Skip to comments.20 Things Boys Can Do to Become Men
Posted on 10/22/2013 6:42:37 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine
Why should a young man listen to an old guy about the best way to become a man? Because the typical teen is not yet able to see a future past the next few months. That's not a fault of character, but the fact that teens' brains have not yet physically matured. The pre-fontal cortex (PFC) does not fully develop in most people until they're twenty-four years old. Yet, the PFC is responsible for regulating mood, attention span, impulse control, and the ability to plan ahead and understand the consequences of one's actions. In the meantime, it's up to the adults to guide them by showing them possible consequences-good and bad-of their behavior. With that in mind, here's my guide to becoming a man: 1. Learn who you are as an individual.
Figuring out who you are, what you care about, what you believe in, and what you stand for is the most important-and most difficult-challenge of becoming a man. We're all raised with people telling us what to think, how to act, and what to say. Sometimes those people are parents, teachers, ministers, and other so-called authorities.
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“It’s our wits that makes us men.”
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with wornout tools;
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And - which is more - you’ll be a Man my son!
I had a good friend who was a POW in Viet Nam for 6 years. He told me he used this poem to keep his sanity during the ordeal.
When a Muzzie, criminal, politician or other form of lowlife speaks a truth should you listen and recognize it for what it is?
a Muzzie, criminal, politician comes ups to the bar, the bartenders says....
First ... get saved.
More than four decades later (and two after Dad died), I can still remember a talk he had to me at about age 14.
"Son," he said, "I know you are getting to the age where you will be experiencing some strong feelings and changes in your body, if you haven't already. This will especially be true when you are around girls. But remember this: God gave man sufficient blood circulation to supply either his brain or his dick, but never at the same time. Until you are with the girl you are married to and plan to spend the rest of your life with, never allow your brain to be completely shut down, not even for a little while. If you ever find yourself in a situation when the shutdown is happening, get away quickly."
Dad's advice was excellent. There were a few dates which I went on and found that brain shutdown thing was indeed happening. I cut them short and even in a couple of cases, ended them abruptly.
Yeah, it was a little embarrassing at the time. In a few cases, it was even embarrassing enough that I couldn't bring myself to even talk to the girl again. But when I found the one I wanted to marry, it was well worth it. The number of people you can trust to be around when your brain shuts down are few and rare. And probably the only one you can trust unequivocally in that situation is the one you marry.
The frequency of these "close encounters" may have diminished with the years, but the passion has not.
The Left does not approve of this message. They do approve of the New Boy Scouts: homo training centers for boys though otherwise known as The NAMBLA Indoctrination Centers of America.
That’s great advice. I’m going to have to save it for when my boy needs it.
None of those speak the truth - especially the first one.
Do you listen to Bill Clinton?
I said, “If” not “When.”
Will this work better for you?
The Unofficial Goldman Sachs Guide To Being A Man
“The number of people you can trust to be around when your brain shuts down are few and rare.”
I’m writing that one down and passing it on.
I have this Kipling poem framed and on the wall in each of my boys bedrooms.
sounds like George Washington
Stay away from soy then you won’t need to kill exotic animals or eat weird stuff to make up for the estrogen effects.
I avoid soy like the plague!
1. Stop being a limp wristed liberal and not register as a Democrat.
lol...completly forgettable. But I don’t speak jive.
They missed ONE. Hint: It involves a Female!
What he said about brain maturity is critical for boys (and girls) to lead healthy lives. Before brain maturity, any addictive chemicals can actually rewire the brain to make addiction to that chemical more likely, *and* to make addiction to *other* addictive chemicals more likely, *and* to make it harder for them to quit addictions for the rest of their lives.
The health consequences to many addictive substances can have long term drawbacks, strongly reduce quality of life, and significantly shorten lifespan.
Add to this another major problem of brain immaturity, which is sociopathy.
To function, people need some degree of psychopathia, that is, the ability to *not* care or feel empathy when they shouldn’t. But it is a gray scale. Too much of it makes a person a psychopath. But still it is how their brain is wired, be it from birth or as the result of brain injury.
A sociopath is a person who is not a psychopath, but is conditioned and trained to not care or feel empathy to others, or a select group of others, such as with real racism or sexism, politics or whatever.
A person can only be trained to be a sociopath before their brain has matured; and importantly, if they have been trained to be a sociopath, that training must be broken before their brain has matured, or for the rest of their life they will likely remain a sociopath.
Critically, the younger a person is, the more flexible their brain is. As they get closer to maturity, it becomes much harder to condition and train their minds.
The apex of late childhood conditioning is found with military basic training. It is not easy, but drill instructors have learned that lots of bad habits and conditioning must first be eliminated before recruits can be retrained to become disciplined adults.
Importantly, the process of maturation also includes a “safety” that most of us are familiar with. It is typical for middle-teenagers to go through a period of rejection and revolt against their conditioning and training. This is essential to survival because it presents an opportunity for them to break out of a self-destructive family patterns, or at least to critically examine them by resisting them.
Recognition and reward for increasing maturity is very important for both boys and girls. It creates a clear dividing line between immature and mature behavior, and the idea that with maturity comes authority and responsibility. To embrace this it helps to have a mind uncluttered with addictions and sociopathy, instead some degree of empathy, clarity, judgment, reason and self control.
My brain shuts down for good food, if I followed that advise I would starve to death :)
Why is this guy still a muslim? I saw him not long ago on TCM describing to the host why he liked certain movies. His tastes and reasons were derived solely from American thinking and insight. Now he writes this.
Something does not compute.
I have no idea.
Doesn’t anyone read anymore?
I’m in decent shape. Not as good as I’d like but working on it.
As far as not doing anything on a dare; life is a dare and if some other punk can do it so can I.
If it hasn’t been done why not be the first.
Great list though.
Beat me to it. Kinda says it all.
That is from the book “Ode to Barack”.
I bought a copy for a friend had just spent $35,000 to see Obama at Melanie Griffith and Antonio Banderas house.
I actually reworded that exact tome you posted with our modern Obama as the character and read it to her.
It is now framed and sets next to the book in her library.
There are 31 chapeters in Proverbs.
Read one chapter a day.
Then you will not become a mocker or a fool.
I’m trying to learn that now. I’ve been trying to get my son to learn it while he’s still a teen.
Be sure to read some rabbinic commentaries on Mishlei (Proverbs) to gain a deeper understanding of those very wise words.
It is from Kiplings “Barrack Room Ballads”.
No, this one works better:
Code of the West
(from “Cowboy Ethics: What Wall Street Can Learn from the Code of the West” by James P. Owen)
Live each day with courage.
Take pride in your work.
Always finish what you start.
Do what has to be done.
Be tough, but fair.
When you make a promise, keep it.
Ride for the brand.
Talk less and say more.
Remember that some things aren’t for sale.
Know where to draw the line.
And I will add my personal creed:
De oppresso liber.
Credibility is the only thing you are born with freely. Once it’s gone; it’s gone.
So no one can redeem their credibility or character?
OTOH, there are plenty of men who have ruined their lives from thrusting their penis into the wrong woman's vagina or even the right woman at the wrong time. Even once.
So, yes, it does depend on the type of food we're talking about.
Beef tips and gravy :)
It is the plague. It should be banned.
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