Posted on 06/17/2013 7:14:17 PM PDT by RushIsMyTeddyBear
I've had about ENOUGH about the bullies at school. Taught my kids to FIGHT as long as they don't start it. But they've really 'jumped the shark' on this one. I guess we can expect 'gov intervention' on this? Seriously?
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Well finally that topic is popping up. My brother and I were 13 years apart. He just wasn’t a bully but an abuser. At the age of 10 I did not think I would live beyond 15 that bad. Reading the post many of yours sounds like little brothers and sisters approx. near the same age fighting which is normal. Not mine, sometimes I would get confuse who in hell is my father. Since my brother did all the disciplining. I was told by him since father is gone he will take over as the man of the house. My mother ignored my cries only to tell me years later that she thought we were playing and I told her NO. Didn’t she hear me scream and cry out? Well that is in the past - somewhat. Today he is in his late 50’s and all I can say I can’t stand being in the same room with him, and he knows that. He told me once that I was afraid of him and that is true. His lose not mine.
LOL
“Researchers at the University of New Hampshire conducted more than 3,500 telephone interviews with children and teenagers (an adult caregiver was interviewed if the child was younger than 10). The researchers asked these kids whether they had experienced physical assault, property damage or “psychological aggression” - in other words, name calling, meanness and ostracism.”
Physical assault? Really? Is that what they are calling it? Then they advise the parents to seek professional intervention. At that point, the dr asks “do you have any firearms in the home?”
Next day..knock, knock...
He was watchign otu for you- I wouldn’t have wanted my firends dating my sister either- they were no good brutes
He was watching out for me. But he enjoyed it a bit too much. We didn’t have our dad during our teen years, so buddy took up the role.
You know, none of my boyfriends would take me “parking”, at the drive-in we watched the damn movie...I couldn’t indulge in illicit drugs, nor alcohol ...he gave all those boys a “talk” and none of them would reveal what he said....
Pissed me off back then, but I’m grateful now. I had the best brother in the world. May God rest his good soul.
It’s not always harmless. You won’t hear much about it but there are some older brothers who take advantage of younger sisters. It causes long term damage.
Yes, but that is not what they are referring to here.
Dad bought my brother and I boxing gloves when we were very little. Highly recommended for raising boys.
My older brother was a bully. It was left unchecked. He ended up getting arrested & convicted for the kind of behavior that went unreported in my family. Of course, none of my siblings wanted him anywhere near their children. But at the time, well, it was my problem to deal with. What a crock of bull shiite.
I grew up with 3 older sisters. They didn’t really bully me per se, but outvoted me on important matters like being able to watch I Dream of Jeanie. Eventually I got big enough, and one day I turned on them and suddenly I could have a say in those critical decisions.
Wow. He is who they are reeeeeeeaaally afraid of. Hence, the downfall of generals.
I think some may have experienced extremes, here, as I have with a sibling. Abuse...mother who was co-dependent and excused his behavior, awarded him the fam business....only for him to rob us blind and go bankrupt....leaving us BROKE after living an extravagant lifestyle.
HOWEVER.........
What I DON’T agree with is the government becoming involved. They would perceive innocent banter to absolute abuse. It’s just ANOTHER way for them to get their foot in the door.
Justified abuse is one thing. But look at how they are pushing the envelope It’s always OTT.
BINGO!!!!
Me, my brother, and my sister ... yeah, we fought like cats and dogs. Good times!
I tortured my brothers with my verbal abuse until they wanted to kill me. Got beat but never bruised (don’t know why). Arguing teaches you how to resolve conflicts. They don’t want you to resolve a conflict. They just want total submission.
I don’t agree that sadism, tormenting and violence are “part of life” or normal among siblings - quite the contrary - and I think you might be doing what the psychiatrist Eric Berne called “doesn’t everyone?..”
My husband family has this dynamic. It’s too complicated to post, but , if you need a friend, FReepMail me.
When my younger son was in the 6th grade I confronted his teacher and had him dismissed from having to discuss a gay themed bullying book project.
She was flabbergasted when I told her he had my permission to knock the snot out of anyone who ever bullied him and that I’d knock the snot out of him if he ever bullied anybody.
In fact, I believe those whose only experience is dysfunction, must believe everyone else is dysfunctional as well.
The proof is in the pudding, you know? I like myself, I loved my brother, he loved me..that has been proven to MY satisfaction...your opinion must be clouded by a dysfunctional family experienced.
How sad for you.
She was flabbergasted when I told her he had my permission to knock the snot out of anyone who ever bullied him and that I’d knock the snot out of him if he ever bullied anybody
Now that’s some darn good parenting!
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