Posted on 02/03/2013 8:29:06 PM PST by ReformationFan
Thanks for the offer, but I think you missed my point. People rely too much on outer beauty. That is why 50% to 75% of relationships do not last. People should try to focus on your personality, habits, like and dislikes etc first. Unless one is butt-ugly, looks should be low priority. When I was in my teens, we had an inside joke...ugly girls were no worse than pretty ones in the dark haha.
“Maybe FR should set up its own match site. All these conservative men looking for good women, and all the conservative women looking for good men, but they’re not finding each other where they live.”
What could possibly go wrong?
“are you referring to filipinas?”
Among others...
I am sure your daughter is nice. But I tell you, truthfully, of all the NICE women I know, most of them for years and many years, ALL of them are married. (Dammit...(:-) I meet a single women, I know to be polite, non-controversial, and leave... too much drama to deal with. Good women marry young, have kids, and like men. Single women, not so much. Ballroom dancing over the years, you get a lot of chances to notice what seems to work in marriage.
“Indian, African, South American, Chinese, Korean - I was amazed. They are bless to have found what is so lacking these days in American women...Me? Single, no kids, never married - yeah, it is hard to find a great gal to marry.”
Sorry about your situation...but you do know where to look. Just about all of the friends that I grew up with are either never married or divorced and not remarried (about half each). Me, I made up my mind 25 years that my only chance was someone from the other side of the world and we’re doing well.
“True. Of all the good women I know here in the US, pretty much all the best ones are taken already. Of the ones that are left, at least past their twenties that is, it’s a given that a bit of some baggage comes along with them. Some much moreso than others, mind. The ones from non-US locations tend to have much less, and are therefore the more interesting to one such as I, to be sure.”
The key thing is to get to know their family. If virtually all of their relatives get married once and stay married your chances of a good marriage increase by an order of magnitude. If not, then you have a lot of angry relatives (and friends) telling your wife to dump you, the first time you complain about the extra pair of shoes she bought.
“Yes Bob, in 2 weeks I will be in the Philippines to meet a sweet young thing. Hi Alex. Some day we will go to your Island to visit.”
I thought you were being sarcastic, but I see your buddy in the Philippines has also figured it out. Best of luck out there and check in with us if it goes well.
I think you are wrong, pal. I got remarried at 43 and I have never been happier and that was 25 years ago.
Ok, let’s get married.
Well said, Bob. There are good conservative American women, but they seem few and far between at times. I was in SoFlo as a single guy. The most wonderful women I met were Latinas. OTOH, I did meet wonderful American women but by then I had spent so much time immersed in South American culture I couldn't see being cut off from it. American women were culturally incompatible after several years.
I will say it again, there are wonderful American women out there. I hope they find the right guy for them. We need their influence in our culture.
As it turns out, my wife is more conservative than I am, and heavily influenced me towards conservatism.
This is "Oh-so-very-true" as well. I got lucky is all, I suppose that's the key factor in all of this.
If this is true, then I must have married the last good woman.
“The key thing is to get to know their family.”
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That may help but it is no key.
I knew my first wife’s family quite closely from teenage days.
I married her at age 36, after she divorced her first husband.
There is no magic bullet.
I just recently married my Philippine girlfriend that I met on my first trip here in 2008.
I moved here and we have lived together since Jan 2009.
We married at the end of last year.
Yes, I know her family quite well. They live in the same town, and our baby boy spends much of his daytime at their house.
My concern is that in the divorce, who gets to keep the freeper account? :)
If FR set up a match site, I’d hit it.
The family stuff doesn’t really apply to Americans, since they’re immersed since birth in the “hate men” culture that we have today, and only a very women can ignore that influence (and only if they didn’t live at college).
I was thinking more in terms of women from other countries, as some may have baggage too, particularly if they’ve been in the country (US) for a while.
Sounds like you have a great setup out there, congrats.
“The most wonderful women I met were Latinas.”
I can’t argue that one...
I know some girls in my grad school class. (I am 49 and have been married for 26 years). They are 30-40 years or so and many of them are already divorced, or in the process of busting up their marriages already, before they even had kids.
I think and blame SO much of this on birth control and the idea of delaying children also.
Hubby and I married young and the kids started coming young. I just could NOT walk out, even if I wanted to. I was also very involved with them, and it kept me from focusing in on his every fault, and vice versa. People without children just have too much time on their hands ...IMO. Before long they’ve got the spouse under the magnifying glass.
I learned earlier in marriage ...HIS purpose is not to make me happy. I have to do that for myself. Once I got that, marriage became so much easier.
What else is it about girls these days? I am curious.
The ones I see in my grad school class scare the hell out of me ...(and I’m not even considering dating them!) They seem snotty, unfriendly, critical, and driven. I can understand how young men would be totally afraid.
On the other hand, my 25 year old daughter who remains with her college boyfriend of 6 years tells me the young men are hideous nowadays ...all they want is one thing and if you don’t put it out, you can forget it. She chooses to remain with her one bf when I feel she should be dating more. But she seems to know best. I feel for her.
I gave up looking. Women today are messed up. But us men are also messed up. Myself for instance.
I have my faults and some baggage but when I work at it I can be civilized however its much easier to say to heck with it and be a hermit.
I don’t blame women or men. I blame fedguv.con and the social engineering schemes they impose upon society especially the parts where they remove the God of the Bible in the name of diversity and culture, thereby stripping us of our culture.
Theres rare jewels out there but they are rare just as they were in biblical times as Proverbs declares
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies.
Oh no Laz...I’ve been around FR long enough to know your reputation! :)
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