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At what point in the relationship do girlfriends or wives start choosing their man's clothing?
Aug. 18, 2013 | Lee Martell

Posted on 08/18/2013 1:43:02 AM PDT by lee martell

I went to Target to check on shirts. I see a well dressed gentleman, probably in his thirties. This guy had a pale blue dress shirt lined with thin vertical stripes in a darker tone, he wore a brocaded, sapphire blue tie, slate grey pants with the cleaner's crease still there, his shoes, Florshiem and shiny black.

I don't usually notice or give a damn what others wear. It looked to me as though he was capable of making his own mind up, instead, he passively waits and watches someone chose for him. My own attire, while always clean, is very casual. I've gotten used to people confusing me with someone wearing a Bus Driver uniform. That is how bland and consistently nondescript I look most the time. Once I know things fit well and match, my mind is no longer on clothing per se. In this instance, I wondered why this seemingly independent, man was allowing himself to be lead around like a puppy on a short, tight leash by the attractive woman who accompanied him. She held various shirts up to him, as though dressing a life sized doll or mannequin. "Take these to the dressing room", she ordered. "Yes Dear!" his look replies. I still make up my own mind about what to buy, and I don't tell my women what they should be wearing. I may chose to complement something or withhold comments when I don't like something.

I suppose having a woman select my clothes could be seen as a sort of honor. It may be one of the last vestiges of Geisha type courtesy that American men can still expect. I have seen some couples who dress like identical twins! That's not what I would choose, but to each his own.


TOPICS: Humor; Miscellaneous; Society
KEYWORDS: n00bvanity; vanity; welcometofr
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1 posted on 08/18/2013 1:43:02 AM PDT by lee martell
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To: lee martell

Vanity post?


2 posted on 08/18/2013 1:45:43 AM PDT by John Valentine (Deep in the Heart of Texas)
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To: John Valentine

I spent most of yesterday deeply troubled with our President, who some say has welcomed the Muslim Brotherhood into the White House on various occasions. I’m exploring the lighter side of life for a moment. Sorry if I’ve disturbed you.


3 posted on 08/18/2013 1:57:20 AM PDT by lee martell
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To: lee martell

Beats me.

My ol’ man’s been dressing himself since he was a kid.

Who am I to interfere?

[unless he starts wearing metrosexual stuff, anyway]

My mom used to dress my dad.

He looked miserable.

[and silly]


4 posted on 08/18/2013 1:57:41 AM PDT by Salamander (Can't sleep...the clowns will eat me.)
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To: lee martell

Weird vanity but, I let no one pick my clothes.

I don’t go shopping for what I want with others, as they tend to attempt putting me in attired I am not comfortable with or is completely out of my personally disorder.

I have never been comfortable with others choices, particularly because they tend to turn into demands.

Skin that.

Don’t mind a bit of jest and fun in getting me to try something but, Usually they are attempting to change me in their craven image or control me.


5 posted on 08/18/2013 1:57:45 AM PDT by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously, you won't live through it anyway)
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To: lee martell

My wife started doing it when we were both 14, but I was living with her family at the time. And it was a good thing too - I sometimes think I joined the Navy partly because uniforms make things easier :)


6 posted on 08/18/2013 1:58:01 AM PDT by naturalman1975 ("America was under attack. Australia was immediately there to help." - John Winston Howard)
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To: John Valentine

Probably so.

But the point is that women generally feel that most guys just can’t dress themselves for public forums. It was simple back in the 1800s...you had one pair of pants for funerals, weddings, and town-hall meetings...and a plain white shirt that went along with it. No discussion on fashion for the common man.

Today? You have to be fitting the occasion...whether at Catfish Cabin, Wal-Mart, or church.


7 posted on 08/18/2013 1:58:07 AM PDT by pepsionice
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To: lee martell
A girlfriend or wife wants to see her man look “respectable” because she does not want to be seen going out with a guy who looks like he just woke up, off the floor with a hangover.

Guys couldn't care less how they dress as long as they are not a Metro sexual beings. No matter how many times a woman, good looking or not, tries to dress the male, the male can always say, NO.

Women do have a sense of taste over and above men but the man can always refuse to look like a Barbi-Ken look alike duo.

It's up to the guy in the end to assert his “right” to look as he sees fit but...he risks losing the babe, maybe.

8 posted on 08/18/2013 1:59:23 AM PDT by Netz
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I feel the need to stress that we weren’t married when we were 14 - that happened about twelve years later.


9 posted on 08/18/2013 2:00:55 AM PDT by naturalman1975 ("America was under attack. Australia was immediately there to help." - John Winston Howard)
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To: lee martell

lead around like a puppy on a short, tight leash by the attractive woman who accompanied him.

You just answered your own question.


10 posted on 08/18/2013 2:11:39 AM PDT by eastforker (Cruz for steam in 2016)
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To: lee martell

This is a clear case of category error. You are trying to find a solution to the wrong problem. The correct question si...

“What is that woman doing in a clothing store instead of a kitchen?”

Now if it was a grocery store, well, that’s one thing but....

;)


11 posted on 08/18/2013 2:13:43 AM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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In my location, dressing means nothing. I spend most of my day with nothing but shorts. When I bicycle to the market I put on a polo shirt. If needed, I do have a closet full of fine dress, but have not touched any in the last four years.


12 posted on 08/18/2013 2:15:40 AM PDT by AlexW
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To: John Valentine
I've gotten used to people confusing me with someone wearing a Bus Driver uniform. That is how bland and consistently nondescript I look most the time. Once I know things fit well and match, my mind is no longer on clothing per se.
IOW, you aren’t interested in being attractive in the eyes of any particular woman. When you’re buying a birthday gift for a nephew, it would never occur to you to select clothing for him - you are quite sure, correctly almost certainly, that he would prefer a video game or roller skates or some other toy or tool. OTOH a niece would be very pleased to be taken to the mall and be allowed to select an item of clothing as a present, which is the very last thing you would expect a boy to enjoy.
If you have a wife or girlfriend, your attitude towards your appearance changes - shopping for clothes doesn’t suddenly become fun, but you do have someone whose opinion of how you should dress matters to you. You don’t actually spend a lot of time in front of a mirror, so it doesn’t matter so much to you what you look like. But since your wife does care about your appearance, and does after all see you from the outside whereas you do not, it is only sensible to defer entirely to your wife’s preference in clothing for you. What is your motive to argue over something you don’t care about?
She grew up caring about clothes, and you grew up not caring about clothes. End of story.

13 posted on 08/18/2013 2:17:52 AM PDT by conservatism_IS_compassion (“Liberalism” is a conspiracy against the public by wire-service journalism.)
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To: lee martell
Some men with vision problems such as color blindness need the assistance you describe. Other men have careers in the community such as lawyers, politicians, salesmen where they need to always be projecting an image in case they bump into past, current or future clients.
14 posted on 08/18/2013 2:17:52 AM PDT by fso301
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To: lee martell

About the same time when she finally gets her fingers clasped around his ‘jewels’ purse...


15 posted on 08/18/2013 2:21:12 AM PDT by Gaffer
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To: lee martell

I have been married for 37 years. I still do not pick out hubby’s clothes. I have, on occasion, given him a shirt or sweater, but for the most part, he chooses.


16 posted on 08/18/2013 2:32:28 AM PDT by Jemian
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Probably after the first holiday. I forget now if it was Christmas, Valentines, or his Bday. It wasn’t because I “disapproved” of his choice in clothes, but more that I love clothes in general & he’s so easy to shop for. (I’m top heavy & thin hipped, so it’s a hassle for me to shop. Other than being tall, he can wear anything.) His Highness *can* shop for himself, but now he’s gotten lazy.

If you’re looking for some beautiful stuff- especially shirts, check out Territory Ahead. Steinmart usually has a really good men’s department, too.


17 posted on 08/18/2013 2:34:31 AM PDT by KGeorge (Till we're together again, Gypsy girl. May 28, 1998- June 3, 2013)
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Do not take this for an unqualified endorsement, but as something which has some very interesting thoughts:
Why Men Are the Way They Are

18 posted on 08/18/2013 2:36:04 AM PDT by conservatism_IS_compassion (“Liberalism” is a conspiracy against the public by wire-service journalism.)
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To: lee martell

No need to be offended-—I’m not disturbed, just curious as to what motivated this post. Personally I have no opinion as to whether men ought to pick out their own clothes in each and every instance.

I have sworn off buying any clothes until the value of my investments doubles. Maybe sometime in 2014 I’ll be able to buy a few new socks and some underwear.


19 posted on 08/18/2013 2:37:49 AM PDT by John Valentine (Deep in the Heart of Texas)
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To: lee martell

Just before the divorce.


20 posted on 08/18/2013 2:37:52 AM PDT by Yosemitest (It's Simple ! Fight, ... or Die !)
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To: conservatism_IS_compassion
I've gotten used to people confusing me with someone wearing a Bus Driver uniform. That is how bland and consistently nondescript I look most the time. Once I know things fit well and match, my mind is no longer on clothing per se.

Not my quote, so all the rest of your post is misdirected.

21 posted on 08/18/2013 2:39:49 AM PDT by John Valentine (Deep in the Heart of Texas)
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I live in the deep south. 9 months out of the year I have the same uniform. A t-shirt and gym shorts. If I must go somewhere , I transition my wardrobe to cargo shorts, a polo shirt of some sort and sperry’s with no socks. OTOH, I sometimes wonder why they never made Garanimals for big kids


22 posted on 08/18/2013 2:44:04 AM PDT by Artie (We are surrounded by MORONS)
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23 posted on 08/18/2013 2:44:28 AM PDT by Daffynition (Life's short- paddle hard!)
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I an not an expert on this, but I read once while sitting in a doctor’s office in one of those magazines that write about these things in depth.

They had an expose on women who like to dress their men and take pleasure in not only walking them through the aisles and holding out the clothes and having them try on each piece as you describe.

They did an in depth study with 100 women who did this. They had them fill out a questionaire and followed them for over an year. The conclusion was the habit started when the women saw the first skid mark on their mans drawers..


24 posted on 08/18/2013 2:47:34 AM PDT by eartick (Been to the line in the sand and liked it)
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To: lee martell

In my case it will be at my funeral.


25 posted on 08/18/2013 2:59:23 AM PDT by Leo58 (Those who cheer you today will curse you tomorrow, the only thing that endures is character.)
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To: lee martell
I'm a fan of women buying clothes for men. It's something most men can allow with a minimum of fuss that most women enjoy out of all proportion. It is not unusual for my wife to mention when and where she got me a particular item, so I know it is important to her. Why not if she enjoys it so much (and has a MUCH better eye for such things than I do).

I draw the line though at business clothes (at least for lawyers and businessmen). Clothing in those professions is just like for a soldier or an airline pilot, and one must wear the uniform. Unless the wife/girlfriend genuinely understands that uniform and has no desire to update it or to add flair or style, a woman who likes shopping for her man should limit her efforts to the remainder of the wardrobe - what her man wears in the evenings, on weekends, and on vacation.

26 posted on 08/18/2013 3:05:42 AM PDT by Pollster1 ("Shall not be infringed" is unambiguous.)
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Many years ago I worked with a man who was color blind. We could always tell when he dressed himself, LOL.


27 posted on 08/18/2013 3:08:58 AM PDT by siamesecats (God closes one door, and opens another, to protect us.)
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To: lee martell

hence the need for Garanimals for adults.


28 posted on 08/18/2013 3:09:24 AM PDT by stylin19a (Obama -> Fredo smart)
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To: lee martell

Step 1 choose the man for the clothing
Step 2 choose the clothing for the man


29 posted on 08/18/2013 3:20:18 AM PDT by ImJustAnotherOkie (zerogottago)
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Closest I ever came to that was accepting clothing gifts from various girlfriends over the years.
Thankfully I had set a high bar for them in what I wore - quality and style (rather conservative except for a brief fling with "Hawaiian shirts)

Now, my wife, well I'm glad I came into the marriage equipped with a full wardrobe. She has absolutely "leather taste buds" clothing wise. I usually buy for her...and she (and I) am very glad I do.

Heck, I only wear about 1/4 of what I have. There is just little need for 'dressing up' other than the occasional full suit for bidness reasons...which I try to discourage.
30 posted on 08/18/2013 3:21:07 AM PDT by Tainan (Cogito, ergo conservatus sum -- "The Taliban is inside the building")
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To: lee martell

I buy my own clothes but I’ve always sought advice. Guys like me who are red/green color blind do that.


31 posted on 08/18/2013 3:21:32 AM PDT by muir_redwoods (Don't fire until you see the blue of their helmets)
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To: conservatism_IS_compassion

I don’t need a woman’s help to pick out a white button-down Oxford dress shirt.


32 posted on 08/18/2013 3:22:07 AM PDT by steve8714 (Any homosexual man can marry any woman he wants. Just like the President.)
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To: Jemian
Good Morning Jemian! Great to see you...

For the record, I pick out my own clothes. My wife knows this and doesn't even bother to see what works for me. I dress professionally for work, and jeans and flannel shirts on weekends. Summers are shorts and t-shirts around the house.

33 posted on 08/18/2013 3:28:48 AM PDT by Northern Yankee (Where Liberty dwells, there is my Country. - Benjamin Franklin)
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To: Artie
9 12 months out of the year I have the same uniform. A t-shirt and gym/swimming trunks shorts. If I must go somewhere , I transition my wardrobe to cargo shorts, a polo shirt of some sort and sperry’s with no socks Teva sandals.

There it is.
If I have to "dress-up" to meet a client...I automatically add about 25% to their bill.
I got my standards ya know.

34 posted on 08/18/2013 3:29:12 AM PDT by Tainan (Cogito, ergo conservatus sum -- "The Taliban is inside the building")
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“I automatically add about 25% to their bill. “

Smooth


35 posted on 08/18/2013 3:36:34 AM PDT by Artie (We are surrounded by MORONS)
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To: siamesecats

I had a college friend who was color blind - and he worked in a clothing store. (Banana Republic, iirc ... tells you how long ago this was ;-). He was a very successful salesman, because he told the customers they looked great in every combination!


36 posted on 08/18/2013 3:42:51 AM PDT by Tax-chick (Ask me about the Weiner Wager. Support Free Republic!)
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To: pepsionice; eastforker

http://movieclips.com/PLE8-easy-money-movie-regular-guy-fashion-show/


37 posted on 08/18/2013 3:44:50 AM PDT by Neidermeyer (I used to be disgusted , now I try to be amused.)
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To: lee martell
I once had a girlfriend who decided to pick out some shirts at Macys.
She was what I thought a cool girl until she started grabbing shirts
with orange, red, pink with stripes and very metro looking.
That day didn't end well.
38 posted on 08/18/2013 3:45:06 AM PDT by MaxMax (If you're not pissed off, you're not paying attention)
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I once had a girlfriend who decided to pick out some shirts at Macys.
She was what I thought a cool girl until she started grabbing shirts
with orange, red, pink with stripes and very metro looking.
That day didn't end well.
39 posted on 08/18/2013 3:45:06 AM PDT by MaxMax (If you're not pissed off, you're not paying attention)
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To: lee martell

Life is simple at our house. My husband tells me what he needs, I ask him what color he wants, and I order it from Lands End or LLBean. We’re both happy because he always looks good, and he’s always comfortable.
If he needs fishing or hunting attire he orders it from Cabela’s or Gander Mt.
I has never occurred to me to drag him through a store and hold shirts up to him as if he were a 6 year old.


40 posted on 08/18/2013 3:45:32 AM PDT by Wiser now (Socialism does not eliminate poverty, it guarantees it.)
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To: lee martell

As the late comedian Sam Kinston used to say ‘When she takes your di$k and won’t give it back’.


41 posted on 08/18/2013 3:51:57 AM PDT by duckman (I'm part of the group pulling the wagon!)
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To: lee martell

30 seconds before they hit the road.


42 posted on 08/18/2013 3:59:42 AM PDT by ComputerGuy (HM2/USN M/3/3 Marines RVN 66-67)
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To: lee martell

Women start learning how to manipulate Men by about... Age 4
The Boys have no idea what is going on, or what they are getting into

Choosing clothes can be graduated process
from noticing what one wears,
to internally criticizing,
to commenting on,
to suggesting,
to active engagement.


43 posted on 08/18/2013 4:06:37 AM PDT by HangnJudge
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To: lee martell

When she starts buying camo.


44 posted on 08/18/2013 4:08:57 AM PDT by riverrunner
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To: lee martell

I hate shopping for clothes so my wife buys most of my clothes. If I don’t like what she buys then I don’t wear it. It works for us.


45 posted on 08/18/2013 4:18:57 AM PDT by driftdiver (I could eat it raw, but why do that when I have a fire.)
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To: lee martell

Thst is just weird. I purchase various items of clothing as presents for my husband, but I am not in charge of his wardrobe!


46 posted on 08/18/2013 4:22:19 AM PDT by quilterdebbie (We will endeavor to persevere!)
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To: lee martell

I recall being a young manager and reading “Dress for Success.” In it, the author explain why a man should NEVER pick out his business attire. I never forgot it. And she never has.


47 posted on 08/18/2013 4:23:26 AM PDT by Vermont Lt (Does anybody really know what time it is? Does anybody really care?)
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To: lee martell

My wife is the one who looks at me most, so she has the biggest say in what she sees.


48 posted on 08/18/2013 4:25:45 AM PDT by ctdonath2 (Making good people helpless doesn't make bad people harmless.)
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To: Norm Lenhart

Thanks for the early morning laugh-out-loud...


49 posted on 08/18/2013 4:28:44 AM PDT by Mr_Peter (Proud to be a Republican in Hingham Massachusetts)
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To: KGeorge

Later


50 posted on 08/18/2013 4:29:28 AM PDT by leapfrog0202 ("the American presidency is not supposed to be a journey of personal discovery" Sarah Palin)
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