Posted on 02/14/2013 11:02:36 AM PST by Morgana
Until late yesterday, I’d not read “Dear Abby” since the last time someone forwarded me a column with her advice on abortion. It’s been so long I can’t remember if came from the original “Dear Abby” (the late Pauline Phillips) or after her daughter, Jeanne, assumed the nom de plume (and the column) in 2002.
In a column that ran Tuesday, a boyfriend wrote that he’d just found out that his girlfriend of nearly four years had an abortion when she was in high school. He explained that he’d overheard a conversation after which he inquired about the implication–that she’d had an abortion.
“She proceeded to tell me what had happened and then said, ‘I never told you that?’” He then remarks, “My reaction is feelings of disgust, betrayal and of having been lied to. Am I overreacting?”
Abby takes the tact that if they had agreed to tell everything about their past, then the omission was deliberate. “If not, she was under no obligation to reveal that she had terminated a pregnancy.” What’s especially interesting is Abby’s concluding commentary.
“Abortion is a deeply personal and often complex decision for women. Ultimately, I am told, most women feel a sense of relief after an abortion. However, many do not feel that it is something to celebrate and may not be comfortable sharing that they have had one.”
What can be said? We can’t know what the boyfriend was really thinking, obviously. Were his feelings primarily because she hadn’t told him about the abortion; because he sensed that the abortion was so inconsequential to her that it hadn’t occurred to her to tell him; or because having the abortion was anathema to him—or some combination of the three?
If I remember the typical “Dear Abby” reaction accurately, this is less than the solidly high-fives to the wonderfulness of abortion from years past. Abby’s first impression answer reminds us that most people do not know (how would they know?) that while a sense of relief may come first, this often changes as the woman moves from being glad the “problem” has been solved to understanding that the child’s death resolved nothing.
Moreover, without rehearing all the studies we’ve written about at NRL News Today, we know that as compared to women who have not aborted, those who have experienced an abortion have higher rates of anxiety, depression, alcohol use/misuse, marijuana use, and suicidal behavior. (See, for example, www.nationalrighttolifenews.org/news/2012/03/still-another-pro-abortion-attack-fails-to-make-case-against-dr-coleman/#.URv8EB2Ytbw.) And that doesn’t address the separate issue of having a higher incidence of breast cancer.
Abby’s last statement is important in ways she probably can’t know: “However, many do not feel that [having an abortion] is something to celebrate and may not be comfortable sharing that they have had one.”
CLICK LIKE IF YOU’RE PRO-LIFE!
It is this fixture, this truth about abortion that the most militant pro-abortionists are determined to root out, as if human nature is mere putty in their hands. They believe the more women talk about their abortion affirmatively, the less “stigma” there will be attached and as a result the moral high ground on which pro-lifers stand can be overrun.
Not so. Women regret their abortions not because others will not “affirm” their decision, but because they cannot!
He should dump her, she isn’t worth it. How can live with someone like that?
There’s clearly something missing from a mother who’ll kill her own kids - some sort of deliberate defect, which grows worse every time she rationalizes the evil deed.
I wouldn’t trust her with my children.
“Oh, I forgot to mention that I had an abortion?”
D’OH! Other than having sex, what have these two been talking about for the past FOUR years?
did he do the killing?
Maybe he should have taken her to be stoned to death.
Dear Abby died and her column should have died with her.
The reason for non-disclosure could be many. Guilt, subconscious denial, fear of rejection are some. The woman is obviously messed up from it.
Why would he do that? Is it his job to punish people? Better just not to associate with her.
Yes it should have
You could wake up with a woman like this stabbing you to death in your bed or maybe even poisoning your food.
Not worth the risk.
1. They have been dating for 4 years and
2. She had an abortion while in high school.
So if they're in the mid-twenties and she had the abortion when 16 or so, then it was long before they met. Not exactly a real conversation item after dinner and a movie, "by the way, when I was I kid I had an abortion". Sheesh, everyone has secrets.
Was he? That’s not in the story. The story is about her highschool years ~ in the past.
Some stains never come off.
I know a young woman who got pregnant in high school just before graduation (she graduated) and wanted to put the baby up for adoption. The young man, wanted her to have an abortion and told her that he would not give permission to put the baby up for adoption, that if she went ahead with having the baby, he was going to see to it that his mother was given custody of the baby.
When she consulted authorities about putting the baby up for adoption, she was told that the father had to sign off on the adoption or the state would not allow it. I called, myself, and verified the information because I could not believe it. She could have an abortion without the father’s signature, but not put the baby up for adoption.
and that still does not justify killing the baby
Contrary to popular belief many men are highly distressed when their child is aborted with or without their knowledge, without their consent.
I,for one, am not comfortable with a woman who has or would kill her unborn child.Abortions are done because the child is inconvenient to the mother in some way.We have a nation almost equally divided between good people who stumble and sin,and evil people who put themselves first in everything.Most of the evil in America is actually rooted in selfishness.
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