Skip to comments.Letís talk about porn: Part Two
Posted on 04/02/2013 6:53:14 PM PDT by Morgana
What does abortion have to do with porn? They are both the end game.
Abortion and pornography are, in different ways, the extreme of what we get when we stop treating sex like something sacred or important. The dictionary definition of the verb pervert means to alter (something) from its original course, meaning, or state to a distortion or corruption of what was first intended.
Porn perverts sex. When you pervert sex when you make it about using other people, making money, or titillating the masses you distort and corrupt it. Creating life and bringing two married people closer together thats the intended purpose of sex. Not profit. Not recreation.
Im old enough now to know I was wrong when I said Porn saves families. Ive literally seen it do the opposite to families. Ive watched women I know struggle on two fronts: one, theyre devastated to learn that their boyfriends or husbands are addicted to porn, and literally cant stop watching and lusting after other women, and two, theyre not supposed to mind. Its supposed to be no big deal.
Its almost de rigeur for comedians to talk about men watching porn and how all men do it and all men lie about it and this is reality and women should accept it.
Well, sorry. I dont accept it. I dont care if he knows her name or not if my husband lusts after another woman, thats infidelity, be it ever so humble. And when young men become hooked on porn before theyre even old enough to have relationships, it gives them dangerous, violent ideas about sex, and some seriously disturbing ideas about what women are supposed to look like and how they are supposed to behave.
I am one of those women who is not okay with porn, and that includes live soft-core porn i.e., strip clubs. Yes, Im that wife. Im the annoying bee eye tee see aytch who wont let my husband go to your bachelor party if I know youre going to have a stripper. (And, yes, I can, within reason, tell my husband he cant do things, just as he can tell me I cant do things. Marriage is a contract.)
And in case youre wondering, I wont go to bachelorette parties if they involve male strippers. For one, respect is a two-way street. I dont want to objectify a dude, even if he likes it. And for two, gross.
My home is a porn-free zone. You can roll your eyes and think Im deluded, but I trust my husband, and moreover, I married a guy who shares my values, and who is concerned that what was once thrilling Betty Grable in a short skirt and tight top is now not enough.
Where soldiers used to pin up photos of scantily-clad, smiling, wholesome, Marilyn Monroe-type gals, they now go for silicone-enhanced, spread-eagled, air-brushed hoochies with hair extensions and false eyelashes and three pounds of eyeliner, replete with strategic bleaching and waxing, all splayed out, nothing left to the imagination. Its more than offensive; its also aesthetically troublesome. It says not only that we are amoral, but that we are just, well, trashy.
I accept that I live in a postmodern freak show of a land where I can see things walking through the mall that would not even have been shown on late night television thirty years ago. I accept that my husband is going to inadvertently see what would once have been called soft-core porn just because we happen to have cable. And Im not going to freak out every time he does.
But, ladies, we need to make a stand. We need to refuse to accept the menace of pornography in our lives. No matter what the fauxminists say, the sex trades do prey on women. They do hurt women.
And we need to stop buying the idea that being cool with porn means were enlightened and liberated. It means just the opposite. It means weve bought a patriarchal lie that selling our bodies, taking pills that subvert our bodies, and allowing our children to be ripped out of our bodies is somehow good for us.
It isnt. We should know better.
Make your home a porn-free zone. Make your life a porn-free experience. Dont give in to the temptation to objectify other people, and dont believe the lie that when your significant other or husband or wife looks at porn, it doesnt affect you. It does. The viewer of porn disrespects the people he watches, himself, and his significant other.
As women, if were going to demand respect, we need to give it. A culture of life starts with respecting human beings enough to say no not only to their killing as unborn children, but to their degradation as adults. We need to recognize and reject the perversion of sex and the objectification of humans that leads to abortion.
To build a culture of life, we have to say NO unapologetically to pornography.
Amen! I now have grandchildren, and will work until I die if needed to keep them in private (Christian) school over the public school alternatives. TV and internet is restricted in their house, as well as ours...
It’s a shame but you are in a minority in Progressive America. And the real shame is those men and women that accept it, think it is OK, and pass it on to the next generation.
I have felt this way for a long time. And I’d like to add that like the abortion industry and the drug industry, the porn industry is run by scary, evil people - the women that you watch faking orgasms are often coerced into performing - children are abducted and abused - torture films, snuff films are made - it’s all linked.
Well...what would you think about someone (a woman) who collects other women’s menstrual blood....for use in a theatre production (it’s true)....society has degraded so much...I am sick...of...it...but, alas, there is no where else to flee
I agree with her for the most part, except the comparison of porn and abortion. Abortion is murder, period. Porn is not anywhere near as bad.
Last I looked it was Women that demand it.
Abortion kills the innocent, porn kills the family thus killing the innocent. Porn kills the soul, abortion kills a soul. The two are equal. sad but true.
I caught that patriarchal lie phrase too. However, I do think patriarchy does have a part in it. Men tell or coerce women into abortions, male doctors make a living aborting babies, males ran the pharmaceutical companies 40 years ago when all this began, and truth be told, male culture wanted much of this to come to pass. That is my opinion.
I think both sides wanted it, and never understood the ramifications.
According to Jesus, not only is the act of adultery a sin, even looking lustfully at a woman is a sin! (Matt 5:27-30) I believe that Jesus' statement, "If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away." is not meant literally, because we can still lust with our eyes closed. Instead, it is meant figuratively, ie: CHANGE YOUR ACTIONS NOW!
Here is a link to an excellent sermon on moral failure by Dr. Henry Schorr of Centre Street Church in Calgary. (Matt 5:27-30) An Affair of The Mind
When you outlaw pornography, only outlaws will make pornography.