Skip to comments.Is It Ever OK to Supervise Your Guy's Haircut?
Posted on 10/17/2013 1:52:47 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Last week I was at my hair salon, and as I was settling into the chair, Misty, my longtime hairstylist, was shaking her head as she finished sending a text. "I have a client coming in after you, and that was his wife telling me what to do to his hair," she told me. "It really puts me in an awkward position."
Wait, women do this? According to Misty, yes. "The worst is when they come in and hover and give me direction," she said.
Excuse me, what? I'm assuming if you're old enough to have a wife, you're a grown-up man. Although maybe this is a normal thing. After all, a few years ago Tom Brady hinted that the reason he kept his hair long was because his wife, Gisele, made him do it. (I give that couple a pass just on general principle. Plus, she played it down later.)
While the whole concept of art directing my guy's haircut seemed a little over-the-top to me at first (and not only becausefull disclosuremy hub shaves his head in the tub every other week because there's not much left at this point), I softened my stance a bit after I thought about it.
A lot of guys just can't be bothered about things like hairstyles or clean clothes (amirite?), and they definitely appreciate a woman's feedback. I mean, you want your man to like your hair too, right? I think what I have the problem with is this concept of women acting like pageant moms, and the guys going along with it.
I will, however, offer a concession. If your guy ever takes it into his own hands to do this, a la Jake Gyllenhaal a few days ago, you march his butt right down to the salon.
My wife does with me, and I don’t have a problem with it - because she wouldn’t do it if I didn’t want her to.
How I look actually matters a bit in my current life, and when it comes to my hair, she’s better at working out what works for me than I am - I liked the way I had my hair cut while I was in the Navy, but I’m not in the Navy anymore :)
I can't believe we gave them the vote. Things have been going downhill since.
I meet my barber in the shower every morning. I am he and he is me. A razor is the tool of my trade...
Easy solution, guys. Go to a barbershop - a real barbershop :) Thanks.
The biggest problem women have is trying to change a guy.
My wife can’t resist doing this, so to avoid the conflict I just get it cut when she isn’t around.
>>My wife does with me, and I dont have a problem with it - because she wouldnt do it if I didnt want her to.
How I look actually matters a bit in my current life, and when it comes to my hair, shes better at working out what works for me than I am - I liked the way I had my hair cut while I was in the Navy, but Im not in the Navy anymore :)<<
My wife has to look at me, I don’t. How my hair is cut affects her more than anyone else in the world.
She doesn’t come to the haircutter with me but she gets right of approval.
This isn’t a big deal since I have been getting the same haircut for 25+ years (scissor cut finger high no part).
Considering that I am the one doing the cutting I had better be supervising it!
Hard enough to find a gal who cuts my hair correctly AND consistently.
Now that I found her, no one will interfere in the process.
Plus, it only her 10 minutes for a perfect cut.
Last week I was at my hair salon, and as I was settling into the chair, Misty, my longtime hairstylist, ...
See, there’s the first mistake right there. Never let some chick cut your hair. A man gets his hair cut by a barber. And a barber is a man who cuts men’s hair. Real men do not go to hair salons.
Hahaha...I have liked for years having my hair high and tight, but my wife prefers longer hair. I find it far more comfortable short.
But she has preferences, and she is my wife. She lets me do what I want, but I have an obligation to listen and acknowledge her views. And she isn’t strident about it.
I could see her going to my barber with me and telling him how she would like to see my hair, but only if I asked her.
She wouldn’t do that on her own.
Absolutely. If left to his own devices, my husband would have a haircut reminiscent of a German Hun circa 1917.
My wife used to cut my hair, but then I figured out how to do it myself with an electric clipper and a hand mirror.
My wife has cut my hair for 35 years, whenever she gets tired of looking at me. I keep my mouth shut if I don’t want my ears snipped.
My wife has been cutting my hair for 40 years.
A lot less hassle than going to a barber.
correct, the only place I go is to a proper barbers
If my wife could cut hair, I’d be right along side you ;)
I like going to the barber shop, sitting down and asking for the usual. I went to Orange County CA for business for a couple months and had to get a haircut. Not only did it cost twice as much, but I had to explain that I really didn’t use “product” on my hair.
Why are you reading Glamour?
There’s as many answers as there are temperaments of couples.
Of course a good thing can be carried too far. Think of Delilah and Samson.
My wife cuts my hair just like I want.
And of course, she calls him Hunny.
learning how to be a glammarian, i guess
I get a haircut twice a year whether I need one or not.
It turned up during another news search, and seemed interesting to post.
I only get involved when a stylist doesn’t believe hubby that he doesn’t do the whole comb-over thing, that he wants what little is left on top cut the same length as the rest. Sometimes a new stylist doesn’t take him seriously, so he has my second set of eyes there to make sure it’s done right. Now, he’s got the same young lady who’s been cutting his hair for the last 8-9 years, and she knows exactly how he wants it, so he doesn’t need me there. She went out on maternity a few months ago, and I should have gone with him. The replacement stylist was not as good as his regular one.
If it does not have a barber pole outside I don’t go in. My wife can give me feedback on my hair cut at home, she pretty much likes what I like. My mom quit going to the barber shop with me when I was 8. I buy my own socks and underware too. But whatever works for ya’ll is OK with me.
pointless word musing... glamo[u]r and grammar used to be the same word. back when few people could read and write it was considered a mystical skill. it was glamorous to know grammar.
My husband MAKES me cut his hair....luckily, he is bald on top. I would rather not deal with it...but, penny pinching and all!
My son used to go with me, for a haircut, until he ‘discovered’ girls, in Junior High School. From that point on, he went with my wife to the “salon” for his cut. The biggest problem I had was the cost (at that time), a $4 haircut was now $25.
One Friday, his pals came to the door. “Sorry, fellows, Tim is at the beauty parlor”, I told them. Next week, I came home from work. “Dad, you told those guys I was at the beauty parlor - they teased me all day !”. “That doesn’t happen to guys who go to the barber shop” I told him ;)
I have been going to the same barber for 20 years. He is an older guy, works with one other guy in a small barbershop in Cambridge, MA of all places. It is a 25 mile ride from my house.
I started going there because there was a really good Tex-Mex place where I loved going to eat, and would make it a ceremony to get my hair cut and go eat. One of those places that fry their own tortilla chips for their salsa.
My barber and I talk sports, life and politics. His magazines run from the SI Swimsuit edition to GQ and Men’s Health.
I leave him a big tip. It is an old style barbershop, they wear the tunics and all. He cuts my hair just the way I ask him to, whether it looks good or not.
My wife has been trying to get me to go to a barbershop closer to our house, so I went to one downtown to get my hair cut before I drove south to DC to hang out with the DC Chapter of Free Republic folks outside Walter Reed.
A woman cut my hair, and when I got home, I looked at it and was aghast. It looked like a bowl cut. I had to go sit in line at a SuperCuts, and a very young woman tried to clean it up, but I still wasn’t happy with it.
My town recently had an Octoberfest, and when I was downtown, I saw two new hair cutting places. My wife encouraged me to go check them out, so I walked into the first one and stopped dead. It was filled with hair stylists, almost as if they decided on purpose they had to have a plethora of minorities, and all of them looked like 20-something hipsters. Out of politeness, I asked their price, and it was four dollars more than my barber.
I walked out. Not my kind of place. I need a guy-type barber shop. It is what I feel comfortable with.
Not unless invited.
he didn’t respond to them by bragging on the hot chicks that were asking for his phone number did he?
“Why are you reading Glamour?”
I could only assume he was the one who WROTE to Glamour in the first place......
My wife cuts my hair. Buz cut using electric hair clippers. She likes the look and I especially like it because there is no fuss or muss grooming involved.
the article is an original here by this cheryl chick. this is not letters to the editor.
lol ! I live in Orange County - pay $8 for a cut, and if I give them a $2 tip, they are overjoyed. Freepmail me, if you need the location ;) BTW - the only “product” they use on my hair is that barbershop squirt bottle stuff !
That is the thing. If I asked her (and I keep thinking I might, because I just can’t figure out anything past a crewcut that looks acceptable to me) she would do it.
But she would never, EVER force herself onto that situation. Not her style. She understands that maxim that many women take to heart: Their guy might do anything for them, but it needs to be something he thinks he has come to on his own, not steered there by a meddling, manipulative wifey...:)
Exactly. Barbers (men who cut hair) cut men’s hair. Period. And if it doesn’t involve a straight-edge razor on the neck (and a full hot shave around the holidays), you’re wrong. This ranks up there with NFL players wearing pink shoe laces: I don’t care how big your muscles are, what kind of vehicle you drive or how much money you make— if you do it, you’re a fairy.
If a man thinks his wife has no say then she should buzz hers off and see if he says something stupid. He will. My wife has her requests and I use the same gal she does so I am out numbered.
Good for you, Sir, sounds like I married the wrong gal ! :)
well it does help to have someone who can see whether it’s been all clipped off in the back, these can be git-r-done-yourself jobs but there’s always the chance of missing something. (hand mirror? what’s a hand mirror? those are for sissies!)
With the little that's left anyway, ain't much of a challenge for me.
Really? Your guys haircut? From Glamour?
Guess there is nothing more important.
I hear Mary Matalin takes her hub to get waxed.