Napoleon never pulled it off either. He won many victories, but the army he destroyed would be replaced by a new army a few years later.
It takes time to train an army, but longer to train generals and their staffs. Austerlitz destroyed the fighting men but the staff survived to raise another army and fight again.
Napoleon, a number of times, defeated and dispersed the enemy army, in essence destroying it as an armed force. This was never done during the WBTS. Armies were defeated, but not destroyed.
However, in my opinion if Grant had been in command at either Antietam or Gettyburg, Lee would have had a very difficult time indeed getting away across the Potomac. Both McClellan and Meade arguably allowed him to escape. I don’t think Grant would have done so.
He was almost the only counterpuncher in the Union Army, as was seen at Shiloh. Which was arguably almost as bad a defeat day one as Chancellorsville was for Hooker. But Grant didn’t whine or retreat, he regrouped and counterattacked.