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Can a Woman Ever Really Change a Man?
The Telegraph ^ | 05 Jul 2013 | Rebecca Holman

Posted on 07/05/2013 10:45:56 AM PDT by nickcarraway

It's that age-old dilemma: you've started dating a man, things are going pretty well - but you want to change some aspects of his style and personality. Is it ever possible or the right thing to do?

What are your relationship deal breakers? The news that your perfect man doesn’t ever want to get married or have children? The fact that he has a monster coke habit and gets a bit mean and aggressive when he’s drunk?

Or maybe you sweat the smaller stuff – after all, a terrible haircut, a bad slip-on shoe or some errant nose hair are all indicative of poor personal grooming habits and bad taste, and you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with someone who fundamentally has horrible taste, do you?

FYI, I fall into the latter category – I’ve been known to chuck men for wearing bad traveller’s beads, Speedo-style underpants rather than boxer shorts, and those bloody red trousers. Some things you just can’t un-see.

But according to some of my friends, I’m a fool, rejecting perfectly good men just because they think it’s acceptable to wear beads with a suit. After all, they argue, these are the sort of little things you can change over time. You can slowly introduce a skincare routine. After the 12-month mark you can start to develop an opinion on their hair cut, and after a few years you can take over buying their clothes completely.

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1 posted on 07/05/2013 10:45:56 AM PDT by nickcarraway
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Sure, and it’s perfectly okay for a man to ask his girlfriend to drop twenty pounds and learn to use a lawnmower. s\


2 posted on 07/05/2013 10:49:40 AM PDT by muir_redwoods (Don't fire until you see the blue of their helmets)
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To: nickcarraway

Travelling beads? Am I missing out on some new men’s fashion trend?


3 posted on 07/05/2013 10:50:10 AM PDT by SamAdams76
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To: nickcarraway

Why would she want to?


4 posted on 07/05/2013 10:51:55 AM PDT by DManA
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No, but she change into one.


5 posted on 07/05/2013 10:52:43 AM PDT by deadrock (I am someone else.)
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Sure they can change a man. From a happy go lucky human to a depressed beat down shell of his former self. Happens all the time. Most women want to change a man after the courtship is over and marriage has taken place.


6 posted on 07/05/2013 10:55:31 AM PDT by Hyman Roth
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To: nickcarraway

Women would do better by raising their sons as good honest men.


7 posted on 07/05/2013 10:57:30 AM PDT by MarineBrat (Better dead than red!)
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“You can slowly introduce a skincare routine. After the 12-month mark you can start to develop an opinion on their hair cut, and after a few years you can take over buying their clothes completely.”

And then at five years, she can have an affair because “you’re just not the man I fell in love with”.

Not that I’m bitter or anything.


8 posted on 07/05/2013 10:57:46 AM PDT by arbitrary.squid
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To: nickcarraway

Not for the better.

She can make the man more bitter and resentful, less expressive, more volatile.


9 posted on 07/05/2013 11:00:16 AM PDT by G Larry (Let his days be few; and let another take his office. Psalms 109:8)
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Not sure who said it first:

"A man marries a woman, hoping she will never change. A woman marries a man knowing she can."

10 posted on 07/05/2013 11:01:06 AM PDT by Michael.SF. (0bama lied, Stevens died, now 0bama covers up the lies.)
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bttt


11 posted on 07/05/2013 11:03:14 AM PDT by ConservativeMan55
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To: nickcarraway
Can a Woman Ever Really Change a Man?

Sure. Depends if he's old enough.


12 posted on 07/05/2013 11:03:16 AM PDT by Larry Lucido
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Easy answer to the title. NO


13 posted on 07/05/2013 11:03:43 AM PDT by mrsloungitude ( USMC Mom)
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Sure.

He can lose interest because she thinks she is making a better man than the one she met.

Changed man.


14 posted on 07/05/2013 11:04:07 AM PDT by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously, you won't live through it anyway)
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a man can change on his own, but for a girl to change him is asking for trouble

he may change on his own FOR a girl, but she cannot force him to


15 posted on 07/05/2013 11:09:53 AM PDT by Mr. K (There are lies, damned lies, statistics, and democrat talking points.)
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In marriages where a woman is unsuccessful at converting a man into a woman, you’ll see divorce. It is no longer acceptable for a man to act as he was intended to act. In the workplace it is illegal and will get him fired!


16 posted on 07/05/2013 11:12:35 AM PDT by Obama_Is_Sabotaging_America (If Americans were as concerned for their country as Egyptians are, Obama would be ousted!)
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An adult can’t “change” another adult.I think it was Jack Nicholson,in one of his films,who said to a woman that he loved...”you make me want to be a better man”...or something like that.A woman that I care for can cause me to develop the same attitude.But nothing more.


17 posted on 07/05/2013 11:12:39 AM PDT by Gay State Conservative (The Civil Servants Are No Longer Servants...Or Civil.)
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To: MarineBrat
Women would do better by raising their sons as good honest men.

HEAR HEAR!!
18 posted on 07/05/2013 11:14:22 AM PDT by RandallFlagg (IRS = Internal Revenge Service)
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To: nickcarraway
She Couldn't Change Me By Montgomery Gentry

"She Couldn't Change Me"

"Sometime I think what turned her on
Was my old broke down boots
She wanted her a real cowboy
It was a phase she was goin' through

But not one week after she moved in
I caught her paintin' the bedroom blue
She brought home a bottle of pink Chablis
And poured out my best brew

I was sittin' on the porch in my overalls
While she packed her things to leave
She changed her mind when she couldn't change me

She changed direction headed out west
Changed her tune to some hip-hop mess
Her dark brown hair went blonde
And her pretty blue eyes went green
She changed everything when she couldn't change me

She was sittin' beside the ocean
Looking out at the waves
Watching how they keep on rollin'
But always seem the same

She called and said she'd been thinkin' about
All those quiet country nights
And whatever she thought was so wrong with me
Suddenly seemed all right

I was sittin' on the porch in my overalls
When her truck pulled into view
She said I changed my mind when I couldn't change you

She changed direction headed back home
She changed her tune it's all Haggard and Jones
She had her dark brown hair pulled back
And blue eyes like you've never seen
She changed her mind when she couldn't change me

She said I guess when you love someone you just gotta let it be
Yeah, she changed her mind when she couldn't change me."

19 posted on 07/05/2013 11:14:36 AM PDT by LibWhacker
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I have been married to Mrs. Gamecock for 25 years and have to say I am a better human being for it.

Could she change my taste in music, clothes, food? No.

But I am more sensitive to the needs of others. She has added some grey to my back and white world.

20 posted on 07/05/2013 11:20:36 AM PDT by Gamecock ("Ultimately, Jesus died to save us from the wrath of God." ¬óR.C. Sproul)
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