“This problem would be solved if the Nicoles in this world kept their panties on and didn’t pick losers.”
What about the sperm donors? It takes two to tango, so should they not keep their pants zipped up? After all it would appear that some of them have been donating sperm all over creation.
“It takes two to tango ...”
I work with some of “the demographic” in question, BUT this is across the board amongst all women and men of a certain age, income and education level.
One of my 20-something co-workers remarked wistfully that she has never been a bridesmaid, although she talks about friends and family with children same age as hers. She is not married to her baby’s father and neither are her friends married to their baby daddies. These are white Midwesterners.
Same for several of my cousins’ kids. (They are just as melanin-challenged as I am, but low income and low education level, partly because their folks never grew up enough to give up drugs and alcohol.)
One of my black co-workers is VERY bitter about her boyfriend/fiance abandoning their son when the boy was about 8 years old. She’s very worried about the boy’s future.
Another black co-worker lost a nephew, a devoted single father, to a drive-by shooting.
It’s not one group or another that is suffering. It’s a whole generation across the country.
Oh, they have an amazing ability to pick losers, too. And they're all raising even more losers. Separately, of course.
Now, I realize what point you were getting at -- the women shouldn't be blamed more than the men. And I agree.
Women were traditionally raised, though, to be the civilizers of men. Of course, they were taught that. They no longer are. Some people had come to think that it was a natural feminine trait. It isn't.
Morgana always comes on these threads to go after people saying women should control themselves, somehow they used to be able to. anytime you do that, expect Morgana to pop up. Funny I never see her say “it takes two” when the comments are negative about the guys.
Elvis Presley once said "Why buy the cow when you can steal milk through the fence?" Perhaps the "cows" need a stronger fence...
A moral upbringing is what's sorely needed for both sexes, without a moral compass we shall just continue an ever steepening slide into the trash heap of history. This nation was founded on religious principles which, for several generations, have been systematically ridiculed, denigrated, and ultimately ignored. We (collectively) have sown the wind and we shall now reap the whirlwinds.
Just saying, ya know?
The mentality that it's up to women bear the responsibility for all the moral behavior absolves men of all responsibility in the action.
I agree. Men need to keep it zipped and stop passing themselves off as nothing more than animals with no self-control.
The martyr syndrome doesn't wear well. They're not helpless in it.
They can decide to act like an adult human being and think with the brain in their head instead of thinking with other parts of their body.