Skip to comments.Kids, porn and sex ed
Posted on 06/17/2013 5:12:23 PM PDT by rickmichaels
In the fifth grade, my friends and I had a special afternoon tradition. When school let out at 3:30, we would walk to Katherines house (a pseudonym), raid her fridge, go upstairs to her bedroom, lock the door and watch Internet pornography. Where were Katherines parents? They were at work. But it wouldnt have mattered. When they were around, we just turned off the sound, or read erotic literature on a website called Kristen Archives. This is how we gained the indispensable knowledge that some women like to be ravished by farmhands, and others, by farm animals. The year was 1999. We had not yet sat through our first sex-ed class, but when we did, almost two years later, it was spectacularly disappointing. We had seen it all, and now we were shading in a diagram of the vas deferens.
Since our special after-school tradition came to an end over a decade ago, Friendster, Myspace, Facebook, Flickr, Formspring, Instagram and Twitter have emerged. But against all logic, nothing has changed in the sex-ed business. Our century is literally on the cusp of puberty, and yet despite these enormous social and technological changes, we remain largely incapable of giving kids the resources they need to deal with their own puberty. Im talking here, specifically, about the province of Ontario. As you read this, kids from Sarnia to Kingstonkids who, on average, have viewed Internet porn by age 11are probably shading in the exact same vas deferens diagram I did. Theres nothing wrong with the vas deferensor so Im toldbut surely there is more to sexual education in the 21st century than anatomy and colouring. Ontario currently boasts the most out-of-date sex-ed curriculum in Canada. It was last revised in 1998, which means sex ed was out of date when I took it.
The Ontario Liberals were prepared to do something about this in 2010, when they championed a revised sex-ed curriculumone that includes sexual diversity, i.e., the revelation that not everyone is straight, and the requirement that teachers answer junior high school students questions about anal and oral sex. However, former Ontario premier Dalton McGuinty got cold feet when a small group of vocal parents opposed the revised curriculum. So here we are three years later, with a newer, gayer premierwho promised to do what her predecessor wouldntand still no dice. The revised curriculum, it was just announced, will not be implemented this fall. Several health organizations, including the Sick Kids hospital and the Ontario Physical and Health Education Association, banded together at Queens Park last week in frustration. They say failure to implement a curriculum that the majority of Ontario parents support (over 90 per cent, according to a recent poll) is sheer negligence. They are right.
Most kids see some kind of porn before they hit puberty. A recent U.K. study found that over 80 per cent of respondents under 24 have used social media to fulfill a sexual purpose. I dont think I need to cite studies about sexting and cyberbullying. All the things parents oppose in the revised sex-ed curriculum are already likely very familiar to their children. So why not address them in the classroom?
The misconception about progressive sex ed is that kids are inundated with sexual material every day outside of school, and educators shouldnt be inundating them inside it. But good, progressive sex ed doesnt do this. Under the revised curriculum, health teachers wouldnt add insult to injury. They would give thoughtful and measured responses to the questions kids ask about sexparticularly stuff they see and do online. They would, in other words, quell the fire, not feed it. Growing up in the early 2000s, for example, I did not know a single sexually active girl with pubic hair. Somewhere along the way, our after-school tradition at Katherines house (i.e., watching porn) convinced us that desirable women just didnt have hair down there. Nobody discussed porn in our sex-ed class, or how women are portrayed in it. But perhaps if they had, we would have learned that shearing yourself is not a mandatory prerequisite to sex. A revised sex-ed curriculum gives context, and context is everything.
As for the curriculums controversial inclusion of anal sexget over it. Gay teens have sex, too, and they have every right to learn how to do so safely. That is a public health issue, not a social one.
Our current premiers reticence on a program she once lauded is most likely political. She doesnt want to rock the boat quite yet, which is disappointing. But the aversion to the new curriculum by some parents is more clear-cut. It is not an aversion to sexual material in the classroom; it is an aversion to reality. Its the reason fundamentalist Christians refuse to hand out condoms in AIDS-ridden Africa. Its the reason my high schools administration wouldnt install outdoor ashtrays on our cigarette-butt-filled front lawn. (To do so would, of course, promote smoking.)
Kids shouldnt watch porn, but they do. We cant un-invent the Internet. And we cant reverse puberty. Case in point: In 2001, one of the most determined voyeurs in our special after-school group skipped sex ed at the request of her religious fatherfor whom an hour of vas deferens shading was just too much to bear. He told her to go to the library instead, which was fine with her. Who, after all, could resist an afternoon with the Kristen Archives?
Public schools should be abolished
Adults who sexualize kids should be in prison
Is just another name for mortal sin.
Therefore we should give up and give them license.
It is like "kids steal, get over it and accept it."
Yeah I stole -- ONCE. I can still feel my Mom's grip on my ear and the perp-walk-of-shame back to the store where I apologized, swept the store for 2 days and wrote a formal letter of apology.
But whining little B's like this just say "OMG, there is nothing parents can do! Better to just let them have sex as young as they want it and tell them how to hopefully avoid STDS! We CANNOT teach morals!"
Adults who sexualize kids should be in prison
Once again you did not read the article at all did you.
That would improve the living conditions of everyone
I read enough. It was dumb.
Then have someone smart explain it to you.
That's my reaction to this stuff. It's repellent. It's a sexual depressant.
I don't you're doing your kids any favors by letting them get their ideas about sex from porn on one hand, and clinicians on the other. "Be hot, be sexy!" "Be hygienic! Be sterile!"
Does anybody else out there find this just sad and disappointing?
Could you be more of a-hole?
I find it disgusting and criminal
Yep! If you have an apartment full of rats you don’t feed them cheese!
Leftist argues: Hey, you know rats will be there anyway, you might as well start feeding them. lol.
I definitely do not agree
My 14 year old got introduced to porn thanks to YouTube’s new policy of not just having related videos in the sidebar, but also videos watched by other viewers. Apparently people who like Minecraft instructional videos also like a healthy dose of college girls getting spanked.
I’d wish their souls to rot, except it’s evidently too late.
feeding rats some fresh children mmmmm
>>Does anybody else out there find this just sad and disappointing?<<
What is sad (the point of being tragic) is that so many do NOT. We know FR understands values, morals and the importance of parenting.
If you were to ask that at other sites (like, most MSM comment sections, DU, KOS, etc.) you would be banned for life.
No one hates kids more than liberals.
Is anyone else dismayed by the complete shaving/waxing of women’s pubic hair? It makes them look like.. little girls. Our society is so sick. Many chase after the mechanical orgasm, so far removed from a loving embrace.
BTW, I'm a public school teacher.
Here is a good site for free home Network internet filtering. You download it to your computers, and it works for the entire wireless network in your home.
And, did I say, it is FREE.
The biology of sex apparently changed in the past 15 years, who knew?
I didn't see that coming.
But I should have.
With the perverts, even instructions on how to assemble a kitchen appliance becomes a vehicle to normalize the deviant lifestyles.
GLBT uber alles!
No, I didn't feel the need to read the entire article.