“Being a member of a club does not guarantee acceptance by the other members...”
No, but in the current political climate within the military, those officers who want to look like they are “team players” will make sure they at least portray themselves and their wives as “open and inclusive” to the homosexual and lesbian officers and their “partners” so that no assignment is closed to them. You gotta play the political game, whether officer or senior enlisted.
Yeah, some wives will be frosty towards these homos/lesbians, but eventually the great social experiment will be so forcefully pushed that the traditionalists will exit/retire.
You want to put money on that?