There is some credence to what he says in general. You have to look at the motivation behind the lie and the age and experience of the individual as well as the circumstances. Some lies are told not to hurt the feelings of others while others are told for gain / profit or to outright decieve so the answer isn’t black and white because there is a wide spectrum. As you get older and more experienced you learn there are consequences to lying; damage to your reputation, harming others, lack of trust, etc... You also learn that you can just tell it like it is and not feel embarrassed about something that you may have told a white lie. It’s the human condition; we are not robots and were born into sin, however if the government can get people to feel guilt about it and regulate it they can figure out to turn a profit from it. Don’t buy into bs liberal ideaologies and news articles. There’s always a hook...
Forgot to mention I’m an investigator and lied to on a regular basis...
White lies are told not only to protect the other person, but to protect the teller from fallout .
You know how I found this out?
Trying on an outfit that I loved, I walked out of the dressing room and asked my husband how it looked, (though I sort of knew the truth).
“Honey” he says to me “that not only makes you look dumpy, but it looks like you are an old woman trying to stay young”
God bless him for not telling the white lie to spare my feelings - or himself from a pre conceived wrath of my feelings.
Yes, my feelings were hurt. But that was my problem and I loved him more for telling me the truth. Especially because I knew the truth, but wanted to hear something else.
White lies are complicated when told, simple and perhaps brutal when they are not.
It seems to me that this so called expert confuses the idea of being kind and polite with lying. When someone asks me something like ‘do you like my dress’, I find a way to say something positive to the person that is true with out actually answering their question. There is no reason for me to say ‘no I think it is the ugliest thing I have ever seen’. I see nothing good in hurting others feelings.