Skip to comments.CHART: Check Out How The Age At Which People First Get Married Is Soaring
Posted on 10/27/2013 8:03:20 AM PDT by Kip Russell
Here's a fascinating chart that probably comports with what you're seeing in real life.
The age at which people are first getting married is soaring. (Via John Podhoretz).
The jump in the last decade is particularly notable.
There are various theories for why people are getting married later, but one notion has to do with cultural attitudes towards marriage, and the growing perception that marriage is a "capstone" of life achievements, rather than a cornerstone.
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Does this chart include the Anna-Nicole Smith marriage?
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together.
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy.
If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
The great question, which I have not been able to answer... is, “What does a woman want?”
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
‘Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.’
‘There’s a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It’s called marriage.’
‘I’ve had bad luck with both my wives.
The first one left me, and the second one didn’t.’
James Holt McGavra
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming.
1. Whenever you’re wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you’re right, shut up.
The most effective way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once....
You know what I did before I married?
Anything I wanted to.
My wife and I were happy for twenty years.
Then we met.
A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong.
A man inserted an ‘ad’ in the classifieds: ‘Wife wanted’. Next day he received a hundred letters.
They all said the same thing: ‘You can have mine.’
First Guy (proudly): ‘My wife’s an angel!’
Second Guy: ‘You’re lucky, mine’s still alive.’
I haven’t spoken to my wife in over three months...we’re not fighting, I just don’t like to interrupt.
Part of this is probably due to the fact so many younger people are still living with Mom and Dad at 26. They’re still considered “children” by the government at that age and must be carried on their parent’s insurance. I’d certainly tell my kids, you’re not bringing a spouse into my house.
Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to two restaurants every week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and drinking. She goes to Ruby Tuesdays, I go to T.G.I. Fridays.
It’s because the system is stacked against the guy.
Marriage could be a few years, alimony could be a lifetime. Prenups aren’t 100% as asking someone to sign one could be stressful/duress and render it invalid.
One guy in MA got divorced in 1980ish. In 2007ish his ex sued him and now his new wife pays his ex wife alimony. MA has since reformed the divorce laws but just one example.
“Marriage could be a few years, alimony could be a lifetime. Prenups arent 100% as asking someone to sign one could be stressful/duress and render it invalid.”
I’ve known several women who apparently just got married to divorce well. They’re utterly charming when you meet them. Then, they rake the guy over six ways from Sunday.
“...it is better to marry than to burn...”
Paul. 1 Corinthians 7:9
The definition of "Filthy Rich" is when you have more money than your wife knows what to do with.
LOL, sex before marriage is culturally condoned and expected by a plurality these days. How can marriage have value in such an atmosphere?
Try (a variety) before you buy, I guess.
Fornication got the capital punishment in biblical times, as did homosexuality.
“Always make sure you’re right, then, Go Ahead.” —David Crockett
Note how the slope lessens during the 1990s when there were strong employment opportunities for young men. Its steep climb now is another indicator of how our economy is not working well for young people.
That chart makes the ‘50s look strange, not our present era.
GREAT quotes, especially the one from Sasha Guitry.
Well back in those days you did not have all the pre natal care and medicine and technology we now have either.
“......better to marry than to burn”———
the first and only time I heard that phrase was from a girlfriend I had in the mid-70s,who’d already been married and divorced from a guy she “doscovered” later was gay It could have been a mutual discovery for
all I know. Interestingly, I met my future wife , a GF of hers, at a Thanksgiving party she threw in order to gt rid of a turkey I’d been given at
work. Life is messy.
I turned 23 in 1967. By then I had had an honorable discharge from the USN for two years, I had a graduation certificate from the USN electronics school which was 38 weeks of intensive study. I had a job earning $110. a week which was easily more money than $1100. a week is now in real terms. I was driving a new car which I bought for myself. I was actually living with my parents but I was helping support them, not vice versa. Was I considered a success? No, in my area I was considered a failure because I did not already have a wife and at least one child. It may have been different in some places but the attitude where I lived was that any male who was still single after his 22nd birthday, unless he was enrolled in higher education, was worthless and no account, one woman where I worked actually asked me what was wrong with me that I was 23 years old and not married. I finally married just after turning 28 and by then everyone was dumbstruck because they had decided I would never marry.
Free milk and a cow.
It is huge, but heavily clustered in a few cultural groups.
It’s actually widespread across all cultural groups, with some of them having spikes high enough to make the others look better.
Recent data graph:
Comments about recent trends:
The engagement ring.
The Wedding Ring.
And the suffer-ring.
The key is to marry when you are both young and don’t have much — build a life together and not these “parallel tracks” that I see for so many of the younger couples. Essentially, this is saying that there is little trust of the marriage surviving over the long haul, so always be prepared to split.
Would like to see this same chart with the ages people started living together before they married - how many actually did get married that lived together? That’s a phenomenon that was pretty rare pre-1970’s (unless people who were doing it were under the radar and not talking about it).
Figures that's how a homo would feel about marriage.
Those are very funny !
Yes, and that puts it in the proper perspective. Of course, it could mean to burn with passion / lust than to burn in fire? I think fire.
Another reason: The intense pressure to have the fairy tale grand Fortune 500 wedding and put your parents out thousands of dollars ...only to divorce two years later.
Seen it over and over. My own daughter feels she can’t marry yet, for one, because WE are not financially ready to cover her wedding . . . or at least the type of wedding she thinks she needs to have.
Kids nowadays have talked themselves into believing that conditions must all be right BEFORE they get married. We got married BEFORE conditions were right. They still aren’t right. We just experience it together.
Part of me regrets marrying so young ...but we’ve grown up together ..and we continue to reap the rewards of being together over 25 years.
Notice how, through til the 1960’s, the spread between the male and female age was about 2.5 to 3.5 years, then it narrows to under 1.5?
Up until the 1960’s, it was the norm for the wife to stay home. Now, they both need to be in the labor force, and preferably both need to be college graduates in order to sustain a middle-class standard of living. This means having to delay marriage until after college and after some time to be established in a career.
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A Jewish friend said to me thusly,
“Weddings are so expensive because they have to make two people happy & fulfilled: the bride and the bride’s mother.”
In the 70s I rented an apartment for $425 per month when you could earn around $7.00 to $8.00 per hour painting. Today the painters job may fetch $15 to $20 per hour, but the same apartment rents for $3500 per month. Hard to make that rent without a way more lucrative job.
Boy I am not seeing this in my neck of the woods. The Christian homeschool crowd is marrying in their 18 to 26 years and popping out babies. Lots of babies.
Of course how many women wasted their 20s dating “bad boys” and “losers”, then wind up complaining in their late 30s that there aren’t any good men out there?
I have long believed and found that many of my age agreed that the peak in real earning capacity for most workers came in the early seventies despite government claims to the contrary. Lately I have seen some studies that seem to confirm this as well as one saying that the hourly paid worker had the easiest time paying rent back around 1953. A lot of people like to point to all the things that even “poor” people have now that were not available to anyone sixty years ago such as cell phones, computers etc. but those of us who remember the fifties and sixties know that an awfully long list of things have been lost since then. In those days a young person could finish high school, go to work and earn a living, having a home and family at an age when today’s young people are still looking around and wondering what the heck is going on. You did not see a lot of thirty plus age people still sponging off parents and grandparents as you do now. You certainly did not see so many young people with huge student loan debt and no job worth calling a job if they have a job at all. Today’s recent college graduates are settling for the kind of job that would have gone to a high school dropout in those days.
It was also a time when a person could call this a free country without sounding like an absolute idiot.
Dave Stockman’s book (which impressed me) said the actual number of “breadwinner” jobs in the US peaked in the early 90s. Since then the numbers have decreased while the population increased.
My father was a carpenter, back in the fifties he worked on some very nice new home construction, custom built houses for which he built custom cabinets in the kitchen. In those days a REAL carpenter was one who could frame the house, put on the roof, panel the walls, install the windows and doors and then build cabinets. The contractor who employed him built a new house for the local school superintendent, his wife was a teacher and they were building their dream house for which they had saved and planned for many years. They spent fifteen thousand dollars. That will get you a small storage building now or apparently four months rent on an apartment in your area.
I believe it, my youngest brother was working construction in 1978 at age 22 and earning eleven an hour plus very good benefits as a Duke power employee. I know people who would be happy to find a job paying eleven an hour even without benefits NOW!