail this means he can’t create new children.
Probably would be called racist. But I can tell you how over 90% of them voted for president. Hint: They did not vote for the successful business man who is devoted to his wife and children.
Unfortunately one cannot pin this demographic disaster to a single cause. There are many societal factors that have contributed to this calamity:
Personally I see no way out of this mess our country is in. We are going to go off the cliff and it's only a matter of when.
Yes, there are real men out there and there always will be real men out there but they are in the minority now and we no longer have them in the numbers required to set things right.
Oh, they have an amazing ability to pick losers, too. And they're all raising even more losers. Separately, of course.
Now, I realize what point you were getting at -- the women shouldn't be blamed more than the men. And I agree.
Women were traditionally raised, though, to be the civilizers of men. Of course, they were taught that. They no longer are. Some people had come to think that it was a natural feminine trait. It isn't.
Or quiet little sluts.
ALL children need their natural mother MARRIED TO their natural father. Love and marriage need to come first. THEN sexual intercourse after commitment, a long engagement, and a marriage of two families, so that no child will be born without the steadfast love of a mother AND a father AND natural grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.
I will never forget when one of my grandnieces asked me, "What are relatives?"
I agree with you regarding moral responsibility, but the biological reality we can’t escape is that the woman has the child. Apart from your invasion mass-rape situation, if women have children with no known or responsible father, it’s because of the women’s stupid decisions to have sex with that loser.
It’s not cosmic justice, but I don’t see any way to get around the fact that we need to orient our incentives toward influencing women toward making smarter choices. We didn’t always have over 50% of children born out of wedlock. The moral environment changed, but above all, the financial constraints changed. A woman who doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with casual sex might nonetheless choose not to do it with “him,” if the outcome is likely to be her with a baby and no contribution.
Dads who did remain home and did/have provide in all aspects for their family were portrayed as idiots, fools, & even weak by the entertainment industry. Kids were and are portrayed as the smart and wise ones of the family. This has been and organized and intentional movement.
Today government is allowed to pass out condoms and provide abortions to any ones underage children without parental knowledge consent. Today passing out Bibles in school is prohibited as is prayer in classrooms. Judeo/Christian values in school were replaced with secular humanism which places the value on self pleasure and is a step away from anarchy. Today homosexual activist have access to our public schools. As a result homosexuals are allowed too teach destructive lifestyles which are being glorified even in school yearbooks bought and paid for by parents hard earned money. Any protest is labeled as Phobic of course. Dad's aren't there to protest.
Some worry about the economical cliff& our government has lead us into. The moral cliff is one from which unless hearts change will destroy the nation and bring on the breakdown of society. Remember even with The Great Depression families had not been destroyed and as a result families survived hard times. When the Moral Cliff is addressed the fiscal cliff will resolve itself. The moral breakdown has brought on the fiscal cliff.
Because we no longer have shame. It wasn’t too long ago that it was looked down upon to have a child out of wedlock, now it’s glorified or at last so common that no one cares.