Skip to comments.Teen Sex Sleepovers: The Latest Fad in Immoral Sex Education
Posted on 08/23/2013 11:04:07 AM PDT by Morgana
Just when I think Ive heard it all, I come across something that makes me pause in disgust. This week, I read an article from the Huffington Post titled, How Do You Feel about Sex and Teenage Sleepovers?
Theres no doubt how I feel, but lets first take a look at what the author said. In the first paragraph she asks, Why not teach children how to have sex well, the way you teach them how to do other things? She elaborates, describing parents inviting the teenagers partner over, having a nice dinner and then the couple toddles off to bed together. (In reality, thats just permitting the behavior to take place, not actually educating.)
Then she goes further stating, It seems logical to me that the same way I try to teach my kids to exercise, sleep well and be good people, I would teach them to have healthy sex with other good people. Appalling mental scenarios come to mind, but Im not going there.
The authors arguments in the article are built on a number of faulty premises. Ill address three:
Blaming abstinence-only sex-education for the teen pregnancy rate in the US. Abstinence-only sex-ed has become increasingly rare in our schools, instead being replaced by so-called comprehensive sex-ed. The truth is, comprehensive sex-ed isnt working. It fosters an environment of promoting adolescent sexual activity by implying that teen relationships should include sex. Further, it falsely assumes that teens dont have the ability to avoid sexual experimentation. Teens are actually empowered by embracing sexual purity. For example, a group called Healthy Visions has been welcomed into high schools to tackle tough issues like promiscuity. They present teens with the consequences of sexual activity and empower them to make better life choices. Through their no-nonsense, straight-forward approach, teens are shown they can change their story. The impact its had on students lives is nothing short of astounding. To meet some of their successes firsthand, watch our Emmy Award-winning episode of Facing Life Head-On called Teens Making Healthy Choices. Presenting only two perspectives: either abstinence means sex-is-bad or promiscuity equals sex-is-awesome. Just because a person believes in abstinence doesnt mean that he or she thinks sex is bad. In fact, I support abstinence and think sex is great! But its a gift to be given within marriage, rather than promoting it as something casual. Its an act thats to be treated with respect. Recently, Duck Dynasty stars Jase Robertson and wife Missy shared why they chose to wait until marriage to have sex. Jase told reporters, We were both virgins when we got married until our wedding night. We decided to do it Gods way and basically had a godly agreement that we would help each other get to heaven. Teaching teens respect and encouraging self-control reinforces how awesome sex really is and why its important to wait for the right time and the right person to enjoy it. Downplaying the risks of teen sex, while calling abstinence the scare-them-silly camp. We live in a highly sex-saturated culture that mocks abstinence. Unfortunately, this has made it easy for teens to embrace casual sex. Yet, there are consequences for those actions. No matter how healthy and responsible sex is, young people are putting themselves at risk of sexually transmitted diseases, unplanned pregnancies and all but certain emotional repercussions. This isnt about instilling a false sense of fear; there are real dangers that exist and cannot be ignored. Abstinence offers the only truly healthy alternative.
Surprisingly, theres one thing that the author and I agree onthe role of parents. She writes, It also turns out that parents have more influence on what their kids think and do about sex than teachers do. Parental attitudes, it turns out, are far more influential and meaningful. (Emphasis mine) Thats why its crucial we stay engaged in our childrens lives and not be afraid to discuss sexual purity. We have to be honest; it isnt easy for teens to remain abstinent. Olympic athlete, Lolo Jones shared this about her efforts to remain abstinent, Its just something, a gift that I want to give to my husband. But please understand this journey has been hard Harder than training for the Olympics, harder than graduating from college, has been to stay a virgin before marriage.
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Whats not surprising is abortion-giant Planned Parenthood also openly advocates for teen sex. From their perspective, The solution
is to teach young people how to experience sexual pleasure instead of teaching them not to have sex. Their motive is clear. When teens are sexually active, they need to rely on Planned Parenthoods services, including their lucrative abortion services. Its a sick and manipulative approach that essentially fuels Planned Parenthoods business model. And its even more reason we must diligently fight to protect the lives of not just the unborn, but of our young people.
Nazis basically did this...
Leftists are insane
Brave New World
and nowadays, they can all be of the same sex...
You have heard that if you don’t use a barrier it could kill you? Well, I am the barrier and I will kill you if you try to have sex with my daughter.
The author is seriously confused.
1) Parents are extremely influential on their children,
2) Their children are going to have sex regardless of what their parents think so the parents should just go along with it....
I propose option 'three'....use parental influence to help their kids make good safe decisions regarding sex, with abstinence always being the best one.
But that might result in the kids not thinking that I'm "So Cool", and they might not be my best friend anymore, troubling as that is to me. /s
This was a common practice among the upper middle class upper west siders of manhattan two decades ago—when I was there teaching at a private high school.
I’m surprised its taken this long to get out into the general culture.
My point was that though no one wanted to say that what Shields was doing wasn’t “cool”, they really did not want their parents removing that guard rail either.
I think primarily it would have meant way too much pressure on the girls. Course that was a long time ago.
"I have a shotgun, a shovel, and 25 acres of land behind my house. And no one would ever miss you." :-)
My best friend has a daughter (teenaged, 14? 15?) that is allowed to date anyone, anytime. There just has to be room for my friend to sit between them.
She hasn't taken him up on his offer, yet.
Yea, I know. Any teenager with an ounce of respect for their parents knows that they need those guardrails.
Mom would kill me.
"Parents"? I wouldn't refer to these kinds of people with that term. Even a pimp has a descriptive name.
So you want to date my daughter? Well, let’s talk about that out in the barn while I show you my new wood chipper...
She hasn't taken him up on his offer, yet.
An over protective older Brother could foot the bill as well.:)
If I had kids my rule is
“When you are 18, you can do whatever you want”
Many of them have bought into the PC crap and no longer know what parenting is.
Sex sleepovers are just wrong. The home should be somewhere where kids can still be kids. JMHO
a promotion by a league of child-molesters?
A friend did that. His first grandchild was born after the couple broke up.
Sigh. I was born 45 years too late.
That’s when you get the addendum:
“When you get a job and move out”
Best quote from a commenter the Huff Post page:
“How Do You Feel About Sex and Teenage Sleepovers?
I’m cool with it so long as my daughter’s male friends are fully aware of the fact that throughout the course of the night, they might find me leaning over them with my chainsaw while uttering the words, ‘go ahead, boy......give me a reason.’”
It's clear that you've never had kids, as your statement is only part right. The part missing is "as long as you've moved out of the house and are paying all your own expenses."
That is perfect
A tenth grader’s dream.
When you have zero morals this is acceptable behavior.
Genuine Christians know exactly what this is. They’d be accepting of it if a marriage ceremony took place earlier that day.
They are FRIENDS with their kids, not parents. Being liked is more important than actually raising the kids properly, with values and lessons (some they themselves may have learned the hard way).
Nope, gotta be buddies with kids. Sorry the adult relationship with your kids comes AFTER you’ve raised them right and they respect you as a person and an older adult to them.
yup, and the only way that works is if they’ve been raised right too. hopefully things will sink in and they’ll realize mom and dad weren’t so bad or wrong.
I suspect the teens could teach their parents a few things.
Probably the most beautiful thing I have read with regards to how a marriage should be.
“When you are 18, you can do whatever you want
Seems like a good idea until they turn 17 1/2. “ <———
I have to agree with Michaels on this one.
Rules #3, 6, 9 and 10 are my favorites...:)
Makes me laugh every time I read it!
This used to be called "corrupting a minor" and child protective services would pay a visit.
Its getting to the point where not allowing your kids to have sex will be considered a crime.