“That’s crazy psychobabble. The man is giving into temptation, plain and simple. It is not that unusual but it is certainly NOT the wife’s fault in any way, except to the extent she enables his behavior.”
Again, if we were to flip this around would the pastor be telling the man that he had to satisfy his wife? Or would he be providing the advice here that the man had to find a support group? The only thing I can see a support group doing is helping the wife find another man.
I’m not saying that’s the case here, but why is porn tempting? What need is porn filling for this man that he’s not presently getting? Why does the husband find it more comfortable to use porn than to go to his wife?
What bunk... You're assuming or projecting this guy needs satisfaction from women and looks to porn to get it. For all we know, this guy needs a jar of lube, leather and an ass smacking from a big fat bald guy to be filled.
Don't blame this on the wife. The man is weak, lustful and doesn't deal with his impulsive behavior.
You are asking a rhetorical question, I assume. The answer is obvious. Men are inclined to be tempted by attractive women and the sight of them, and a variety of them. Even if they are otherwise happily married. Avoiding or resisting tempting circumastances is the proper thing to do, but sometimes we needs God’s help to do that. This cannot be lost on you, can it?
” Why does the husband find it more comfortable to use porn than to go to his wife?
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Because porn is easy.
Because porn requires no effort on his part.
Because porn is totally selfish.
Because porn is a sin, and we tend to enjoy sinning.
Because he has developed a mental/physical habit that is extremely tough to break.
Because porn women are not real, never have a problem, never have a need, don’t have to be sacrificed for, and exist just to please him. He can tailor them perfectly to his perceived desires of the moment. Wives are not capable, not for a minute, of this type of perfection.
Porn is psycologicaly addicting. It does not fill a need, just like oxycotton does not fill a need in an addict, or rat poison fills in need in rats.
The man is addicted, and most likely can no longer get aroused by normal sex any more. Just like an Oxycotton addict, the guy is toast, there is no way out for him without confesson and repentance to God.
But then, I suspect that is the lesson he must learn.