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Help, I'm a Racist and I Don't Want to Be
The Root ^ | July 3, 2013 | Jenée Desmond-Harris

Posted on 07/03/2013 4:04:53 PM PDT by nickcarraway

Admitting it is the first step! But it's not enough. What you do at this important juncture matters. By: | Posted: at 12:47 AM

"I'm a racist, and I don't want to be. I'm a white man in my very early 40s, and for years I've been extremely awkward and anxious around African Americans, especially men. At some point in my early teens, I became very self-conscious about the racial divide. And about that time, I moved to a much more homogeneously white area, and I guess gradually black people became abstractions to me or something. When I moved back to a more mixed neighborhood in college, I found I was afraid of them. Horrible thoughts and associations -- of crime, violence, whatever -- would spring to mind.

"Now it's reached the point where I can't encounter any African-American person without these thoughts cropping up, along with this seizure of panic that I'm racist, I'm giving off a funny vibe, I'm making that person feel uncomfortable and he or she can see through me and knows what's going on. It's a complex of shame and humiliation and fear that for two-plus decades I haven't been able to think my way out of, and if anything, it's only getting worse with age.

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1 posted on 07/03/2013 4:04:53 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

Sounds like the rantings of a person with serious mental problems - or it was written by a black person pretending to be a white neurotic.... either way it’s a yawn.


2 posted on 07/03/2013 4:07:31 PM PDT by GOPJ ((MSNBC?)... liberal anger - - the privileged wheeze of entitled brats ... Greenfield)
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To: GOPJ

I don’t think a black person would ever dream to write such a thing. Definitely sounds like white person.


3 posted on 07/03/2013 4:08:32 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

liberals are so disfunctional... I would be sad for them but the truth is I am not.


4 posted on 07/03/2013 4:09:06 PM PDT by thorvaldr
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To: GOPJ

Move to Detroit, apply for volunteer work, and recognize that all of us in life sometime or another need a helping hand, from someone from another race.


5 posted on 07/03/2013 4:09:38 PM PDT by rovenstinez
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To: GOPJ

Racism is a sign of weakness.


6 posted on 07/03/2013 4:10:18 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: nickcarraway
If you go to the source and skip the first page and then go to the second page, it MAYBE worth your time, but I doubt it.
7 posted on 07/03/2013 4:10:33 PM PDT by Yosemitest (It's Simple ! Fight, ... or Die !)
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To: nickcarraway
I'm sure Desmond Harris would consider me racist as well.

I don't really care and have no plans whatever to twist myself into knots psychoanalyzing why I think the way I do.

I'm normal. She's demented.

8 posted on 07/03/2013 4:12:15 PM PDT by skeeter
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To: nickcarraway

Future Darwin Award Winner....


9 posted on 07/03/2013 4:12:25 PM PDT by freebilly (Creepy and the Ass Crackers....)
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To: nickcarraway

Since leaving America ten years ago, I very rarely see a black person.


10 posted on 07/03/2013 4:13:20 PM PDT by AlexW
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To: GOPJ

“it was written by a black person pretending to be a white neurotic”

I’ll go with B, Alex. Anyone ever try literally staying outside in Skid Row? After 10 pm? I did, as my internship for my grad thesis. Even the most ardent liberal white guilt-trip liberal will change his/her tune after one night.


11 posted on 07/03/2013 4:13:29 PM PDT by max americana (fired liberals in our company after the election, & laughed while they cried (true story))
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To: nickcarraway

Paula is that you?


12 posted on 07/03/2013 4:13:44 PM PDT by Patriot Babe
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To: nickcarraway

Reminds me of the “Sorry Everybody” pictures when President Bush beat Sen. Kerry:

http://sorryeverybody.com/index_old.shtml


13 posted on 07/03/2013 4:14:39 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet (I'll raise $2million for Sarah Palin's next run. What'll you do?)
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To: nickcarraway

No problem...just start every endeavor with this sentence “I was born a poor black child”.


14 posted on 07/03/2013 4:14:45 PM PDT by PoloSec ( Believe the Gospel: how that Christ died for our sins, was buried and rose again)
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To: nickcarraway

Racism will be an issue as long as it is politically of benefit for Blacks, Hispanics, and Democrats generally.


15 posted on 07/03/2013 4:14:55 PM PDT by YHAOS
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To: nickcarraway
I'm a white man in my very early 40s, and for years I've been extremely awkward and anxious around African Americans, especially men.

Cheer up. You're not a racist. Just gay.

___________________

Please bear in mind, people. This is some kind of advice column. Jenée Desmond-Harris is definitely not a White man in his forties. She's the person responding to his letter.

16 posted on 07/03/2013 4:15:47 PM PDT by x
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To: cripplecreek

“Racism is a sign of weakness.”
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Maybe in some cases, but not in general.
Much depends on where one is from and how much exposure he has to other races.


17 posted on 07/03/2013 4:16:31 PM PDT by AlexW
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To: nickcarraway
Like most alleged white racist incidents on college campuses, I'm guessing that this letter is completely fabricated by a black person to, in their eyes, draw awareness to alleged white racism.

Besides, "racism" today, more often than not, means a white person simply noticing truths and statistics.

18 posted on 07/03/2013 4:17:02 PM PDT by NotYourAverageDhimmi
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To: AlexW

Yes, racism is a sign of weakness.


19 posted on 07/03/2013 4:17:25 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: nickcarraway

20 posted on 07/03/2013 4:17:33 PM PDT by martin_fierro (< |:)~)
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To: nickcarraway
Liberty GB - "My name is Paul Weston and I am a racist"
21 posted on 07/03/2013 4:17:34 PM PDT by Irenic (The pencil sharpener and Elmer's glue is put away-- we've lost the red wheel barrow)
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To: nickcarraway

He must put on his finest clothing and ride public transportation to an inner-city area with his pockets full of cash and begin handing it out to the friendly guys hanging out on the street corners while apologizing for his past sins.


22 posted on 07/03/2013 4:17:37 PM PDT by fireman15 (Check your facts before making ignorant statements.)
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To: nickcarraway

Jenée Desmond-Harris is very confused white man in her early forty’s.

Sheesh


23 posted on 07/03/2013 4:17:45 PM PDT by mylife (Ted Cruz understands the law, and he does not fear the unlawful.)
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To: nickcarraway

I’m white so I can’t help it. Frankly, since non-whites think that I think we should show them what racists really are.


24 posted on 07/03/2013 4:18:00 PM PDT by CodeToad (Liberals are bloodsucking ticks. We need to light the matchstick to burn them off. -786 +969)
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To: nickcarraway

Help I’m a Moron and I don’t know it!


25 posted on 07/03/2013 4:18:58 PM PDT by CTyank
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To: nickcarraway
At some point in my early teens, I became very self-conscious about the racial divide.

I became very self-conscious about the racial divide when I was eight and my sister was seven. We were jumped by a group of blacks and beaten while we were walking home from school. A little later that year my uncle was murdered by a black. My uncle was delivering fuel oil in the middle of a winter night to a customer who ran out and had no heat. the customer paid by hitting my uncle over the head with a 2x4 and then stuffed my uncle in a barrel and burned him to death.

I don't prejudge people by the color of their skin. I judge them by the culture and character. I have a deep hatred of everything that has to do with modern black culture. I suppose that makes me a racist, even when white kids act like hood rats.

26 posted on 07/03/2013 4:25:23 PM PDT by ConservativeInPA (Molon Labe - Shall not be questioned)
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To: AlexW; cripplecreek
“Racism is a sign of weakness.”

It may be, but I'm am surprised at how my thoughts are changing.

I was at the VA Hospital yesterday waiting in a lobby next to a black woman. The News was covering the Zimmermann trial. She looked up at the screen and said "He killed that poor boy over a bag of Skittles, I hope they fry him."

I'm just too old for this kind of stupid.

27 posted on 07/03/2013 4:26:59 PM PDT by chesty_puller (Viet Nam 1970-71 He who shed blood with me shall forever be my brother. Shak.)
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To: cripplecreek

” racism is a sign of weakness.”
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Well, you are entitled to your opinion.


28 posted on 07/03/2013 4:27:58 PM PDT by AlexW
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To: nickcarraway

Blacks and latinos are some of the most racist people on earth while whites have largely moved away from racism.


29 posted on 07/03/2013 4:32:50 PM PDT by Bullish (Psalm 46)
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To: Irenic

Thanks, I was hoping someone would post that link.

It’s a 7 minute video, and very interesting. If you have a few minutes it’s well worth the time to watch it.


30 posted on 07/03/2013 4:36:57 PM PDT by Balding_Eagle (When America falls, darkness will cover the face of the earth for a thousand years.)
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To: nickcarraway

He is one of the millions of guilt tripping white Eloi, a sheeple of The Institutionalized White Guilt Complex:

http://blackracismandracehatred.blogspot.com/2013/03/white20woman20begs20forgivenessjpg.html


31 posted on 07/03/2013 4:38:15 PM PDT by Uncle Lonny
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To: chesty_puller

On the other hand, I hear people say, that man had skittles, which makes him Al Capone.


32 posted on 07/03/2013 4:42:24 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: mylife

Early forties.


33 posted on 07/03/2013 5:10:42 PM PDT by arthurus (Read Hazlitt's Economics In One Lesson ONLINE http://steshaw.org/econohttp://www.fee.org/library/det)
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To: nickcarraway

All this talk about racisim. Maybe the group of people seen and their actions brings out a negative side. That is not racisim! When I see a gang of yutes no matter the color with saggin pants and causing a ruckus in the local big chain store and running wild like a bunch of wild animals yea I tend to have a negative feeling about this gang of fools! It’s not that I have the same feelings of others of the same crowd, but it does put a disparaging view of their clan. What ones race does in public does have an effect on what others think and feel about where those roots were spawned.
I as a young man was taught to never do anything that would harm the presense of my family in the local neighborhood.
If I did there would be hell to pay at home regardless of what went on downtown in the pd shop! Plus there would be no bail for this boy!


34 posted on 07/03/2013 5:14:50 PM PDT by Conserev1 ("Still Clinging to my Bible and my Weapon")
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To: Irenic

Dayum. That is good.
It sounds like he did that whole thing off the cuff.

Free thinking people fight wars against tyrants. When they win, they seek brotherhood with the vanquished.
It’s a miracle of love.
I am Paul Weston!


35 posted on 07/03/2013 5:19:30 PM PDT by spankalib ("I freed a thousand slaves. I could have freed a thousand more if only they knew they were slaves.")
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To: cripplecreek
"Racism is a sign of weakness."

Then we are a nation of weaklings.

Mapping America: Every City, Every Block

36 posted on 07/03/2013 5:39:10 PM PDT by Godebert (No Person Except a NATURAL BORN CITIZEN!)
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To: nickcarraway

Jenée’s writing weaves her personal experience into analysis of issues surrounding race, politics, relationships, and beauty. She has contributed to The Root.com and Time Magazine, and her work has been featured on Salon.com, AOL BlackVoices, and The Huffington Post. Originally from Mill Valley, California, she attended Howard University and Harvard Law School, and now lives in Washington, D.C.

37 posted on 07/03/2013 5:48:30 PM PDT by kcvl
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To: nickcarraway

FUCAC (Creepy Ass Cracker)


38 posted on 07/03/2013 5:50:05 PM PDT by lonevoice (Today I broke my personal record for most consecutive days lived)
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To: nickcarraway

Racism/racist - a totally ambiguous word that helped to destroy a nation and a people.


39 posted on 07/03/2013 5:53:52 PM PDT by Altura Ct.
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To: cripplecreek

“The power of accurate observation is often called cynicism, by those who don’t have it”. George Bernard Shaw


40 posted on 07/03/2013 6:02:10 PM PDT by misanthrope (Liberalism; it is not unthinking ignorance, it is malignant evil.)
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To: nickcarraway

If more of them would stop acting like the negative stereotype... This would not be a problem.


41 posted on 07/03/2013 6:03:22 PM PDT by Dead Corpse (I will not comply.)
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To: misanthrope
You must all know half a dozen people at least who are no use in this world, who are more trouble than they are worth. Just put them there and say Sir, or Madam, now will you be kind enough to justify your existence? If you can’t justify your existence, if you’re not pulling your weight in the social boat, if you’re not producing as much as you consume or perhaps a little more, then, clearly, we cannot use the organizations of our society for the purpose of keeping you alive, because your life does not benefit us and it can’t be of very much use to yourself.

-George Bernard Shaw, Fabian socialist
42 posted on 07/03/2013 6:06:03 PM PDT by cripplecreek (REMEMBER THE RIVER RAISIN!)
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To: ConservativeInPA

I’m so sorry to hear about your Uncle. May he Rest In Peace. There are plenty of whites who have been victimized by blacks in horrible ways and they need to start shouting about it.


43 posted on 07/03/2013 7:13:54 PM PDT by Amberdawn
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To: Amberdawn
There are plenty of whites who have been victimized by blacks in horrible ways and they need to start shouting about it.

Thank you for you condolences. I don't think about that often since it was over 40 years ago. I try to occasionally remind myself of the roots of my feelings, with tonight being one of them. As for shouting out about being victimized, I do necessarily look at it as being victimized. I rather deal with facts and justice. Yes, there are still victims, but the big problem is being able to talk about the facts. That is a problem, not with a minority (blacks), but perhaps with a majority of Americans, including many whites.

I can not think of one person that would go on national TV, let alone be allowed to go on national TV and say something as simple as "all major cities in American have been under Democrat control for decades. These same cities often have black majority populations. The schools are failed. Dropout rates are in many cases over 50%, and many that graduate are functional illiterates. This means generations of blacks are illiterate and unable to contribute to the economy or American society in a positive way. It doesn't take more money to solve the problem, it takes a change in black culture."

When I watched Dee Dee Rachael Jeantel or what ever her name is on the stand I see the epitome of black culture. When I see pictures of Trayvon, recent ones, not the little boy ones, I see the epitome of black culture. I also think about the tax dollars that I pay and the debt that my children will pay to allow current black culture to continue to exist. I am against all forms of welfare and only favor charity when people are required change their lives for the positive. Black culture needs to be ended and American culture needs to be adopted by blacks.

44 posted on 07/03/2013 8:01:20 PM PDT by ConservativeInPA (.Molon Labe - Shall not be questioned)
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To: x

Thanks for elucidating, x. I didn’t care to read the whole article. The title was enough for me.


45 posted on 07/03/2013 8:10:49 PM PDT by hawaiianninja (Palm note to self: Call 'em a Depression and a Cold Civil War. Pray for America!)
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To: ConservativeInPA

Your statement is eloquent and “spot on” as the British say. I, for one, am tired of hearing about black victimization in that the damage blacks do to themselves and OTHERS is never discussed. Methinks a little peek in the mirror would do them good.


46 posted on 07/03/2013 9:36:21 PM PDT by Amberdawn
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To: nickcarraway

I’m very discriminatory and not just race and proud of it!!!!


47 posted on 07/03/2013 9:38:08 PM PDT by dalereed
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To: nickcarraway
I am not a racist. I am a culturalist. There's a difference. I have no problem with black people. I have a problem with trash. I know many good black people and some of them are even in Detroit fighting against the trash there.

Modern inner city culture is trash and its followers are trash, be it eminem wannabes or Crips and Bloods. The biggest trash of all are these politically correct guilty white progressives and media types (run by these white progressives) that perpetuate this trash on all of us.

One can't choose skin color or ethnicity, but one can choose which culture to follow and make their own choices.

48 posted on 07/03/2013 9:51:37 PM PDT by Darren McCarty (Abortion - legalized murder for convenience)
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To: GOPJ

Sounds like someone who has observed bad behavior for a long time and now feels guilty about believing the evidence.


49 posted on 07/04/2013 2:58:22 AM PDT by trebb (Where in the the hell has my country gone?)
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To: max americana

Reality can hit ya hard, bro! :)


50 posted on 07/04/2013 3:38:17 AM PDT by beaversmom
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